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QUOTE (Maggie724 @ Jul 28 2008, 08:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I believe that they have changed their process and are no longer notifying people on the K1 like they used to. Brnid is the unfortunate expert here. Wresgirl, Wow how quirkey is that? You can't go there because of the war and he obviously can't come here...how are you supposed to see him?? Make sure you check things out for your own knowledge but sounds like trying to see him and refiling is the way to go.

It really is difficult and I can sympathize with her. It is extremely difficult to get out of Iraq now because most of the countries surrounding Iraq have shut down their borders. It is possible Turkey may let him in. Jordan has sealed its borders with only a few very rare exceptions, same with Syria. It took my husband one year and three attempts to finally get into Jordan, so whatever she decides, it would be best if her fiance started trying now. If she were to marry him she would then have the option to bring him as a spouse or as a refugee dependent on her and her SOs preference.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 21:05:00

I have noticed it can often be easier to get an Iraqi into the US if you are married. It is a long process no matter what you do though. I wish you the best of luck.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-25 19:41:00

QUOTE (wrestgirl @ Jul 20 2008, 01:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

This is what the email said:

Current Status: This case has been received from the State Department with a request we review it. On July 18, 2008, a USCIS office received this case from the State Department with a request that we review it. We will notify you when we complete our review, or if we need something from you. If you move while this case is pending, please use our Change of Address online tool to update your case with your new address. You can also receive automatic e-mail updates as we process your case. To receive e-mail updates, follow the link below to register. If you have questions or concerns about your application or the case status results listed above, or if you have not received a decision from USCIS within the current processing time listed*, please contact USCIS Customer Service at (800) 375-5283.

How did the actual interview go? Did they say anything at that time?

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-20 14:29:00

I am sorry that you are going through this waiting. I understand how difficult it is and I believe there are others like you that have to wait through this kind of review. I can't relate because my husband is coming as a refugee so we just keep getting told that his background checks are complete and there is no one to call. If you could mention what the letter says exactly I am sure other members would be able to help you more.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-19 19:51:00

VISA IN HAND!!!!!

Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you. Inshallah you will be reunited soon and the wait will be over!

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 22:09:00

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QUOTE (Olivia* @ Jul 28 2008, 11:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm getting sleepy and there is more of "Three Cups of Tea" to read.

How is that book? I always see it at the book store, but I wasn't sure that i would like it so I never bought it.

It's excellent though it took me a few chapters to get into it. My Mom said it was the best book she's ever read so that's why I picked it up.

I'll have to check it out sometime

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 23:31:00

QUOTE (just_Jackie @ Jul 28 2008, 11:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

That dangly thing...reminded me of a morning watching www.africam.com and there was this elephant...and the sun was shining..and ....

oh nevermind.

Jackie

I think a couple minds around here are in a dirty place

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 23:22:00

QUOTE (Olivia* @ Jul 28 2008, 11:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm getting sleepy and there is more of "Three Cups of Tea" to read.

How is that book? I always see it at the book store, but I wasn't sure that i would like it so I never bought it.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 23:08:00

QUOTE (amal @ Jul 28 2008, 10:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

ok..so if the "floor dangley" is a "real leg" where is his other leg? or is he a 1 legged spinner? I don't mean that in a bad way but I honestly only see 1..... maybe its out in front of him like piroette(how the helll do u spell that) .....

Oh God, i can't stop laughing

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 23:06:00

QUOTE (amal @ Jul 28 2008, 10:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

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QUOTE (amal @ Jul 28 2008, 10:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

OH, NOURA did u ever answer my question about the "to the floor dangly" on ur dude in ur avatar?

Ummm... no I didn't! I do believe that "floor dangly" you are referring to would be called a foot. It's generally at the end of most legs and is used for standing, walking, and in this case, spinning!

ahh so his clothes are flying to the side which makes it look like he's in a big "X" position but he's really not.... mhmm...you can believe what you want...

It brings a whole new meaning to 3rd leg......

lol, I had to look hard, but I saw what you were seeing Amal

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 22:49:00

QUOTE (amal @ Jul 28 2008, 10:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Olivia* @ Jul 28 2008, 10:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Amal!

floor dangly!

you can't tell me that u don't see that. either he fell out of his loin cloth or he's really excited to see someone.... what IS that...

