ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
PhilippinesNOA 2 letter
Do i need to bring NOA 2 letter for medical?I have already mnl case # letter.Is it really important to bring NOA 2 letter?
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-02 07:05:00
PhilippinesLetter of appointment
I have NOA 2 letter (scan),NVC letter indicating mnl case #,passport,2x2 photos and medical fee.I dont have letter of appointment yet.Is it true that the guard will not let me in if no letter of appointment from USembassy?Got reply from other member that during her medical some girls dont have letter of appointment from USembassy and the guard did not allow to let them in for medical exam.But i read here that they had medical exam even without letter of appointment and they just present mnl case,passport and photos.Should i believe her that i should wait my appointment letter from USembassy before going for medical exam coz the guard will not let me in for medical?
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-03 11:47:00
PhilippinesSep.7 non-working holiday
Is St.lukes clinic open on Monday even Gloria declared non-working holiday?Wheewww!I have already ticket for Sunday flight for the Monday-Tuesday medical.
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-04 07:22:00
Philippines3 VJ members passed the 2 day medical exam at St.Lukes today!!!
Congrats 3 of us Grace!he3x!Goodluck for your interview this coming Monday.
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-08 21:30:00
PhilippinesSeptember 22 interviewees
QUOTE (XR600SM @ Sep 20 2009, 10:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (topaz @ Sep 19 2009, 07:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Goodluck to all of us Sep. 22 interviewees and the rest vj members September interviewees!!!C'mon pink slip!


Goodluck babe wub.gif and also to all your friends interviewing this week.


Thanks babe!hehehe!nice emo seems like pink! luv.gif

topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-20 10:52:00
PhilippinesSeptember 22 interviewees
QUOTE (phgirllovesjoe @ Sep 20 2009, 11:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (topaz @ Sep 19 2009, 06:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Goodluck to all of us Sep. 22 interviewees and the rest vj members September interviewees!!!C'mon pink slip!



Hi sis,
sis me too im really nervous..cant even think and sleep well..hehehe..maybe im just getting paranoid about it..hehehe..we need to be calm and confident sis..kaya natin to... kicking.gif


Yeah me too sis can't sleep well.Yeah kaya natin to...

topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-20 10:48:00
PhilippinesSeptember 22 interviewees
QUOTE (AbbynSheryl @ Sep 20 2009, 12:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
we wish u all the luck and get pink.
abby n sheryl


Yeah thank you!

topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-20 07:14:00
PhilippinesSeptember 22 interviewees
Thank you ErosandSally!....See you sis on Tuesday and hope CO will approve.Im little nervous now.
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-19 22:51:00
PhilippinesSeptember 22 interviewees
Goodluck to all of us Sep. 22 interviewees and the rest vj members September interviewees!!!C'mon pink slip!
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-19 06:19:00
Philippinesquestions about colored slips..
QUOTE (ScottThuy @ Sep 28 2009, 06:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (happyme @ Sep 27 2009, 01:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hello, just want to ask questions to those people experienced having a white slip and blue slip in the Philippine Consulate....


what is written in the blue slip and white slip...?

and does this pink slip really a guarantee that embassy will issue the visa..? does anyone of u experienced had the pink slip but requested for other evidence..? or put into A/R?...

any other colored slip beside on these slips above?...

hope someone can show me these colored slips thank u in advance!!!!

Those are the 3 standard slips used..
Pink means visa approved...
Blue, means they need something... time more docs. anything...
White means Denied
Green is sometimes used in place of blue...

Thats not to say they wont use a different color if they run short at some time...


Are you sure White means denied?
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-27 23:48:00
Philippinesquestions about colored slips..
Yes you are definitely right.
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-27 23:46:00
Philippinesquestions about colored slips..
QUOTE (mikeymissesher @ Jan 17 2009, 02:11 PM) *
i hear alot about the blue pink and white slips after the interview...what exactly are these slips?


When i had my interview,i was given blue,pink and white slips too.white slip stated what additional document I needed to submit at the USEM,blue was when they checked the additional document and needed to be filled up and be submitted together with the required doc within one year,(it's not an outright denial),and pink is the delbros slip for the visa delivery smile.gif

(I read this from other post.)
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-27 21:58:00
Philippinesquestions about colored slips..


