Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I ( and probably many others ) simply want the opportunity to begin to really live together as man and wife and make a go of our lives together completely, but due to unforeseen circumstances, I'm unable to. In a sense, I feel like you should be thankful, because you got what you wanted. Tamisha Hey girl, have you heard anything more about your case?	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	He is going to Jfk for the stamp & will hang with his cousins for a couple of days since he hasnt seen them since forever. He will be on Texas Ground Easter Sunday. You cannot imagine how Happy I am. This ordeal was unbelievable. Yippee See you got your wish - he'll be here by Easter!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	-- Here's the thing -- you ask a question. You get an answer. WE are not here to knock you down. WE are here to supply you with as much information and personal experiences that you can handle. Obviously some people can't handle it. Yes WE do get very passionate about our views and sometimes what we type doesn't translate properly. Me personally, I know some of my posts make me sound like a raving B^%$&. That is furthest from what I am..... I cannot change how some people feel. I just wish that the "newbies" knew ALL the women who used to frequent this forum -- who WE have not heard from in MONTHS -- SOME YEARS.....why? Their relationships don't exist anymore. Those are the "tales" you all really need to hear. If you heard what happened to them -- maybe you would understand WHY we try to give you honest answers -- whether you are prepared to hear them or not. Yes, this is a Jamaican forum so we are talking about Jamaican men (for the most part, men). Sorry if you feel we "Jamaican Bash" but what good would it do anybody if we came on here and talked about all our shi^^% experiences with American men?!?!? Everyone has their own experiences. I hope this forum can continue to host these types of conversations. If we can help just one person -- that will be one less person who is "in the wind." My sentiments exactly!!! I have been a member on VJ for years now and I've been a part of the Yardie thread ever since it first existed. We've always been able to chat about anything and everything - that's what's so great about this thread. If you don't like it or don't feel it's helping you DON'T READ IT Why do you think it's Sooooooo difficult for Jamaicans to get a Visa in the first place? They are a country of high visa fraud - that's just a fact. So obviously NOT everyone is here for noble purposes. But no one ever said that ALL Jamaicans are just out to screw you over and get their green card. We're just relating OUR personal experiences.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	That being said, I don't think you have to censor yourself. Like the one person said, we are not a cheering squad. We do not have to agree with everyone and everything. But, a little tact goes a long way. Say your comments in a less hateful manner and you will still get your points across.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	...because it is what is happening in our lives and we come to this forum to vent and see if it happend to anyone else and how they delt with it.... to the newbies that feel we are judging you...please.....you post your stuff we give our advice as people who have gone through it and know what could possibly happen.... well put! Everyone should feel free to state their opinion. How's the old saying go? If you don't want my opinion DON"T ask for it!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I have learned a valuable lesson in these posts.... I came here to get information, and encourage others in this journey along the way, and share my story in hopes that it would assist others. I did not come here to be judged by people that don't know me or my situation.... and have others fears, shortcomings, and insecurities from their experiences imposed on me. So maybe I should have just kept it surface, discussing the technical stuff. Whatever the case, I wish everyone well. But, I am getting enough BS from the people I love, don't need it from strangers I really don't give a damn about... No one is judging you. We're simply telling you our opinions. Sometimes it helps to examine a situation from different points of view. I think that's the whole point of "bouncing" an idea around on here. And many of us (the vets) that already have our man here KNOW how difficult it was (and still is) to adjust when he first got here. I think we're trying to make you think about all the perspectives thats all.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:10:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	But again that is my opinion and I did not expres it in a nasty or offensive way. I try my best to say little as possible on here because sometimes you get the feeling that a lot of people looking for support no matter how outrageous they sound. But when stuff is cruddy, I am going to break my silence and say so. I love you Trini Your opinions are ALWAYS welcome It's nice to have different perspectives and opinions on matters.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-04-05 10:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Marlita @ Nov 21 2007, 12:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok......so.....I have never tried it in the ocean, but the thought of it is wierd to me cause its salt water. Does the salt in the water not matter? I wouldn't do it all the time it can be a little uncomfortable if you're not "prepared" I think last time we went to JA (I was preggo) was the first time we didn't play in the water at least once!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-21 10:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Elizabethnhenry @ Nov 20 2007, 04:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Anyone heard from Jonesie? Is she still baby washing? That kid will catch a cold from all the washing! I talked to her yesterday. She's doing good. Just frustrated that baby hasn't come yet!