Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Philippines	Wants to give up and Return to Philippines?	One of the red flags I forgot about in the last thread was the big fight over the eleven-dollar cab ride and the resentment over paying for other things. Not paying airfare. I didn't get a sense either one was enthusiastic. I'd have robbed the U.S. Mint to get my hands down, er, on my wife. rlogan, I really love how you give great insightful replies all the while playing with the stupid stereotypes that so many use to slap senseless labels on us. It's find of fun to be able to laugh at those stereotypes from time to time. My wife and I are always joking whenever we get weird looks in public, I'm 41 and she's 26 but we look more like 33 & 16...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-10-30 08:55:00
Philippines	Wants to give up and Return to Philippines?	It really seems to be a common thread that a lot of us overlook how difficult that initial adjustment period is going to be for both sides of the equation. In "normal" relationships the meshing together of two distinct personalities gets to happen gradually and if something gets too intense it's easier to slow it down and back off a little bit. Most of us don't have that safety net. Sure we spend a lot of time communicating with each other but when the phone is hung-up or the computer logged-off we're in separate worlds again. Once the Visa has been used we can't get that me time as easy anymore.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-10-27 09:39:00
Philippines	Wants to give up and Return to Philippines?	why does everyone always seem to side with the Petitioner I don't think anyone saw this as an issue of taking sides. If she simply doesn't want to marry him because things aren't as she expected then she should say that. Everyone here is simply responding to the information given...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-10-26 16:35:00
Philippines	Wants to give up and Return to Philippines?	Columbus, OH is where we are located and how do I move this thread to the Philippines Regional forum, I am pretty new to this site, I have trouble finding things. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! You can't move it directly but you can click the report button and as a moderator to move it for you.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-10-26 12:56:00
Philippines	Wants to give up and Return to Philippines?	If you give your general location there may be a local VJer or two who can help directly. I would also suggest moving this thread to the Philippines Regional forum where you'll get better attention. Does she have easy access to Filipino Channels? That's something that helped Anna during her initial adjustment stage.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-10-26 11:21:00
Philippines	I avoided girls from Mindanao	Okay... And?	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-08-05 15:07:00
Philippines	should i file for waiver if a k2 visa petition expired?	I would suggest you petition the child. as a USC, it would be quicker than your wife filing as an LPR. Exactly why I asked the question.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-06 18:57:00
Philippines	should i file for waiver if a k2 visa petition expired?	No waiver required, the Petition will be an I-130. Was he too old when you married her for you to file the petition?	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-06 17:21:00
Philippines	Any possibility of a tourist visa for a Filipina while an I-130 is pending?	So, from what all I have read and from our own experience, a visitor visa seems hard to get, even with a career, land holdings and family and money in the bank as ties to the Philippines. Actually it sounds like she would have had a good chance at getting the B Visa if she didn't have a relationship with a US Citizen.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-06 13:24:00
Philippines	Any possibility of a tourist visa for a Filipina while an I-130 is pending?	You need to remember the assumption is that she has immigrant intent and the pending case supports that assumption. What are her strong ties to the Philippines? Having a US Citizen husband is a strong tie to the US which works against her.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-05 23:51:00
Philippines	Another Manila Approval	As some of you may remember Anna & I were surprised to find out that her first pregnancy (7 years ago) didn't in in a still birth as she was told by hospital staff at the time. Well the interview for Carlo, her son from that first pregnancy) had is interview yesterday and they only asked one question before he was approved! Now we just need to wait for the Visa to arrive. The CO told Anna to expect it next week, he said 2 days for processing and next day delivery. I sure hope it's take quick so they can both be home for Christmas (but I'm not betting the house on it, we'll wait until Visa is in hand to buy their plane tickets).	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-09 11:23:00
Philippines	Anyone know about 1st time immigrant discount for airfair?	It's a scam to make you feel like you got a better deal on the flight. I've never seen anyone post a "First time immigrant" airfare that beats the online fares...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-10 09:39:00
