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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNVC Case Number
Medical Fee: USD 213.35 ~ Php 10,454.15 (Nov 14, 2008)

You could get your medical anytime, just bring a photocopy letter from NVC. Less people in the afternoon.

QUOTE (Sweetjuly @ Nov 14 2008, 11:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry guys...last question: blush.gif Does anyone know of the medical exam fee paid at St Lukes in Manila includes all the vaccination requirements.

Thanks VJ's star_smile.gif

rheanickFemalePhilippines2008-11-14 19:51:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresam i missing some documents for the K1?
1. photocopy of my passport-back and forth - good to have but not really a requirement from the beneficiary
2. signed G325A -4 copies
3. passport size and visa size photos - use 2X2 size photo, philippines passport photo is slightly smaller
4. authenticated birth certificate of me and my son( son will be with K2) - not really needed from the beneficiary
5. prepared letter signed by me for Question 18 at I-129 F form -
6. i have also with me an old CENOMAR issued last January 2007-its an old but im planning to send to my fiance as his reference only.. - not needed for now

If your respond for # 5 is just to describe the circumstances under which you met, i think you also need to include a letter of intent. You could buy a card and write your intent on it. That's what i used and it was accepted. My letter of intent was handwritten.

QUOTE (LEIS @ Nov 23 2008, 07:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello everyone! We are in the process of gathering all the vital documents as requirement for the K1 application...im about to the send the required documents from me to my fiance today and thinking guys if im lacking any documents..below is my checklist:

1. photocopy of my passport-back and forth
2. signed G325A - 4 copies
3. passport size and visa size photos
4. authenticated birth certificate of me and my son( son will be with K2)
5. prepared letter signed by me for Question 18 at I-129 F form
6. i have also with me an old CENOMAR issued last January 2007-its an old but im planning to send to my fiance as his reference only..

Am i missing some documents? thanks for the help!

rheanickFemalePhilippines2008-11-22 23:27:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNewbie
Good luck on your journey!!! good.gif

QUOTE (Lovesponge @ Nov 23 2008, 07:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello everyone, I just started the K1 process and OMG it really takes a lot out of you emotionally. I have been reading your posts and I must say I am very impressed, what a great support system you have here. If I had known about this I think I could have avoided some of the the depression that this whole process was putting me through a few weeks ago.
I am completely IN LOVE with my fiancee and my life just wouldnt be complete without him here with me. I had to make an emergency visit to Jamaica last week just to clear my mind. I feel a lot better now and I am ready to move through this process PATIENTLY(what other way is there).
Thank you, Loria

rheanickFemalePhilippines2008-11-22 23:30:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI think I have to cancel my k1 petition, HELP!
QUOTE (josh383 @ Jun 11 2009, 02:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just found out last night that my fiancee's visa will be denied because she used to work at a go go bar, I have been informed that if I withdraw the current petition, I can file a new one that will reflect on the situation better. We don't need judgement, just advice. We are both good people, she did what she had to in order to feed her baby after the father beat her nearly to death and left them in the street. I don't know what to do now, there is so much at stake here.


If that's her background, there is a possibility that she fits a certain profile for visa fraud, she might be using you to get to the US.

BTW, who informed you? Is this info from someone you know?

Edited by rheanick, 11 June 2009 - 09:58 AM.

rheanickFemalePhilippines2009-06-11 09:55:00
PhilippinesStranger things have been said...BUT

Hello to all the Philippine VJer's -

Well I am back again with possibly another controversial topic but this time it kinda hit closer to home rather than the randomness of a piqued interest topic. Anyway before I dive right in a little background about me. Well I am a Black American (ooohahhhhhwhoa!) Yes it is true, I am also educated (wow really!) yea heard that one too LOL, own my home (yea Black people can own things these days) have a decent career (no its not in pharmaceutical entrepreneurship) :no: I am not privileged yet to own a bass fishing boat like my buddy Tallcoolone (jealous). I have traveled all over the world and have been blessed with a decent life with little to complain about. I have been to Philippines several times now and found it to be a home away from home. I have always been treated with open respect and in some parts like a rock star but a few episodes ago my fiance shared something interesting with me one of her friends said to her...

