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Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

From what I've read, it's a BAD thing to try reschedule....Is there NO way you can cancel going out of town???

Not really. I have a mandatory 2 weeks off work the first 2 weeks in July (all the auto companies shut down then) and I am forced to take my vacation time then. We are going up-north for 4 nights and another couple is also going with us. I can't post-pone it because I have friends from Kansas coming to stay with us right after we get home for 10 days!! The only other vacation I have for the rest of the year is the one week we're going to Jamaica in August.

People must re-schedule these things all the time right?
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-22 02:38:00
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Yeah but the only option available to talk with him! At least now I can call him more often and for less! :thumbs:

Why can't you use a calling card??? You can find one for half the price you're paying per minute :yes:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-22 00:48:00
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i've been racking up horrendous phone bills ever since i stopped using my prepaid phonecard service. i pay 38 cents/min and a 4 dollar monthly fee. i was going to look at ringyard but now fiance has mega fone (even thought it ain't working right now).

We use Ringyard - it's only 19 cents a minute and no monthly fee or any other fees ;) I highly recommend it.

Edited by rhondapayter, 22 June 2007 - 12:47 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-22 00:46:00
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Good news - We got our NOA1 today for the I-751 petition to remove conditions :dance:

Bad news - we also got our appt. letter for the Biometrics appt. and we're going to be out of town on that day :( Has anyone ever rescheduled their biometrics appt? What do you guys think?
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-22 00:31:00
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Hell no, I'm the size of a double decket bus :lol:

I've gained AT LEAST 30 lbs, I refuse to weigh myself, it just depresses me :(

I'm already freaking out and I've only gained 4 lbs. so far :lol: :wacko: :crying:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-21 02:44:00
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my hubby's I-30 was approved yesterday!!!!

Congrats :dance:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-21 02:14:00
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Lol, someone just realized TODAY I was pregnant!!

:lol: Are you really small? How much weight have you gained? I'm worried about gaining too much weight!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-21 02:08:00
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Newbie here, been a lurker for a year but now have started the process. Just want to say hello and hopefully I did so in the correct place....and that it actually will show up!

Welcome Jamerican :luv: I just love your screen name! Yes, you're in the right place. What kind of Visa are you going for? Is it for your fiance or your spouse?
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 02:10:00
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he said they never even looked at half the evidence...and we had alot...a ridiculous amount. from the time he didn't know when i was first married, they didn't want to see anything.

That SUCKS :angry: They could have at least looked at what he had brought!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:59:00
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the 221g says

request for more proof of relationship
fiance presence recommended

I hate to say this, but this is why all us Vets recommend that the U.S. fiance/spouse attend the interview. It seems that the only time the guys get hassled is if you are NOT there with him. You hardly ever seen a blue slip issued when the U.S fiance attends the interview.

I don't remember, but do you guys have a big age difference between you? This is another thing they will really, really hassle you about.

Good luck and keep on trying
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:55:00
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Just spoke to my fiance and he was approved.

Congrats :dance: Told you he'd be fine!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:48:00
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She even had the audacity to comment on my weight (she is much larger than me and has diabetes because of it) and when she would share out the food she would "make a special plate for Jamie because she doesn't need all that extra food" and then pile hers to the top...oh man I about bit clean through my tongue trying to keep it in :lol:

Oh NO she didn't!!!! :lol: :angry: :bonk: I would NOT have been able to keep my mouth shut!!

Likkle problem....

we got approved with a blue paper requesting that i come to the embassy to answer some questions. what the heck is that all about?

What???!!! I've never, ever heard of this.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:39:00
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U have me crackin up...I was JA this yr and I brought my bluetooth, here goes my cousin..lef dat wid me nuh, and u can buy another when u go back up... :no: I'm like dude r u serious right now "buy another" it's that easy huh..as if..get the hell outta here :lol:

:lol: Tony's cousin does the same thing - he wanted me to leave him my Nike tennis shoes (he has small feet so mine fit him) then last time Tony and me came home and I noticed his Adidas flip-flops were missing - that I had bought for him! He left them with his cousin who kept bugging him about it :wacko:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:30:00
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Have you had issues with any of his friends yet? We've gotten calls to send anything from $20-$200 to help with food, a cell phone, buying a car, and plane tickets.

This still drives me crazy and Tony's been here almost 3 years now! Parents, cousins, friends, ... everyone thinks we're rich just because we live a 'farrin. And Tony hates to tell them that he's broke - I just wish they'd quit asking for stuff. He was talking to his dad the other day and getting his clothes and shoe sizes - he told him he's going to bring him some stuff in August. Instead, his dad asked for money to buy a boat motor :o Sorry - you're gonna have to settle for some pants, a shirt, and some new shoes!!! We already spent over $300 on clothes and shoes for his 2 kids and $$$ for his mom and 2 nieces. The list just goes on and on.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:21:00
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Rhonda, will your job still have you working nights when they know that you're pregnant?