Philippines	I-94... can be extended???	the life of an unfortunate pinay is at stake on this and we cant give any falls hope too... this is reality and legal immigration... I don't know that I'd go so far as to say who's the victim and unfortunate in this situation as it sounds like she's not on the up and up. Cases like this make me glad USCIS included the fail-safe of limiting a K-1 Entrant to AOS via the Original Petitioner only.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-12 12:03:00
Philippines	I-94... can be extended???	For a K-1 Visa, the I-94 can not be extended. a K-1 Visa holder can marry someone other than the petitioner, but can not AOS. there is no waiver. they would have to return to their home country and have an I-130 filed for them. Exactly...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-11 22:10:00
Philippines	CENOMAR	Bring the CEMAR along with your proof of Annulment. While it's ture that they don't always ask for it do you want the take the chance of being one of those who is asked but didn't get it? My wife was never married before and they asked for her NSO CEMAR for her CR-1 Visa! Luckily we had obtained it so there was no delay.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-13 13:58:00
Philippines	International warranty questions	You do NOT want to bring anything FAKE into the USA.. If they check your bags you could end up in big trouble. Stay only with 100% legit items Not entirely accurate... If you're only bringing in one or two for personal use then you won't have any problems. If you've got a dozen fakes in your luggage then you could either have the items seized or find yourself charged with importing the items.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-18 14:15:00
Philippines	International warranty questions	Most high end electronics companies warranties are indeed regional or even country specific. Manufacturing specifications for these items often times varies from region to region (or even from country to country) additionally some regions/countries have differing warranty requirements. If you buy any electronic device in the Philippines/Asia and are bringing it to the US expect that your warranty is worthless once you land here.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-18 12:13:00
Philippines	CO said he can't confirm approval as of the moment	You worry too much! Yes you are approved my dear. Go book a ticket, pack your bags and America is waiting for you! DO NOT book the ticket until you have the Visa in hand... It can take for a few days to a few weeks for processing & delivery. Otherwise I would agree that you are approved. They kept your passport which they wouldn't need to do unless they were going to affix a Visa and if they didn't give you a 221g then they aren't waiting for additional (or corrected) documents from you.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-09 13:07:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	Thank you for the prompt response and for clearing that up! I was a lil confused earlier. Mmkay, 2years after I arrived in the US, that's when I'll file and undergo ROC? Am I right? Yep, exactly... Then 1 year later you can file for Naturalization (US Citizenship) if you desire...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-17 10:50:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	Hmmm, I was just wonderin, do I still have to undergo the AOS stuff even if I'm on a CR1 visa? No, CR/IR Visa holders are granted LPR status upon POE so there is no adjustment, just ROC (Removal of Conditions) in 2 years for CR Visa holders...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-16 22:01:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	Well we found out today that we will not make our original timeline and had to move our flights. The Visa's will not be ready on time and should be available by Wednesday 21 Dec. So now we look like we readjust and pray it all works out this time. This is exactly why the Embassies (all of them) advise you to not buy tickets, quit jobs etc until AFTER you're approved and have the Visa in hand...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-16 16:32:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	P.S. OMG! Out of nowhere, I just randomly thought of tracking my case number in 2GO's website. In my surprise, it displayed "IN-TRANSIT"! I'm about to cry. Tears of joy this time. I'll bet this has been the longest week of your life! Congrats & enjoy your flight...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-15 09:39:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	UPDATE: Anna has Carlo's Visa in hand! It really was delivered 3 business days after the interview!	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-14 00:01:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	Wow! That was fast! Did you track using the e-trace option in 2go.com.ph website? I tried typing my MNL case number and says "invalid". BTW, do you reside in Manila area? I talked to the 2go delivery man (can you believe he's our neighbor?! Haha!), he told me most prolly he'll have my visa delivered by next week. How I wish it could be sooner though! P.S. My flights already booked! Will be leavin mid-January next year. Thanks for updating us Bob 4 Anna! And again, congratulations! Yes, we used e-Trace: http://2go.com.ph/Cu...rSupport/etrace Just put our MNL Case Number in and got the results! UPDATE: As of right now our packet is out for delivery, 2go says it will be delivered by Noon local time. Anna is waiting at her Mom's home in Paniqui (Tarlac) for the Visa.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-13 22:18:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	Since this is the internet and "it didn't happen if there are no pics":	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-13 12:03:00