This other woman who I will not name asked my fiance "Aren't you afraid of black guys" :wow: so I was inclined to contact this lady to entertain her reasoning, but I let it go. Then just last week while my fiance was at the Embassy for her interview another lady of filipino roots said to my fiance "I am afraid of black guys they have big builds" WTH!...wait there is more, so my fiance is part of this Pretty ladies (VJ) group on FB and some member decided to share that black guys in America beat and mistreat their pinay wive...I mean really now.

It is so funny how these women feel as if they were not being disrespectful in any way to my fiance and other women of filipino roots who have healthy relationships with men other than white. So my question to any of you who feel inclined to comment, what is the problem? So is my color that big of an issue to filipino's and why would these few ladies being so vain to think its not rude and disrespectful to pose those questions?

I understand that men of color are underrepresented in Philippines and in terms of dating and potential love interest Brad Pit is the image of choice there BUT I could have fired back and asked this one lady why are you going across the world to marry a man that has been divorced 3 times 2 with pinay and what makes you think you are the one that changes it all for him. Or is it because I am not 55+ and grandfather looking with a healthy pension makes me less desirable? In other words 99.9% of women from the Philippines should be with Older white gents and those who found anything opposite should go slit their risks.

Late


Its a direct indication that these people are ignorant. I met black people from my previous work and they are highly educated (with masters and PhD from respected school in America), very respectful and down to earth people. It is unfortunate that you meet these type of people that judge according to the color of skin.

Regarding your comment of filipinas marrying white guys..Here is a tidbit about the Philippines. Other filipina might shoot me on those but they can fire away...

Filipinos prefer white/fair skin. Majority of filipinos prefer to have fair/white skin. If you want to verify this statement, ask your fiancee teh number of commercial in TV selling whitening products (i.e. soap, skin toner, tablet, spa whitenin procedure.. the list goes on). This kind of attitude goes back as far back as the spanish era. The Maria Clara as described by Jose Rizal in his book Noli Me Tangere with her demure attitude has "fair skin". And the elite of the Philippines are majority mestiza with fair skin. On the other hand, the poor or the obrero in the philippines are dark skinned for working so much under the sun. So between a black guy and white guy... majority prefer white guys.

The only thing that matters is that your fiancee loves you. :-)
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-04-26 09:43:00
PhilippinesIs it really such a bad thing for a filipina to be with a foreign man?

I ask because cathy and i have been having alot of cultural talks of late thanks to some of the posts i have read here and it brought up something i didnt know happened when i was there that she finaly told me. Mind you she is rather passive and lets alot slide, i on the other hand am not and let very little slide.

When i visited cathy for the first time she really didnt stay in my hotel and her parents always made her sister accompany us until they were comfortable with me (which i thought was kinda cool and old school ) The last night i was there we got in late and i was leaving on the early flight so we went back to teh hotel picked up my things and left. Since it was so late her sister stayed home.

When i was in the cab i didnt have any cash to pay the driver as i gave it all out in tips when leaving. We stopped at a BDO to use the atm at like 4 am. i couldnt find my card and was taking a bit longer at the ATM than i realized. Cathy did something odd that i didnt pay much attention to, she got out the car and came to the ATM to ask me if i was alright. I didnt pay much attention at the time cause she was waaay overprotective of me while i was there and we were in a rush to pick up her parents as they were comming to the airport with us to see me off.

Now she tells me that the cabbie said something waaaay screwed up to her and offended her and thats why she got out cause she didnt want to be alone with him in the car. Mind you i was just saying to her Wow that guy was nice, he told me that i better hold onto you becasue you are a keeper, he said you were a good one and must be raised very well because of the way you carry yourself and that i am lucky. When i said that she got upset then told me everything.

