Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Adrian is giving me a hard time and I wanted you guys prospective on the whole thing.....the lawyer said he heard of a case where the woman was arrested because she brought the man to the US and then didnt marry him??? then another case he told me that a woman was issued by the court to pay the male immigrant $50,000??? have any of you heard anything like that??? Joanna, I have never heard of such a thing! It sounds pretty crazy to me. It sounds like a scare tactic to try to get you to marry him so he can stay here. Try not to stress too much. It sounds like you're doing the right thing. When is his 90 days up? He goes on to say that there is an A-number in D's name from way back in the 1970's. We were like he wasn't born until 1975 Then he says well, Who ever filed this petition. Filed it for a person with his same name, same mother and fathers name ect. Wow, that is so crazy! What are the chances of someone else w/ the same name AND the same parents names? Is there any chance that his parents filed for a visa for him when he was really young? Try to be patient and hang in there. Like someone else mentioned, at least he's here with you now so you can wait together instead of being 2000 miles away	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-07-20 19:23:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Well wish me luck y'all...today is my meeting with my boss in which I will be giving my 2 weeks notice. I have been trying to have this meeting for the last week and a half but I have been nervous and all that jazz...but today is the day...I have to do it. Once this is over with it will be a big weight off my chest and shoulders and my mind. Good luck Jamie I know what you mean by a weight off your chest. I HATE my job so much lately, I would love to quit. I'm still job hunting trying to find something else that comes close to my current salary. The job market in Michigan sucks right now	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-07-20 19:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Rhonda-working 7 days a week in just too much. Do your supervisors work 7 days a week too? Are you working more than 8 hours a day? I am a supervisor and my employees are working so they think I should be here too. Even if someone else could cover - it makes no sense. I am the only production supervisor on 2nd shift so I will have to be here 7 days a week There are 3 supervisors on day shift so they can take turns working the weekends. I have no one to take turns with Most of my employees work between 10 and 12 hours a day during the week. Luckily, I usually slip out of here after 8 or 9 hours. BUT, I still dont' want to work 7 days a week.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-07-20 19:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Oh my gosh, when I first logged on and saw only 2 pages of our Yardie thread I thought the whole system had crashed again Thank goodness it looks like it was just a precaution since we were taking up too much space! Going to finish catchin up now.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-07-20 19:09:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Nov 20 2007, 10:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I see you say 'he only asked for things a few times'. That would be a BANNER sized flag... In my experience, the only men who ask for things aren't genuine. Most Jamaican men I know would cut of their right hand before asking for things. That includes hinting they want things. I don't know your situation, but based on that statement, I honestly think you've already made the right choice. I'm going to agree to DISAGREE with you on this one. I think it all depends on the situation. He could be asking for something that's hard to come by in JA. Or asking for some help with the Visa process (money for passport, etc.). Or even asking for something special for his birthday. You never know.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 11:22:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 20 2007, 06:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Do I trust Ken 100%...no...but I tell him that and he knows that I have a ton of prior baggage, but I pray with time, I'll get there. But I do trust him more than I have trusted any man. That sounds just like me	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 11:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (classychic77 @ Nov 20 2007, 12:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions (not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear) and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. I had many doubts back in the dating stage of our relationship too. It's very difficult to carry-on a long distance relationship no matter how strong you are. I had also had bad relationships in my past and had been cheated on, so I was really, really paranoid (still am sometimes ). However, when I really thought about it, I could not imagine my life without Tony in it. He was the first person I wanted to call when I had good news. The first person I wanted to call when I needed a shoulder to cry on. The first person to call when I wanted advice or to share something funny, or to ###### about work, or poke fun at a co-worker.... The point is, I couldn't imagine my life without him in it. I decided I had to go through with the Visa process or I would wonder for the rest of my life "what if"? Was he really "the one" and I blew him off just because he lived so far away or I was scared? What's the worst thing that can happen? We won't be compatible and we'll part ways. I even booked him a round trip ticket sending him back to Jamaica on day #91 in case I decided after 90 days that it just wouldn't work That was like my security blanket that saved my sanity a few times when I had doubts. Like a 90 day trial run. Needless to day, we got married after about 65 days and he never used his return ticket! Yes, the first year was very rough, but I'm so happy we worked through things and we're still together almost 3 years later. I hope this helps you figure things out It's just my personal journey.