ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Middle East and North AfricaMy husband got the visa!!!!
I am so happy for you too! I have read some of your posts and seen that you've been having such a hard time. This is such great news for you. I wish you a happy and bright future!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-21 15:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaI'm back
I wish you the best of luck and hope you will be reunited soon!!!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-21 13:14:00
Middle East and North Africacan someone help me to understand plz
I think it sounds very positive. Let us know when you hear something. Inshallah it will be good news!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-23 21:54:00
Middle East and North Africasecond interview !
Good luck, inshallah your interview goes well.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-15 19:50:00
Middle East and North AfricaArabic Slang ~ similar to USA?
My husband told me he can't understand Morrocan dialect, now I see why, lol. None of that is close to the arabic I know. He said Morrocans can't understand Iraqi dialect either so they have to talk in Fusha (Quran/Media arabic).
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-27 09:15:00
Middle East and North AfricaArabic Slang ~ similar to USA?
QUOTE (amal @ Apr 23 2008, 09:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
shoo fee maa fee = whats up
walla safia wafia = not much

chaif haluk = how are u (instead of kaif haluk)

yaaaa salaaaaaaaaaaaaa - ohhhhhhhhh maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan


In Iraqi dialect it is "safia dafia" so the dialects have their similarities!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-23 21:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaArabic Slang ~ similar to USA?
When I was in the middle east I overhead a conversation from some African guys. They definitely weren't from the country I was in and my husband later explained they were refugees. Yet I heard them speaking perfect american street slang. Like I couldn't tell the difference between them and some guys here because they spoke it exactly like they would here. My husband explained that they will pick it up from movies and practice it until they have it perfect. I couldn't believe of all the things to learn from american culture, that street slang would be the favorite thing, lol.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-23 21:01:00
Middle East and North AfricaArabic Slang ~ similar to USA?
One of the slang phrases in Iraq is "Sha ku ma ku?" Which basically means "Whats up?". To answer, you say "Ma ku shee" which means basically "Not much" or "Nothing".
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-23 08:35:00
Middle East and North AfricaREAL JOB
Congratulations!!! I am so happy he found a job and who knows maybe eventually other opportunities will open up for him.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-26 13:59:00
Middle East and North AfricaStick a Fork in Me
Best wishes to you. Take care, enjoy your time and have a successful interview!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-18 23:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaArab/Jewish Baby Names
QUOTE (HisLittleMasriyah @ Apr 20 2008, 11:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes they wd use a "faa" and then put 3 dots on top instead of only one good.gif Go ahead julianna and pick whatever u want it will work dont worry lol


Exactly, I agree, if she really wants a name with a "V", she should just borrow the other letter. Most arabs know what it means.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-21 01:32:00
Middle East and North AfricaArab/Jewish Baby Names
I love Genevieve! It was one of the names I always wanted... but again with the v thing. Sigh. Maybe I need to launch a single-handed campaign to introduce the "v" into Arabic.

I second that opinion. Persian farsi has one, sometimes they borrow the letter from them if they must write out something in arabic from english that has a "V" in it.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-20 22:14:00
Middle East and North AfricaArab/Jewish Baby Names
QUOTE (Ash * Habibati @ Apr 18 2008, 10:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Jihed and I have talked about this alot - well mostly I've talked and he's nodded and said, as long as it's a Muslim name I don't care what it is. Such a typical man lol

For a boy, I LOVE Yassine... good.gif I don't know why, just love saying it hehe But Omar is my favorite caliph (I love the stories about him)

For a girl, I think we'll go with something old and Tunisian.. Sahliha ... My husband cringes when I say this but I just love that name lol He says it's an old person's name and please do not give his child this name!! I like Yasmine... But Yassine and Yasmine -too close I think... And Marwa...

They don't really do middle names in Tunisia - I've seen a few of his cousins that have had babies recently giving them two names, but traditionally just first name and the father's family name...... Or for Jihed.. His legal name.. Jihed ben Mohsen ben Mohammed.. hehe so that could go on for a long time.. But I know that Egypt the second/middle name is the first name of the father, right? Regardless of if the child is male or female?

Which brings me to another question - maybe should be another topic but - How many of you did take or will take your husband's last name? I know in America it's the thing ... You get married and take your husband's last name.. But when I said this to Jihed he was like Huh? Why would you take my last name? lol Right now I still have the last name of my ex/first husband which was easier for my son after the divorce, but I'd really like to lose that last name and I don't want to go back to Maiden, so we talked and I just told him I will legally change my last name to his when he gets here.. He's still a bit confused on it - but I'm curious what the rest of ya'll did?