She didnt tell me then becuase she said i would make a scene. hehe me, make a scene. hehe.

Now if this was the only time it wolda been nothing, but i had to put a few guys in their place while i was there and she would always tell me "just wear your smile", which kills me when she says that, even when its obvious shes uncomfortable. i mean why smile at someone being rude to you.

She started to explain to me about how some view filipinas who date older foreign men. But i dont fit the mold of the average foreigner coming to the phills.

So im just curious, is it me or have others encountered crazy things when there or am i just making a big to do over nothing?


Its unfortunate that you encounter those kind of thing. But its not limited in the Philippines. I normally travel in my previous work. When i was talking to our company supplier in Singapore and they learned that my fiancee is an american(a co-worker), our supplier told me not to visit certain area in singapore. Coz other people might think that i'm one of those prostitute going out with caucasian guys.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2010-10-29 12:33:00
PhilippinesFilipino Men "Most Narcissistic in Asia"

Filipino men "most narcissistic in Asia"


I met few narcissistic male.. i just ask them what toner they use for their face and what scent of lotion they prefer. :-)
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-04-27 15:33:00
Philippinesam I cheap?

This is one of the strangest threads. Every single person, except one, agrees with what is going on; but only one person said anything to make the OP think. Well, I honestly hope every other person on here is wrong and that other person is right. Good luck.


I have an idea of that one person. Birds of the same feather stick together. :bonk:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-01 22:51:00
Philippinesam I cheap?

Are you really talking in dollar here not peso?
You are letting her know that you are not a rich guy but you are spending money like a rich guy then you are sending mixed signals.
Expect that she would be the same when she gets to the US.
Good luck. Hope she is worthy of all those money you are wasting.
Hope she wont leave you for another guy once you dont have money to spend for her.

BTW, you are NOT CHEAP. She is the GOLD DIGGER


Reading your aotehr posts... ASK HER TO SIGN A PRENUPTIAL! Coz she is the type of girl that will leave you alone once the money runs dry.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-01 18:57:00
Philippinesam I cheap?

Hi Guys,

I know I should not be posting this personal information about my relationship with my fiancee but I am getting a bit worried. Let me give you some details about the situation so that you can understand me. Okay?

First of all I am not a rich guy. I have mortgage, car's payment, etc to pay. I am the only person generating income in my house, hint, I live alone. I always tell her, listen Mary, I am not a rich guy. I am just a regular guy who works to pay bills and save very little. She does not registered that. What part of "I am not rich she does not understand" ?

Back to the topic:
"SHE ALWAYS CALL ME CHEAP. ALWAYS."

Break down:

trip #1.

I bought a package that included hotel and plane tickets. So my package was paid before going to the phi. I took in cash to the Phil.($3,500 dollars for a week) just to spend. And we spent it all. I don't carry money there. I let her carry it.
Total cost for 1 week: about $5,600 including the package.

Trip two:

Same thing....same amount spent in cash in 1 week. We spent it all.
Total cost for 1 week: about $5,300 including the package.


In between:

She wanted latest Blackberry, dslr camera, new laptop, money to pay her rent, money to shop, money to eat out,, etc. We spent $600 dollars for her kid birthday in the phil about $1,200 dollars for her birthday,. I know it is not a lot for some of you but for me it is. If the kid needs to go to Jolibee, I send $100 or so for her kid to go to jolibee not often though. But every now and then.

Sometimes when I need to send budget for her niece, who is going to college, and by mistake by sending 500 to 900 extra, (because of conversation mis-calculations error) I tell her give that extra to your kid for an ice cream or so, she accepts it as if I am sending the kid a penny. :(


She went back to the Phil. and I am supposed to budget for it. The total amount came to be roughly 154,000 PHP. I sent 152,000 pesos. Guess what? she called me cheap. I know we agreed that I am supposed to send 154,000 but 2,000 less that is like 50 dollars. Guys the problem is when I use the conversation rate, I always screw up with that. Either extra or less.