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-21 10:21:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Nov 19 2007, 02:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Since I wouldn't really wear the rasta dress to a wedding...I will be wearing this: Pink! Totally my color! Jamie, I love that dress It's low cut woman! Looks like it goes all the way down to your belly button	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-21 10:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Nov 17 2007, 03:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Rhonda..Where the heck have you been!! I'm here girl! I'm still catching up on this thread. I'm almost done now. You guys chat a LOT for real	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-21 10:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 20 2007, 03:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Bwoy Rhonda, Yuh Good!! That's crazy!! If I even thought people knew what I was up to I'd be like..."Go ahead...I'll just swim back!" Yuh brave fi duh deh 'Climba Shame!!" bless, Gill Did I mention that I had about 5 rum punches in me by that time? I really had no worries mon Man, I could really use a drink right now!!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 15:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Nov 16 2007, 03:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Melodee: Oh. Yes. The Ruins. I have never been there, but I’m sure it’s beautiful. How im gwaan so cheap and tek mi fe nyam at a buffet? Mi hope gas nuh feel hup mi belly. Lawd. I’m ready if you are. I love the Ruins by the Falls It's not a buffet It's actually quite expensive - it cost me and Tony almost $100 for two of us!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 15:02:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Nov 16 2007, 10:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> oooooo under the Catamaran sound so wonderful. I'm going to have to try that one for real! Nice and cozy and private...just make sure they don't start the engines while I buss ile. It was awesome We were in really deep water so we had to hold on the the boat above us. Tony's old crew was on the boat with all the tourists and they were calling everyone back on board. When we didn't show up, they start calling down to us - they suspected all along what we were up to It was soooo funny. You've heard of the walk of shame? I had to do the "climb of shame" back up to the boat to leave!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 14:09:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Elizabethnhenry @ Nov 15 2007, 05:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Dear Rhonda, Jonesie and Jamie, I was gone for like what? 7 months? I come back and I still have more hearts than you! What's up with that???? I might have to take away your riddim rider and champion bubbler trophies!!! Ok so get to chattin! It took me forever just to get 2 Y'all chat too much!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 13:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Marlita @ Nov 14 2007, 11:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Jawi yur explanation of the "Pregnancy Shadow" is sooo true. My mother and sisters nose spread like crazy and my sister get the dirty neck thang.....so not pretty. I'm scared what I'll look like when I get preggers. I just want to get pregnant and buy cute maternity clothes! Ha ha. Oh Lawd I need to get knocked up!! They're only cute til you're about 7 months pregnant. Then even your maternity clothes are tight and uncomfortable By the time you're my size (almost 37 weeks) you NEVER want to see those maternity clothes again I've heard of the preggo shadow but what's with the nose spreading out? Never heard of that one.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 13:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Nov 14 2007, 04:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Jawi...here are some smilies you should use in your story This one especially for those still seperated by distance: Jamie, you are just too funny!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 13:35:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Nov 14 2007, 12:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Not sure if her hubby would like that one, I know mine was livid when I"mentioned" I had mine. I have never understood men getting mad about "toys". Wouldn't they much rather you play with a toy than the real thing?!!! My hubby never had an issue with it while we were apart.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 13:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Nov 11 2007, 11:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> [i]*Quinisha chuckles at her little escapade with Ian. She pats her breast to make certain the money she lifted from Ian’s pocket is still intact. Quinisha noticed that he was an easy mark because he allowed her too much access to his personal belongings. She had expertly removed all his cash while he cleaned “little Ian” with wet wipes. Ian better have some plastic in his wallet because his deep pockets were suddenly a lot shallower thanks to his new girl, QT. You go girl!! It's about time someone played him.