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DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-29 14:53:00
Canada1 million reasons to hate Canada Post
You know something is very wrong with Canada Post when the United States Postal Service is considered "good." tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-05 02:58:00
CanadaTips to avoid being denied entry at US border
Don't wear this no matter how amusing it might seem. tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-29 16:52:00
CanadaCandian marrying American in U.S.
Yeah, I didn't explain that too clearly, did I? tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-25 22:58:00
CanadaCandian marrying American in U.S.
QUOTE (Marilyn. @ Oct 25 2009, 05:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
huh? there are quite a few people who get married in the US and then go back to their home country and apply for their visa...

I don't think you understand what I'm saying.

Yes, you can get married in the U.S., I said as much before. However, if you intended to get married you have to leave afterward. If you didn't intend on getting married, you can stay and apply from within the country.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-25 19:44:00
CanadaCandian marrying American in U.S.
QUOTE (Marilyn. @ Oct 25 2009, 05:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what? yes you can enter the US with the intent to get married...

what is not allowed is to enter the US to get married with the intent to stay and apply for AOS..

That's what I said. If you can't apply for AOS, what's the point? That's why you can't intend to get married. If you do, you'll have to be apart during the process. If you don't intend on getting married and suddenly decide to do so, you can stay and apply for AOS.

So as I said before, it's the intent that matters. cool.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-25 19:41:00
CanadaCandian marrying American in U.S.
QUOTE (raphael7546 @ Oct 25 2009, 04:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Oct 25 2009, 05:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (MacTO @ Oct 25 2009, 01:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I apologize in advance if this question has been already asked hundreds of times before. I am very new to this. I read one thread about a fellow Canadian who visited her friend and ended up marrying him. And she was given advice to apply for AOS or to start K3 or CR-1 immediately. And this is where I'm not sure which steps to take for my situation, which isn't as innocent as hers.

I, Canadian, met my American girlfriend and we travelled back and forth to see each other. Then we decided to stay together, considering marriage. So, I made the move and now I am with her in the U.S. As we believed that it would be okay for me to stay for six months without any visa and I came, and now it's been just over four months, and we're planning to marry next month. My question is what process we should take, AOS or other, at this point and my long stay here in the U.S. could cause any problem for filing.

"Today we came across this lady who married another Canadian but was left with no choice but "filing for divorce when he was not able to re-enter the U.S. after attending his son's graduation in Canada. Of course, she told us that she didn't want to live in Canada. The reason why he was denied was because he had stayed in the U.S. illegally prior to their marriage. She said she heard it got very tougher since 9/11. I do not wish to go through that, and we're very afraid that something similar would happen to us. The lady even warned my girlfrien

d to look into the immigration process before actually marrying me! My girlfriend even confessed me that the lady scared her.

I do not wish to stay illegally here. Is it going to be okay as long as we marry and file for some type of spousal support? I do not end our relationship and go back to Canada. Please, enlighten me.

An American citizen and a foreigner (such as a Canadian citizen) may marry within the U.S. provided the marriage was not planned. In other words, if you visit your girlfriend and decide to get married out of the blue, that's okay. However, if you plan it all ahead of time, that's not. I realize that makes no sense, but neither does immigration.

I'm unsure about the K3/CR1 visas when already in the United States. It was to my understanding (and I might be wrong about this) that you'd need to stay in each other's respective countries while the visa gets processed. Seeing as how I immigrated to Canada (I'm the American citizen) instead of immigrating to the U.S. (as most did here), I may not be the best person to advise you on this. I'm sure many other people in this forum can answer this problem.

A Canadian citizen may legally stay within the U.S. for up to six months. The same is true of an American citizen if visiting Canada. However, if you stay longer than six months, you're then considered "out of status." If you haven't stay six months or longer, you shouldn't have a problem dealing with U.S. immigration; however, you can't PLAN to marry when in the United States (like I explained up above). You have to show that it was a spur-of-the-moment decision.

If you stay longer than six months (like that woman's husband did in your example) and leave the U.S. after that, being readmitted might be difficult. The U.S. can turn you away and in fact, place a ban on you as well. The trick here is to not stay over the six month mark as a visitor (which you will be unless you're a Permanent Resident or citizen).

You can start the immigration process BEFORE marriage, but that's a K1 visa. The K3 and CR1 are visas for couples who're already married. Whichever one you choose is up to you, but once you're legally married, the K1 is no longer an option.

Don't get scared. I realize that's "easier said than done," but the truth of the matter is that immigration is an incredibly difficult experience. You can get through it. Lots of people have done it before you. smile.gif


An American citizen and a foreigner (such as a Canadian citizen) may marry within the U.S. provided the marriage was not planned. In other words, if you visit your girlfriend and decide to get married out of the blue, that's okay. However, if you plan it all ahead of time, that's not. I realize that makes no sense, but neither does immigration.
Everything else is right except this statement.