I had white slip and blue form last Friday.White form signed by the consul who interviewed me and she said that before they approved me i have to submit 1 additional document and she said window 38 will instruct me how to send to them the additional document.Then she continue interviewing me.Window 38 instructed me to pass additional document at window 18-20 Monday to Thursday 1-2 pm except Friday (within 1 year) or any commercial courier.White slip they checked the list that i need to submit additional document then blue slip form to be filled up like Name,mnl case #,contact number,address,date you submitted,what petition category and then check the list you submitted to them.I sent my additional document together with my passport,white slip and blue form (as what window 38 told me) last Saturday using air21 coz i cant handcarry to submit at window 18-20.I need to follow up everyday about that once my document arrive to the embassy.My fiance will call to follow up too.

One girl also during my interview she got white slip and blue form coz she has to submit her NBI clearance as additional document.
topazFemalePhilippines2009-09-27 21:55:00
PhilippinesNegative Culture Result!!!
Salamat po sa inyong lahat. Excited na ako sa interview ko at the same time kinakabahan...hehehehe
tiger_lilyFemalePhilippines2009-06-01 04:51:00
PhilippinesNegative Culture Result!!!
I am so happy today my culture result is negative. I want to thank everybody especially those who pray for me and most of all Jesus Christ. One more to go and tomorrow i will be going to manila for my final vaccine and hoping to get an interview schedule within this week. Maraming, maraming salamat po sa inyong lahat. Godbless u all =) kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif

Edited by tiger_lily, 01 June 2009 - 02:06 AM.

tiger_lilyFemalePhilippines2009-06-01 02:05:00
PhilippinesManila Embassy..Scheduling the Interview
Hi, in my case i was the one who called the embassy to schedule my appointment since i have postpaid landline PLDT in the house. I don't have any problems contacting embassy i get through it right away the very first time i called them. What I did I pass through the operator of PLDT and give them the direct line of the embassy and thats it. Try to ask your fiance if she has a pldt postpaid phone because it is very easy to call embassy in that way. Goodluck =)
tiger_lilyFemalePhilippines2009-06-07 22:26:00
Philippineswant to take medical on feb 18 to 19 help!
You can use your NOA2 for the medical.
Though if you already had an appointment for an interview,bring your appointment letter, your medical will be valid till the interview date.
I remember meeting someone at SLEC on IR1/CR1 then had her medical done without having an appointment yet.
The SLEC told her that her medical would only be valid for 1 month.
If she haven't had an interview by that date, she will be requested to take the medicals again.
Talked to her yesterday and seems like she'll be having her medicals again.

Such a waste of 10,000 pesos for the medical. blush.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-02-15 11:43:00
Philippineskissing pictures
Try bringing some that the petitioner is with your family and friends or the couple with some of your relatives.
In my case, i did brought the pics of us kissing but the interviewer only took the decent ones.. Hehehe
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-02-23 17:05:00
PhilippinesI Passed NCLEX-RN
WOW! CONGRATS! I'll be taking mine on March..

What are your reading materials? If you don't mind sharing.. =D
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-02-27 19:11:00
PhilippinesDid she lie or did the line cross?
QUOTE (ghomnet @ Mar 3 2009, 05:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I called my girl friend on her cell phone a strange woman picked up the phone she says hello a bunch of time she could not hear me. we said hello for three minutes, then hung up then i called again within five minutes this time a guy picks up. i was extremely worried now thinking she may have been kidnapped (i had just seen the movie Taken which should the story of sex trafficking). We said hello a bunch of times for another 3 minutes. I wait ten minutes called again this time the call drops with 18 second then i call right back within that minute my girl pick up the phone. She was at the airport and it sounded like all the people was at the airport also. Now i don't think my girl would lie to me, but i am feeling strange she said no one had her phone the whole time. I am wondering if it is possible the line crossed. I am using skype to call her, i am in New york she is in the philippines manila.


I was having the same problems too when I was calling my wife. I use Yahoo to call her in her local mobile company. She's from Cebu and when she had her medical in Manila last Jan 5, I can't get ahold of her since she didn't have a good signal inside the SLEC facility and her phone is dying. It was already almost midnight and I was wondering what happened to her. Everytime I call, I hear different people picking up her phone (when in fact that her phone is unavailable because it was battery empty). I was beginning to doubt and worry too much (sometimes when you're worried, you think of crazy scenarios). I really thought she had been kidnapped or something bad had happened. I'm glad she was fine when she got back at her hotel at 1 AM on her first day of the medical.