*Do not forget all the visa fees, medical, and so forth for Mary and her kid"

If I add up the total amount it is about: $25,0000 - $30,000 dollars in less than a year.


Conclusion:

Each time she asks me to send her something, If I don't send the right amount she calls me cheap and that she thinks our relationship will not work because we already have budget problem.

I already told her I can not spend money at this rate. I really can not afford this any more :(. Jobs are so hard these days. I am working today but we don't know what tomorrow will bring. At this rate my saving will be gone soon :(. I left out many many more details about.

Am I cheap from what I explained? am I doing correct thing by letting her know I am not a rich guy? I think it was the right thing to do. Well, sometimes I do give her a hard time before I send but it is not because I am cheap. It is because I can hardly continue spending like this :( I am not shy to say it and I told her just like that.

She has her visa on her hands to come to USA. I am so nerveouuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!!!!

Comments are welcome.


Are you really talking in dollar here not peso?
You are letting her know that you are not a rich guy but you are spending money like a rich guy then you are sending mixed signals.
Expect that she would be the same when she gets to the US.
Good luck. Hope she is worthy of all those money you are wasting.
Hope she wont leave you for another guy once you dont have money to spend for her.

BTW, you are NOT CHEAP. She is the GOLD DIGGER

Edited by rheanick, 01 May 2011 - 06:54 PM.

rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-01 18:53:00
Philippinesto all first time driver (shere your experience)t

What is an HHR SS? After she is ready, I am planning to get her an X3 BMW SUV or bmw 328xi because we get snow here. Want her to drive same brand I drive.


Let her try to drive BMW SUV first if she wont have a hard time with the steering wheels. The BMW 328xi is quite easy to drive though i dont like the limited visibility at the back. This comment is due to being used to driving SUV car.

Basis on my input, Im buying a new car this december, did a test drive with BMW sedan. We have an BMW SUV, hubby wants me to have it but i find its quite heavy for me.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-11 18:20:00
Philippinesto all first time driver (shere your experience)t

I am so nervous everytime my husband teach me how to drive (para ako hihimatayin lol). Share naman your experience.


Download and memorize the driving manual from DMV.
Read the manual of your car, study and try all the gadgets in front of the driver's seat. Know your car.
Collect yourself and drive.

Simple rule, dont hesitate, if you would press on the gas, press on it. Also, memorize the dimension of your car. This saved me from several possible accidents in the Philippines.

Driving is fun here in the US.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-11 17:44:00
Philippineshypothetically speaking
Would the moderators be able to verify if JR IS A BIG TROLL???
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-19 15:58:00
Philippineshypothetically speaking

The pleasure of giving is giving without expecting anything back.
The art of forging is an art that not many possess.

:reading:


And common sense is not really common at all. :whistle:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-18 14:13:00
Philippinescourt-less relationship

Just a question.

Assuming one of them comes with her first love from phil. would she be home sick and bored?

Just a question


YES!!!

People have emotion. And emotion varies. There are ups and downs.

I'm starting to think that JR favorite movie is Dumb and Dumber.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-23 12:46:00
PhilippinesInter-Cultural Marriages and effect on Children

Hi guys. I am writing about Inter-marriages and its affect on children for my Psychology class. I need to write a 7-10 page paper and I think I'm running out of ideas :crying:. Do you have anything to share like, how do kids handle differences in language, religion, food etc? Who has more authority or who do they go to when something bothers them? How does friends and relatives of each side affect them? Do they think they're "different"?
Thank you in advance. :)


You have to direct these question to Kids since they are the main subject of your paper.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-24 16:03:00
Philippineslet's talk about American Food

Food preference varies per person. You could ask by asking your fiance favorite meals. But still cook the food you like.
My hubby dont really eat rice before. He was an expat in the Philippines for several years and he never tried eating any filipino food.
Now, he prefers rice on all our meal.


