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CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Emancipation @ May 11 2009, 08:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ May 11 2009, 11:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My brother-in-law (my wife's sister's husband), on the other hand, is damn difficult to deal with. First of all, he doesn't have a conversation with you -- he lectures. He'll talk about in great detail whatever it is he knows or thinks he knows. When he's wrong (and he is fairly often), he'll refuse to admit it and keep talking. The worst part about all of this is he won't let you get a word in (he's too busy lecturing, remember?) and when he's finally finished, he won't pay attention to a word you say.

I have a step father like that.. I try to avoid conversations at all costs (cause they are never conversations anyway).. whistling.gif

That's also why I never get into political discussions with him. It's not really a discussion, he's very left-wing and he's fairly anti-American. By "left" I mean borderline socialist and he's made numerous insulting and nasty comments about the United States to my wife (who ends up defending the U.S.).

I don't expect him to love the U.S. or anything. He has his opinions and that's fine. But there's a difference between espousing those opinions and expressing seething hatred, especially when you've never been to the country you proclaim to despise!
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-11 10:31:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
Two things...

First Vent
My brother-in-law pisses me off. mad.gif

My wife and I went to Victoria for a weekend getaway and to see her sister. Well, my wife's sister (my sister-in-law) is pretty cool. Granted, she's a little preoccupied with her three kids, but she has a good sense of humor and actually engages in a conversation with you.

My brother-in-law (my wife's sister's husband), on the other hand, is damn difficult to deal with. First of all, he doesn't have a conversation with you -- he lectures. He'll talk about in great detail whatever it is he knows or thinks he knows. When he's wrong (and he is fairly often), he'll refuse to admit it and keep talking. The worst part about all of this is he won't let you get a word in (he's too busy lecturing, remember?) and when he's finally finished, he won't pay attention to a word you say.

I remember one time he was telling me -- in great detail -- about how Houston is and what goes on there, since I'm from that city. Well, he's never been to the U.S., let alone Texas. That seems a little presumptuous to assume you know all about a place you've never visited.

Second Vent
While I was instructing an "Introduction to the Internet" class, one woman was making small talk. I forget how it was mentioned, but I must've told her I'm originally from Texas. She seemed surprised and said, "You must've been here a long time. You've lost your accent!"

I told her that most Texans -- especially those living in the major cities, like Houston -- don't have an accent anywhere near the Hollywood stereotype. I then added that assuming Texas is all desert, cowboys and saloons is like imagining Canada is completely frozen, polar bears walk down the street and people live in igloos.

She didn't want to listen and kept with: "But I've seen Texas on TV!" wacko.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-11 10:24:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (trailmix @ May 6 2009, 09:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ May 6 2009, 12:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (trailmix @ May 6 2009, 09:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Are you saying if you decided you really wanted to move back to Canada (say the family found a job for you that you just couldn't refuse, for instance) - that your Husband wouldn't come with you?

I just couldn't imagine going through the immigration process again. wacko.gif


I've done 5 immigration processes. It gets easier laughing.gif

Five? Where have you gone? tongue.gif

To be honest, my wife and I have considered moving to the U.S. at some point. My wife likes the northwest states the best (Washington, Oregon and to a lesser extent, California), so that's always a possibility. At least we'd be together during the process, so that'd make immigration far more bearable.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-06 11:47:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (trailmix @ May 6 2009, 09:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Are you saying if you decided you really wanted to move back to Canada (say the family found a job for you that you just couldn't refuse, for instance) - that your Husband wouldn't come with you?

I just couldn't imagine going through the immigration process again. wacko.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-06 11:42:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ May 6 2009, 07:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
And some people never accept it or they just keep bouncing back between acceptance and bargaining.

My mom keeps offering me jobs to move back to Canada, they are literally trying to create a really good paying job for me. That's great for me but what about my husband he is doing so well here.

Oh this isn't a vent but my husband is about to be promoted to associate partner at his design firm. biggrin.gif

So proud of him!

Here's a question: If you did move back to Canada, what about your husband? Sure, you'd want him to come with you, but he'd have to immigrate to Canada (and even though that can be quicker than the U.S. version, it still takes time) and then find a new job himself.

If you don't mind me saying so, it seems like your mother is acting a little short-sighted.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-06 11:00:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ May 5 2009, 09:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I should have just called out today, my day started off bad and is just getting worse.

To start things off I had a screaming 10 year old throw himself on the floor because I refused to make bacon with his waffles. My mother NEVER made me waffles on a weekday, he should have been happy that I was doing that. I am stopping at Wegmans on the way home tonight and buying a couple of jars of baby food, you want to act like a baby? Here eat this.

Then I come to work and things just feel like they're piling up with no end in site.

Oh and because of this lovely weather I now have a migraine.

