Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Philippines	Soooooo	QUOTE (davra @ Jun 24 2009, 10:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello,first time ko mg post or reply sa tread na'to...i just got married 2 days ago,am so happy!!!god bless us all Congrats and welcome Davra! QUOTE (shang @ Jun 24 2009, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ED*Riza @ Jun 24 2009, 10:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hahahha.. morag mamaligya ug food.. I am sooo hungry just had 4 teeth fillings today and my gums are numb...sorry shang got no food here. ala lang basin makalusot ba taga Asa ka Shang?? Bisaya sad ka ?	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-24 09:58:00
Philippines	Soooooo	hahahha.. morag mamaligya ug food.. I am sooo hungry just had 4 teeth fillings today and my gums are numb...sorry shang got no food here.	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-24 09:36:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Agi lang ko!! take care sa lahat!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-24 09:20:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Musta na mga pretty babies dito??? I'm doing ok here.	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-11 06:41:00
Philippines	Soooooo	kailangan may ebidensiya ha! Edited by ED*Riza, 09 June 2009 - 09:23 AM.	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-09 09:22:00
Philippines	Soooooo	alam mo MAy I have to reread your $ 1 M dyan . SIlly ka talaga ha!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-04 15:05:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Pink, Okey din ako dito sa GA kahapon masyadong mainit ngayon umulan... takot ako sa panahon na ito ( tornado lng poh!) maganda pa rin .. kapal!!! Hhahaha.. Advance HApi Bdi pala May at saka kudos sa nomination ni kapitan!! Edited by ED*Riza, 04 June 2009 - 02:53 PM.	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-04 14:50:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Kumusta ang mga pretty girls dito??? Ingats!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-04 14:11:00
Philippines	Soooooo	QUOTE (o0pink0o @ May 28 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Magandang tanghali at gabi naman sa mga taga Pinas! Riza, tama si Ronmay. Pwede ko nang panggatas yun at diaper sobra mahal kasi diaper dito pero buti nalang may mabibilhan akong mura Ronmay, salamat sa pagwelcome kay Riza dito malay mo magbigay nga siya joke lang riza ha D:D May fee pala dito?? Paano yan sis wala pang work dito ??? Salamat sa welcome May... nice to know people here sa VJ kahit man lng sa internet. Buti pa kaau dyan may kapitbahay na makipag-usap .. Dito sa amin kumakaway lng .. riza	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-05-28 14:38:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Can I join?? riza	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-05-26 13:05:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Oh Pink.. I miss BANGUS!!!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-05-20 13:10:00
Philippines	Soooooo	Congrats and Welcome to USA !	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-05-20 08:01:00
Philippines	DV paid in AUGUST, Visa pending as of OCTOBER 7	QUOTE (jeffcloe @ Jan 7 2009, 09:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> THANK YOU ALMIGHTY GOD This afternoon, while cooking for dinner, I received the magic text from DELBROS: "Delbros delivers! Please be inform that we are now preparing for dispatch of the visa for MNL 2008 XXX XXX XX. To track the visa, log in to www.delbros.com. Thank u." I was in shock for a couple of hours, I think I am still in shock... Now I understand how it feels to be stuck somewhere counting countless days and after those painful days, there is this day that I thought will never come, but my day today became so magical, now I can say, the waiting is all worth it... I'LL SEE YOU SOON MY JEFF... I AM SUPER EXCITED... Thanks VJ friends and this thread for keeping me company during the painful waiting days... God bless you all... Congrats Cloe!!! God bless sa trip coming here!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-01-09 10:50:00
Philippines	DV paid in AUGUST, Visa pending as of OCTOBER 7	QUOTE (STEPHnRIA @ Nov 28 2008, 08:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Yes bro. I owe it to you! Nung 26 pa pala. Meaning, one day short ako sa 3rd monthsary ko. congrats!!! happy reunion soon...	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-11-28 10:56:00
Philippines	DV paid in AUGUST, Visa pending as of OCTOBER 7	QUOTE (JamesRachel @ Nov 22 2008, 09:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (M@C @ Nov 22 2008, 09:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (christian @ Nov 22 2008, 02:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hi everyone, sasayaw lang ako M@C r u leaving asap? Hi sis... I'm leaving on December 4th, hawaiian airlines. I'll attend CFO on December 1. QUOTE (JamesRachel @ Nov 22 2008, 09:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ping, I get my visa already this afternoon but i wont leaving soon until Dec. 5 or 6. I must going first at our province, i missed my parents, young brother and one sister there. Hopefully, Tuesday i will leaving here in manila going home at province, miss the fresh air there too. Hi JamesRachel, Congrats!!! aga ng visa natin. hehe. Sis, thank you. I didn`t much expect how fast my visa they delivered but its good since they wait us a long time already to release it , hehehehhehe. So its better to have it fast now. Rachel, congrats and happy trip to you!!! I am happy for you... riza	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-11-22 10:05:00