I changed my last name to my husbands, but I moved my maiden name to my middle name. I actually got that idea from my mother because she did the same thing. It also made things easier while I in the midst of changing my name on everything else like credit cards, etc. If the card was in the old name, at least my ID still had my first name the same and showed my maiden name there. No one ever questioned it.

My husband liked this idea too because it conformed to American and Islamic custom/requirements.

Edited by S and S, 20 April 2008 - 09:31 PM.

S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-20 21:30:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
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QUOTE (Ganja_Girl @ Apr 27 2008, 07:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I eat meat so I can't say I am against killing animals for food, I just can't kill them. They have them big eyes and you know they feel pain, I think about someone cutting my throat to bleed me out. I do think it is silly to offer dead animals to God, really, why would this loving being want you to go and cut an animal’s throat for him? Doesn’t make any sense to me what so ever, what does it prove that you can kill? Never understood the whole thing of killing for God, animal or human period, I would think a perfect being doesn’t need you running around and killing animals, but then again what do I know.


The camel meat was not be tossed away or killed "for God" or "offered to God", it was to be distributed to feed the poor. Obviously God doesn't "need" us killing animals, but the poor do need to be and should be fed, and part of any Muslim sacrifice of an animal entails giving all or a sizable portion to the poor.


Exactly, I agree with that.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-27 19:36:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
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Nice pic Jackie!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-27 15:41:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
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QUOTE (Ganja_Girl @ Apr 27 2008, 12:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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sacrificed five camels and fasted for 60 days


Sacrificed five camels, what a tool, poor camels. Hey it is 2008 people we don't have to kill animals to a God, geeeeeeeeez, read some science books, get some freaking education.

the previous was a paid advertisement by the society for the prevention of cruelty to camels.


lol laughing.gif
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-27 13:12:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
I know a girl who was raised in a horrible family upbringing. She could have done whatever she wants and no one would have cared. She got moved around foster homes, etc. Yet she chose to focus on religion. Now she is almost 40 years old and still a virgin. She keeps her heart close to God and helps other kids who have rough lives. I keep praying that she will find a good man to marry. She would be such a great mother. So, the point is, this is a Christian American woman who came from the worst of backgrounds and still chose the right path. It is up to each person to make his or her decision. We have members in my family that were raised right and stayed virgins until marriage as well so it can go both ways.

Honor killings is never an option that should be used. I really get angry whenever I even think of someone doing such a thing. All I can think of is finding the offenders and fighting them publicly and beating them up where they can lose their pride because some small woman beat them and the whole time I would remind them about their so called "Honor" and how I am taking it from them. They would live, but it would be with that embarrassment. I took jui jitsu classes for a couple years and every time I hear about these killings it makes me want to go back and take more classes, lol. I can't help it, it is my weakness that I can't stand to see an injustice on a helpless person (or animal for that matter). I doubt I will ever actually have that chance, but it makes me feel better to think about it.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-26 10:18:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
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QUOTE (S and S @ Apr 24 2008, 01:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Its totally cultural and has nothing to do with Islam. All the religions in the middle east have been known to conduct honor killings. I could go on and on about that subject for hours. It makes me so mad.



Since its said to be more cultural to do honor killings... I want to know what the Mens opinions are about this matter of honor killings?? would it be something ever considered if faced with a daughter dating outside the parents religion or who they married or how they dishonored you as a father? Im up for listening to the mens opinions from the MENA group.


Good question!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-24 21:13:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
I've heard of cases where the woman has an elastic hymen, but of course she doesn't know that. So on her wedding night when it doesn't break, her husband assumes she isn't a virgin and kills her.

There was one case in particular in Saudi where that happened. The husband beat her so badly and broke many of her bones. Then he dragged her by her hair into the hospital so they could inspect her to verify she wasn't a virgin. Of course, they ended up verifying she was a virgin and that the hymen was intact, but elastic. The woman was left disabled for life. The man immediately started apologizing, but of course she asked for divorce. The one happy ending to this story was she did later get married and had children. The man was shunned for his behavior and no man wanted his daughter married to such a guy.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-24 20:24:00
Middle East and North Africastateside honor killings
Its totally cultural and has nothing to do with Islam. All the religions in the middle east have been known to conduct honor killings. I could go on and on about that subject for hours. It makes me so mad.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-24 12:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaVISA
QUOTE (abdo @ Apr 29 2008, 08:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
http://www.visajourn...p;#entry1565868

http://www.visajourn...p;#entry1755013



THE CONSULATE JUST CALLED ME IN A FEW MINS AGO TO BRING MY PASSPORT WITH ME TOMORROW INSHA ALLAH
ALHAMDU LI ALLAH ..I WILL POST A BIG TOPIC TOMORROW EVENING INSHA ALLAH
A BIG THANKS TO ALL THE MEMBERS WHO HELPD ME !!!!