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 11:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Nov 19 2007, 02:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> If you HONESTLY want baby out, massage the webbing between your thumb and finger, and also the groove on the inside of your foot just above the fleshy part of your heel.....Can't say that's DEFINITELY why I went into labour, but it was the night before Yeah, the girl who does my massages said the same thing. She's going to try to work on those areas next time I go (Dec. 3) if I haven't gone into labor yet. I've been spoiling myself with one each month these last few months of pregnancy	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 11:01:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 19 2007, 01:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hey Rhonda, So, your almost there huh? When's your due date? Maybe we can git another Saggi baby out of the thread!! I'm hoping Jonesie's likkle guy can stay put at least til Friday! To make him an official Saggitarius (? it's my sign, but I can never spell it correctly ) Hang in there Chica...Baby soon come!! P.S. Yuh should try 'washing the Baby head' regularly in a few weeks!! (when you are in the 2 week safe zone)That should give you a jump start! My official due date is December 16 - one day after Jonesie's! This Sunday I'll be at 37 weeks - that's considered full term as far as my doctors concerned. at "washing the baby's head"!! Hubby will like that part of the pregnancy	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-20 10:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I can't believe I'm in my 9th month of pregnancy now Man, time flies. Read the little saying under my ticker That's gonna me really soon! I don't want to wait 4 more weeks!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 12:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 19 2007, 11:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> What kills me is Ken is so patient! "Baby Girl, why yuh astress yuhself...it soon reach!" I guess living in JA, you have to be! . But, I've gotten spoiled living here in the U.S. and I am officially part of the NOW generation!! CHA!!! You know, that's one of the biggest changes I've seen in Tony since he moved here. He's not so laid back anymore and now I miss it We don't BOTH need to be stressed out!! I miss his, "no worries", "no problem mon" attitude	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 12:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Nov 19 2007, 10:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> My daughter and I love Gwen Stefani...she's all over my Ipod. My daughter loves her Harajuku clothing line...it's so cute. Me too Me and Tony saw her in concert with Akon a few months ago. She was AWESOME!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 12:50:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 19 2007, 05:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> OK, PLEASE tell me you guys saw Alicia Keys on the Ameircan Music Awards last night!!!? She was AWESOME!! She did the 'No One' (my SONG!!) remix with Jr. Reid! Plus she had Shabba, Chaka Demus & Pliers and Beenie Man!!! My Gal did the DYAM TING!!!! Mi seh mi LOVE LOVE LOVE dat deh Girl!! She always come wid something GOOD!!!! Yes, it was awesome I LOVE Beenie Man	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 12:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (jamerican @ Nov 18 2007, 02:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thanks it may be only part of the issue but at least it helps me to understand reactions (his). And in answer to your previous question, yes after the fact we were able to discuss what happened and why....just not sure if it is a little too late. Only time will tell.... Hang in there girl For once, time is on your side! As slow as the Kingston Embassy is, you have plenty of time to make up your mind. Even if you do get assigned an interview date, you can always postpone it if you're still undecided. (A few people on here have postponed theirs) Better than starting the whole process over again if you do change your mind.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-19 12:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Hey everyone Just poppin in. I've been reading Jawi's story and it's got me addicted like crack I'm gonna get fired from slackin' off all day at work! Today is my last day for the week - we have a 3 day weekend See you all on Monday. Have a good weekend.