Philippines	DV paid in AUGUST, Visa pending as of OCTOBER 7	Congrats Bevs!!!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-11-07 11:59:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	Ka nice oi May!!!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-06-04 06:24:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~		ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2009-04-10 14:04:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	QUOTE (shining_angel @ Oct 27 2008, 06:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Oct 27 2008, 12:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I had posted that before I knew about the baby. I am really sorry for your loss. Keep your head up and in time things will get better. I am PMing you with our new Telephone number.... I got it. QUOTE (charles! @ Oct 27 2008, 12:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (KC?MP @ Oct 27 2008, 08:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'm sorry to hear about your loss.Maybe it's not yet the right time. Keep the faith and more blessings to you and your hubby. QUOTE (Natty Bumppo @ Oct 27 2008, 10:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Oct 28 2008, 03:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'm sorry for your loss.. Thank you everyone for the sympathy and concern - It really mean so much to know that we do care for each other. May God bless us all. Geene, Just read the VJ forum.. I am sorry of your loss. You take care. RIZa	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-11-02 19:49:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Oct 5 2008, 09:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (jom @ Oct 5 2008, 06:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Just want to share the latest rendezvous of the Central Florida VJ'rs Surprise baby shower party for Jen ( Flakeman) September 27, 2008 hosted by Joe and I Our boat trip October 5, 2008 Looks like a great time for everyone... That really makes me miss my boat!!! Thanks for sharing your get-together.... Nice pics guys... hmmmm many filipino there .. in our place here in clarkesville just me...	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-10-06 07:27:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	Thank you Roy and Yazi and DARUMA... sure we will enjoy the vacation I am really looking forward for it too. MYLA.. I envy you driving alone at interstate.. not done that yet Ed still scared for me.. enjoy your boating in FL	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-10-05 09:32:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	Hello everyone... 7 days more and we will be flying back to Philippines for vacation.. excited and anxious as well.. I am going to eat humba ( the real humba) pretty soon ...Yehey.. God bless all.. Riza	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-10-04 13:51:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	Congrats to your wife's DL.	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-28 08:08:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	Hello, I have no experience like this with xoom but with western union. And the sender called Western union about my name so they made correction on the name and got it the next day. Just ask your fiance to call xoom. Riza	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-15 05:42:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	QUOTE (Roy and Yazi @ Sep 12 2008, 02:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Free Hugs... Nice video..	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-12 07:27:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	QUOTE (o0pink0o @ Sep 10 2008, 02:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Roy and Yazi @ Sep 7 2008, 06:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> another TV prank that would not be done here.... Bastos oi!!!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-10 08:54:00
Philippines	~Say Anything Thread~	QUOTE (Roy and Yazi @ Sep 6 2008, 01:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> and beware of the public toilets.....	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-06 04:56:00
Philippines	Transitioning from Filipina to Filipino-American	QUOTE (Pinay Wife @ Sep 2 2008, 08:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Transitioning from Filipina to Filipino-American <http://filipinawives.com/TransitioningFilipina.htm> Culture shock will affect Filipina and her American husband, and every couple will encounter unique problems that require both partners to make lifestyle adjustments. But the Filipina is at a disadvantage in that she is utterly immersed in a new culture, inside and outside the home, whereas her American husband is on familiar ground as soon as he steps out the front door. Below I've listed a few problem areas that many (not all!) newly arrived Filipinas face, but these are only intended to get the discourse started. If you are involved in a Fil-West (or Fil/Non-Fil) marriage, and you've encountered other areas of adjustment, please email me! And let me know what solutions you came up with. I put this page together because adjustment to a new culture can be made less turbulent with a little planning on the part of both partners. Learn what you can about her culture, prepare for trouble spots, and exhibit patience and empathy when dealing with her. Doing these things will make your first few months together in America a lot more pleasant. (Standard caveat, until I get my new 150 million page web site up, I'm forced to use generalizations in describing Filipinas and Fil-West marriage. Needless to say, not all these descriptions apply to all Filipinas or all marriages. Use your own judgment to whether or not the items apply to you and your wife; you don't need to email. I concede in advance that you know your fiancée or wife better than I do. Thanks!) Adjustment issues for the Filipina: 1. Lack of an immediate local community - socially and geographically. In the