You can marry in the U.S. even planned but
you can't stay in the U.S.immediately following your marriage. That's the part that's illegal.
It's perfectly legal to marry in the usa, just can't stay right after the marriage. You would also have to come up with proof to the customs officer that you have no intentions of staying in the USA , You also have to have some very strong evidence stating that you have strong ties to Canada.
This of course is the hardest part. Believe me I know for fact as this happened to me. ( click on my name and read my story)
I think since you came down and just decided to marry and stay there should be fine. They may ask you a little more tougher questions at your AOS Interview but it should be fine.
Good Luck!

You can't enter the U.S. with the INTENT to get married. That doesn't mean you CAN'T get married in the U.S., but that's why it has to be unplanned or at least, a spur-of-the-moment decision.

This sort of thing has been discussed over and over again on here. If you want, you can check Kathryn's post in this thread (or anyone else's in this forum) if you don't believe me. The intent is what matters when coming to the U.S. and getting married.

Edited by DeadPoolX, 25 October 2009 - 07:30 PM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-25 19:30:00
CanadaCandian marrying American in U.S.
QUOTE (MacTO @ Oct 25 2009, 01:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I apologize in advance if this question has been already asked hundreds of times before. I am very new to this. I read one thread about a fellow Canadian who visited her friend and ended up marrying him. And she was given advice to apply for AOS or to start K3 or CR-1 immediately. And this is where I'm not sure which steps to take for my situation, which isn't as innocent as hers.

I, Canadian, met my American girlfriend and we travelled back and forth to see each other. Then we decided to stay together, considering marriage. So, I made the move and now I am with her in the U.S. As we believed that it would be okay for me to stay for six months without any visa and I came, and now it's been just over four months, and we're planning to marry next month. My question is what process we should take, AOS or other, at this point and my long stay here in the U.S. could cause any problem for filing.

Today we came across this lady who married another Canadian but was left with no choice but filing for divorce when he was not able to re-enter the U.S. after attending his son's graduation in Canada. Of course, she told us that she didn't want to live in Canada. The reason why he was denied was because he had stayed in the U.S. illegally prior to their marriage. She said she heard it got very tougher since 9/11. I do not wish to go through that, and we're very afraid that something similar would happen to us. The lady even warned my girlfriend to look into the immigration process before actually marrying me! My girlfriend even confessed me that the lady scared her.

I do not wish to stay illegally here. Is it going to be okay as long as we marry and file for some type of spousal support? I do not end our relationship and go back to Canada. Please, enlighten me.

An American citizen and a foreigner (such as a Canadian citizen) may marry within the U.S. provided the marriage was not planned. In other words, if you visit your girlfriend and decide to get married out of the blue, that's okay. However, if you plan it all ahead of time, that's not. I realize that makes no sense, but neither does immigration.

I'm unsure about the K3/CR1 visas when already in the United States. It was to my understanding (and I might be wrong about this) that you'd need to stay in each other's respective countries while the visa gets processed. Seeing as how I immigrated to Canada (I'm the American citizen) instead of immigrating to the U.S. (as most did here), I may not be the best person to advise you on this. I'm sure many other people in this forum can answer this problem.

A Canadian citizen may legally stay within the U.S. for up to six months. The same is true of an American citizen if visiting Canada. However, if you stay longer than six months, you're then considered "out of status." If you haven't stay six months or longer, you shouldn't have a problem dealing with U.S. immigration; however, you can't PLAN to marry when in the United States (like I explained up above). You have to show that it was a spur-of-the-moment decision.

If you stay longer than six months (like that woman's husband did in your example) and leave the U.S. after that, being readmitted might be difficult. The U.S. can turn you away and in fact, place a ban on you as well. The trick here is to not stay over the six month mark as a visitor (which you will be unless you're a Permanent Resident or citizen).

You can start the immigration process BEFORE marriage, but that's a K1 visa. The K3 and CR1 are visas for couples who're already married. Whichever one you choose is up to you, but once you're legally married, the K1 is no longer an option.

Don't get scared. I realize that's "easier said than done," but the truth of the matter is that immigration is an incredibly difficult experience. You can get through it. Lots of people have done it before you. smile.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-25 04:45:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (thetreble @ Nov 2 2009, 04:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Nov 2 2009, 05:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
At least they didn't have kids. Yeah, I know they didn't stay married long enough for that (as if that really matters anymore...), but if they did have kids, she'd try to rob him blind with child support.


Word. Although, I think she would rob him blind regardless.

Actually, I just found this out...a month ago or so they were talking about he said he would consider getting back together with her if she met a few conditions.. (he's crazy but what can you do..) and one of them was getting off of stuff like facebook and myspace where she torments us! She said NO! laughing.gif

She never wanted to be married to him in the first place. There is just no love there.