Greeaaat. I just love being ####### on. tongue.gif

A 10 year-old? I could maybe see a 5 year-old doing that, but 10? That kid needs to grow up a little.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-05 11:49:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ May 4 2009, 10:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Holy #######, I just got off the phone with Enterprise car rental. They have a special deal with this insurance company for situations like this. This is a a kia that looks like a fat SmartCar. I don't want to sound like a snob, but I'm not driving that piece of sh!t. I think i'll end up paying a bit out of pocket to get the nicer car.

There are several different tiers of cars with any rental company. Which did you choose? Whatever you do, don't pick an "economy" car. Those are the worst of the lot. I'd also remain wary of the "luxury" cars available. Rental car companies often have Cadillacs or Lincoln Towncars under that category, neither of which drive well and are the size of a small boat.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-04 13:43:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Sprailenes @ May 3 2009, 02:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When I worked at Sainte Marie among the hurons, they'd come in and propose to me. Apparently in Germany they love their native americans... one time I got cornered as one tried to kiss me while his friend took pictures. It was quite scary.

They'd say things like: "I bring you home with me and make you my princess" laughing.gif Suuure there buddy.

Sounds like he wanted you to have some weisswurst... unsure.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-04 03:05:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Holliday @ May 1 2009, 09:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm pissed off. My bank card got copied and $500 was stolen from my account today. I'll get it back (I assume), but I'm still pissed.

I'm sorry to hear that happened. Fortunately, credit card lenders know they can't force the account holder to pay for what someone else did (provided the charges didn't come from an authorized user). That's why credit card lenders will sometimes put a stop on your card and require you to call them (or they'll call you) if your spending habits drastically change or you make an extremely large purchase. They want to make sure it's you using their card.

Anyway... I wouldn't worry. Your current account will be deactivated and you'll get issued a new card.

I remember the first time I had a credit card of my own (I had been an authorized user on one of my parents' cards before) and tried purchasing something online, my card's number was stolen. MBNA -- before BoA took them over -- alerted me to the situation and asked if the charges were mine. They weren't, so they got me a new card.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-05-02 10:43:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Randomizer @ Apr 30 2009, 04:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Apr 30 2009, 07:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So, if you want to argue (dont' want to need to go into insults and get anyone banned) we can do it in OT.

Argue right here. ####### is this, the principal's office? Well if it is... I just shot the principal. He dead. Now let's go.

But did you shoot the sheriff? What about his deputy? unsure.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 18:14:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes, perhaps something nasty was said about you. I'm sure you want some sort of apology. But how is that going to occur when you return the attack?

When someone (or a group) is attacked, the very last thing that's thought of is rendering an apology. Those who've been attacked react in a defensive -- and sometimes offensive -- manner. I'm sure you can agree, given your situation.

The problem with all of this is that very little gets done when two entities are opposed to one another. One group will lash out and then other will respond. The cycle continues.

Why lower yourself to the level of those who originally insulted you? Why not attempt to discuss the issue in a polite fashion?


Come on now DeadPoolX. Yes, that's great advice...but why didn't you offer that kind of "be the better man...why lower yourself" advice to the antagonizers before I even came into this thread? Funny how your first comment to me was to leave because I wasn't wanted here.
Again, until you can take your own medicine, please don't offer it to me.

Well, this is a thread dedicated to venting annoying and irritating issues. It's hardly realistic to expect no one to complain about another individual on VJ. Until you entered this thread, there was no argument or dispute of any kind. It was simply a comment (and one not unusual to VJ at all).

I never told you to leave. I requested it, which is much different. I can't very well order you around. However, it's become increasingly obvious that sticking around in this forum has produced zero results.

All we've done is debate back and forth. What do we have to show for it? Some slight irritation? A disrupted thread? I seriously doubt you feel any better. If anything, I'd imagine you feel even angrier, given everything involved.

So why put yourself through this? It's a waste of time on everyone's part.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 18:04:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
there are no invites..rolleyes.gif


Great, then everyone is invited...right? rolleyes.gif
You really need to get together and create a consistent message.
Either you're all special because of a random circumstance of birth, only those invited can participate, or it's a public forum.
Maybe it's a combination of all 3. Whatever. rolleyes.gif

I never said you (or anyone else) had to be invited. Anyone can post; however, that doesn't mean anyone will "accept" you or want you here. There's a substantial difference between the two.


And YOU are the one who has the power to determine who will be "accepted"?
No...that doesn't sound arrogant at all.

Nope. I don't have the "power" to determine anything on a forum-wide scale. I do, however, have the ability to make a personal choice (as do the others here) and if that choice involves an opinion of someone else, so be it.

Although I must admit... it's more than somewhat ironic that you consider my attitude as arrogant. wink.gif


Sure did sound as if you were speaking from a position of assumed power. Sure didn't sound like you were speaking individually for yourself.
Yes, your elitist attitude does come across as arrogant. Where is the irony? I'm not the one going around saying who is worthy or will be "accepted" to post where.

You're missing the point.

You might have a legitimate complaint. Your methods, however, won't get your very far. Try speaking to us in a polite manner, without sarcastic or antagonistic language. You might be surprised how people react. Maybe you'd even get an apology for whatever was said about you.

