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Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

I don't think ANYONE should leave the board. I don't care whether I agree with you or not. But it doesn't make sense to let other people and other people's opinions run you from someplace. I don't think anyone would say that this thread has not been helpful. I think it continues to be helpful, no matter what stage you're in, even if you're completely finished with paperwork.

Yes, I agree :yes: It also helps the time go by when you're at work at 3am in the morning :wacko:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 02:12:00
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Oh my gosh my hubby says we can't find out until the day we have a kid. He researched my illness online and told me I had to have a section to make sure I was safe and baby. He is like my father I swear. We have our names already picked out. Do you guys have any names you both like?

Me and Tony can NOT agree on names :wacko: :unsure: We're going to wait until we find out the sex so at least that will cut our options in half!! Jax, do you mean hubby wants you to have a C-section if you get pregnant??? :lol:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 02:02:00
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So......how many vets are we losing because some new folks do not know how to act in this thread???? Personally, I am taking my beef off line and moving on.....It is really sad because I think everyone has different experiences and perspectives to share and some of them can be most helpful and eye opening.

So...with that bit of footage....I sign out...this thread has become something I simply can not stomach.....It is really too bad that some new lady from the UK has decided to take something so "sweet" and turn it into personal attacks and personalize things.....

Kim, please don't go :crying: Maybe we should start voting people off the island!!!! :whistle:

I am gone for awhile to because of things

Maybe in the future I will return but AG girl you have no clue what u have interupted or runied with your judgments here.

I'm starting to see a common equation here and I don't like it at all. Jax, please don't go :crying:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 01:54:00
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I am here visa approved that was so easy. Oh my Lord can I tell you how easy it was. :secret: :dancing: :goofy: :energetic: :jest: :yes: :yes:

Congrats :dance:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 01:29:00
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This also brings up the fact that these Black men are coming from a country where their race is the majority. They never knew what it felt like to be the minority in their country, or hometown, or HOUSE for that matter. That can drive anyone crazy, trust me. Do some of your guys live in a neighborhood or city, where there are not many Black faces? Not much Black culture? That makes a HUGE difference.

Good point. Unfortunately my neighborhood is 95% white :o Tony was/is the ONLY black person on the block! I am so thankful that he adjusted well and everyone is really nice and friendly to him. I think it helped that he worked in the tourism industry in Jamaica so he was surrounded by (mostly) white people every day!! :lol: Whenever we go out, we try to go to places that are more mixed though.

Edited by rhondapayter, 07 May 2007 - 01:23 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 01:19:00
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ENOUGH.......What has this thread become????........ It sure was not created three years ago to have people be nasty and rude to each other for spreading "their" experiences!!! We all come to this thread in different stages, different experiences, different lifestyles and we SHARE!!!

We certainly do not pick over peoples posts and make them personal......IF you are here for that than GO AWAY!!! This site has been a wonderful thing for many people.....me included. I NEVER dreamed that I would be experiecing some of the things that I have gone through and the words of wisdom from others have helped emensely.

Alien.....you have a different experience than all of us because we are mostly dealing with JA men...like Kelly said...your experiences are helpful to anyone who has a similar situation......PLEASE Stop the the attacks....we have lost too many veterans who started this post because new people come on here and ruin it...I left for many months because I was sick of some of the same stuff......

ALSO......we have no right to judge anyone. Telling Nanny that YOU would toss him on the street if it was YOU...HELLO??? And telling Kelly that Craig is here for opportunities.....Is all this necessary??? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! Stop this NOW or LEAVE the yardies thread.....
Darlene......Stay around lady...we will clean up this thread and make it back to what it use dto be and what it was originally intende to be when Ms. Squito created it.....


Yes, yes, and yes :yes: :thumbs: I agree with you Kim completely!!! This thread has been around for a long time now. Recently we've lost alot of our Veterans due to mean, rude, and un-called for comments. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!!! :angry:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 01:03:00
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You are in the wrong forum. You should be in the United Kingdom forum!

:lol: :lol: :lol:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 00:56:00
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I suggest you get your facts straight before you accuse me of 'trashing' Jamaican men.
Actually, I am English.
Suprisingly enough I am moving to the US for LOVE ;)



Come on.................lighten up !!!! This is exactly WHY we've lost ladies (and maybe some men) from this thread !!! That's awesome that you ARE coming here for love...............but................please remember we are **mostly** talking about the "JA" MEN !!!!!!!!!!!

:thumbs: :yes: :bonk: Exactly. We NEVER had a problem with members leaving the Yardie thread before!!! NEVER.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 00:54:00
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$1800.00 a month isn't that great when u look at salaries in the USA. yes compared to JA it is very good but maybe the cost of living is lower where u live.