Seems like she just wanted the attention and the "fairy tale wedding." Unfortunately, she got it but only after hurting everyone else in the process.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-09 02:05:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
At least they didn't have kids. Yeah, I know they didn't stay married long enough for that (as if that really matters anymore...), but if they did have kids, she'd try to rob him blind with child support.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-02 04:07:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (thetreble @ Aug 18 2009, 06:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm thinking about it. I do plan to write on it but as you be knowin', I'm much more of a poet than a "writer". I will put it into words though...I will.

Here's what you do: write a book about awful fiancees and brides. I'm sure some women will complain, so in order to make them happy, you then write a second book about awful fiances and husbands. That way you get TWO book deals out of it simply by playing both sides of the aisle. tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-08-18 20:25:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (thetreble @ Aug 8 2009, 04:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There's More!

Sadly, on Wednesday my Father In Law was asked to g o talk to Bridezilla and Chris at their condo. So, he drove down there thinking that maybe they were going to settle all the bad feelings and put them to bed.

NOT WHAT HAPPENED.

Bridezilla berated my father in law for a good hour. She told him he ruined her wedding. She said that he was a nasty and mean person because he didn't spend much time talking to her family. She said that they were "equals" now and called him "Frank". (In our family, we still call Mr. and Mrs.) When my FIL told her that he didn't think they were equals due to him being her FIL, his age, experience, etc. she refused to accept it and said they were on the same level now.

She said she resents the fact that my Sister In Law's boyfriend, Canadian guy named Josh, was "allowed" to be in the family photos when she wasn't allowed to be in them in our wedding a few years back when her and chris were "just" boyfriend and girlfriend. (Not true...we never dis-included her..she was MISERABLE at our wedding because it wasn't hers..)

And then, she threw out one of the biggest insults you could probably throw at someone...

She said, "And, in closing, Frank, I just want you to know that I think you are CHEAP".

He was shocked. He didn't know what to say. My FIL is far from cheap. He's an incredibly generous man. He may be a little stubborn and stern, but he is NOT cheap.

The worst part? My brother in law sat there the entire time and did not say one word. So, my father in law just got up and left.

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

This woman is exceedingly rude and sounds pushy as all hell. I can't imagine this marriage will last. At least there are no kids involved. Right now he could divorce her and possibly escape alimony charges, but with kids? He'll get gutted for child support and probably never see those kids either.

As for the part I bolded up above, I say the whole "first name/honorific" thing depends on the person and what's permitted. For instance... my wife's parents insist I call them by their first names. I felt a little odd about doing that (and I still do at times), but they're pretty laid back and apparently prefer it. My dad, on the other hand, wants my wife to refer to him as "doctor [last name]" or "dad." My wife doesn't really want to do either, so refrains from addressing him at all.

QUOTE (MrsCat @ Aug 8 2009, 09:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
To be honest, I don't feel sorry for him for one second. Obviously I don't know him, so there may be some redeeming qualities but he's chosen his bed and is now lying in it. Until he makes a decision to man-up he'll be eatting ####### sandwiches for the rest of his life.

And obviously she deserves to be one of the wives on Housewives of _______ because she certainly fits the profile of a spoiled worthless ignoramus.

I agree. He had to have known something about her personality before marrying her. Even if his knowledge was limited, he's obviously seen how she acts towards other. He went through with it and now he needs to deal with it.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-08-09 08:40:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (bowflex @ Aug 6 2009, 11:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Aug 6 2009, 02:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (thetreble @ Aug 6 2009, 03:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
laughing.gif

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.


Maybe they think the fear of child support would scare the ####### out of the other person and they won't leave? I know people that are paying an insane amount and probably would've figured out a way to stay with the person to keep it from happening if they could or would've chopped off their schwance before doing something stupid when young LOL.

Possibly, but that still proves that "children make life more complicated." tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-08-06 14:06:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (thetreble @ Aug 6 2009, 03:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
laughing.gif

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-08-06 13:49:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Aug 5 2009, 02:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If the stress of a wedding did this to her, please make sure she's on an ample amount of birth control or the stress of children just may make her spontaneously combust. laughing.gif

If that does occur, make sure to catch it on video and upload it to YouTube. biggrin.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-08-05 17:46:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
QUOTE (thetreble @ Aug 4 2009, 08:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He said to me after the wedding that he realizes "she needs a lot of improvement and she needs to grow as a person substantially..."

Maybe he should have worked out some of that improvement before the marriage? I mean we all have a lot to learn and we all have ways to grow our whole lives...but you can't improve on someone who is truly that mean and who clearly does not have a strong sense of family. Maybe you can..but I'm guessing it would be very hard.


As a note, I forgot to give him our card and cash at the wedding. I'm thinking about just keepin it! laughing.gif

In total it cost Jared and I about $1800.00 for everything.