As it stands right now, very few are even listening to you. So you're merely banging your head on a brick wall. Hardly constructive, is it?


There you go speaking for the masses again. How can someone being attacked be considered antagonistic? That sounds like LAPD logic.
"The more I beat him, the more he antagonized me by throwing his body into my baton".

Yes, perhaps something nasty was said about you. I'm sure you want some sort of apology. But how is that going to occur when you return the attack?

When someone (or a group) is attacked, the very last thing that's thought of is rendering an apology. Those who've been attacked react in a defensive -- and sometimes offensive -- manner. I'm sure you can agree, given your situation.

The problem with all of this is that very little gets done when two entities are opposed to one another. One group will lash out and then other will respond. The cycle continues.

Why lower yourself to the level of those who originally insulted you? Why not attempt to discuss the issue in a polite fashion?

Edited by DeadPoolX, 30 April 2009 - 05:51 PM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:50:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Randomizer @ Apr 30 2009, 03:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In all fairness, some heads need banging against a brick wall.

Well, it can be a fun indoor or outdoor sport, I'll give you that. smile.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:32:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
there are no invites..rolleyes.gif


Great, then everyone is invited...right? rolleyes.gif
You really need to get together and create a consistent message.
Either you're all special because of a random circumstance of birth, only those invited can participate, or it's a public forum.
Maybe it's a combination of all 3. Whatever. rolleyes.gif

I never said you (or anyone else) had to be invited. Anyone can post; however, that doesn't mean anyone will "accept" you or want you here. There's a substantial difference between the two.


And YOU are the one who has the power to determine who will be "accepted"?
No...that doesn't sound arrogant at all.

Nope. I don't have the "power" to determine anything on a forum-wide scale. I do, however, have the ability to make a personal choice (as do the others here) and if that choice involves an opinion of someone else, so be it.

Although I must admit... it's more than somewhat ironic that you consider my attitude as arrogant. wink.gif


Sure did sound as if you were speaking from a position of assumed power. Sure didn't sound like you were speaking individually for yourself.
Yes, your elitist attitude does come across as arrogant. Where is the irony? I'm not the one going around saying who is worthy or will be "accepted" to post where.

You're missing the point.

You might have a legitimate complaint. Your methods, however, won't get your very far. Try speaking to us in a polite manner, without sarcastic or antagonistic language. You might be surprised how people react. Maybe you'd even get an apology for whatever was said about you.

As it stands right now, very few are even listening to you. So you're merely banging your head on a brick wall. Hardly constructive, is it?
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:30:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 05:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
there are no invites..rolleyes.gif


Great, then everyone is invited...right? rolleyes.gif
You really need to get together and create a consistent message.
Either you're all special because of a random circumstance of birth, only those invited can participate, or it's a public forum.
Maybe it's a combination of all 3. Whatever. rolleyes.gif

I never said you (or anyone else) had to be invited. Anyone can post; however, that doesn't mean anyone will "accept" you or want you here. There's a substantial difference between the two.


And YOU are the one who has the power to determine who will be "accepted"?
No...that doesn't sound arrogant at all.

Nope. I don't have the "power" to determine anything on a forum-wide scale. I do, however, have the ability to make a personal choice (as do the others here) and if that choice involves an opinion of someone else, so be it.

Although I must admit... it's more than somewhat ironic that you consider my attitude as arrogant. wink.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:12:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Randomizer @ Apr 30 2009, 03:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 06:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Randomizer @ Apr 30 2009, 03:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 06:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
there are no invites..rolleyes.gif


Great, then everyone is invited...right? rolleyes.gif
You really need to get together and create a consistent message.
Either you're all special because of a random circumstance of birth, only those invited can participate, or it's a public forum.
Maybe it's a combination of all 3. Whatever. rolleyes.gif

You have to be approved of by the village elders. Very urbane.

There is a traditional ritual involving the ingestion of maple syrup and poutine. After that, you must prove your worth by fighting several beavers and moose inside an enclosed arena.

I'll pass. I think I'll just squat on your ceremonial tribal prayer mat and take a monster dump.

QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 06:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't see any problem with moderator intervention, I just wish it was more consistent in it's application.

As if wink.gif

So long as that dump is in both English and French, it's good. tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:08:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Randomizer @ Apr 30 2009, 03:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 06:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
there are no invites..rolleyes.gif


Great, then everyone is invited...right? rolleyes.gif
You really need to get together and create a consistent message.
Either you're all special because of a random circumstance of birth, only those invited can participate, or it's a public forum.
Maybe it's a combination of all 3. Whatever. rolleyes.gif

You have to be approved of by the village elders. Very urbane.