I know what you are talking about, that is his leg, it is just that the cloth comes out and you think that is where his leg should be, lol.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 22:28:00

Olivia and Lost in NY.......... I got nothing but love for ya!

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 22:02:00

I'm too far from you guys and could never get the time off, but I want to say I will be there in spirit!

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 21:41:00

Good morning MENA. I was up too late last night and then had to be up by 5:45am for work

The inhumanity!!! Anyway, I'm just on a break. I must go aquire some coffee or I'm not going to make it, lol.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 07:56:00

QUOTE (amal @ Jul 28 2008, 10:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I agree with ...i think it was MrsAmerah. Granted some of the things he has done are uncalled for and just plain "not ok" but that doesn't mean it has to be over. Get thru ur pregnancy and have a healthy baby first. Then it will be time to calmly sit down and discuss both yours and his expectations on the relationship. Wether u knew each other well before he got here or not, he is here now so it is time to start getting to know how each other "ticks". It is very hard to adjust to each other. Some ppl have no trouble at all but honestly, the majority of these relationships have many difficulties that are not spoken of on VJ. You should have my yahoo id so please feel free to email or message me anytime.

Love ya girl

amal

Thats a good point. I know of lots of relationships where you thought it wasn't worth it and couldn't work. Then the husband and wife slowly worked things out and became happy together. Some people just take a little more time to mature. Maybe once he sees his child and realizes his responsibility then he will start shaping up. No one changes over night, but it doesn't mean it couldn't happen.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 22:48:00

I'm glad to hear she is okay. I hope she gets a chance to come online soon.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-26 11:32:00

I still hope she leaves us word that she is fine or at least contacts someone. With the dangers of her pregnancy and the troubles with her husband, she worries me. I hope she knows we worry about her and miss her presence.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-26 00:10:00

I'm glad you asked that. I have been wondering how she is doing too. If she only has access at work, I'm not sure she could even answer us until Monday. Does anyone know how far along she is with her pregnancy?

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-25 20:33:00

Another Visa In Hand Finally!!!!!!

That is wonderful news. I am so glad he will make it in time for the baby. Inshallah you will get him here this weekend.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-28 16:14:00

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QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 24 2008, 11:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I need another name, lol, I feel left out

hmm..short and sassy? sweet and sugary? prude jr? steak and shake? sheik and sleek? . give me time...i always end up nick naming my friends lol......its usually unintentional but it happens.

I will be curious to see what you come up with

I'm 5"5 so I don't think of myself as short so much as average for a woman if that narrows it down, lol

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-29 23:51:00

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QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 25 2008, 03:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I know what you mean. One time I was crying to myself during the day when not talking to my husband so he wouldn't know I was so sad. What does he do? Call me and he could hear by my voice that I was upset. Then he yelled at me for crying. I tell him he should comfort me and he doesn't get it. I'm trying to find a way to explain why sometimes we just need to hear "everything will be alright" from our spouses, whether it will be or not.

awww... hang in there S and S.
i know it's a long wait, and inchallah you'll be together soon...

sometimes i just tell Habibi exactly what i need him to say... sure, that may be cheating, if you have to coach them.

but he is getting the hang of saying the right thing at the right time now

Thankyou for the support and you are right, better to coach him and get the right words than keep suffering with the wrong responses.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-25 16:27:00

I need another name, lol, I feel left out

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 23:05:00

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QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 24 2008, 07:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I hate that. My husband gets mad at me too when I am sad from missing him. He says it makes it harder on him, but I just want him to be there for me. Then he says nothing is worth my tears. I tell him what am I supposed to do? Bottle up my emotions?

I don't understand would they be better if we were happy they weren't with us???

don't know but I can tell you PMS sure kicked in about 6 am this morning

I wonder that myself. PMS definitely doesn't help either!

Ummm, no. PMS doesn't help. I have given several sympathy cries already this evening. I'm a wreck. ((((Rajaa and S and S)))

If you ever need someone to talk to just PM me. I really understand how frustrating this waiting can be.

I know what you mean. One time I was crying to myself during the day when not talking to my husband so he wouldn't know I was so sad. What does he do? Call me and he could hear by my voice that I was upset. Then he yelled at me for crying. I tell him he should comfort me and he doesn't get it. I'm trying to find a way to explain why sometimes we just need to hear "everything will be alright" from our spouses, whether it will be or not.