Yeah, I'm still on midnights. Both of my bosses already know I'm pregnant. Midnights is actually all right for now because it's less stressful and I can relax more :blush:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-20 01:15:00
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My tummy is starting to get round :whistle: I don't quite look pregnant - just fat!! A few people at work have dared to ask me!! I started wearing maternity pants last week. My other ones were just too uncomfortable!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-19 03:05:00
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Good luck tomorrow!! :dance:

Girls -- make sure they know how to write and spell YOUR complete name

Tony didn't know how to spell mine :unsure: Thank goodness I was there - I whispered it to him as he wrote it!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-19 03:00:00
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GOOD LUCK JLVR & FINESSE!!!

Ditto! :dance: Don't worry - no problem mon!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-19 02:58:00
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Hey everyone, things are going a lot better for me. The job deal is not a sure thing yet. Tony told me to quit worrying :wacko: They have some other options up in the air right now - I'm hoping something local works out! If not, we will come up with some type of compromise when the time comes. Thanks everyone for your support :luv:

We had a really good weekend. Tony cooked me ackee & saltfish :devil: (The ackee was $14 for a can). I've been craving it sooooo bad and the tinned ackee tasted better than I remember it being - maybe because I haven't had it in so long! Then on Sunday he cooked us some nice Jamaican beef soup - yam, carrot, cho-cho, pumpkin, ####### Soup, dumpling - Yummy!! I guess he knows how to butter me up after a fight :lol: Just feed me!!

Edited by rhondapayter, 18 June 2007 - 03:16 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-18 03:15:00
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has anyone here had a beneficiary family member try to get a travel visa to attend the wedding? we want his mom and sister to come, and it's time for me to write the invitation letter. if anyone has any tips on how the kingston embassy handles this i'd appreciate it. i'm going to try to research it now.

My friend Jackie (a VJ vet from a long time ago) and her hubby tried to get his brother here for their wedding. He is actually here in Michigan THIS week visiting. He JUST got his visitors Visa - their THREE year wedding anniversary is this August :o :no: He didn't quite make it in time for the wedding!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-18 03:01:00
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Ending my journey

I would just like to say that I'm ending my Visa Journey, I don't think my fiance is ready for marriage, we have gone through a lot and I have tolerated a lot to get to this point, I have finally decided that it makes no sense to continue to relationship anymore and I'm officially ending my Journey. Thanks for all you answers and personal messages.

I'm sorry to hear that. Only YOU know what is best though. Like others have said, even though it's painful, it's better that you realize things now rather than after you get married and continue on with this process. Hang in there (F)
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-15 02:35:00
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Thank you everyone for your support and advice :luv: Tony got home last night and I did miss him even though he's being a total butthead! We didn't talk about IT because I had to leave for work. Hopefully we can talk this weekend. Please continue to keep us in your thoughts and prayers.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-15 02:32:00
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Hey There Old Timers!!! Hi there Newbies!!!

Ah wah gwaan!!??? Hey Rhonda, Kelly, Jonesie, Jamie, BellwinMills, Mindy!!! Where's MsSquito?? It has been so long, I forgot my password! :o Just popping in to say hi; I can't keep up anymore with daily or even weekly forum activity, but I do think of you all often. Very often. :luv:

It's so nice to see you :dance: I'm glad everything is going well for you guys. Don't be such a stranger!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:56:00
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Could he try to get another job near you guys.

That's the first thing I said too. He claims he's tried, but I know otherwise. This just seems like a huge money making opportunity to him and he can not be talked out of it. He had the nerve to tell me that I'M being selfish :no: :o He said that finally something good was happening for him and I have to try and shoot it down.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:53:00
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Rhonda - stay in prayer. Hubby is thinking of the $ that will provide a better life for you and the baby, and he figures that if you two made it thru immigration being in diff. countries, then him being a few states away should be a breeze. I know you don't agree with it (and if I were in your shoes I wouldn't either) but if he is set on it then sit down with him and work out a plan that includes some compromising (L)

Thanks Jonesie :luv:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:44:00
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Has anyone stayed at Rooms on the Beach in Ocho Rios/Runaway Bay? The are having a great deal $94 a night...but it seems a little suspect.

YES :yes: I love that place!! We stayed there last time I was in JA (Aug. 06) and we're staying there again this August. I got our room for $75 a night this time!! You can PM me or e-mail me if you need more info.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:36:00
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I had to fake a headache to get out of going...he had a wonderful time...I had a few hours to myself :dance:


:lol: :lol: I've had to do this a few times myself :whistle:

I have the opposite problem - I NEVER see my man :crying:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:32:00
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rhonda, i'd also be shocked and insanely pissed off if my husband signed papers to do something as major as that without first consulting me. i can't believe that he has his mind set on it. he's actually okay with potentially (or probably) missing the baby's birth?