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-15 15:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Nov 14 2007, 10:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Breed Har Again I've heard this one before, but it's still funny	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-14 12:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (jawi876 @ Nov 13 2007, 04:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Rhonda your precious bundle is almost ready! Thank goodness! I am so miserable QUOTE (jamerican @ Nov 13 2007, 07:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Bad news....I am ending my journey. Sorry to hear that. It's better that you find out now, than later. Good luck to you in whatever you do	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-14 12:11:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (shrewdgal @ Nov 13 2007, 02:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am beginning to go crazy and think I MIGHT WANT A BABY sooner rather than later..6 teachers at my school preg. thus year!!! And so many on here!! I hope these days speed by for you!!! Is any heading down over Thanksgiving? There's 6 of us just on the Yardie thread that are preggo Something in the wata..... I won't be going anywhere anytime soon! I wish I was!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2007-11-13 15:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	No he is not violent at all. The floors being ruined is actually a funny story - he put Dawn in the dishwasher... nuff said. My dad did that once when he was upnorth deer hunting. He had NEVER run the dishwasher before even though my parents have had one for decades Him and my cousin just figured soap is soap - it must clean ok. Needless to say the floor got a good washing along with the dishes Damien basically ruined the kitchen when he came because he didn't want to ask for help while I was at work. He broke knives (being too heavy handed), flood the kitchen (putting too much soap in the dishwasher), burned out pots (not used to cooking on electric stove), burned all of tuperware tops (he used them as plates in the mircowave), burned out a George Foreman grill (forgot to unplug it) and now the mircowave is broken - I wonder why Wow, I guess I got lucky in that area - Tony hasn't done much damage to the house at all. Not that I've discovered anyway My sister is finally out of the woods and they are talking about releasing her from the hospital......Duane has truly been a very supportive shoulder to lean on during this time......he really amazes me...... That's wonderful So, did they ever have to go back in and do more surgery? I'm glad she's ok now. I know nothing about gardening. Last week I was talking to Tristan and he mentioned a "garden egg". I had no idea what he was talking about until I figured out it was an eggplant. at "garden egg"! I had the most difficult time figuring out that what Tony refers to as a "pear" in JA, we call it an avacado here I'm like how do you make gaucamole out of pear? Every day is a learning experience!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-09 00:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	I am not saying it is right how these men are behaving, I am just saying that it has less to do with some mean spirit on thier part to thier American fiance and more to do with them feeling lost in a foreign country. I guess we just have to have realistic expectations as to how soon the good days will come . This is not like meeting a man, falling in love and getting marraid. These men are leaving a normal life behind. No matter how bad it may be, it is the life that they know. So true I try to put myself in Tony's shoes when I get frustrated with him. I have come to my own personal conclusion that I could not do what he did! I couldn't leave everything I know, my family, my job, etc. and just move to another country where I know ONE person in the entire place It is a huge challenge for them. I used to think that he should be happy because he had it so much better here - nice house, nice cars to drive, nice clothes, etc.. - but like you said however bad they had it in JA, it was still THIER HOME	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-08 01:00:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	I have been reading the messages on this site and I guess I have not heard any comments from any of the men who may be on here and bringing fiance's to the US. Wonder if there are any besides myself. It wa her furniture, her bed, her food, her everything and I felt like so much a visitor there and never felt like anything was mine. We picked out the new furniture down to the bedspread and the curtains together. You cannot begin to imagine the psychological turmoil these men are going through. I used to almost resent my then wife for bringing me here. I was unprepared for this life . America is a hustle. Everyman for themselves and God for us all. You can loaf around in the Caribbean and not work for months and still get a meal and a roof over your head cause that is what family will do for you. That laid back attitude has to end at JFK or whaereever they come in. Took me a while after I came here to realize that it was not a vacation. Caribbean people or foreigners in general see Americans as prosperous and do not understand until they get here that that good life comes at a cost. The streets are not paved with gold and sometimes it takes a while for them to understand that. I tell you, I know how they feel and it is going to get worse before it gets better. You just have to know how much you are willing to take while you wait for the better day. I have said too much. You have NOT said too much It's very nice to have the male perspective and also from someone who was once the foreign fiance himself!! Thank you. So many of your comments really rang true with me. Tony felt the same way when he came here - everything was 'mine' - he felt he had no say in things since I was paying for everything, etc. I think you guys picking out things for the house together is a great idea Also, the fact that many foreigners think of America as prosperous - so true! Tony admits now that he's never worked so hard in his life as he has since he got here But it's true - it does not come easy. Thanks for your insight.