It was strange but now I know that I am not the only person who's experiencing this kind of problems. laughing.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-04 17:50:00
PhilippinesHow many shots and Medical fees
Now I'm screwed! I had my MMR and Tdap vaccines last Jan6, 2009. SLEC didn't told me the interval of the MMR and Tdap.
So, I only took my 2nd shot of HPV yesterday and sent my DS-3025 to Dr. Arnold's office.
Will I get an RFE for this? I'll be submitting my AOS forms before this month ends.

PLs help!
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-10 18:56:00
PhilippinesOne Solitary Life
QUOTE (spartan @ Mar 16 2009, 05:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks Charles smile.gif I hope everybody knows HIM especially in a secular generation that we live in. When I got here in US, I was shocked when I knew people who doesn't believe in Jesus. They don't know where their lives came from and who made them? Instead they believe in Darwinian theory where all people came from apes or just say "people evolve just from nowhere" Why do they make things complicated? Why do they won't believe in Jesus? Isn't that frustrating guys?
People doesn't appreciate simple things from the moment we wake up, we should be thankful that we still breathe and we are healthy. People just take this for granted. I brought up this topic here just to know if there still people out here who believe in Jesus. Anyone?

QUOTE (charles! @ Mar 16 2009, 05:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
jesus



I agree. It was such a culture shock for me when I asked my hubby to take me to a Catholic church.
Coz he had never been inside a church even the day he was born. He believes in God but not on Jesus nor Mother Mary.

It sad to know that not all of the folks here in the US believes in Him nor know that He exists.
I guess it's for the fact on how churches here were run by corrupt priests.
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-18 15:21:00
PhilippinesPHILIPPINE POST OFFICE
QUOTE (belovedbyme @ Feb 2 2009, 09:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I agree with you guys of the complaints. The reliable city as far as I know nothing is stolen or lost is in Cebu City and in Cagayan de Oro City. Other places I dont know. I received few packages long time ago and until now I am lucky nothing to complain.

NEVER send any money in the regular mail or important documents. It hurts to say but some people who work there are very corrupt.


I totally agree with you! My hubby sent me a package (which is supposed to be a Valentine's day gift) on early week of February 2007.
It was mailed via USPS on priority mail.
It contains a PC camera, chocolates and a Valentine's Day card with $100 inside the card.
Unfortunately, I got the package a day before my hubby's first trip to Cebu City which was on Feb 27.
Luckily, I didn't pay any tax when I was told to pick it up at the post office.
Hearing all these complaints from you guys, I'm already hesitant to send packages back home.

Thanks for sharing! smile.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-18 15:58:00
PhilippinesI need help on what to do..
QUOTE (Tahoma @ Mar 19 2009, 10:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (sheremae @ Mar 19 2009, 07:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
After one month i was interviewed at the fraud unit, the embassy sent my passport back with no visa and a letter 212(a)(4) stating that my petitiner does not intent to support me, and below the letter it says there that if i would like to discuss the matter with a consular officer in person, i can appear on March 6, 2009. I was there on the 6th of March and brought my petitioner 2008 ITR and a letter of his tax man. My petitioner's 2007 ITR is negative and the letter from his tax man tells there that his income is not $0, his depreciation is $50,000, although it shows $0 on his 2007 tax return, the depreciation along with this income is $50,000. During my interview the consular told me that my petioner's income was not stated clearly, and she said my petitioner does not intent to support me when i get there in the US. On my petitioner's I-134, Affidavit of Support he checked number 11 box do not intend to make specific contributions to support of the person(s) named item 3. I told the consular that the affidavit of support was filled out right, and she said " ya,. but he need to make an affidavit that he is going to support you." Is this mean that he needs to make a personal letter and notarized that he is going to support me ? After the interview the window 37 called my name and she returned my passport back and a letter 212(a)(4) You are likely to become a public charge. She said, this is not a refusal you can come back here anytime if you have all the proof of documents.

After i was interviewed in the fraud unit, i told my fiance to give up because i am tired all of this mess. I am losing hope and im tired of keep coming back in Manila and going back in Mindanao because i am pregnant but my fiance dont give up easy. He send his bank statement and his letter stating that he is going to support me. Now, he wants me to go back in the embassy as soon as i get his letter. What should I do? Do I really need to go there? Where i am going to submit all the papers i got ? Will they allow me to go there inside the embassy eventhough I dont have an appointment? Please I need your help and advices.