That's a problem. People don't really change. Minor issues they can generally modify, but overall, most people are heavily resistant to change. Even worse, if you try to force that change on them, they'll resent it and the entire plan could backfire, going so far as a messy divorce.

The bottom line? Know the person you're dating first. That's one area in which many of us have had an advantage over the "normal" couple who live in the same city. We've had to spend lots of time talking to our SO on the phone, online or wherever. We got to know them and knowing your partner is probably the single most important aspect of any relationship.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-08-05 14:06:00
CanadaBridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)
Tell you what... invite me. I'll make it interesting.

I'll go in looking like the lost love child of The Village People and Boy George while wearing a Mickey Mouse hat and clown shoes and showing signs of Tourette Syndrome.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-07-28 13:42:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
Hmm... burger, huh? Wonder what makes the cheese, ketchup and "special sauce." innocent.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-10 13:10:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Nov 10 2009, 09:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Nov 10 2009, 12:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Nov 10 2009, 09:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He makes under 10,000 a year so he's probably smells like hamburgers.




Yea I just said that.

What do you think is IN the burgers? whistling.gif


warts.

Better than what's in the clam chowder... unsure.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-10 12:44:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Peachey @ Nov 10 2009, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You really think that's her tho? If they arrested her wouldn't they find out she's there illegally?

Nah, she'd be fine. Since when has the U.S. actually done anything about illegals? wacko.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-10 12:43:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Nov 10 2009, 09:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He makes under 10,000 a year so he's probably smells like hamburgers.




Yea I just said that.

What do you think is IN the burgers? whistling.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-10 12:41:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (thetreble @ Nov 10 2009, 09:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Or maybe...

just maybe...

she's getting a speeding ticket right now on her way to work...

That reminds me... my wife and I were on our way to Horseshoe Bay and there was this a$$hole speeding and tailgating everyone -- include us. Out of nowhere, an RCMP car zooms after him and pulls the idiot over.

That was so great. Usually drivers like that get away with being jerks. Not this time! biggrin.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-10 12:35:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (trailmix @ Nov 7 2009, 11:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So I bought auto insurance here last week from Canadian Direct Insurance - the premium was 700 and some dollars per year, which is about what I was expecting - we both have good driving records, long driving histories etc. We are both -15 on the Alberta insurance grid (which is as good as you can get on the ole grid)

I do have one accident on my record from 4 years ago - or was it 5, where my Son was driving my vehicle and slid in to another car. I disclosed this on the application, of course.

So this morning I get an email from them - you have a policy change. I log in to see that they have increased the premium by $450 a year dry.gif

Of course they are closed on the weekend so I can't call them to find out why/cancel the policy.

Holy #######! I wish my auto insurance was that cheap. That's less than a fifth of what Autoplan charges me per year.

Of course... Alberta allows CHOICES when it comes to insurance. In BC, auto insurance is government-run, so it's Autoplan or nothing.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-08 04:02:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (JillA @ Nov 6 2009, 02:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Remember our anti-twilight vent? Ugh I just heard on the radio that the lead greaseball that for some reason many girls swoon over, is People's sexiest man alive EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

QUOTE (Sam and Ben @ Nov 6 2009, 04:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My fiance was working in that area just two days ago, until his company pulled him and sent him to another job site.

I don't understand people. At all. The shooting in Texas, now this.

What drives a person to that point? Sure, we all have days where we could fling ourselves off a cliff due to stress, etc, but to go out and aim to harm/kill someone else... How do you get there?

It's despicable.


They obviously have serious mental problems/issues.... because someone "normal" just doesn't snap and do stuff like that

Very true. But why take responsibility and seek psychological help when it's much easier to place the blame elsewhere? wacko.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-11-07 04:17:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Krikit @ Oct 30 2009, 07:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm like Trailmix. If I don't like the price, I refuse to buy the item. In some situations I'll try to negotiate a better price, though, if I really want the item.

I don't know why Americans think they're getting a better deal on things, though. Some things may be cheaper at first glance, but then there are the hidden costs which makes things even more expensive. Take, for instance, the cost of buying a house. In Canada you hire a broker, they find the best mortgage for you, and then you go and buy your house. In the US it's a giant mess. I can't even begin to list the numerous problems you have with securing a mortgage. Then, the thing that really irked me to no end, was the extremely high cost of closing the sale. Thousands upon thousands of dollars for closing costs?? #######?!!!!!1 mad.gif

Anyway.... I guess that was my vent. laughing.gif

I've never bought a house (only rented), so I don't know what the costs are in the U.S. I can't imagine it's easy or fun. My wife and I watch House Hunters and Property Virgins a lot on HGTV. Some of the shows are entertaining and some of the info is also good.