Retyping my response...

Food preference varies per person. You could start by asking your fiance favorite meals. Learn to cook those dishes. But, you should still continue cooking your favorite meal.

My hubby was an expat in the Philippines for several years. He never tried any filipino food.

Btw, i dont really cook before i got married. The internet becomes my most useful source of recipe.

And being a filipina, rice is a normal thing with me. I always incorporate rice in our meal.

Now, if you would ask him to choose between potatoes and rice for a side dish, he would get rice.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-24 16:52:00
Philippineslet's talk about American Food

All my life I grew up in the Philippines and I only know Filipino dishes.
Leaving my home means leaving some dishes and adjusting to a new life, new food, new culture and new friends.

I am a big fan of Korean, Japanese and Italian food and of course I am pro in terms of cooking Filipino dishes but none of these countries will be my new home but its America. People Im going to meet and brush elbows with are different races but with American taste.

Now, I am wondering what are these dishes that most Americans do love? Simple or complicated dish they usually serve on the table?

Share your recipes and/or ideas (F)


Food preference varies per person. You could ask by asking your fiance favorite meals. But still cook the food you like.
My hubby dont really eat rice before. He was an expat in the Philippines for several years and he never tried eating any filipino food.
Now, he prefers rice on all our meal.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-24 16:32:00
PhilippinesPhilippines travel within 2 years of US arrival

Hoping to hear from some Pinays that have a green card. Anyone out there travel back to PI during there first two years?
I have a Philippines passport in (maiden name) and my green card(2year) is in my (new married name)

Did you purchase your plane ticket in your maiden name? In other words it matches your passport?
What was your experience regarding re-entry to the US...and what was your POE back in the US?

I previously posted something similar to this but did not receive hardly any response...
There has to be someone out there who did this already???


Passport and Greencard same status as yours when i flew to the Philippines last year. Passport in maiden name, green card in married name. I bought my ticket in my maiden name since my passport is in my maiden name. It is the policy of all airlines that the name of ticket and passport should match else expect delays. Had no problem going out of the US.
BTW, i often bring my certified marriage certicate and a photocopy. I often show the photocopy. If they need the original, i would bring it out.

Coming back, in the POE, i used my GC to enter. Even though my passport is in maiden name. The officer put in the data from my GC in their computer. Did not really use my passport in the POE.

No issue at all if your passport is in your maiden name and your GC is in your married name. Just bring your marriage certificate as additional proof.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-28 11:43:00
PhilippinesFilipina wife issues....advice please...

Yeah, it would be interesting to know the experiences of Western expats married to locals with their spouses' extended kin, especially when there are kids in the marriage. It might shine a whole different light on the situation.

Also, this is a country where being an OFW (overseas Filipino worker) is the chief means of economic advancement. Many young women with limited education and job prospects, going abroad to marry some foreigner, might otherwise be applying for a job in the Middle East or neighboring Asian countries to earn dollars.

For sure, there can be true affection involved, but this situation can make for some distorted expectations on the part of the woman's family or the woman herself.


Grace


The humorous side of "supporting extended family" idea is that when the immediate family members (i.e parents, siblings) does not expect supports from USC but the relatives (i.e. uncles, aunts and cousins) expect that the USC supports them since their niece is married to him. This scenario really shows the leeches and parasites in filipino families.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-04-04 12:53:00
PhilippinesFilipina wife issues....advice please...

Divorce

Then get back to PI

Follow my Guidelines for meeting woman in Philippines:

Don't marry a girl from a dirt poor family

Don't marry and uneducated girl, find one with a degree so she can help make you lots of money in the USA

Don't marry a girl with a child

I would keep age range btw 18 and 26, that way she doesn't have any bad habits you need to break

Don't meet someone via the internet, meet them face to face in their Philippines.