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-08 00:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	If you decide not to marry him and he has to return to JA please be aware that it will be difficult, if not impossible for him to return to his home. I'm sure he will be ostracized and humiliated. He will probably have to live in another area. I don't agree with this at all Tony would definately go back to where he lived before amongst all his family and friends. If they are your true friends, they are not going to judge you because your relationship didn't work out! He has even talked to his dad about coming back "home" if we called it quits and his dad will help him get his feet back on the ground until he found another job, etc... They might be a little embarassed to admit their relationship "failed" but your family and friends will not "ostracize" you. Think of these things. 1. Take a break. 2. Be realistic. 3. Talk about it. 4. Compromise. 5. Communicate. Great advice And no, some of us don't get any days off this weekend I'm at work right now	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-08 00:32:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Ever since he came here things have been bad. My house is a mess - my Pergo floors are ruined - by window broke, my small stained glass window ornament is broken... Ladies, I barely even want to have s*x anymore. Are you allowed to say that here? Anyway, I certainly won't get into the details - but suffice to say that things are much LESS fun than they were in JA. Not saying things are NEVER fun, but nothing like before. I went to his job today to give him some money and I just looked at how incredibly handsome he is. He was so proud to be working. And he told me the reason he needed money is because he opened a bank account and couldn't take it out today. And whenever I see these tiny rays of hope I think - maybe I should give it more time... maybe I'm being too hasty.... And it breaks my heart to see him and be thinking in my head that I've all but decided not to marry him. Your comments about your house being messed up worry me Is he violent with you? Does he break things when he gets mad? As far as the sex, yes you can talk about that on here I was quite concerned myself a while back and asked a question about how often other couples were "doing it". Our sex life became almost non-existant once we were both working (on seperate shifts too) and it still isn't all that often now But, in talking to a lot of other couples, I've discovered that it's normal to decrease once the "newness" wears off. And obviously when I was going down to JA to see him, it was ALL THE TIME but that's because we didn't see each other for weeks/months at a time! We were catching up! Also, stress will definately affect your desire and sex drive, so if you're stressed about your relationship of course you're not going to be feeling it. I think him starting a job will be a real turning point in your relationship. I know it was for us. It gives them some of their independance back and allows them to make their "own" money so they don't have to constantly bug you for cash. Also, him taking the initiative to open a bank account is great Keep your head up and vent all you want.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-08 00:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	I told Craig yesterday (in the car..........best talks are in the car, cause they can't RUN)........I said Craig, we ALL need to support each other doesn't matter HOW bad it gets !!! You can't keep running AND threatening you're going to leave. You HAVE to stick it out and work everything out. Our bad times far outweigh our good times !!!! I won't let him disrespect me over and over again and it's every other day !! I know that he loves me, truly loves me, but I can't STAND the fact that he lies to me. When he does he NEVER gets away with it, cause I always find out. The other "issue" in our relationship has been what Craig calls a "friend". He continues to say that she's "a friend". This "B" has called our house several times at 12:45 AM, 1:43 AM and 7:30 AM and NEVER leaves a message !!!!!!!!!!! I called her 2 weekends ago and left her a message for her to call me, she goes and text messages Craigs phone 3 min later (which I had in my hand----he wasn't here). So I called her back (from the cell), she didn't answer, so I left another message for her to call me back on OUR home phone ....I was VERY nice about it!!! SHE NEVER EVER CALLED BACK. Friend............yeah, right !