I think PV first started in Canada (there's a buttload of shows in Toronto or around that area), but they've recently expanded into the U.S. Most of the time the show deals with the northern states (Washington, Oregon, New York, etc) although it sometimes ventures south. I've seen episodes that take place in Florida, Alabama, California, Georgia, Texas and so on.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-30 14:53:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
I just don't get it. Why do Canadians allow themselves to get pushed around? Canadians aren't stupid. They see the cost and service differences between the U.S. and Canada. Yet they don't demand change. Instead, they just accept it.

Why? blink.gif

Put up a fuss. Make some noise! Sure, Americans may seem rowdy and loud, but when we want something, we make sure we're heard. That's the only way to make change. You have to make businesses realize that you won't simply take whatever they give you. You're the consumer. That means you tell THEM what you will and will not accept; not the other way around.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-29 16:26:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (charles! @ Oct 29 2009, 11:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
revenge is a dish best served cold. good.gif

Old Klingon proverb. innocent.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-29 14:55:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Krikit @ Oct 28 2009, 06:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So my TD Visa information was stolen and $1,000 worth of purchases were made at different Walmarts in Duluth, Georgia on Monday. I have never been to Duluth, Georgia. In fact, I was distinctly in Ontario, Canada on Monday. The last time I used that card was over a year ago in Europe. I have been reviewing old statements trying to find where it could have been compromised. The Visa Fraud people say it could have been that my card information just got into the wrong hands because I still, physically, have that card. I feel so violated. sad.gif

I know how that feels. The first credit card I ever got was stolen and someone used it for thousands of purchases. And by "stolen" I mean the number, not the physical card. I wasn't held liable for it and I was issued a new card. Even so, it was extremely annoying.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-28 11:10:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 27 2009, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My grandmother threw out $50-$75k worth of comic books and baseball cards when my father went into the army. My parents were always a lot more careful with throwing out mine and my sisters toys as a result laughing.gif

My dad had a copy of Fantastic Four #1, but my grandmother threw it away when he went to college. Plus she also got rid of his baseball cards, most of which would be worth a fortune nowadays.

Any Transformer fan would appreciate this clip:

Edited by DeadPoolX, 27 October 2009 - 01:13 PM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-27 13:12:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 27 2009, 10:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Oct 27 2009, 08:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 27 2009, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Oct 26 2009, 08:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm angry at myself.

My wife was flying to Edmonton on a work-related trip this morning and I had previously told her I'd drive her to the airport. Well, I woke up with an absolutely killer migraine. I took medication, but nothing helped.

She took a cab and told me that "she wasn't annoyed and didn't blame me." I'm glad about that, but I'm still pissed off at myself. I said I would drive her and in the end, I couldn't do it.

And yeah, I mean I really couldn't do it. The pain was murdering me, I couldn't think straight and my vision was temporarily messed up. I knew she was right, but still...

The migraine is gone now. But that's after taking the following: two Relpax, two Aleve, two Ultracet and one Reglan. Yeah, it was bad. I also ended up sleeping from 7AM to 3:30PM. So I not only wasted the ENTIRE day, but I also screwed up my sleep pattern!


Hey, best that you didn't drive like Carla said. These things happen. Sorry to hear you were so ill though.

Rob - I think some times aggression is JUST aggression and not necessarily insecurity. There is a dominance factor when you have two dogs involved. I see it at the dog park all the time. I've seen my little guy nip because of his nervousness. But, I've seen other dogs bite because they are just pissed off and they want their toy, not for someone else to have it. I was going to give away little oscar a few months ago, remember? We stuck it out and he's still a pain but I couldn't give him up.

I hope it works out for you and mel with her. But if she continues to bite, you might even have to have her put down. Imagine if she bit a little kid?


I think I need to clarify. She has only bit me and my wife. She has been around my niece and nephew (who will turn two this weekend) and is very well behaved, as far as a puppy can be. To be perfectly honest, she is so much better behaved when she is not at home. She doesn't get angry aggressive with our other dog, it's more of a jealosy thing I think. She has several bad habits that are extremely frustrating in breaking her of them. I've always been a vocal advocate for adopting rescued animals. However, I don't think I will ever get one again. This dog is a handful, and the utter disrepsect and outright lying from the county shelter we got her from is too much.

In other words... the exact opposite of a young child. biggrin.gif


Actually, in my experience, she is just like a young child. I was always better behaved for others. I would have suffered a fate worse than no transformers if I misbehaved in front of friends or family. tongue.gif

I dunno... I still get a little ticked off when I think of the all the Transformers my younger brother broke. He turned an ORIGINAL metal-made Optimus Prime in a paraplegic! Even worse, he broke Hot Rod, a Transformer that was really difficult to find.

Yes, I'm a geek and proud of it. kicking.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-27 12:09:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 27 2009, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (thetreble @ Oct 27 2009, 04:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Oct 26 2009, 08:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm angry at myself.

My wife was flying to Edmonton on a work-related trip this morning and I had previously told her I'd drive her to the airport. Well, I woke up with an absolutely killer migraine. I took medication, but nothing helped.