Philippines	Dec 9, 2011 USEM Manila Interviewees	Well, we have tracking (using the MNL Case Number) 2Go has Carlo's Visa! We expect to have in it hand within 24 hrs.... As Anna said earlier, his interview was Dec 9, looks like the CO was accurate with his quote of "2 days for processing and 1 day fro delivery"! Edited by Bob 4 Anna, 13 December 2011 - 10:35 AM.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-13 10:31:00
Philippines	Married but still can get Cenomar	Because I thought since I was a widowed,my previous marriage won't reflect anymore on that document. Thank you for the honest answer, I hope my question didn't offend (that wasn't my intent). I asked as a reminder to everyone who follows that we need to triple check everything and if something seems even a little different then we should question it. You're right the mistake wasn't yours but in the end you're the one who pays by having to suffer an needless delay...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-19 22:27:00
Philippines	Married but still can get Cenomar	I had my interview last Dec 12,2011. I got a 221g just because of the wrong CENOMAR that the NSO issued to me.After the interview in all deep thoughts that i have in my mind, I was also confused why my CENOMAR stated that I never been married but in fact i had a previous marriage but then it wasn't stated on the CENOMAR. So I contacted the NSO right away and told the mess that they've created with my CENOMAR. I just have to ask because this is a few times I've read the exact same thing here now... How did you not notice the document was incorrect when you got it? Sure the NSO should have got it right the first time but we each need to take responsibility for our self and when we know a seemingly simple document can so easily derail our life plan it fall supon us to ensure that everything is correct. Edited by Bob 4 Anna, 19 December 2011 - 09:12 AM.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-19 09:11:00
Philippines	Married but still can get Cenomar	So applicants are asked for this document (CENOMAR or CEMAR) and some are not. The best advice is to go to NSO and get the document corrected so you have it for your interview. It's always best to have it in hand and never need it then to have your visa delayed because you don't have it.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-18 12:15:00
Philippines	Carlo Arrived on Dec 21st!!!!	We've been so busy I forgot to post this: Carlo landed in Chicago on the 21st. Him & Gabby have taken well to each other and have their new best buddy in each other now. Nothing that we worried about blocking or delaying the process happened. In fact the only delay we encountered was getting his passport (too 2 months longer than anticipated because wee needed to send a second document to them). Merry Christmas to everyone on VJ (and especially in the Philippines sub-forum).	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-23 16:02:00
Philippines	lost in space	thanks leatherneck, the problem is i cant leave him,and you are right,we just make ourselves miserable,and i am jealous of the ex-wife, he do everything for her and never dare to risk with me,it hurts me the most. i think this is why mostly second marriage never works. i dont know, i dont know what to do about my situation. im praying for God's guidance and heavenly wisdom. Lost, He obviously wasn't read to move on from whatever happened in his first marriage, that is why HIS SECOND MARRIAGE WILL NEVER WORK. I'm on my second marriage (will celebrate 3 years in just over a month) and Anna isn't my 2nd wife or my current wife, nope she's MY WIFE period. My ex-wife isn't allowed inside my house when she comes to pick-up our daughter for her visitation. I'd do just about anything for my daughters (both from my first marriage) but I did throw my oldest daughter out twice within 16 months of her 18th birthday because she had become a disruptive force in my household. My other daughter has accepted that Anna is my equal in the household and after a bit of friction things have worked out okay. You deserve to be loved & respected, neither of which he is doing. Ask him to file the divorce and then decide if you want to stay or return to the Philippines but take charge of your future and leave him in the past.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-19 22:37:00
Philippines	i just want to know (Out of status) Tagalog pls	I think they are saying they are out of status for 6 months, but they dont say from which visa, and they married a green card holder and want to know will that be a problem, will they get approved, will they be deported, and what should they do?, please help, thank you. I am not qualified in any language to answer this, so i will let someone else take over... That seems to be the jist of that Google Translate can decipher.. If she is married to a LPR and in the US she cannot adjust in country as there is no Visa number instantly available for Spouse of LPR. If her husband can file for Naturalization then he should so that she can adjust in country.	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-19 09:22:00