Edited by S and S, 24 July 2008 - 10:48 PM.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 22:47:00

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QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 24 2008, 07:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I don't understand would they be better if we were happy they weren't with us???

don't know but I can tell you PMS sure kicked in about 6 am this morning

I wonder that myself. PMS definitely doesn't help either!

lol can you imgine all of us MENA pmsing the same time lol... wow poor Charles

Oh God, that would be a disaster, practically WWIII, lol. I think that would be a good time for Charles to hide or if he is brave he can just help set us against each other, lol.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 22:22:00

QUOTE (Rajaa_Reda @ Jul 24 2008, 09:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 24 2008, 07:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I don't understand would they be better if we were happy they weren't with us???

don't know but I can tell you PMS sure kicked in about 6 am this morning

I wonder that myself. PMS definitely doesn't help either!

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 21:55:00

I am with Jackie, I am happy to have both of you here. Your close enough to MENA, lol.

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QUOTE (just_Jackie @ Jul 24 2008, 07:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

(((pattu & sassy))) you can be honorary mena girls ! (be careful what you wish for

)

Jackie

that's true. JJ... I cried this morning when I saw my husband on the internet cause I miss him so much and he told me "to stop it is so hard on him and do it when I am alone" it changed my mood from being sad to pissed real quick

Big ((((((hugs)))))) anyway!!!!!
Rajaa

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 21:49:00

QUOTE (just_Jackie @ Jul 24 2008, 08:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Thx s & s....you have waited so long and here I am complaining already. I'm sorry

It never hurts to start the complaining early, lol. If I complain a little each day, it keeps me from supressing it and exploding. At least, that seems to have worked so far

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 20:29:00

QUOTE (just_Jackie @ Jul 24 2008, 08:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm lonely

I'm here for you Jackie, sending hugs your way.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 20:18:00

QUOTE (Rajaa_Reda @ Jul 24 2008, 08:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

and yet 6 pages and no slinging of nothing???? wow... I was hoping "poser" would come in and "defined themselves" but guess not

We really have to work on the mud slinging we are so famous for. We are going to damage our reputation here in MENA! Then our ratings will go down and we will lose some of our audience. We can't let that happen! lol

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 20:13:00

QUOTE (Maggie724 @ Jul 24 2008, 05:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (ME~n~HIM @ Jul 24 2008, 03:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Maggie724 @ Jul 24 2008, 04:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

That is is so true. I got a PM early this year asking if it was true I was married to my 3rd Moroccan

Since I never said this to any one nor is it true, I had to wonder which person that I had befriended on VJ had said such a malicious thing. Made me suspicious of all.

That was me! me, me, me! I'm spreading rumors about Maggie!!!

But I think I said it was your 5th Moroccan marriage. I wish they'd get their facts straight!

Glad to know i'm so important in your life that I am worth so much of your time

You are right though, if they are going to spread a rumor at least keep the details juicey sheesh

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QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 24 2008, 06:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I certainly don't have a problem with you being around here. You shouldn't go!

Thank you, thank you, I'll keep on hanging...dear Lord, I hope I didn't sound like I was having a pity party...I just didn't want to be considered as a poser.

Naw I don't think we took it that way. The ones we really love are the outsiders that show up for a good poo slinging, sling more poo, then disappear. If you are going to sling poo at least stick around for the good stuff as well

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 19:58:00

QUOTE (Staashi @ Jul 24 2008, 05:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 24 2008, 06:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I certainly don't have a problem with you being around here. You shouldn't go!

Thank you, thank you, I'll keep on hanging...dear Lord, I hope I didn't sound like I was having a pity party...I just didn't want to be considered as a poser.

lol, no, you offer good advice and I think most people appreciate your input into the forum.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 17:09:00

QUOTE (Staashi @ Jul 24 2008, 04:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I hope I'm not considered a poser...I just kind of stumbled upon the MENA forum a while ago and enjoyed your topics of conversation. I liked that there were good topics, lively conversations, a touch of drama, and just a generally good group of women - and you too Charles - you're just bathed in the estrogen. Many of you seem to be going through the same issues that I have been through, so I felt that maybe I could give a little bit of feedback if ever wanted. My husband is a quarter MENA by ancestry...which is like saying Tiger Woods is a black man although he's only 1/6 - six of one, half dozen of the other - same thing.