Philippines it is not unusual for a Filipina to know her neighbors, to see them on a daily basis, and to interact with them when leaving or returning to her home. The dwellings are usually small and very near to one another, and the windows and doors to constantly open due to the heat, and clothes are often washed and hung out to dry outside. So everyday life in the Philippines is a very public affair. In the U.S., however, houses are placed further apart, the windows and doors are often closed, and meals, laundry and other household chores are carried out within the confines of the home. In apartment complexes neighbors are often only seen during chance encounters on the staircase or in the elevator, and the conversations are usually brief and uninvolved. Americans often do not even know the names of their neighbors. For a Filipina, this may seem like a very "isolated" existence, and during those times that she is alone the situation may become virtually unbearable. 2. Appliances like washing machines, microwaves, vacuum cleaners, food processors, etc., will probably require a little instruction. If there is a floor that needs to be swept, many Filipinas will prefer to use the traditional waist-high brooms of her homeland to the taller, narrower American versions sold in stores here. Don't forget to cover the essentials, such as: don't put metal in the microwave, don't put hand soap into the dishwasher, stuff like that. 3. Entertainment. Filipino television tends to be more "local" in flavor than American television, and it's not unusual to see the same star appearing on multiple shows. Actors sing, singers act, etc. It's like one big variety show. Think of American television in the early 70's. American television tends to be drier, sharper, and edgier (you know, with those shows where it seems like there was no money left in the budget for lighting and everyone is always frowning to show how tough they are). Also, American comedies contain political and cultural humor that might be as funny as a clump of dirt to a person from another country. For this reason, a Filipina may find American television a little less than entertaining. And while she'll probably recognize all the major American actors and actresses, she'll still miss her favorite Filipino stars. She'll also miss those Filipino soaps and love stories. 4. Food. The idea that certain foods are for breakfast, some for lunch, and some for dinner might be alien to some Filipinas, and you might need to explain what foods are generally acceptable for different meals (i.e., no hot dogs for breakfast, no bagels for suppers, etc...unless you're a college student). You might also point out that in social situations, it's proper to keep one's mouth closed when eating and that utensils, not fingers, must be used for certain foods. Needless to say, the diet of a Filipina and her American husband will differ considerably at first, though in time middle ground is almost always achieved. 5. Driving. 99.9% chance a Filipina arriving here in the States has never driven before. She has spent her life walking or using public transportation. If she's moving to New York, Chicago or some other large metropolitan area, she might not have much to adjust to, but if she's moving to an area that is rural or that has a poor mass transit system, she will be dependent on others to get her around town until she learns to drive. This new dependence on others will be quite a change from her earlier ability to go where she pleased whenever she pleased. 6. Currency. While most Filipinas are familiar with dollars, U.S. coins (pennies, nickels, dimes, quarters) might be alien to her. It doesn't help any that the names for our coins have little to do with their value, i.e., 1 cent = penny, 5 cents = nickel, etc. 7. Weather. Winter is alien to most Filipinas. I picked my wife up at the airport in winter, and as we made the two hour drive home, she looked at all the trees alongside the road and asked why we didn't cut them down, since they were obviously dead. I told her they were not dead, they were just leafless because if it was winter. I don't think she believed me until Spring came and, surprise, the trees came back to life! Cold weather will obviously be a new thing for most Filipinas, also, as will be snow, Fall colors, and pollen. 8. Family is EVERYTHING to most Filipinas. In contrast, to many Americans family is defined as "those guys you used to live with." American culture stresses independence, Filipino culture stresses interdependence. You must accept her need to communicate with her family and facilitate it as best you can. You should do your best to behave as a member of her family and to show concern for your in-laws. Do not be surprised if she has a marked interest in being accepted by your family, also. While you might consider your family's attitudes toward your personal life irrelevant, she will likely seek approval by them. Especially your mother. 9. Sense of competition. This might sound odd, but in some ways Filipinas are just as material as Americans. Filipinas often express a desire to own name-brand items, jewelry, and assorted luxury items. This comes as a shock to many American men who presume that a woman from a poverty-stricken country will have few if any material wants. Such is not the case, gentlemen. Filipinas adapt quickly to new surroundings and financial realities and will usually re-evaluate their situation rapidly. While they may be grateful not to be poor anymore, they will nevertheless strive to "keeping up with the Jones." This seems to be especially true if there are other Filipinas in your area. Even minor things, like furniture or clothing, are often tabulated to determine where one stands socially. Even though you may think that it's ridiculous that your wife is jealous of her Filipina friend's new couch, remember that in her mind she might have just fallen a notch in the social hierarchy. 