There is a traditional ritual involving the ingestion of maple syrup and poutine. After that, you must prove your worth by fighting several beavers and moose inside an enclosed arena.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:06:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 03:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
there are no invites..rolleyes.gif


Great, then everyone is invited...right? rolleyes.gif
You really need to get together and create a consistent message.
Either you're all special because of a random circumstance of birth, only those invited can participate, or it's a public forum.
Maybe it's a combination of all 3. Whatever. rolleyes.gif

I never said you (or anyone else) had to be invited. Anyone can post; however, that doesn't mean anyone will "accept" you or want you here. There's a substantial difference between the two.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 17:03:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 02:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 30 2009, 04:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 02:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Apr 30 2009, 04:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In deference to the denizens of this community, i'll drop it here. OT is fair game, or we could pick this back up in your little guide thread if you like. Either way, I have no intent to read any of your comments in this sub-forum. I appologize to the rest of the Canada forum for dragging the troll here. I'll cover my tracks better in the future. oops8rh.gif


In deference to civility and sanity, perhaps you should consider changing your ways. I would especially be grateful if you didn't spend any more time contemplating my #######, ####, or any other parts of my anatomy.

Ling Ling, this is the Canadian forum. Although this entire area is, technically speaking, a public forum, that does not mean we welcome anyone and everyone with open arms. This includes those who wander in here and turn what was once a civil community into something resembling the chaos that is OT.

Maybe some people in here insulted you. Fine. It happens, especially on VJ. However, you've made your point. There's no need to drag this out. Be the "better person" and walk away.


MAYBE some people in here insulted me? Sorry I don't think there's any MAYBE about it, and I don't see where it's "Fine" in any way.
Before you try to start telling ME, whom you consider an OUTSIDER on a public forum, how to conduct myself...I suggest you first check your INSIDER Canadian members, and tell THEM how to act. Perhaps then you would have a leg to stand on.

Why does it matter what some people -- none of whom you've met or will probably ever meet -- think of you or say about you? huh.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 16:47:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (Ling Ling @ Apr 30 2009, 02:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rob and Mel @ Apr 30 2009, 04:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In deference to the denizens of this community, i'll drop it here. OT is fair game, or we could pick this back up in your little guide thread if you like. Either way, I have no intent to read any of your comments in this sub-forum. I appologize to the rest of the Canada forum for dragging the troll here. I'll cover my tracks better in the future. oops8rh.gif


In deference to civility and sanity, perhaps you should consider changing your ways. I would especially be grateful if you didn't spend any more time contemplating my #######, ####, or any other parts of my anatomy.

Ling Ling, this is the Canadian forum. Although this entire area is, technically speaking, a public forum, that does not mean we welcome anyone and everyone with open arms. This includes those who wander in here and turn what was once a civil community into something resembling the chaos that is OT.

Maybe some people in here insulted you. Fine. It happens, especially on VJ. However, you've made your point. There's no need to drag this out. Be the "better person" and walk away.

Edited by DeadPoolX, 30 April 2009 - 04:36 PM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 16:36:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (MrsCat @ Apr 30 2009, 12:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Such a catch 22 DPX. wacko.gif

Sorry no advice to offer. But I think asking the in-laws is fine. I am sure they'd be happy to do it, as I am sure they get that its not easy starting over and would do anything to help.

I think my brother-in-law would do that over my father-in-law. I'm not positive, of course, but he's had work issues in the past and might understand my position better. He's not a "social butterfly" either, so meeting others is sometimes difficult for him.

While my father-in-law is a nice guy and likes me, he has somewhat odd ideas about meeting people. He's told my wife (and me indirectly) that we should just "go out and meet other people." How does that work? Unless there's some sort of common interest, meeting someone else is pretty damn difficult. What are we supposed to do? Go up to a stranger and start chatting? I can't imagine that'd end on a good note. tongue.gif

QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 30 2009, 12:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am sure not all Canadian employers want only Canadian references..

I know when I was applying for work here in the US a few people seemed to not like the fact that I didn't have any US references but most didn't seem to care...

I'm sure some employers would be happy with references from anywhere. However, the trick is finding those employers. In my experience so far, most employers seem reluctant to call the U.S., if for no other reason, it'll cost them if they lack a good long-distance plan.

Regardless, I'm just amazed that volunteering is do damn hard. It's unbelievable that I have to jump through so many hoops simply to work for someone else without pay. You'd think these organizations would always be short-staffed, but apparently they're not.

QUOTE (JillA @ Apr 30 2009, 06:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think that's ridiculous, obviously you moved there from the US how would you have Cnd references. Also what is the problem with them calling Texas it's not siberia, it's still a bloody reference!

It seems that fact is lost on them. It's difficult to move to a new country (as I'm sure everyone here is well aware) and in doing so, most -- if not all -- of your references are from your original country.

Yeah, I'd have imagined that calling Texas wouldn't be too bad. I guess I'm wrong. Hell, one of the references I gave is a friend in northern California, which is a little closer to BC than Texas! How is that any farther away (and any less long-distance) than calling someone in Ontario?
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 10:06:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
Okay... I'm a little annoyed.

BC employers want Canadian references, not those from Texas or anywhere else in the United States. Fair enough. Everyone prefers local references.