If I'm not welcome around here I can head off...but I have had a fun time.

I certainly don't have a problem with you being around here. You shouldn't go!

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-24 17:00:00

I have no clue about this guy who is sending PMs. I guess I should be thankful I haven't been bothered. The last time we had one of these problems I wasn't bothered either. I wish people like this would find something else to do.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-23 21:33:00

MENA Men and Money

My husband and I talked about this as well. I have a savings account with my grandfather that will of course stay with me only. I have a checking account that I will continue to keep for myself, but name him as the benificiary on it. Once he is here we plan on opening a joint checking account together that he will put his money in. My husband is very traditional about wanting to support me. It is nice to know I will have the option of staying home eventually though I insist on paying my car off on my own. He will initially recieve money since he is coming as a refugee but that doesn't last longer than three months. At least it will give him some financial independence until he gets some work though.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-30 00:17:00

Happy Birthday Bonnie! (zawjatsaid)

Happy birthday!!!! I hope it is a good one for you.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-30 12:17:00

Why do VJ MENA members fight so much with each other?

QUOTE (julianna @ Jul 21 2008, 08:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

What, with the bones? We're both bioarchaeologists--that's how we met (human remains in archaeology-- physical anthropology).

Okay, I feel better now, lol. You had me wondering.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-21 08:43:00

Why do VJ MENA members fight so much with each other?

QUOTE (julianna @ Jul 21 2008, 07:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (S and S @ Jul 21 2008, 07:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm three years younger than my husband so I'm the opposite too!

Awww, really? I was 27 and he was 29 when we met, then i spent 2 years making fun of him for being 30+, and now I'm 30 and he's so nice about it. He looks older than me though by more than 2 years. I still look about 10 years younger than him. yay for me! people stopped asking me FINALLY if I'm in high school now. So now I know I have hit looking 20-something.

Hmmm. I don't use my husband as a sex object. We're pretty equal in that realm. I do use him, though, to get high things from top shelves and also put things back up there though. Does that count? Also he tells me things in Arabic and I'm slowly learning them. I also like it when he names all my bones in Arabic and English because it's fun.

You are disturbing me, lol.

I look a lot younger than my age too. I just turned 28 and my husband will be 31 in a few months. He looks about his age which is good though he loves to tell me how much wiser he is because he is older than me and that I have to respect him, lol.

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-21 08:25:00

Why do VJ MENA members fight so much with each other?

QUOTE (Donna A @ Jul 21 2008, 07:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Gaby&Talbert @ Jul 20 2008, 11:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (charlesandnessa @ Jul 20 2008, 05:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Virtual wife @ Jul 20 2008, 01:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I went to the fights and a MENA thread broke out.

QUOTE (Gaby&Talbert @ Jul 20 2008, 02:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

why does it seem the mena women aren't let's say the prettiest girl on the block? What reason do they have for finding men half way aound the world? (will this get a fight started?)

and some mena gals could remark that some american guys aren't the most handsome and that is why they have to go to central or south america for a wife.

QUOTE (just_Jackie @ Jul 20 2008, 02:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I doubt it very much cuz many of the mena girls are very beautiful and the rest THINK they are...lol..so it will take more than that.

jJ

and for the record..i found mine in florida

and for the record, jackie has a dayum sexy voice.

we go elsewhere to find a wife because we want someone who knows how to be nice to their husband. And by the way more woman marry men from south of the border then men.

american woman treat their husbands nicely if the husband treats her nicely. it seams there are double standards when it comes to american woman. just look at how they have no problem sending money to their foreign spouses family but would say to an american family, get off ur lazy butt and get a job. geee no wonder american wife dont treat their husband good.

So true........

QUOTE (julianna @ Jul 21 2008, 07:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

^^^^
Do we have a winner?

Fight!
Fight!
Fight!

Actually, no one has given any really good fight material yet that we can run with on the whole. I'm only a year and 8 months younger than Ammar, not older at all. He's hotter than me though

But he still says it's the other way around

I'm three years younger than my husband so I'm the opposite too!

S and S

Female

Iraq

2008-07-21 07:44:00