She took a cab and told me that "she wasn't annoyed and didn't blame me." I'm glad about that, but I'm still pissed off at myself. I said I would drive her and in the end, I couldn't do it.

And yeah, I mean I really couldn't do it. The pain was murdering me, I couldn't think straight and my vision was temporarily messed up. I knew she was right, but still...

The migraine is gone now. But that's after taking the following: two Relpax, two Aleve, two Ultracet and one Reglan. Yeah, it was bad. I also ended up sleeping from 7AM to 3:30PM. So I not only wasted the ENTIRE day, but I also screwed up my sleep pattern!


Hey, best that you didn't drive like Carla said. These things happen. Sorry to hear you were so ill though.

Rob - I think some times aggression is JUST aggression and not necessarily insecurity. There is a dominance factor when you have two dogs involved. I see it at the dog park all the time. I've seen my little guy nip because of his nervousness. But, I've seen other dogs bite because they are just pissed off and they want their toy, not for someone else to have it. I was going to give away little oscar a few months ago, remember? We stuck it out and he's still a pain but I couldn't give him up.

I hope it works out for you and mel with her. But if she continues to bite, you might even have to have her put down. Imagine if she bit a little kid?


I think I need to clarify. She has only bit me and my wife. She has been around my niece and nephew (who will turn two this weekend) and is very well behaved, as far as a puppy can be. To be perfectly honest, she is so much better behaved when she is not at home. She doesn't get angry aggressive with our other dog, it's more of a jealosy thing I think. She has several bad habits that are extremely frustrating in breaking her of them. I've always been a vocal advocate for adopting rescued animals. However, I don't think I will ever get one again. This dog is a handful, and the utter disrepsect and outright lying from the county shelter we got her from is too much.

In other words... the exact opposite of a young child. biggrin.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-27 11:48:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
I'm angry at myself.

My wife was flying to Edmonton on a work-related trip this morning and I had previously told her I'd drive her to the airport. Well, I woke up with an absolutely killer migraine. I took medication, but nothing helped.

She took a cab and told me that "she wasn't annoyed and didn't blame me." I'm glad about that, but I'm still pissed off at myself. I said I would drive her and in the end, I couldn't do it.

And yeah, I mean I really couldn't do it. The pain was murdering me, I couldn't think straight and my vision was temporarily messed up. I knew she was right, but still...

The migraine is gone now. But that's after taking the following: two Relpax, two Aleve, two Ultracet and one Reglan. Yeah, it was bad. I also ended up sleeping from 7AM to 3:30PM. So I not only wasted the ENTIRE day, but I also screwed up my sleep pattern!

Edited by DeadPoolX, 26 October 2009 - 07:06 PM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-26 19:04:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 26 2009, 08:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
About 4 months ago, we adopted a puppy. It was a whole ordeal because the people at the adoption faire outright lied about the dog. They said she was 18 months old, healthy and housebroke. Well turns out she was about 5-6 months old, very sick, and only housebroken if your definition is "pees ONLY in the house regardless of how many times you take her out". Well, aside from that, she has become a lot more aggressive, both towards us and our other dog. She is very possesive and jealous as well. She simply will not let our other dog have any toy or attention without her. It has gotten to the point where she will bully our other dog. The bigger problem for us now is that when we've scolded her, she has gotten quite mean, and has begun to bite now. I had to spank her last night for her bullying of our other dog after several times having to pull her off. Usually, she will stop if I give her a swat on the bum, but this time, she snarled and bit me. Later in the evening there was a loud sound outside and she started barking. Mel told her to stop barking and put her hand on her to calm her. She snarled and bit her again. I just don't know what to do at this point. I don't see how we can keep her as she's clearly not keen on our other dog and seems to be getting more and more aggressive. I don't want to give her up, but I don't see how we can keep her. After she snarled and bit Mel, she wanted to get rid of her. The look in that dogs eye at that moment was telling. We thought about closing the bedroom door and putting her in the other room because that look she gave in that moment. I really don't want to give up on her, but I just don't think it was the right match. I think we'll give her a bit more time, but at the same time we're looking for someoen who would be better suited. I think she'd be much better off if she was an only dog. It still makes me really sad though. sad.gif

If she's making your current dog miserable and has already bitten you and Mel, then the only option is to get rid of her. I know that'll be difficult (I once had to give up a dog), but if as a puppy she's already biting, imagine how she'll be as a full-grown dog. Even if you can get her under control, you'll never know what might "set her off" so she'll bite.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-26 18:23:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Oct 25 2009, 08:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So last week I was a little put off that my cousins wedding happened and I wasn't invited. So yesterday I get an invite in the mail that says: "They've eloped"

huh.gif

Doesn't eloping mean keeping it a secret from everyone? Umm most of my family was there. But apparently that's what they're calling it. I am so confused. My mom said that it was just a wedding, and then they went to their apartment afterwards and had a dinner. It wasn't anything fancy so they didn't think I'd want to come up for it.