But here's the problem: in order to gain references, I apparently require references. I've been attempting to volunteer for various organizations. I figure I could gain some useful references and in the process, actually do some good. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to work.

In order to get "hired" on as a volunteer, I need references. However, since I don't have Canadian references (with the exception of family and that rarely counts), I'm SOL.

You'd think becoming a volunteer wouldn't be so difficult. Most people don't want to give up their relaxation time to "work for free." Yet, here I am, offering to do whatever is needed without pay and I'm still not qualified. Why? Because I need to gain Canadian references.

The only way around this that I can see is by asking my father-in-law or my brother-in-law to act as a reference. I realize they're considered family, but since both have a different surname, no one would know the difference. The trick would be getting them to agree to it. I'm not sure how they feel about lying, which they would be doing in this situation.

Aside from that plan, does anyone here have any advice on what I'm supposed to do? unsure.gif

Edited by DeadPoolX, 30 April 2009 - 02:45 AM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-30 02:42:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 20 2009, 07:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what bothers me is when people talk and talk and don't let you get a word in..

in high school I had a friend like that.. she would call me up and stat yammering away and all I could say was uh-huh or yeah.... one time my mom needed my help so I put the phone down and went to help her and came back and she was still talking, she had not realized that I had left ..laughing.gif

My brother-in-law is like that. He likes to think he's a scholar -- on everything. He's a smart guy, but he can't know everything. That's not a knock against him. It's impossible to be an expert on every subject in life.

QUOTE (Udella&Wiz @ Apr 21 2009, 05:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yep - youth are way too entitled. You can blame the parents (and sometimes society) . Right now overall, we are allowing our children to do more at an earlier age. We want them to have everything and to come by it easily with little personal effort. We as parents make excuses for our kids and swoop in to solve their problems constantly

I'm sorry Amanda - as a parent....I can see other parents doing it and also myself. As for the violence issue -= no respects personal space or authority (again mostly a parenting issue IMO) kids fluff off mostly everything as 'no big deal' And then they become adults and they don't know how to deal with everyday disaapointments or situations that they themselves got into........i think in actuality, they are pissy because there isn't an easy solution like mummy and daddy offer and they have NO problem solving skills to cope.

$500 of parking bills? I assume that's not just a single ticket - how come she didn't get it the first time or 2? I wouldn't have sent a bus for her, just perpetuated the 'you deserve special treatment' scenario....but it was nice of you on a rainy day.

It's funny you should mention that. I picked a book up at the library about that very subject. It's called "The Death of the Grown-Up" by Diana West. I can't say I agree with everything she writes (she seems to somewhat idealize the 1940s and 1950s), but she does make a number of good points.

QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Apr 21 2009, 07:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In hard economic times, sales people are more aggressive. This sucks. On Friday I had a sales lady call me from our copy company asking to speak with me. I pretended I was someone else and said: "Nevada isn't here" and she said: "Okay I'll drop by.." and I said: "Well no, I'll tell her you called and if she is interested, she'll call you"


So today she drops by. I have no clue who she is, she just walked into the office and said: "Nevada?" and I looked up and said yes. And she proceeded to talk to me about copiers and blah blah blah.

I was sooo annoyed at her. I mean she's assuming I have nothing else better to do. We have your crappy copiers and duplicators and they have been nothing but a pain in our necks. Go away! So I just told her how much I hated the copier and how we have someone servicing it every other week, and then she asks me to demonstrate the problem. No! I am busy! So I just told her to leave her stuff with me and if I am interested I'll call her. She asks me to set up an appointment and I tell her again: "If I am interested, I will call you"

Then she asks me for my last name and I tell her I am not allowed to give out that information. laughing.gif

She got really confused and I guess she got the hint because she finally left.

I've always found salespeople to be overly aggressive. I'm not quite sure what they expect from that. If someone begins annoying me, I'm far less likely to listen to them, let alone purchase something from them. Usually management forces them into it, if by nothing else, through commission.

I remember working at Future Shop on a seasonal basis. The commission sales there were so cutthroat that salespeople would steal customers from one another and often right in front of the original salesperson. That cause fights, many of which occurred right in front of the customer. That's unprofessional to me.

I was "let go" because I didn't hound people to the point of annoyance and I actually tried to help them, as opposed to selling them ####### they didn't necessarily want. I think a good salesperson puts greater effort into making their store friendly and helpful. Even if someone doesn't buy something that time, they're more likely to return if they received help instead of pushy sales techniques. Better yet, they'll recommend the place to their friends and family. Long-term customers are worth a lot more than a quick sale here or there.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-21 21:18:00
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QUOTE (Emancipation @ Apr 20 2009, 09:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (TheATeam @ Apr 20 2009, 12:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I thought that having a midwife was much more expensive than a doctor. Although, now that I think about it, it's probably not more expensive than going to the hospital. Hopefully all goes well and she won't have to make an emergency trip to the hospital!

It's about 3-9 thousand for the birth in the hospital and about 500$ for the midwife, so quite a bargain. I think midwifery in ONT is quite accepted, as in you don't have to have the baby in hospital, they do home births all the time.