You are so smitten with your wife that you could not help but talk about her. :bonk:

You are so smitten with your wife that you could not help but talk about her. :bonk:


And by the way, its not on the age or financial status, its goes with the upbringing and principle of the family and person. :bonk:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-01-20 11:20:00
PhilippinesFilipina wife issues....advice please...

Hey all, first my name is Scott...my wife is from the phillipines...we have been together over a year and married. We have her K1 visa and we are about to go back to the United States. I am a US Soldier and stationed in S. Korea....for the past year I have been sending money to her family, but during this time we have been financially struggeling. My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant with our son, which is amazing bc we have been trying for about 6 months...and while trying i told her on many occassions that once she was pregnant money would STOP to her family..but yet she doesnt see it that way.

It all started after we first met and her 4 year old sister needed eye surgery or she would go blind, it was only 300.00 USD so it wasnt that bad, but after that it was her family with their hand out on payday. I delt with it but now i cant because my son's future is at stake.

I was sending 350.00 USD every 2 weeks....totaled 7,500.00 USD in 1 year, and then I sent her home with 3000.00 USD when she went home to visit. She has 9 brothers and sisters, two of the boys being 20 and 21. She is the oldest child.

Last night I made a comment on her facebook about how happy I was we were having a son, i check later and her oldest brother posted "send money home now says momma". Now this made me extremely angry not only did he disrespect my way of life but he posted on my comment about my son with such non-sense.

Today she said she wanted to send 150.00 USD home, I told her no we had discussed last check we would send 100.00 USD every 2 weeks...and thats all. She wont talk to her family about them getting jobs, she just sits quietly and lets them beg and i have to see her upset and crying

This is causing our marriage to be in trouble..I love my wife and will do anything to make her happy...but I cant take this stress anymore...what do i do?!

As of now I am not sending any money to them, and she wont speak to me going on 2 days now....


You have to stand on your decision or forever support her family. You owe it to them not to encourage them to be dependent on you. Dont encourage them to be lazy.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-01-18 10:59:00
PhilippinesBringing 2 China Made Tablets to U.S. is this ok?

Define pirated electronics, like what, fake iphones , ipods, and ipads? Doesnt matter, they sell them in the usa


Yes. pirated electronics. Its really cheap in china. And i might be ignorant on this but i have never encountered fake/pirated/illegally manufactured items sold in best buy, costco and other well know electronics store hear in the US.

I dont go to those type of places that sell illegal stuff. You might be exposed with them. But i limit myself to legal stores only. :devil:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-30 00:16:00
PhilippinesBringing 2 China Made Tablets to U.S. is this ok?

No they dont care , just dont bring them in your carry on or anything unless you feel like the hassle of taking them out for security to check at each stop. Why would they care? You can order these same chinese tablets in the usa online


He is refering to fake, illegally manufactured electronics, pirated electronics... Those stuff we order online are made in china but legal.

Illegal and legal products are two different ball games.

Edited by rheanick, 29 May 2011 - 09:53 AM.

rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-29 09:53:00
PhilippinesBringing 2 China Made Tablets to U.S. is this ok?

thanks for your input, folks! especially to the person that shared the revelation that over half the electronics items on the shelves are made in China. i'm sure that's why you get paid the big bucks, champ! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

on the real though, i appreciate all the other explanations. makes complete sense. thank you again. OH NO I'M BEING REDUNDANT AGAIN!!!!! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:


Most of the electronics here in the US are made in China or should i say manufactured in China by the company who owns the rights to build them.

Made in China but originals ( if you are a filipino you know what this means) and Made in China but pirated (again if you are a filipino you know what this means) are totally different things.

If your tablets are pirated, fake, illegally manufactured in china.. i would be careful in bringing them to the US.