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I totally understand the talks in the car It's true - they don't want a confrontation so they run away. Tony does this and it drives me nuts. I understand that sometimes you just need to cool off so you don't say something you don't mean, but... You can't keep running from your problems & think they're going to disappear if you just ignore them. If your bad times really do outweigh your good times, I would be concerned about that. I always use that to measure my relationship - the good outweighs the bad or else we wouldn't have made it this long. Even though the bad is really, really bad, when it's good, it's great. I can also relate to the lying issue. Tony used to go to the bar while I was at work and then lie to me about it I always found out and then I was pissed - not because he went to the bar, but because he LIED about it. Of course, he thought I'd be mad so in his mind it was better to just lie and avoid confrontation We're still working on him understanding why he can NOT lie to me and how important it is for me to be able to trust him. The thing with Craig having a female "friend" is a little suspicious. Who is this girl? What does she mean to him? How long has he known her? If she is just a friend, why won't she speak to you? She must know you're his WIFE right? What a b*tch I think you definately have to get to the bottom of that in order for anything to work out with you and Craig. Good luck and hang in there	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-07 23:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	I read all these quotes about men that seem so wonderful. Frustrating sure - but in an endearing way. I don't hear anyone say they made a mistake or things are bad. So it makes me wonder if I am the only one who may have made a poor choice. Or may be handling things badly.... or whatever. Me and Tony have been though some VERY rough times I know where you're coming from. We have had fights so bad he has literally packed up all his clothes and stuff and told me he's going back to JA on the next flight out. Thanks to Mindy, Joanna, and Jamie for getting me through some of the rough spots You girls are great and it's SO good to be able to talk to others who are going through a similar situation or at least know what you're talking about - dealing w/ JA men and the cultural differences and all that. Vent all you want to. OKAY, I was PM'g someone........I thought............SO that's how MY DAY IS GOING !!!!!!!!!!!! I just aired out my s**t !!!!! I didn't mean to, but f** it.....that's what I did...............so..............if anyone wants to give me advice, please do !!!!! Cause I'm ready to commit myself !!!!!!!!!!! This process, scenario or whatever......SUCKS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kelly, don't worry about "airing your business". We've all been there before. Maybe it will help to talk about some of it. I know I have had my share of "issues" w/ my JA man. I've posted a lot of it on here, but there's also a lot I don't post - either way, I've always gotten great support from all you girls I'm not thinking that this relationship is that much different from any that I have had with American men...they are all dogs too! So true I've dated my share of *ssholes right here in the gold old usa Maybe that's why I figured I'd find a better one if I looked in another country That's why I am willing to talk to newbies and share my experience....most of the time they don't want to hear it because there mates are perfect and would never hurt them. Some people don't like to hear negative things...for me I wanted to hear the good, bad, in and out of every detail. Yes, this is so true A lot of women think that THEIR man is the exception, that THEY won't have any of these problems, because THEY communicate and talk about everything! Sorry, not true. You won't know til he gets here - that's the bottom line. My motto is, hope for the best but be prepared for the worst I never expected it to be easy and it wasn't / isn't.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-07 06:23:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	He says I'm just not the same woman I used to be. He says I make everything a problem and "cause argument". I'm like of course I'm not the same woman - we are not on vacation in Jamaica anymore. when we have an argument he's like "fine, I'll just do it your way - I won't say anythng else about it - I'm already on a pretty thin line here". I ask him what that means and he's like "if it dosen't work out, I go back to Jamaica." So what does this mean? Is he only here to live a better life? I wonder that. But in other situation's he has actually said he wants to go home. Tony and I had some of these same issues when he first got here. I get really stressed out from work and I work tons of hours. So NO, I am definately not the happy, relaxed, no problem gal that I am when I'm on vacation in JA But he has changed too - he blames it on American culture saying that we're all too stressed out and worried all the time! Where he used to be so laid back, he has now adopted our "culture". I think he realized that you don't just come here and automatically get rich - you have to work your tail off. He also used to constantly threaten to go back to JA. At least I took it as a "threat" at the time, but in hindsight realized that he was just being honest. If things didn't work out between us, he would definately return to JA. That's what he knows - that's where all his family and old friends are. And as far as him telling you he'll just "do it your way" that's his way of saying he doesn't want to argue about it anymore. From what I've seen, JA men HATE confrontation. Hang in there. PM or e-mail me if you want. I called our wedding off 3 times in less than 60 days before we actually said our vows In less than 2 months we'll be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary It gets better. Edited by rhondapayter, 07 October 2006 - 05:59 AM.