Two reasons I prefer doctors to midwives:
1. If complications occur, the doctor (and staff) are better prepared to handle it.
2. Whatever bodily excretions that are produced before, during and after birth remain at the hospital, instead of your home.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-20 11:32:00
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QUOTE (autumnchik @ Apr 20 2009, 08:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My vent is that DPX is confusing me by switching screen names!!! tongue.gif

The trap has been sprung! Release the hounds!

QUOTE (Emancipation @ Apr 20 2009, 08:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Apr 20 2009, 11:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Emancipation @ Apr 20 2009, 08:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
SO.. in the continuing Sega of my Japanese friend, she now has a mid-wife and is having a home birth because she doesn't have medical insurance. HOLY blink.gif

Isn't she in Canada? I thought all provinces had basic health insurance. Maybe birth isn't covered since it's technically a voluntary situation?

She's not legally entitled to any benefits in canada.. she's out of status. She gets nothing until her PR status is in place (+ 3 months for being in ONT). She's outta luck.

Common error though.. Canada just doesn't give out free health care.. you have to be contributing to the system. She's not entitled to work, so she's not paying in. Have to give something to get something.. nothing is free in this world.

I didn't know about the out-of-status issue, but I definitely agree with the other comment. I've always said there's no such thing as "free health care." It's paid for by taxes, which in effect, does not make it "free."
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-20 10:58:00
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QUOTE (Emancipation @ Apr 20 2009, 08:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
SO.. in the continuing Sega of my Japanese friend, she now has a mid-wife and is having a home birth because she doesn't have medical insurance. HOLY blink.gif

Isn't she in Canada? I thought all provinces had basic health insurance. Maybe birth isn't covered since it's technically a voluntary situation?
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-20 10:29:00
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QUOTE (ashenflowers @ Apr 19 2009, 12:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow... there are a lot of girl gamers, all of which I'm sure would be pissed off at that response. I work with no less than THREE girls who consider themselves gamers, one of which is actually going to school for game development (and I'm sure she's the only, or one of very FEW girls in her class)... they're still a minority in the gaming world, but it's CERTAINLY not THAT rare that he should've reacted like that, and regardless that was rude nonetheless. ARGH.... I hate guys like that. It makes it all the harder for women to prove themselves in a man's environment.
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My mom had a similar experience, but instead of EB Games it was a Mercedes dealership. She called them up and the salespeople were extremely dismissive of her. They even told her to "bring her husband" when she stops by if she's serious in purchasing from them.

Needless to say, my mom wasn't too happy at their response. She ended up getting a Lexus instead. biggrin.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-19 14:22:00
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So... my wife goes to EB Games and starts looking around the PC and Wii gaming sections. One of the store's staff walks up to her and asks, "Can I help you look for something?"

She replies that she's "just browsing." The salesman then says, "What does your boyfriend like? Maybe I can suggest a game or two."

My wife looks at him and responds, "I'm married and I'm looking for a game that I'd like to play; not my husband."

The salesman apparently takes a melodramatic step backwards and says, "Wow! A girl gaming? That's pretty unusual."

Heavily annoyed, my wife left the store. I certainly can't blame her.

I can't understand why any salesperson would act that way towards a potential customer. If you piss a customer off, not only will they refuse to buy from you, but they'll tell family and friends about their negative experience. Even if that salesman thought "girl gamers" were an anomaly (which they aren't today), he should've kept his mouth shut.

The funny thing is my wife has been gaming for a long, long time. She started off with Zork, which I'm sure was released before that salesman was ever born. She and I actually met on a Sierra On-Line message board (through the Gabriel Knight and Quest For Glory sections) as she plays lots of Adventure Games, or at least she did in the 80s and early-to-mid 90s.

Edited by DeadPoolX, 19 April 2009 - 10:23 AM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-19 10:22:00
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QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Apr 17 2009, 10:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I remember when I worked at a factory in Canada my MALE boss came into the LADIES ROOM and went to stall I was in and started pushing a steel rod through the cracks of the stall asking me if I could weld it to another part.

I was like: "DUDE WHAT THE EFF!?"

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I've known some women to use the men's bathroom before.

QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 17 2009, 12:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i burn really easy.. tongue.gif

one time we went to the beach and I used this sunblock that looked kind like chapstick and you kind of rub it on and I thought I had spread it evenly over my legs but by the time I left the beach I had zebra stripes on my legs ...lol

I once got a sunburn during CapitalEx (I think it used to be called Klondike Days) while in Edmonton. I found that odd since I've lived in Houston my entire life and never once got a sunburn.

QUOTE (JillA @ Apr 17 2009, 04:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (SapphireDreams @ Apr 17 2009, 07:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That's terrible Jill!


Isn't it!? And my sister has always struggled with her weight, she has a thyroid condition which makes it difficult for her to lose. She is a very healthy eater and exercises alot, so she's always been sensitive about her weight as it's a health condition.