He says he's going to take a month off when the baby is born, but how's he going to know exactly when I'm going to go into labor??? He's such as a**hole :ranting: The "D" word came up today more than once. We had another HUGE fight over the phone.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:30:00
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Does your company have any branches where he's going to be working??
If they do, maybe you could transfer without losing your benefits?

No - no GM plants down there. It's very difficult to transfer too even if there was. Also, I need to be near my doctor - the appointments are just going to get more frequent as I get further along. I've been with the same doc for over 10 years. Since I'm slightly high risk, I need someone who knows my history to keep an eye on me.

I talked to Andre about this last night and he said your husband is crazy. He said he doesn't even want to work the night shift cause he wants to be able to sleep next to me.

I'm really starting to think he just doesn't love me or care about me anymore :crying:

Edited by rhondapayter, 14 June 2007 - 01:27 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-14 01:27:00
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My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.

Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone :crying: He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it :angry: :ranting: Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD. :angry:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-13 02:54:00
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Damien and I are in a similar situation. We had a talk recently about moving overseas...we both agreed that it would be nice to experience living somewhere else in the Caribbean or Africa but Kingston would be nice.

Sorry you missed out on that. At least Damien could have moved there WITH you. Tony knows I can't move right now. He wants to go there anyways to work - without me :angry: I can't leave my job right now - I need my benefits and my maternity leave, not to mention I can't get time off thru FMLA if I haven't been at the same job for at least 12 months. So no way can I go down there.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-13 02:48:00
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WOuld it be worth talking to his mom or sister maybe?
They would understand how you feel about being left alone while pregnant, even though I'd go ape even if I wasn't!!

I would be scared of being home alone, when you're pregnant ANYTHING can happen :(
Again, you hardly see enough of him as it is with your crazy shifts....

Maybe sitting him down and telling him how much you love him and how much you desperately need him around now more than ever might work.

The only sister he had is deceased and his mother is really nice, but really hard for me to understand. We don't talk on the phone except to say hello, how are you. If he is still set on this crazy idea, in August when we go to Jamaica, I will talk to his mom or his dad.

I'm scared to death of him leaving while I'm pregnant :crying: I am so upset and worried I can't stop thinking about it. He's in Indiana this week - we're supposed to talk when he gets home this weekend. But he is so stubborn and hard-headed I can't get through to him. He just see's $$$ signs.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-13 02:36:00
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Ladies I have a big dilemma. Tony wants to go to Louisiana to work for 8 months! :o The work would start in September. The baby is due in December. He says he would come home on weekends. I have a HUGE problem with this and he doesn't seem to understand or he just doesnt' care. All he sees are $$$ signs. I do not want to be a single mom. This is my first baby - I am scared to death :( I do not want a weekend relationship with my husband - I want him there every day. I had enough of long distance relationship BS when he was still in Jamaica.

Not to mention, there are no direct flights from there to Detroit and the flights cost about $400 each!! That would be $1600 a month in plane fares plus he would have to rent an apartment down there for during the week. He doesn't seem to understand the insanity of his plan. The more I try to talk him out of it, the more stubborn and determined he is to make it happen. Please advise :help: :crying:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-12 02:13:00
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Does anyone have an idea how long the Embassy take to answer emails? I sent an email on Thursday and was just wondering when I should expect an answer.

I don't know if they have improved or not, but they never answered half of my e-mails! And when they did, it took forever.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-12 01:55:00
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Get used to being "dry" - cause with breastfeeding, liquor will be off the list for a looonngg time. Had to have a virgin margarita at lunch yesterday :crying: but it's all for good cause :)

Yeah, I had a virgin strawberry daiquiri a few weeks ago and it actually tasted good!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-12 01:31:00
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I think you're not suppose to drink if you breast feed as well.

Yeah, if you drink you're supposed to "pump and dump"!! :wacko: It's probably not worth the hassle!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-12 01:28:00
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I have a question for the moms and moms to be: Did you drink at all during your pregnancy? Is it really ok to have ONE glass of wine or ONE drink occasionally? I have 1 more week and then I'll be into my 2nd trimester. I'm wondering if I might be able to have a drink in JA while we're on our vacation..... :unsure:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-11 03:04:00
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We have been planning for one ever since the wedding. It just hasn't happened yet.

It's kinda hard when you're in 2 different countries :lol: Don't worry, now that he's here, baby soon come!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-11 02:56:00
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Here's a question for the moms: were your children planned or miracle surprises after the K1/K3/CR1 visa process?

Ours was planned. I went off the Pill shortly before our 2 yr. wedding anniversary.

Appleton and coke has been my best friend lately to get through these sleepless nights.............june 19th can't come soon enuff.

:crying: I'm dying for some Jamaican rum & Coke!! And I can't drink for at least 6 more months!!

Edited by rhondapayter, 11 June 2007 - 02:46 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-11 02:46:00
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Wow, wonder if they are different there??
What brand are they??
I get Grace tinned ackees, they taste fine to me!!

I don't remember what brand we bought. Next time I'll look for Grace!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-06-11 02:31:00