ABDO


Congratulations!!!! Inshallah you will have your visa in hand very soon. I wish you the best.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-29 08:08:00
Middle East and North AfricaHabibi Arrived Safely
I am so happy you are together at last. I wish you both the best of luck in your lives together!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-26 21:07:00
Middle East and North AfricaCongrats Carshel
Congratulations!!! That is so wonderful and he looks so precious.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-30 23:50:00
Middle East and North AfricaKamel and Asiya's big reunion today!!!
I am wishing the best for you both!!!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-21 13:34:00
Middle East and North AfricaHassan's Interview in Kuwait!!!!!
Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you. It sounds like you prepared so well and it is wonderful that you shouldn't be waiting long to be with your habib. Good luck and best wishes you.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-29 08:15:00
Middle East and North AfricaKamel & Asiya Update for our friends
QUOTE (Kamel and Asiya @ May 2 2008, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
kicking.gif My baby is here without incident and we were married Wednesday, April 23, 2008. We are in the process of doing the AOS and sending that off this weekend. We are so happy together and want to tell everyone who is still waiting on their visa to stay with it and be patient. It is all worth it in the end!!! To see your love's smiling face standing before you and God promising to love you forever and always care for you...it makes you feel you can do anything. Our happiness and the love we have now has been worth all the wait and more. Insha'allah

Asiya and Kamel luv.gif


Congratulations on your wedding!!! It is so great to see your wait come to an end. I wish you both the best in the future.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-02 23:33:00
Middle East and North AfricaHow to Make your husband Happy
I once read a forum where it said muslim women must "share" their husbands in heaven because it was said men have it harder to get into heaven so there are many more women in heaven. I was thinking "why would I want to go to heaven if I had to share my husband?". Some of the women on this forum actually told me it was the honorable thing to do since some women wouldn't have husbands to be with in heaven. I said there was no way I was sharing my husband in heaven because then it wouldn't be heaven. Then they told me that there is no jealousy in heaven. So then I responded that what if we went off the other hadith that says there are more men in heaven. Would that mean men would have to share their wives?
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-24 00:14:00
Middle East and North Africatravel in jordan
I think it is always better, regardless of the location, to have someone with you. Yet, if you really want to travel alone then just be as careful as posssible, know the areas you travel in well, strengthen your language skills, and just stay aware of your surroundings at all times. When I was in Jordan I was never alone except one taxi ride so I cannot say how it is to go around alone. I only want to advise you that it would be better to have someone you can trust with you and always have a plan for each place you go. You should know all possible modes of transportation for the area, if it has higher crime, how you can prevent crimes against you, and the exact route back to your hotel. This way you will not feel lost if something bad does happen.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-30 05:25:00
Middle East and North AfricaVISA IN HAND
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QUOTE (S and S @ May 3 2008, 12:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (abdo @ May 3 2008, 06:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

When are you coming to the US ?




i have to wait for a few days,i have alot of things to do before i leave to US.
Abdo



I wish you a safe journey and happy reunion!
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-05 00:44:00
Middle East and North AfricaVISA IN HAND
QUOTE (abdo @ May 3 2008, 06:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
thanks everyone ...! rose.gif rose.gif smile.gif rose.gif rose.gif

Abdo



When are you coming to the US Abdo?


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10-14-2006 : met online
03-03-2007 : met in person
06-15-2007 : I-129F sent
07-02-2007 : I-129F recieved
11-15-2007 : approved at vermont
12-19-2007 : consulate in casa recieved the packet.
12-23-2007 : packet in hand
02-04-2008 : interview for K-1, not approved !!
04-01-2008 : call from the consulat for a second interview
04-17-2008 : second interview at 3.00 pm / approved !!
04-29-2008 : second call to bring the passport with me
04-30-2008 : VISA IN HAND hamdo allah

S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-03 07:58:00
Middle East and North AfricaVISA IN HAND
Congratulations Abdo!!! When will you come to the United States? I am sure you are so happy to finally reunite with your fiance. Inshallah you will have a very nice wedding. Please let us know how things are going.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-01 07:38:00
Middle East and North AfricaHalal Meats
This website is great! Thanks for posting it.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-05 00:49:00
Middle East and North Africapicture of amir in his first birthday
congratulations to you both!!! I am so happy that you all had a nice wedding and for your son's birthday. Best wishes for a bright future together.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-02 23:27:00
Middle East and North AfricaWhich is the best Muslim woman?
I agree with the comments about D. I voted for her because she dresses nice, but conservative and the look in her eyes shows so much wisdom. I also agree that none of us can be for sure who is a good muslim or bad. That is up to God to decide. Before we ever judge others we should look at ourselves and our own sins first.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-06 16:55:00
Middle East and North Africavisa in hand?
Congratulations!!!! That is such great news and I admire you for your patience. My husband and I have been married one year this month and we can't stand this waiting. I don't know how you went that long.