Hi sheremae...

Sorry you are having such a hard time with the USEM. Don't give up. Remember, you can go back any time with the right documents. I believe that there is a way for you to fulfill the financial requirements necessary for your visa. It is worth a try.

First, have your fiance send you a new I-134. He should check the box that shows that he intends to make specific contributions to support you. Make sure he sends you an original...not a copy.

Next, have your fiance send you a notarized letter that he intends to support you. He can also explain in his letter the details of his 2007 and 2008 income tax returns.

Next, include the letter from your fiance's tax man.

Then, submit these documents to the USEM, along with your passport and the letter the USEM gave you. You can submit them to Window 17, from Monday through Thursday, between 1 p.m. and 2 p.m. There also may be a way to send the documents instead of submitting them in person.

If you think that this is not enough evidence of support, you could also submit papers from a co-sponsor.

This is only my opinion...but I hope the idea helps you.

Good luck!!!



~ Tahoma


WOW! I guess we were so lucky by that time then when I had my USEM interview. Since on that last section of I-134 asking if the petitioner do or do not inteNd to make specific contributions to the beneficiary, my fiance-now-hubby answered I DO NOT INTEND..

Sheremae, I hope you wouldn't give up on this process. Losing the opportunity of not having the love of your life beside you is excruciatingly painful most especially that you're about to give birth from the fruits of your love. Wish you all the luck! God bless..
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-19 15:26:00
PhilippinesJust submitted K1 to vermont
QUOTE (getosled @ Mar 24 2009, 07:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello all.... I just submitted my K1 to the vermont center from the philippines on the 23rd. Since im in the philippines working i can see my fiance once in a while, i guess my question would be what should me and my fiance do when we are together to get concrete evidence of a relationship?

THIS IS WHAT I PUT IN MY I-129F Packet:

I sent about 16 pictures of us together printed out on paper 4 per page and i wrote in captions underneith them all with dates and where we were, I sent in a photocopy of my entry into the Philippines this year and a photocopy of my passport exit in 2008 ( long story i have two passports one civilian and one government, I came to philippines in 2007 on orders without my passport so i only got an exit stamp on the one ) I do not have my itinerary from this year or in 2007, but i have my excess baggage claim and it shows my destination being manila, i have my orders bringing me to the philippines in 2007 and in 2009, hotel recipts from 2007, 2008, and 2009 from hotels in Makati, I even have a letter of appearance from one hotel signed by the managers at the hotel saying that my fiance was my guest while i was there. I only sent a few Instant Messages because none were dated and I also sent in copies of reciepts from me mailing her things when I was back in the states.

What else can we get while we are together here in the phils? We are planning to get pictures with me and her family.

I also hope that I can be here for her interview and she can fly back with me to the states. we will see how long the process takes.

Any input will be great,

Thanks again


While visiting her, I think it would be nice to have pics of the couple with the beneficiary's family, pictures of the couple from vacations (if possible).
If you are planning to propose, make sure she has an engagement ring to prove it upon her interview at the embassy. Your fiancee should know your past marriages (if applicable), your work (where, what your job descriptions is), how much you make in a year. Greeting cards from you and your family would serve as an evidence though but it really depends on the Co upon the interview.

Good Luck on your journey!
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-24 21:19:00
PhilippinesDo you find this irritating?
I agree and I REALLY hate it. I've done that before and I'm not doing that again. Hell, NO!
I feel like I'm being a match maker.
And when they finally get hooked up and everything doesn't come out their way, I'm the one who gets the blamed.
Silly, right?

No wonder most foreigners think that girls from third world countries are GOLD DIGGERS..
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-24 14:10:00
PhilippinesWhen a Filipino says 'it's ok' for no
Haha! Sounds just like my wife.. (She says it's more on the lines like, "You figure out what I like hubby. After all, you told me you could read me.")

rofl.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-24 21:47:00
PhilippinesCalling all approved Filipinas! Your Transition... Foods
When my wife got here in the US, the #1 thing she asked was rice.
Next, dried fish. Then Halo-Halo. Then different spices that I have never heard of in my life.
And the next thing I realized, she owns the kitchen and the refrigerator. Haha! headbonk.gif
The refrigerator was packed with veggies that I never know could taste so good!
Better search some Filipino or Asian stores near your place or you could either order some Pinoy stuffs online.