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-07 05:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	What do you do for a living? Do you like your job? Is it just a job or a stepping stone in your career? Are you what you wanted to be when you grew up? Do you have a dead end job (like mine)? Have you ever made a major career change? How did you go about doing that? Let's talk careers.... I'm a Production Supervisor at General Motors. No, I do not like my job at all I guess it could be a career IF I was interested in staying in Manufacturing which I'm not. I never really figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up I have not made a major career change even though I would like to. My job pays really well and has good benefits and I can't find anything that comes close salary wise. So I'm here for now	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-07 05:30:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	OK--here's one I used to get from my husband... "Why yuh was' money on dis Kotex ting? Jus wash out yuh likkle cloths" Nuff said. Oh no he didn't go there Oh my gosh	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-07 05:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	We're heading down to Virginia Beach (supposed to) this weekend for a soccer tournament, but the weather is supposed to be REALLY bad. NOT looking forward to that again this year, although Craig is TOTALLY pumped about seeing "a beach"!!!! Do you think he's going to be disappointed? Roy loved the beach in San Diego but it was so much colder and much more (as he says) "frownsie" than Jamaica When I took Tony to Florida (Clearwater Beach) he liked the beach but complained about the ocean! The water was freezing cold (it was April) and it wasn't clear straight to the bottom like Jamaica! He's like "why do they call it Clearwater Beach? It's not clear at all!!!" We still managed to have a blast though. Okay, I've got a question ......Is there something about your fiancee/husband that ABSOLUTELY drives you nuts? Yes, yes, yes. Tony does that annoying thing with his lips/teeth (I think you guys refer to it as "kiss teet") every time he gets mad/aggravated/frustrated/ticked off..... It is SO annoying I'm like will you quit doing that PLEASE?!!! That's the worst offense, although I hate his smoking too. He quit for like 2 months but started again. He keeps saying he's going to quit again... I am perfect....nothing drives him crazy [/color] The one things that REALLY bothers me is the TV and music volume!!! ARGH!!! IS he deaf already???????? Oh my gosh, Tony is the exact same way. At home, in the car, everywhere he goes the volume has to be blasting! When I get in the car after he drove it last, it deafens me when it comes on We are always fighting over the volume control	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-06 02:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	I am new to this website and trying to figure it all out. I have some questions on filling out the forms for a K-1 Visa for my fiance coming from Jamaica. Most of my questions are about the form itself, what not to write or how much to write. Welcome You do NOT need a lawyer. Everything you need you can find on here. The FAQ covers just about everything you can think of and the "example forms" show you exactly what to fill out for each section. I used them a lot to fill out my forms. Good luck.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-06 02:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Questions: What docs is required to get married in JA? Is the birth cert the only one? And once you do will I recv the temporary cert ASAP? If so how long will it take for me to recv the original? Will they mail it to me or my spouse? Also is it true that I have to be in the country for at least 48 hrs after we get married? Anna, Why all the questions all of a sudden? I thought you guys were going to do the K-1? Did you change your mind? We haven't heard much from you lately. Good luck with whatever route you choose to go	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-05 02:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	well.....my grandma passes early this morning... I am so sorry about your loss I know how difficult it is - I lost both my maternal grandparents last year within 7 weeks of each other. I still miss them terribly but it gets easier with time. Hang in there. As for my sister.....she is not doing well...she has fluid in her abdominal lining and it is infected!!!! She is on IV antibotics and if it does not clear up in the next day or so, they will need to go back and do another surgery to drain the fluid. Apparently, this is life threatening so we are taking turns going to the hospital and watching her around the clock.......... Kim, I'm so sorry to hear this At least she is in the hospital and they are keeping a close watch on her. I'm sure she will pull through just fine.