Good point. I do think a lot of it depends on the cost of living. That's what really shocked Tony when he came here. Everyone makes more money BUT everything costs more too :yes: For instance Tony's rent for his 1 bedroom apt. in Jamaica was only $100 a month compared to our $1000 month mortgage here!!! The other thing that really gets to him is the high cost of all our insurances here - auto insurance, home-owners insurance, health insurance, etc.... He never had to worry about any of those things in JA.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 00:50:00
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Someone in a thread down below mentioned ESL classes and I thought it wasn't necessary because they are English speakers, but that might actually be good for them.

A lot of the Yardies men took ESL classes. Tony did :yes: He speaks excellent English, BUT his reading and writing skills needed a lot of improvement :blush:

Edited by rhondapayter, 07 May 2007 - 12:41 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-07 00:40:00
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Jax
Where are you girl?? Don't leave us hanging!!! :no:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-04 06:02:00
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So...he said that he came to America with so many expectations of how "foreign" was.....primarily based on what he heard or saw through television....even though I had gone over things a million times with him before he arrived, he says that once he arrived, he finally realized that everything was so different.....poverty to some degree was actually worse in America....our econony requires them to work three times harder than they ever worked back in Jamaica, everything is "on-hold" waiting for our crazy government to push the approved button......as a man, he felt helpless and unable to provide, eveything in the house was "mine" and he did not feel anything was "his home", he was homesick, missed his kids, missed his family, he was starting his life all over in a place where he knows nobody but me and has very little to offer me. This can make any man feel worthless and depressed...they kill their free time by doing studid stuff on the internet, sleeping, eating and basically being depressed while we go on and live our life as usual.....

Yes :yes: Very well stated Kim. I've said it over and over again - the FIRST year is the absolute worst. Once they can get a job and start driving and regain some of their independance, it does get better. You really do have to pick your battles.

Just last weekend I woke up and our entire front lawn was all tore up :o It looked like someone had chopped up the grass into small clumps and just left them lying there. It turns out, Tony took it upon himself to decide that we needed a new front lawn :o So he chopped up all the grass. Now, he never even bothered to ask me about any of this. I started to get mad and then he said, It's my house too right??? I shut right up. We've fought way too many times because I feel the need to make all the decisions around the house. He used to do landscaping so he can lay the new sod by himself. It will only cost us whatever the sod costs. No labor costs. So I just shook my head and left it alone :blush:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-04 03:11:00
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Isn't there an alien number on the NOA2? I thought so, but maybe I'm wrong.

Yes, I think there is. Good thinking :thumbs:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-04 03:03:00
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I feel 'ya on more paperwork. Damien's GC expires April 2008.....ours took so long due to the security clearance process. I believe there's a few people between us...maybe Jamie or Julie....can't remember.

Good morning VJ family.

Yeah, you've got some time still :blush: Tony's expires August 2007.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-04 02:43:00
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I have to apply to lift Tony's "conditions" pretty soon. Next week will be 90 days before GC expires - I can send the paperwork any time after that. I am so overwhelmed :wacko: I'm not in paperwork mode anymore!!! After all the stupid paperwork for the I-129f, then the interview, then AOS, I sorta pushed everything into a drawer and forgot about it! I think I'm gonna have to check out the forum regarding this specifically.

Shemonya - aren't you guys not too far behind me??
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-03 02:39:00
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I think a large part of it was being able to file through VSC. I went from NOA1 to NOA2 in a month. And I guess not waiting to receive packet 3 in the mail helped speed things, too.

Yes, that's why. Vermont is and has been the quickest (by far) of any of the service centers. IMO, it is completely UNFAIR that how long it takes depends on where in the U.S. you live. :angry: The whole thing should be centralized.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-03 02:33:00
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:dance: :dance: GREEN CARD arrived today!!!! :dance: :dance:

Aunt Flo....still waiting....... :whistle: :whistle:

Congrats on the Green Card AND Congrats on the ........ Oh wait, you don't know yet :devil: You need to take an at home test!!!! :whistle:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-02 02:30:00
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He is doing ok... He likes it here, it think I'm more worried about the adjustment then he is...he cut the lawn on Sunday with no shoes on :o when he finshed, his feet were soooo green :lol:

:lol: That IS funny!!! I did that a few times as a teenager when I was living at home. My mom always used to yell at me!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-02 02:26:00
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I`m over the moon today, got my interview for May 30th :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance:

Congrats :thumbs: Where in the U.S. does your man live? Where and when will you be moving?
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-01 02:43:00
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Seems like I am waiting for everything these days....Mrs. Flo has still not arrived..... :whistle: Could this mean that you will need to add me to your "morning sickness" club!! :girlwerewolf2xn: :girlwerewolf2xn:

Oh boy!!! Where's that baby list?