Unfortunately, she gained 5 pounds for the first 3 weeks she got here.
And I gained 8 pounds after we got married.
Blame it on the yummy Pinoy foods she serves on the table. yes.gif

Good Luck!
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-31 14:52:00
PhilippinesVaccination Costs Included? I didin't think so
Yes, the vaccinations are already included with the medical fees at SLEC.
I think the 'other' vaccinations that you scrolled were about the Adjustment Of Status wherein you get additional shots once in the US (if required to complete the I-693).
If your fiancee didn't have any records of her immunizations (just like me), they will still administer shots that are age-appropriate at SLEC.
So, she may get 3 or 4 shots during her medical (depending on her age).

Good Luck to your fiancee! yes.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-31 21:18:00
PhilippinesPls help! Interview 3 days from now
QUOTE (forever_green @ Mar 28 2009, 08:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi all. Please, pleease help me! I will have my interview on April 2 and I saw this thread on CENMAR or CENOMAR. I am confused. Me and my husband got married in the US. I have our Certificate of Marriage with me coming from the state where we got married. What is CENMAR? What is CENOMAR? WHat is INDEX of Marriage? Do I need to get them all? I am applying for a CR-1 visa. Would not the Certificate of Marriage from the US suffice for the interview?

Thank you very much!!!

You need a CENMAR/CENOMAR upon the day of your interview. Too bad, you have to wait for a couple of days to get one. I wish you could have at least found it sooner. Anyways, expect to get a 221g paper from the Embassy after your interview stating that you need to present a CENMAR/CENOMAR printed in security paper.

Wish you luck for your interview! smile.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-03-28 21:22:00
PhilippinesWedding day
I didn't know that we had the same wedding date, Radz and Steve!
Congrats!!=D
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-04 20:20:00
PhilippinesOriginal NBI, or copy ok?
Your fiancee needs to get a new one. USEM takes NBI originals.
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-04 20:24:00
Philippinesaos question
QUOTE (psychosweetie @ Apr 6 2009, 04:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hello all,
can anybody help me which category i am in? i am so confused which one to choose. I am a k1 visa holder and applying for aos with my ead and ap all together in one packet for the first time. in form I-765 question 16 eligibility category... i dont know which one i fall in? please help. thank you.

Just sent out my AOS, I'm on K1 too. I answered (a) (6).
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-06 16:14:00
PhilippinesMedical and Embassy Questions
QUOTE (AmyStan @ Apr 6 2009, 01:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
MMW says visa fee 400 USD. jack&anais states DS-156 fee of 131 USD. Is there more to the visa fee than the DS-156? Please clarify. Thanks!

I think it's DS-157. unsure.gif
The $131 should be paid in any Banco de Oro branch. The bank itself will give her a blank DS-157 where she needs to fill it out. The validation of the bank will be stamped at the back of the DS-157 that the bank will issue. This will serve as a proof that she paid the $131 fee. Let her bring the DS-157 with the bank's validation at the back on the day of the interview. Bring the BDO receipt as well.
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-06 16:11:00
PhilippinesMedical and Embassy Questions
QUOTE (tngirl21809 @ Apr 6 2009, 12:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
does the medical fee include the vaccinations that you might need? just wondering.

YES. It's all included.
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-06 16:06:00
PhilippinesTo Those Who Are Married, Not Married & Soon To Be Married
QUOTE (armywife @ Apr 6 2009, 04:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
(this was sent to me centuries ago) BEWARE: dont correction me and dont english me cause im not graduation!!! laughing.gif bato bato sa langit ang tamaan ASKAL!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: shedidn't want anything from me, but needed a month's noticebefore the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conductive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!


"I will keep a smile on my face and in my heart even
when it hurts today. I know that the world is a looking glass and gives back to me the reflection of my own soul. Now I understand the secret of correcting the attitude of others and that is to correct my own." !