So now they're having a surprise party for the bride and groom in Toronto in November. I just want an excuse to go home and see my mom so we're going to go. Plus it's at the legion... so it should be fun(ny).

From Wikipedia:
"Today the term "elopement" is colloquially used for any marriage performed in haste or in private or without a public period of engagement; it is also sometimes used for well-attended and elaborately-planned marriages when they occur away from home."

Okay, so it's Wikipedia (not always the best source of info), but according to them, a couple can elope and it doesn't have to mean "running away and getting married in secret." For the record, I always that it meant that, but I guess I'm wrong.

Regardless of whatever they're calling it, if family was invited, you should have been too. Using an excuse like "It wasn't anything fancy so they didn't think I'd want to come up for it" is dumb. Maybe you wouldn't have wanted to come or simply couldn't attend, but they still should've sent the invite.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-25 10:42:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
Something is definitely off here... I'm not the one who's arguing with everyone in this forum! blink.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-22 18:17:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Wyatt's Torch @ Oct 22 2009, 09:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (lgg @ Oct 22 2009, 08:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I also have to ask... Marilyn posted a picture of a shovel in regard to the ####### rant -- I don't get it?
Can someone please explain it to a poor, confused, amphibian?
Tanks...


I was a bit perplexed by that too. I figured it was something to do with Sprailenes digging herself deeper. Or that she needed to shovel the proverbial b.s. of only staring at crotches because it's "just there". Or something?

I'm not sure. Maybe Marilyn just likes shovels?

At least she didn't post a hoe. tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-22 11:11:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Oct 18 2009, 06:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We're always being told by my husbands family to reach out to his brother. About a month ago we invited him out for wings, he never showed up. Two weeks ago we invited him to the movies, he never showed up. Last night we invited him over for dinner, he never showed up.

I don't know what else we can do. I am kind of sick of being told to reach out though when we do. The dynamics of this family confuse the hell out of me. Even if we say we reached out, we'd somehow get blamed for not reaching out hard enough or not being persistent enough, it would still be in our court. Ugh.

Offer to take him out to dinner. Tell him you'll pick him up at his place... and never show up. whistling.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-19 02:22:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
Yeah, I use Aleve a lot as well. It's been OTC in the U.S. since 1994, so imagine my surprise when I found it was (at the time) prescription-only in Canada.

Of course... I happen to live in one of two provinces that haven't made Aleve OTC in Canada. Isn't BC wonderful? wacko.gif

Needless to say, I stock up whenever I'm in the U.S. My wife and I have been thinking about visiting Seattle, so while I'm there, I might buy a ton of Aleve too.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-18 03:38:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 16 2009, 09:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Oct 16 2009, 08:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 16 2009, 07:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (trailmix @ Oct 15 2009, 11:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is a great example of the contrast. Americans (some, not all) say something like - if you have great insurance you have exceptional care, if you have bad insurance or none, then the care is not good.

Canadians (most, not all) say, if everyone isn't getting great treatment - then the care is not good.

That's the difference.

Imagine never having your job tied to your Health insurance, imagine never having to worry about health insurance at all. If you need to see a Dr. you do, if you need your leg set, they set it, no questions asked, no payment required.

Imagine never getting a letter from a health insurance company asking for a co-pay or just sending you a statement every single time you see a Dr. - to tell you that you aren't covered as you have not met your deductable for the year.

Imagine never having to fill out a form or prove to anyone you are worthy of paying for their coverage.


I highly doubt that a plurality of Canadians judge the quality of their care on what citizens as a whole have. I've read a myriad of reviews just about the differences in quality of care from province to province. The range of care at the top end is second to none on the planet, period, conversely, so is the quality of care for those who don't have insurance. I take umbrage at the generalization that American Healthcare is putrid and the be all end all sin of the world. It is in fact the insurance companies that are the problem. The problem is not the doctors or the level of care, it's the availability and massive greed from the insurance companies.

I was hoping that with the new President, someone would have the balls to institute a NHS, but seeing how things are going, I'll take any improvement. The sad part is that if there is a public option introduced, my quality of care will diminish. I will no longer be in a network where I have access to any treatment, medication or procedure that will help me regardless of fees. My employer would dump this package and send us all to the public healthcare system which especially where I live would be overburdened. But, it's the right thing to do, as a citizen I wholeheartedly support it.

That's already happened to me in Canada.

I had fantastic health insurance in the U.S. and the quality of care was second to none. I come to Canada and it's "take a number, we'll see you in a few months." That's IF you can find a doctor who's accepting patients.