Jonesie
Rhonda
Kim :whistle:
Jax
***
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****

Who's next???
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-01 02:39:00
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Hey VJ Family!!!

I hope all the mommies to be feeling are begininng to feel a little better today :yes:

Jax best wishes with your interview tomorrow :thumbs:

To the rest of the Yardies.... Wha gwaan??

Thanks Sonshyne :blush: How is your Jamaican adjusting to life in the U.S.? What are his first impressions?

Edited by rhondapayter, 01 May 2007 - 02:29 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-05-01 02:28:00
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I wanna know too. I stayed there before when it was Club Jamaica and had a great time. Now I usually stay at Columbus Heights/Skycastles which is up on the hill, but know that I'm 7 months pregnant. I will be staying in a 2bed at Sandcastles when I go in May. What's wrong with Rooms?

Welcome Jengles!! :jest:

Me and hubby stayed at Rooms for 4 nights in August. I posted a review on Tripadvisor.com if anyone wants to read it. (It should be listed as Aug. 2006 from Detroit, MI). We really liked it. It's right on the beach, the rooms are nice and clean - we had a balcony w/ ocean view, A/C, nice big king-sized bed, cable TV, theres even an ice machine down the hall :lol: rare in other JA hotels we've stayed at!! There's a small pool w/ swim-up bar and nice showers to rinse off chlorine, sand, salt.... The property is guarded so there's no riff-raff running around the grounds. There's a guard at the beach entrance 24/7 to make sure the locals don't come onto the property via the beach.

Now, if I had to mention the negatives: there is no elevator so if you're on the 2nd or 3rd floor, you will have to go up and down the stairs a bit. The bathroom gets a bit warm since the A/C doesn't reach in there very well. The water in the shower is very low pressure - typical in JA. Also, the drinks and food and a little bit pricey but you can eat out since you are right in the middle of everything. We even brought food back a few times and ate by the pool - no problem. And the beach can get quite crowded (especially on weekends) because it is a public beach.

I'm anxious to see why jamaicagyaldat said NOT to stay there :yes:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:46:00
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Yes I am going on Tuesday to Kingston. I am sorda packed not fully yet. PS I will post info after the interview Dwain insit on bring our lab top to the hotel.

Good luck. Have a safe trip. And yes, tell us all the details :yes:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:32:00
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Hang in there, the sickness will soon go away :yes:

Please tell me that goes for me too?? :(

I'm 20 weeks today and STILL sick :(
Ankles have started swelling up, and if I walk at anything but a snail's pace, I get out of breath and my stomach starts tightening :(

Not to mention I get exhausted just BEING out :(

Me too :( Mine started on Wednesday and it really hit me hard the last 2 days :bonk: I will die if this lasts another 13 weeks :o Good luck to you Aliengirl.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:29:00
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Today has been particulary very hard for me. Im doing my best to try to compose myselft at work without bursting into tears. I just cant understand. I prayed & waited for this for so long. I am at a loss. I am at a loss, I am at a loss.

I'm so sorry :luv: Each day that passes, you will get stronger and stronger. It will just take time. I know that's the last thing you want to hear right now, but it's true. Time heals all wounds. You can come on here for support any time you want :yes: Or just to vent, cuss, holla, or tear him to shreads!! ;)
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:15:00
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Your tiredness will pass. Once you hit the 3 month mark you will notice a big difference. The baby is taking so much from you now. Hang in there.

What about the (morning) sickness? :wacko: :( I've been feeling soooo yucky these past few days! And I have a horrible cold on top of that!! :(
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:12:00
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO dont stay there. We just got back. I will tell you why..PM me.

Ok, WHY NOT? We stayed there for 4 nights in August and we really liked it. No problem. What happened to you there?
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:04:00
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Rhonda did they give you a hard time when you went thru the JA line @ Sangster?