Mare, PINAIYAK mo 'ko!!! Kakatouch and very inspiring! cray5ol.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-06 13:46:00
Philippineshuh?
I agree with all the comments of fellow VJ members on this topic.
She clearly reminds me of my wife when she left PI.
She's working as a nurse right after she passed her exam. And she needs to give it all up just to be with me here in the US.
Better communicate with her about your recent situation. Your wife will be jobless before she gets her EAD permit once the AOS papers are being sent out. And when it's filing AOS, it means a lot of money, dude.
Sending money to your wife's family at PI is a common thing for Pinoys. Though, both of you need to clear this out since you're not making that much to do that.
Good Luck to you, bro..
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-07 19:19:00
PhilippinesTo all who are married, will be married, want to be married..
10 Reasons to Love About Marriage
1. You can say adios to eating alone in restaurants. You now have a permanent dinner date for when you eat in or take out.
2. Your daily fashion dilemmas are a thing of the past now that you have an in-house stylist who’s not shy about telling you how that miniskirt really looks.
3. A husband automatically equals an official big shoulder to cry on. Even though he may try and solve your hysterical and unfounded PMS breakdown logically and seemingly sans emotion, rest assured he means well because he can’t stand to see you upset.
4. You no longer have to go out and buy those extra-large sweaters. His boxer and t-shirt drawer is the perfect place to shop for weekend loungewear. Curl up with the paper and a cup of coffee on Sunday mornings in his comfy guy gear.
5. You now have a real-life taste-tester who will happily sample and critique that new recipe you’re cooking up for tomorrow’s dinner guests.
6. Are you afraid of the dark, burglars and creepy-crawlies? If so, hubbies are a great built-in security blanket for anything and everything remotely terrifying.
7. You have a permanent life adviser at your disposal. For all those hazy, unclear choices you have to make (from how to invest to what to buy your parents for their anniversary), he’s always there to give the perfect second opinion.
8. You have more reason to shop! No, it’s not just because you have that joint bank account, but because he needs clothes, too, and let’s face it, who really dictates what he wears?
9. You now officially have someone to play Scrabble, checkers and Monopoly with 24/7. He’s also the perfect partner for any of your other hobbies like biking, hiking and did we mention shopping?!
10. You have someone to grow old and grey with, and you look forward to it.

cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-08 16:11:00
PhilippinesWhat tree did you fall from?
QUOTE (shang @ Apr 8 2009, 02:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
WIFEY:

Lime Tree (Doubt) - intelligent whistling.gif , hard working, unsure.gif accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, blink.gif hates fighting and stress, yes.gif enjoys getaway vacations, cool.gif may appear tough, tongue.gif but is actually soft and relenting, wink.gif always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, luv.gif has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, unsure.gif is jealous at times but extremely loyal. good.gif



HUBBY:
Poplar Tree (Uncertainty) -- looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good.gif good organizer, good.gif tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, good.gif takes partnership seriously. wub.gif

Wifey loves her tree. Hubby (judging with the emoticons used)-----not so much! laughing.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-08 14:59:00
PhilippinesRight Degree...Wrong Job!
I don't have a job right now kaya pwede ishare ko yung work ng mga kakilala ko??

BESTFRIEND:
University: University of Cebu
Degree: Bachelor of Science in Business Management
Job: Exquisite Pawnshop Appraiser
Reason: She don't know. They were offering her the job after she graduated college. You know naman ang fresh grad, makaamoy lang ng sweldo,eh okay na..

AUNTIE:
University: University of San Carlos - Main Campus (Cebu)
Degree: Bachelor of Science in Secondary Education (Licensed)
Job: Secretary in Germany
Reason: She just wanna earn money ASAP para may mapadala na pera sa Pinas.

FRIEND:
University: University of Cebu
Degree: Bachelor of Science in Nursing (RN)
Job: Hotel Receptionist
Reason: Mahirap mghanap ng work as nurse sa Cebu especially pag fresh grad ka. Tapos, pang-receptionist naman ang height nya kaya go na lang. May sweldo eh kahit minimum lang.

CLASSMATE:
University: St. Paul College Cebu
Degree: Bachelor of Science in Nursing (RN)
Job: Caregiver in UK
Reason: Being the eldest in a family of 5, mahirap maging jobless at palamunin. Kaya go nalang xa kahit wrong job for her. Besides, she is saving money to take the NCLEX.

HUBBY:
University: Luzerne County Community College
Degree: Associate in Education
Job: Process Engineer
Reason: He makes more money and just realized that he doesn't wanna deal with hard-headed kids. headbonk.gif
cEzYcHiCFemalePhilippines2009-04-08 14:12:00