Sounds like hypothyroidism. I've got that too. I'm on 1.25mg of Synthroid.

QUOTE (thetreble @ Apr 17 2009, 05:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
A size 12 also isn't plus sized. I'm a 12 and sometimes even a 14 but I've never had to shop in the plus size department. I'm on the taller side for a woman I guess, even though I'm only 5'7". I definitely could be a lot thinner than I am, this is true...but if she's a 12 she's not plus sized. (in my opinion..I certainly don't feel that way)

Regardless, I'd be calling corporate or writing a letter. Disgusting customer service.

My wife was complaining about her size earlier this week. I really don't see why she thinks she's fat. On a bad day, she's maybe a size 8. She said her problem is there are no size standards and it's hard to find clothing that fits well and looks nice.

QUOTE (MrsCat @ Apr 17 2009, 10:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I loved the new house. Until I saw this tonight. He was 5 inches long. And my lame husband waited to feed the pets before killing him and now he's wandering through the house.

A cane spider. dead.gif


Hmm... looks like a Brown Recluse to me, but it's far too large at five inches. tongue.gif

QUOTE (Texanadian @ Apr 17 2009, 10:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Niiiiice. wacko.gif

We don't get that many spiders. But do get a lot of bugs. I find these things inside a lot during the winter. (sneaking in where it's warm). I've lost count of how many times I've opened the bathroom closet only to find one scooting around in there. Wound up taking everything out and bleaching everything. Roach poop looks like small chocolate sprinkles. At least it's not gooey.

They fly from time to time as well. They're around more often during the summer (hot, humid). But at least they tend to stay outside during the summer. Nothing like turning on the bathroom light in the middle of the night and seeing one of these run and hide somewhere.



Tree roaches. Lovely. They like oak trees a lot, but yeah... Texas has some big roaches.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-18 12:19:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
Or you could just visit Surf The Channel. tongue.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-16 12:32:00
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QUOTE (July09Bride @ Apr 13 2009, 06:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why do some people think that getting answers directly and constantly and very repeatedly from another person instead of finding information out on his/her own is better. I mean, I know I ask a lot of questions... but at least I ask them in the forum and don't bug anyone constantly in PMs. Oyyy....

Apparently some people feel it's easier to ask questions rather than search on their own. I don't understand that. Looking at the situation in a purely self-serving manner, it's far quicker to do your own research. I could look something up on Google (or wherever) within minutes instead of relying on someone else to post or e-mail back at some future date.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-15 02:24:00
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It's simply amazing how many idiots, self-righteous a$$holes and know-it-all types fill OT. If the people in there are any indication of what the "average person" is today, no wonder society is falling apart. mad.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-13 14:29:00
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My wife and I were driving a couple of days ago and she was tired of listening to my CD collection. How can someone get tired of bands like KISS and Judas Priest? blink.gif

So she turned on the radio and after a moment, a song she obviously knew came on and she said to me, "You have know this one." I honestly didn't and in disbelief, she said to me: "Material Girl. You know, Madonna?"

I knew of the song, I just hadn't heard it. What really struck me was that Madonna sounds so much younger when singing that song than she does today. Yes, I know she was a lot younger, but it's amazing to realize how our voices continue to change throughout our lifetime.

Looking Madonna up on Wikipedia, it says "Material Girl" was recorded in 1984. Madonna was born in 1958 and today she's 50 years-old; she'll turn 51 this August. So when "Material Girl" came out, she was 26 years-old. That's a big difference.

Now then... what's my vent? My wife was singing along with that song and now it's stuck in my head. mad.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-13 12:32:00
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QUOTE (Krikit @ Apr 8 2009, 12:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (BermyCat @ Apr 8 2009, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When doctors tell you something is going to hurt a little, it hurts like hell. cray5ol.gif

~ Catherine

Could you imagine if they told you it was going to hurt like hell?!! ohmy.gif laughing.gif

The first time I visited my wife, I got a blister on my heel that was the size of a loonie. I could barely walk and had to go see a doctor at a clinic. He opened the blister and then started swabbing it with silver. While he was doing that, he asked me: "Are you allergic to silver?"

I'm not, but thanks for asking that ahead of time! At least I got a tetanus shot. I hadn't had one of those in years.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-08 15:02:00
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QUOTE (Krikit @ Apr 8 2009, 06:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Grrrrrrrrrr. Flipping computers. mad.gif

What's wrong?
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-08 08:50:00
CanadaThe Vent - Part 2
I hate government.

The ICBC office I went to told me that I have 30 days in which I am required to get an AirCare inspection. Canadian Tire told me I didn't have to if my car is getting registered for the first time and merely needs to pass it before my first insurance renewal. That same ICBC office said "Canadian Tire doesn't know what they're talking about."

Okay, so I was more inclined to believe ICBC. After all, they insure vehicles, right? Even so, I decided to check online and right on ICBC's website it says the EXACT SAME THING that Canadian Tire told me.