10. Money matters. In the Philippines, it is traditional for the women to pay the bills. This is simply more expedient, since bills are normally paid in person and not by mail, and the men are usually working during business hours. This means that the wives will have to go the power or water company with her family's bill and a handful of pesos once a month. So don't be surprised if your wife expresses a desire to pay the bills in your home. If you allow this (and you probably should, you were never any good at it, were you?), you'll need to teach her how to write checks and pay bills by mail. Most Filipinas also control their family's budget, and they do a superior job of it, so you should expect to hand over the reins to your wife at some point. Not doing so may be seen as an offense to her, i.e., a lack of trust in her abilities. 11. Wealth. You are probably not rich, and you should make sure your wife understands this. Wealth is, of course, a relative thing. In the Philippines, there are poor people and rich people but not many in-between. So it is quite common for a Filipina to presume that because an American is not poor, he must be rich. The idea of a "middle class" should be explained to her. She will not be rich enough to afford everything she wants, but neither so poor that she will ever have to worry about food or shelter. While she may be much more comfortable financially in America, she will not be able to get everything she wants nor will she be able to send thousands of dollars back to her family in the Philippines. Her family should understand this too, as on rare occasions family members can become resentful when a Filipina doesn't provide them will all the financial support they expect. 12. Tipping. Let your wife know that some forms of "tipping" in the Philippines constitute what we call "bribery" in the United States, and that it is illegal. A "tip" in the U.S. is different from a tip in the Philippines in that here it is a bonus that you give to someone AFTER a service has been provided you IF you thought the service was exceptional. You tip waiters, housekeepers, taxi drivers, etc. You DO NOT "tip" policemen, the mailman, or local politicians (unless you need a big favor and have thousands of dollars to spare in your bank account, of course. No, wait, better not tell her that...). 13. Haggling. Driving prices down through haggling is a part of life in the Philippines, but of course a Filipina should not try that at an American grocery store. You can just imagine the look on the cashier's face if this occurred. Be sure that your wife understands that most grocery stores, department stores, etc., have set prices that cannot be reduced at her request. You also cannot normally haggle with taxi drivers, dry cleaners, etc. If she feels compelled to haggle, take her to a yard sale or farmer's market somewhere. She'll probably get you a good deal. Very nice article ... I can relate to these LOL.. esp the dish washer..	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-03 12:21:00
Philippines	MY FLIGHT and POE EXPERIENCE .. HONOLULU	WElcome to USA ...	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-08-31 07:31:00
Philippines	FINALLY HOME!!!!!!	Welcome to USA	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-04 04:42:00
Philippines	LAS VEGAS as POE	WElcome to USA	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-04 04:43:00
Philippines	wedding gown!	hello girls.. Just a question.. i am not familiar in manila and I want to know how to go to Tutuban sometime when i will in manila...may I know the address.. sorry girls	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-05 14:05:00
Philippines	Thank you!!	Congrats and welcome to USA	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-06 09:33:00
Philippines	my sept.2,2008 pink slip moment	COngrats Nanz!!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-02 08:22:00
Philippines	we arrived	Welcome to USA Riza and Ryan,... Have a blessed life together..	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-04 12:44:00
Philippines	Visa received on Sept 2nd	Congrats and have a fast recovery there.. Welcome to USA soon.	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-04 09:07:00
Philippines	Left MNL - POE Chicago	Welcome to USA!	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-08-19 09:03:00
Philippines	visa deliver	That is good news...!!Congrats	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-09 07:44:00
Philippines	GLORY TO GOD.........GOT MY VISA TODAY	QUOTE (JamesRachel @ Sep 10 2008, 08:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (angelbelle @ Sep 9 2008, 09:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I got my visa and my son's visa today exactly 820AM, i was soooooooo happy, finally the waiting is over, I got my visa after 5 days from interview. Thanks to all VJ memebers who help me to all my quiries and all who prayed for me. From the bottom of my heart please accept my sincere Thanks. See you again during AOS. WE will leave Japan and POE Dallas Texas. To all who still waiting for there visa , dont ,lose it will come soon. Angelbelle COngrat`s! and Happy Trip both of your son. !!!!! Hello rachel, How are you??? Riza Congrats Angelbelle!! You will be here soon.. enjoy being with family there..and friends. Riza	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-10 08:42:00
Philippines	what to wear on interview?	QUOTE (meljesca @ Sep 9 2008, 07:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> question fellow VJ's... Is it ok to wear jeans during the interview? don't have any idea what to wear..as long as with sleeves not sexy...just formal...thanks...hoping for your replie,... jeans with formal tops is okay.. God bless on your interview..	ED*Riza	Female	Philippines	2008-09-09 06:14:00