You said one year on AP, what was happening for the other two years?
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-06 20:59:00
Middle East and North AfricaInterview May 7th
I wish you and your fiance the best of luck!!! Inshallah you will be with him soon.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-05-06 21:32:00
Middle East and North AfricaNot Bad New, I Think?
I am so happy things went well for you. Inshallah your wait will not be long. How long do you plan to wait in Morrocco before you have to come back?
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-26 21:03:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA WOMEN: What kind of jobs are your husbands doing/looking into?
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QUOTE (Rocketta @ Apr 23 2008, 11:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As an African-American I would love to go through life thinking as long as I show up and do the best I can that I have a legitimate shot at all jobs but it's just not the reality I live in and sadly it's not the reality that our MENA husbands will live in either. That's America. smile.gif

Maybe one day I'll post the study that showed white males with criminal records got more call backs than minorities without criminal records. whistling.gif



That study was very interesting. Thanks for posting. I have noticed since I changed my last name to my husband's name that people treat me differently. I have actually had people ask me if I am middle eastern based on my name even though I don't have middle eastern features or an accent. One guy joked today that I should have gone through a metal detector today before coming in his office.


Yeah I can imagine. I hope you rolled your eyes at his joke. wacko.gif


Yes, I did roll my eyes. The comment came from a Mexican of all people, lol.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-24 12:09:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA WOMEN: What kind of jobs are your husbands doing/looking into?
QUOTE (Rocketta @ Apr 23 2008, 11:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As an African-American I would love to go through life thinking as long as I show up and do the best I can that I have a legitimate shot at all jobs but it's just not the reality I live in and sadly it's not the reality that our MENA husbands will live in either. That's America. smile.gif

Maybe one day I'll post the study that showed white males with criminal records got more call backs than minorities without criminal records. whistling.gif



That study was very interesting. Thanks for posting. I have noticed since I changed my last name to my husband's name that people treat me differently. I have actually had people ask me if I am middle eastern based on my name even though I don't have middle eastern features or an accent. One guy joked today that I should have gone through a metal detector today before coming in his office.
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-24 00:04:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA WOMEN: What kind of jobs are your husbands doing/looking into?
QUOTE (Donna A @ Apr 23 2008, 11:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (S and S @ Apr 23 2008, 09:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
For Olivia and Donna:

My husband is a doctor and graduated from medical school just a few years ago. Due to the situation in his home country he couldn't really do his residency though he has done some interning through a hosptial outside of Iraq. He has started studying for steps 1 and 2, we know about 3 though we worry about the first two now. I bought a couple books he can use when he gets here, but any suggestions you both have would be great. My husband's english is excellent and his whole medical school was in english, so I am not worried about that part. I just worry about what kind of work he should do until he is ready to take the tests and until he can start a residency.


well he will probably just have to take whatever he can until he can get into a residency. hassan couldnt get any job. he begged for a job at a sleep clinic and they told him...we wont hire u cuz u will just leave and we cant invest time in training u and then u leave. he applied at some factories and never got called. they probably just laughed at his application and said ####### is a doctor appling for a job for.

he did do an observership for 6 months in the hospital he is in now. he hoped it would help him in getting a job there. well it didnt. they wouldnt hire him. so he just kept going and begging and the program director said...ok ill interivew u but i doubt u will get hired. ur scores are under what we allow. well of course he didnt match and it was his only interview so we were loosing hope. one week before the starting date for all new interns they called and said he was hired...dont know what the sudden change of heart was...maybe cuz someone they hired didnt show up or maybe cuz the program director was dieing of cancer and wanted to do something nice...but who cares..he got hired!!!

its probably best for him to get his study materials there. they are a heck of alot cheaper then here. i think kaplin has a good study program. they get the same book there as we get here only theirs is the knock off version. u know someone buys the book and copies them to sell.

im not sure (i didnt check ur timeline) but make sure he brings all his documents from the college...i dont know what they are called but look like a report card to me. any letter of recomdations, his deploma of course. i cant remember what else he had to have.


Thank God he brought all his documents from school with him when he left Iraq and it is all stamped and certified. I'm half-way thinking it is better he doesn't mention he went to medical school so he can get a job. Since he is coming as a refugee, they will get him a temporary job in the beginning regardless, but in the long term it may help to not mention his schooling. He doesn't have his masters yet, but from what I understand that is not necessary to start out. I bought him a book called "First Aid for the USMLE step 2 CK". Do you know if this book will be helpful?
S and SFemaleIraq2008-04-23 23:32:00