So either that particular ICBC office had no idea what their own rules were or they were somehow attempting to rip me off. Either way, I'm a little concerned when the sole provider of auto insurance in the province has absolutely no clue.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-07 17:32:00
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QUOTE (JillA @ Apr 7 2009, 12:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Despite all the difficulties that come with raising kids, I can't wait for the day I get to start a family biggrin.gif I look forward to the challenges and joys very much.

I wish you luck. Just because kids aren't for me, doesn't mean they can't be a very positive endeavor for others. smile.gif
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-07 14:25:00
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thetreble:
I know I sound like a "#######" but these are my feelings on the matter. Once again, I'm not saying anyone's children here are like what I described nor am I telling anyone here they're a bad parent. I don't know you (in real life) or your children. I can't realistically comment on such and I won't.

I don't see my nieces and nephew when they're at home. But to be blunt, I don't really care if they're perfect children at home. Maybe that's insensitive of me, but when they're home, I don't see them. When they're around me is when I have a problem. Whenever I see them, they act as if they're hopped on speed.

I realize kids can act like that, but it doesn't make the situation any less aggravating.

I never said a child's behavior would tear a family apart. I suppose it could in some rare instances, but overall, you're absolutely correct. What I did say was that a child's actions could create a feeling of resentment and animosity. I don't hate my nieces and nephew, but I'd rather not be around them when they act like I previously described.

I absolutely agree that kids need supervision and that it's unrealistic to expect children to be quiet when their mother or father is on the phone. I know I wasn't, but then again, I was severely disciplined by my father when that occurred. I'm not suggesting anyone take my father's route. Getting a babysitter is a good idea, but my sister-in-law is afraid to leave her kids in the hands of anyone but herself.

Marilyn:
That's an excellent idea and if at all possible, I would do it. My distaste for children is trumped by my wife's needs and desires.

trailmix:
You know I agree with you, so there's not a whole lot to say. Thank you for understanding. smile.gif

JillA:
I know I'll receive a huge amount of flak for this, but young children and dogs have a lot in common. The mental state exhibited by both at that time is quite similar. No, I'm not saying that children are dogs.

What I'm getting at is young children tend to act more on impulse based upon their wants without first considering the ramifications of their actions. Dogs do the same. Neither can comprehend certain facets of life and interaction.

That's not a failing on the part of young children or dogs. It's simply a mental limitation. No, I am not saying children are stupid. Their minds haven't matured enough to understand and consider certain concepts. That's all.

The main difference between a child and a dog (among various eating and bathroom habits) is that children eventually grow up and become aware. Dogs, on the other hand, remain the same.

Sprailenes:
I'm sure you're right -- I don't know what it's like to have children and I'm sure discipline is different for everyone. However, I've stated numerous times that I don't wish to have children which voids my potential to understand as "having been there."

Believe it or not, I do try to "understand a little more" when I'm around children. I know that kids aren't entirely responsible for their actions. Once again, that doesn't change the overall frustration I feel.

I probably do whine more than most 5 year-olds when it comes to this subject. There's no way a young child could understand the annoyance they -- or others in their age group -- can bring to an adult.

Edited by Sentinel, 07 April 2009 - 02:20 PM.

DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-07 14:20:00
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QUOTE (*Marilyn* @ Apr 7 2009, 11:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Sentinel @ Apr 7 2009, 11:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (thetreble @ Apr 7 2009, 11:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just think it's kinda selfish to say, "I want to spend adult time with my sister in law without her kids..." You sort of make it sound like you are stuck up a little bit. Is it too much to ask? It's not about being too much, it's about it being kinda out of line and not really any of your concern.

I don't think it's selfish or stuck up. My wife never gets a chance to talk to her sister without the kids present. My sister-in-law doesn't live that close and even when talking on the phone, her kids are in the background making noise and demanding her attention. I don't think it's too much to ask that my wife get to talk to her sister (in an adult context) a couple of times per year.

then why not offer to babysit so she and her sister can go out tongue.gif ...laughing.gif

Not an entirely bad idea, but once again, her sister isn't close. It'd take a lot of planning to do that, but I suppose that's the cost.

Just so you all know, my wife and I have volunteered to watch their kids when it's my sister-in-law's wedding anniversary. While I don't particularly care for children, I realize that my sister-in-law and her husband desire some time alone, especially when it's their anniversary.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-07 13:52:00
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QUOTE (thetreble @ Apr 7 2009, 11:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just think it's kinda selfish to say, "I want to spend adult time with my sister in law without her kids..." You sort of make it sound like you are stuck up a little bit. Is it too much to ask? It's not about being too much, it's about it being kinda out of line and not really any of your concern.

I don't think it's selfish or stuck up. My wife never gets a chance to talk to her sister without the kids present. My sister-in-law doesn't live that close and even when talking on the phone, her kids are in the background making noise and demanding her attention. I don't think it's too much to ask that my wife get to talk to her sister (in an adult context) a couple of times per year.
DeadPoolXMaleCanada2009-04-07 13:48:00