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-05 02:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	That does help...if you remember the questions he was asked (and you too), could you post them? That would be great. I am compiling a "study sheet" for my fiance so that he can be as prepared as he can when the time comes! The questions were pretty basic. When did you meet? How/ where did you meet? How long have you known each other? How many times have you seen each other? Are either one of you married? Do you have kids? When are you getting married? When and how did you get engaged? Has the JA citizen ever been to the US? She noticed my engagement ring and commented on it. She also made Tony write my name on a piece of paper. We weren't prepared for this part and I had to whisper to him how to spell it correctly I think that's about it.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-04 01:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	..come on people....I want to be TOUCHED....... Then you gotta be like me and Mindy...play hard to get!! Hey Kim -- me and Elizabeth can teach you if you want :energetic: Mindy, you are just too kinky Mindy, Oh my gosh, I thought your post said "touch" instead of "teach" I need to get my eyes checked she told me that they WOULD NOT allow me to go in with him...that I would have to wait at the door....she said that he has to show his passport and paperwork...but that the guards would prevent me from going any further.... Unless they've changed the rules in the last couple of weeks, this is completely UNTRUE! It's basically just a large waiting room with a hallway leading off of it. In the hallway are various "windows" where the interviewers sit - picture a bank with the tellers sitting behind the glass. When they call your name you just walk up to window you're called to and talk to them through the glass. There is a little slot at the bottom to slide paperwork into. And like someone else on here said, most of the questions were directed at both of us or just myself (the US citizen). They encourage the US citizen to attend the interview - that's the best "proof of relationship" you can give them Try not to listen to all the different rumors you will hear.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-04 00:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	We called the embassy because I was trying to make flight reservations and could not wait....glad that I did because packet 4 never arrived in the mail and Duane had to go to Kingston to pick it up..... I don't trust the Jamaican mail system at all You're much better off just picking the packet up from the Embassy like Kim says.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-03 02:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	I saw so many thongs poking out when some of these women stooped or bent to pick up their files. I also saw way too much cleavage. It seems the men were better dressers that day. Maybe they were hoping for a male interviewer Boy Rhonda sure is going to be disappointed tonight Yes, she is!! Where is everyone???	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-03 02:22:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Just sharing some good news: Henry received his Green Card yesterday!! He is quite relieved. CONGRATS You're done for awhile now! I spent the night Thursday and ALL Friday at the hospital...my sister had a ruptured appendix Oh no Glad she's doing better now. She is driving me crazy now wondering what is appropriate attire for the interview and I promised her I will ask. Does anyone has any suggestions? I told my fiance that better to be overdressed than underdressed but she is not buying that. I agree with you, it is much better to be over-dressed than under. My husband wore dress pants and a Polo shirt and I wore a conservative sun dress w/ sandals. I would definately not go in there wearing jeans One guy was actually in a full suit and tie You saw a bit of everything, but I would say for the most part is was "business casual".	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-10-02 01:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Oh my goodness it is way too quiet in here lately I had nothing to read today at work You guys need to chat some more. Thank goodness I'm off tomorrow (Sun.) so I'll at least have one day out of this place! My last day off was Sept. 17 Unfortunately it's supposed to rain all day today and it's only like 50 degrees outside I'm not ready for cold weather yet!!!	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-09-30 05:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	DECEMBER 11 will be 2 years for me and Tony So.....Where's the party going to be???? At your house! I invited 300 of my closest friends!! Is there a "cutoff" date for the AOS paperwork? Like WHEN do you **have** to process the paperwork??? We met the "requirements" to get married, but when is the question. Technically, you are supposed to file the paperwork within the 90 day time frame also. But I think some people on here waited longer and it was not a problem. I would get the paperwork in the mail as soon as you can. Edited by rhondapayter, 29 September 2006 - 05:13 AM.	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-09-29 05:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)	Hey guys i know its been a million years since i have been on. Hey Popcorn It's good to see you. Who's anniversary is next???? DECEMBER 11 will be 2 years for me and Tony	rhondapayter	Female	Jamaica	2006-09-28 05:33:00