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 14:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Nov 9 2007, 01:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> What's the flexing thing? I think she's talking about Kegals. Correct me if I'm wrong. I've been doing them for years. Hubby loves it	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 14:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 8 2007, 10:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM DAY OK Ladies, I was thinking so many of us beat ourselves up cause we don't look like Victoria Secret models. We are all beautiful women, in spite of what magazines, tv and movies try to tell us! I want every woman on the thread today to post one or two things that you LOVE about your body and yourself! Yes, this includes you too all my Preggie friends (You have even more reasons to love your body...you are bringing forth a new life ) Zeen? Ok, I'll start I love my curves and the way they move when I dance & walk! I love my smile and my CRAZY sense of humor too ! Ok, next... Love you all, Gill What a good idea! I've been feeling sooooo down about myself lately - I've gained 45 lbs. already Ok, I LOVE my new boobs Went from a 36B to a 38D since I got pregnant Wish I could shed the rest of the weight and keep them around for awhile!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 13:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	Wow, I'm on page 43 of the thread already. And I just started reading it yesterday! It's addicting. Now I see why all you ladies been hiding out over here on this thread	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 14:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Oct 31 2007, 12:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Re: forbidden fruit...I don't get it either. I know we had this convo in the yardie thread a long time back and some women said that it isn't a prob for their hubby and others won't even think about it. I don't get it either...whenever I talk to hubby I never get a real answer. I am guessing it is a hygeine type of problem...not sure though... I heard that it is only Rasta men that won't do it My hubby loves the "forbidden fruit"	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 14:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Oct 29 2007, 11:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wonder if he will go for the sex from Mya she so seemed to want (bed both twins comment)...Don't do it Tradee! All we need is a Maury show paternity test results that come back inconclusive because Mya was with identical twins and became pregnant Identical twins = same DNA...can't tell paternity. Oh my gosh, that would be the same exact problem Melodee had years ago when she got pregnant from one of them!! They say history repeats itself! These women need to get on the Pill and stop relying on MEN to take care of the birth control Sorry, I'm still catching up on the story. I know you guys are waaaaay past this point by now!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 11:31:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Oct 26 2007, 03:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> LOL. I have heard that the best authors write from fantasy and a mixture of true life experiences. I don't know anything about being a sex therapist. LOL. I have experienced all of the experiences written thus far, with the exception of the lifeguard stand. I think I have a little bit of an exhibitionist in me, hence the reason none of the scenes have occurred in a "bedroom". HAA-HAA. The weird thing is I don't mind the element of being "caught"...but I can't stand watching other people ie. blue movies. You go girl I'm a bit of an exhibitionist too. The most crazy place in Jamaica was in the ocean, underneath the Catamaran that Tony used to work on - with about 75 people in the boat above us!! I also did it on a jet ski once in Florida	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 10:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Oct 25 2007, 01:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Mi ear nuff stories bout Shotta inna school, and mi faas bad. Mi wan fe knoa whaa ie feel like tuh. Mi rooks hoff both of oonu same time. When mi belly swell, mi neva knoa who breed mi. I knew she was a no good skettle I liked the Rasta from the start - even though you guys all bashed him	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 07:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	Jawi, Your story is just AWESOME! I just started reading it, and I'm already on pg. 16. You should write a book. On another note, I can not post on VJ from my home computer I can read the posts, but when I try to post, it gives me an error message and disconnects me from online! Has anyone else had this happen?	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 07:28:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	My name ain't Stella....	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Oct 23 2007, 01:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I wonder why he gave me his phone. What am I supposed to do with it? What happens if somebody calls him? Should I answer it? I don’t even know if there is a girl in his life. I’m sure there is as blessed as that man is. I can’t wait to look at it more closely. I just don’t want Toya all in my business preaching at me and sh**. She doesn’t understand my need for plenty of male loving and a big variety box of it too.[/i] I LOVE it so far! You surprised me with the phone. I thought he gave her the bracelet already.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-14 14:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Just curious, what does breast-feeding have to do with never being sick?? I never breast fed my son and knock on wood, the last time he was actually sick was about 4 yrs ago. He never ever gets sick, has white straight teeth (takes after my side of the family). He had his adenoids/tonsils out when he was 5 but other than that?? I've been doing some research on this myself for obvious reasons Breastfeeding protects your baby from gastrointestinal trouble, respiratory problems, and ear infections • Breastfeeding can protect your baby from developing allergies. • Breastfeeding may boost your child's intelligence • Breastfeeding may protect against obesity later in life • Breastfeeding may protect your baby from childhood leukemia • Breastfeeding may protect your baby from developing type 1 diabetes • Breastfeeding may protect preemies from infections and high blood pressure later in life • Breastfeeding may lower your baby's risk of SIDS	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-08 01:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	It was really quiet in here today. I only had one page to read!! I am really craving ackee and saltfish and roast breadfruit I don't know if they're pregnancy cravings or just because I miss Jamaica and can't wait for our vacation in August!! The tin ackee is about $18 at the JA store near me	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-07 02:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Now this leads me to ask how USC's got dental insurance for their SO's here in the States? Currently I work as a temporary (been here for 6 1/2 years), no benefits. As soon as I complete my Stats class next month I will officially have my degrees in August and then I can search for a better paying job. As soon as we got married, I added Tony to my health, dental, and vision insurance through my work. It costs a little extra per month, but I'd hate to have something happen and not have insurance	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-07 02:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I think it is entirely possible. We got married 6 days after he got here. Look up what the waiting period is for a marriage license in your state and plan on getting the license as soon as he gets here. Oh yeah, I forgot about the marriage license I think ours only took a couple days.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 02:10:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	For those of you that filed K1 and are now married: Considering that my fiance's interview is 6/19 and if we estimate two weeks the visa will be delivered around 7/4, is it possible or realistic to get married immediately and still manage to file for AOS before 7/30? Yes, I think it can be done. Get as much of the AOS paperwork as you can filled out ahead of time. The only thing you'll need after that is the marriage certificate. Many people say you have to wait a few weeks to get a certified copy of it, but we just sent a copy of the one the pastor gave us at the church. No problem. It's worth a try. The worst they're gonna do is send you an RFE.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 02:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Sorry to hear about the WU horrors! Marlon wants me to send via WU so I guess I will take my chances! We use Western Union all the time and we never had a problem. Don't worry. I have discovered that if you send money online, the fee to send it is higher than if you do it in person at a W.U. place. We always use the one at our local Kroger (grocery store). You can check their website to find locations near you.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 02:06:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	From what I understand, there is not that much of an increase in the combined AOS package from filing for them all separately before, right? It's still quite a bit more costly. For the AOS, AP, and EAD it costs $675. The new cost is over $1000	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 01:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	only thing is...i'm wondering how much time can actually be saved using the courier service as opposed to waiting for an appointment to drop it off because don't you still have to wait for the embassy to mail out packet 4 before you can schedule the visa interview? You don't schedule the interview - the Embassy schedules it. And they won't schedule it until after they receive the completed DS-230. The sooner you can get it to them, the better.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 01:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	i made a copy of it and mailed the original noa2 to my fiance like 3 weeks ago. he went to the post office last week to see if it had arrived and i was shocked to find out that it wasn't there yet. it BETTER be there this week or we're gonna have some problems! You used the regular postal service? I never use them for anything I need to send to Jamaica. They take forever! Try FedEx next time - it will get there within 2 or 3 days.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 01:43:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Glad to help I am still around daily...just lurking not always posting on this thread. Also FYI with the new AOS fee the EAD(I-765) and AP (I-131) are included so the total cost is $1,010. The sucky part about that is now you have to apply for the EAD & AP whether you wanted to or not. Well that's good at least - I thought it was going to be an additional $645!! But you're right - now they're forcing you to apply for those - it's more money for them	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 01:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Jamie, I know you haven't been on lately but Thank you for reminding me that the fees were going up on July 30, 2007. I just sent out I-751 package to remove conditions and it cost us $275. After July 30, the price will go up to $545 I just can't believe how they're ripping everybody off. Here's some of the other new fees that will go into effect: I 129F Fianceé Petition General fiancée petition: $ 455 I 485 Adjust status and become a permanent resident while in the U.S. All others: filing + biometric= $ 1,010 I 131 Reentry permit, refugee travel document or advance parole Reentry permit or refugee travel document $ 305 I 765 Employment Authorization /Employment Authorization Document (EAD) $ 340	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-05 02:45:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Hi Guys!! Hope all is well with everyone. Nothing new to report on this end. Roy is <finally, finally, finally> working full-time and loving every minute of it -- Mee too!! :energetic: It's about time you showed your face around here woman	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-05 02:31:00