I know some people will say it's nice when you don't have to pay up front. Well, maybe it is, but living in BC requires me to pay BOTH in taxes and health care premiums. That's just for the basic provincial coverage. I also need private health insurance to cover my medication as the price of medication is astronomical. That's not to say medication is cheap in the U.S., but if I need health insurance to pay for the drugs (like in the U.S.) the overall "benefit" of Canadian health care greatly diminishes.

I'm scheduled to have surgery done. When? No clue. They won't tell me or even give me a general estimate. For all I know I could get the surgery next week or in six months. I've already waited two months. Yes, I realize some people might say that's "not too bad." However, I could get a surgical procedure performed in a week or so (at worst) after making the arrangements for it when I lived in the United States.

I realize American health care isn't "fair for some" but Canadian health care seems "unfair for some" as well. Even if you have the means to pay for better health care (i.e. private) you still can't get it since it's not offered. You're stuck waiting in line to even see a GP, let alone a specialist or surgery.

My father-in-law went down to Seattle in order to get some tests and a procedure done. It cost him, but he got everything done IMMEDIATELY. His only other option was to wait months in Canada.

I'm not particularly impressed with Canadian health care. Maybe it's the province I live in. Whatever the case, I really prefer American health care.


You can't really generalize healthcare in america. There are so many different levels. Would you prefer having some horible PPO that made you pay $500+ per month for mediocre care? I think you and I have had much the same experiences with healthcare in America, we've been spoiled with top notch care. I think if you had a different perspective in the U.S., you'd appreciate the Canadian system more.

You're probably right.

I'm not trying to generalize health care in America. I'm merely describing my experiences in the U.S. versus those in Canada. I did have awesome health coverage and I did get top-notch care. Compared to what I currently receive in Canada, I feel as if I've definitely been downgraded. Other individuals may differ if they had poor quality insurance or none at all in the U.S.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-16 11:31:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Oct 16 2009, 07:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (trailmix @ Oct 15 2009, 11:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is a great example of the contrast. Americans (some, not all) say something like - if you have great insurance you have exceptional care, if you have bad insurance or none, then the care is not good.

Canadians (most, not all) say, if everyone isn't getting great treatment - then the care is not good.

That's the difference.

Imagine never having your job tied to your Health insurance, imagine never having to worry about health insurance at all. If you need to see a Dr. you do, if you need your leg set, they set it, no questions asked, no payment required.

Imagine never getting a letter from a health insurance company asking for a co-pay or just sending you a statement every single time you see a Dr. - to tell you that you aren't covered as you have not met your deductable for the year.

Imagine never having to fill out a form or prove to anyone you are worthy of paying for their coverage.


I highly doubt that a plurality of Canadians judge the quality of their care on what citizens as a whole have. I've read a myriad of reviews just about the differences in quality of care from province to province. The range of care at the top end is second to none on the planet, period, conversely, so is the quality of care for those who don't have insurance. I take umbrage at the generalization that American Healthcare is putrid and the be all end all sin of the world. It is in fact the insurance companies that are the problem. The problem is not the doctors or the level of care, it's the availability and massive greed from the insurance companies.

I was hoping that with the new President, someone would have the balls to institute a NHS, but seeing how things are going, I'll take any improvement. The sad part is that if there is a public option introduced, my quality of care will diminish. I will no longer be in a network where I have access to any treatment, medication or procedure that will help me regardless of fees. My employer would dump this package and send us all to the public healthcare system which especially where I live would be overburdened. But, it's the right thing to do, as a citizen I wholeheartedly support it.

That's already happened to me in Canada.

I had fantastic health insurance in the U.S. and the quality of care was second to none. I come to Canada and it's "take a number, we'll see you in a few months." That's IF you can find a doctor who's accepting patients.

I know some people will say it's nice when you don't have to pay up front. Well, maybe it is, but living in BC requires me to pay BOTH in taxes and health care premiums. That's just for the basic provincial coverage. I also need private health insurance to cover my medication as the price of medication is astronomical. That's not to say medication is cheap in the U.S., but if I need health insurance to pay for the drugs (like in the U.S.) the overall "benefit" of Canadian health care greatly diminishes.

I'm scheduled to have surgery done. When? No clue. They won't tell me or even give me a general estimate. For all I know I could get the surgery next week or in six months. I've already waited two months. Yes, I realize some people might say that's "not too bad." However, I could get a surgical procedure performed in a week or so (at worst) after making the arrangements for it when I lived in the United States.

I realize American health care isn't "fair for some" but Canadian health care seems "unfair for some" as well. Even if you have the means to pay for better health care (i.e. private) you still can't get it since it's not offered. You're stuck waiting in line to even see a GP, let alone a specialist or surgery.

My father-in-law went down to Seattle in order to get some tests and a procedure done. It cost him, but he got everything done IMMEDIATELY. His only other option was to wait months in Canada.

I'm not particularly impressed with Canadian health care. Maybe it's the province I live in. Whatever the case, I really prefer American health care.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-10-16 11:22:00