Nope, not at all :no: NO questions asked. I don't think I'd do it if Tony wasn't with me though. Then they might say something!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-30 02:00:00
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Hey..I was wondering if anyone has checked into getting dual citizenship now that we are married. I think Jax was looking into it....anyone have any ideas on where I can go to get the paperwork started. I think I want a Jamaican passport so that I can skip those LONG immigration lines at the airport and buy Jamaican property with my husband in the next few years.....Any ideas?? :help: :help:

I don't know much about dual citizenship, but I do know that if your hubby is with you, you CAN skip the long immigration line and go in the JA line with him :devil: I did it the last time we were there.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-04-26 02:11:00
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Oh my Rhonda how are u keeping sane? I would be going crazy with that all going on. All the best with finding your new home :thumbs:

I'm not :wacko: :dead: :girlwerewolf2xn: I did do a little bit of pampering for myself yesterday - manicure & pedicure :devil:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-08-02 06:23:00
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Well yesterday afternoon 2 thugs came to rob Oliver's shop and held them both at gunpoint. Oliver gave them all his money and some supplies and such and as they were leaving they noticed that the guy in the chair had a gun as he was a cop and they shot him right there in the chair in the stomach and took off.

Oh my gosh, that is just awful :( I am so sorry to hear that.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-08-02 05:48:00
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Aww.....I know the packing feeling!!
If you possibly can, try take it easy with the house moving, it can be EXTREMELY stressful which you and the little one don't need.
Jamaica is always a blessing, think of the FOOD!!

It will be EXTREMELY hot though, make sure you keep hydrated and in the shade as much as possible.

Yes, I'm dying for some good ackee and saltfish :yes: and roast breadfruit, curry shrimp, brown-stew chicken..... oh yeah, don't forget thr Rum -n-raisin icecream :D

I told Tony this will be the first time you will see me IN THE SHADE in Jamaica B) I figure I'll just live in the ocean or the pool!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-08-02 05:39:00
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Hey Rhonda, they had an episode of Runway Moms at 4pm until 5pm, hope you get to watch it!!

Girl, I've been sooooo busy I haven't watched any TV in days! We're closing on my house on August 30 - I'm trying to pack and sort through stuff AND find a new house to buy :wacko: I don't know if going to JA for one week in August is a curse or a blessing!! By that point I will probaby need to just relax and do nothing for a week straight!! :yes:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-08-01 06:18:00
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Wow! We have THREE interviews on the same day?!!! August 14 must be a lucky day :dance:

FutureMrs.
kkholiday2006
JayDonna

Good luck to all of you :thumbs:

Who else interviews in August?

Edited by rhondapayter, 01 August 2007 - 05:40 AM.

rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-08-01 05:39:00
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NEWFLASH!!!!

Residents of the New Kingston/Cross Road area are urged to be on their guard this morning since reports of a strange man running around offering amounts in excess of $100 to 'use their cellphone' have been pouring in.
The man in question seemed to be in a state of terror, he was heard to be repeating 'Kimmy a guh kill mi, she a guh string mi up if mi nuh report to har. Yuh tink tink di CO hawd, a she dread!'.
No explaination has yet been reported of this strange incident.

:lol: :lol:

HEY HEYEHEYEE...HE GOT IT !!!!!!!!

Yippee :dance: :thumbs: Congrats!!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-08-01 05:32:00
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Ladies,

Only 17 days til I leave for Jamaica :D However, Tony is going down almost a week before me and I'm nervous about it :( It's not that I don't trust him, but ..... Does anyone have any advice to calm my nerves? The pregnancy hormones aren't helping any either!! I'm pregnant and fat and swollen - how easy it would be for him to hook up with some "skettal" or whatever Kelly called it! :help:
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-07-31 06:09:00
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Kimmy

Good luck to hubby today at his interview :thumbs: We can't wait to hear the good news!!!
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-07-31 06:04:00
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Yes, I watch Discovery Health religiously and on Runway Moms, I've seen at least two of them with theirs in :)

Do you watch it?
My husband (how I LOVE saying that :lol: ) tells me I'm obsessed lol

I've heard of it, but never seen it. What time of day is it on? Maybe I can record it on my DVR.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-07-31 05:44:00
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I need to buy the plastic preggie one - getting a blue one and I hope that I can keep it in until I deliver. My piercing was a b**** to heal and I do not want it to close. Have had it over 7 years now.

Oh, I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I bought a flexible one too - have it in right now! And then I bought 2 more on maternitypiercings.com - they come in longer lengths and you can cut them down to the size you want. I haven't tried those yet, but I have them. I've had my piercing for almost 9 years ;)
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-07-31 05:42:00
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:ot: Has anyone ever (or known someone else who has) left their belly button ring in while they were pregnant? Don't laugh :blush: I've heard that it won't hurt anything and as long as it doesn't bother me, I can leave it in. I already bought a flexible plastic one to replace the metal one. Any insight would be helpful.
rhondapayterFemaleJamaica2007-07-27 03:02:00