Philippines	I made my wife of 5 months cry.	Please, take another look at this thread and see if the OP seems familiar. .... How embarrassing, I even posted in that thread and didn't recognize our old "friend" jr... Maybe now that Carlo is here and we're just waiting for the approval of Anna & Gabby's ROC my head is a bit more clear (getting back to a normal sleep cycle I think)...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-27 13:58:00
Philippines	I made my wife of 5 months cry.	knew this had to be one of those bait and tell good story later posts.....after eveyone jumped onthe wrong side of the tracks.... wish he would just provide information in the beginning..... these posts when it is ambiguous, it is beneficial to wait before jumping..... But that is exactly how jrmeila operates... Usually he makes the Filipino female appear to be insensitive, stupid or just plain mean then after everyone calls him on it he changes the story 27 times and finally he "reveals" that it was all just a heat induced dream caused by him sleeping in just shorts with the window open during the winter months...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-27 12:50:00
Philippines	I made my wife of 5 months cry.	Wait just a minute..... If this OP just another account for the infamous Nigerian old man who speaks and acts like a child, who talks about his Pinay like she's his property and "the kid" like an object? I thought he took his ball and went home... What was the old username "jrmeila". How many sock-puppet accounts did he have? If this is the same user then isn't it a little dishonest to create yet another account and pretend you're not on of the others you already have?	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-27 11:28:00
Philippines	Waiting..... Waiting	When my sister called my wife a mail order bride, i turned around, bent over, spread my checks and told her to talk to my (####). Trust me it has plenty to say. My sister doesn't give me ####### about it anymore because she knows what she will be talking to it if she does. And that is exactly how you should defend you wife's honor in situations like this. Make it clear that if they are going to be talking out of their rear then you reserve the right to respond in kind...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-29 16:49:00
Philippines	Waiting..... Waiting	1) Methinks Buscador will have some follow up questions / comments. 2) Why was your wife interested in meeting "foreign guys"? 3) What website? What do you think it meant? Please expound on this thought. I don't want to misinterpret your meaning. Please expound on this thought (too). How does sending money prove her seriousness? What? What have you "been learning"? Ironically, the more I read of this thread the more I'm starting to side with the sister...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-29 12:02:00
Philippines	Waiting..... Waiting	Also, if I do not put my foot down with my family but yet put down my foot with Gretchen's family, am I not living a double standard? Should I not act equally express to my family as I do in Gretchen's? There is a difference between "Putting your foot Down" and "Playing the Dysfunctional Games". You may have put your foot down with her family but you are for sure playing the dysfunctional games with your family...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-23 15:22:00
Philippines	Waiting..... Waiting	Bob....my wife and I need to run some Xmas errands. I will consider / reflect your POV and respond later, please. BTW...Merry Christmas to you and yours! Merry Christmas right back at you and the Wife. We just finished-off our X-mas running around this morning, finally we can relax now that we've got Carlo home (he landed on the 21st) and everything set for the holiday weekend. FWIW, it's always a good conversation when you're involved...	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-23 14:43:00
Philippines	Waiting..... Waiting	Why?Not caring = meaning...not responding to an attack on my wife's, my marriage or my integrity / honor....I would aggressively respond w/out hesitation. I care about my wife's feelings and I care about protecting her honor. It's a matter of principle. Bob..I've seen you defend Filipinas. I know you agree. Of course I'd defend my wife's honor to the grave of anyone who would attack her like that. I don't think it applies in this situation though as he has distanced himself from the offensive family members already and is making a choice to offer her up as cannon fodder. Just look at the totality of the situation here, it almost seems like cheesing-off his family may be one of the reasons he shopped for a Filipino to marry in the first place. This whole situation stinks really badly and I can't see why he would willingly put his wife into it. For example: I have no relationship with several members of my family, they all know about my marriage to Anna and some of them have even made inappropriate comments about it. They are attempting to use her to get to me because they know they can't directly affect me anymore. If I allow myself to get drawn into it then I've diminished Anna by allowing them to utilize her in that way. How do I prove them wrong? By living a happy life with my wife and kids despite their opinions. There is a big difference between someone voicing an honest concern (which I always respond to) and someone making a blatant attack on her/us. The only real motive of the latter is as I've previously stated so tell me who really wins if I engage them?	Bob 4 Anna	Male	Philippines	2011-12-23 13:50:00