You could try bringing them. Anyway, you could be redundant by flying twice to the US coz you were ordered to return the first time due to your "made in china" tablets. :bonk:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-05-29 01:55:00
PhilippinesNEED HELP! Report of Marriage for Phil. Consulate. How to do the affidavit of explanation for delayed registration?

Hi, Is there anyone here who already reported to the Philippine Consulate their marriage? I already saw all the requirements at their website and on May 23rd, it will be our 1 year anniversary. But just wondering if you have any idea on where should I get the Affidavit of explanation for delayed registration? I know it should be notarized but do I have to type it and have it notarized or notary public person will do it for me? If you have some examples too. I would be happy to see it. Thanks.


it is not needed. i reported after a year and my friend reported after 3 years.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2010-03-20 18:52:00
PhilippinesEWTN

Hello VJers,


Sometimes at work, I like to listen to EWTN to listen to their catholic programming.

They have all sort of programming. I like the talk show where psychologies try to help callers from a catholic point of view.

A caller called yesterday and I like to know if the caller uses this forum. Why am I asking this question? His introduction was "Hello this is John, I have a wonderful fiancee from the PI. Soon she will be coming to USA ..then he continues by saying my problem is ......."


By the way for those who cares EWTN is a catholic programming station. They are on the internet, Television channels, and radio stations.

:reading: Respect your first wife as if she will be your last one!


So what is the sense of posting this thread? Any purpose on pointing this out?
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-06-24 13:12:00
PhilippinesWhy do you want to bring your spouse to the USA?

Ya forgot this one....now move along little trollie...move along


Davao City's emergency number is 911
Makati City, its 168
Marikina is 161

It depends on the location and service. Besides the driver, Marikina does have other people in the ambulance to help a patient.

Edited by rheanick, 22 June 2011 - 08:47 PM.

rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-06-22 20:43:00
Philippinescultural differences vs. stereotyping

But what if someone is being "complimentary" and only talking about "their Filipina"?

Here's something that always bothers me. I've seen posts in the past where people compliment "their Filipina" in almost the same way they would brag about their car. :angry:

"I love my Filipina. My Filipina is so reliable and dependable. I haven't had to spend much money on my Filipina either. I'm really happy that I found this Filipina."

That's the type of thing I would say about my Toyota; not my spouse. Those are the type of things I find degrading to hear about a person. I cringe whenever I read anything like that.


If "my filipina" is an established endearment between the couple, then this should not be an issue.

If it is meant the way you interpreted it, then it would be degrading.

My hubby never refers me as "my filipina" .... its "my queen"/ :lol:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-06-28 10:13:00
PhilippinesPlease help..

For as long as the courtship and marriage didnt happen in the Philippines or any place considered Philippine territory and you dont cohabit as husband and wife in the Philippines or Philippine territory no husband can sue his wife for bigamy and vice versa. I had to consult a lawyer before going home to the Philippines to make sure that I wouldnt be facing this charge. This was what my lawyer told me because of the territoriality component of criminal law in the Philippines.

I am now back in the US after a long Philippine vacation. :)



This is you scenario: you got married in other country, you lived with your husband in other country, you filed for divorce in other country. And can i assume that you never filed for your marriage to be recognized in the Philippines. So technically speaking.. you and your husband are both still single in the Philippines since you dont have any documents in the Philippines showing you are married to each other..

Other filipinas scenario: filipinas who got married in the Philippines, filed their marriage certificate in NSO, and has certificate of marriage (CENMAR) from NSO and filed for divorce in other stay while still a Philippines citizen.

TWO SCENARIOS, TOTALLY DIFFERENT BALLGAME!!!

Lets prevent other filipinas interpreting your case to be similar with the scenario that they could get married in the Philippines and then could file for divorce in other countries, get married to someone else without filing for annulment and expect to get away with bigamy.

Edited by rheanick, 01 July 2011 - 02:10 PM.

rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-07-01 14:05:00
PhilippinesLocked Up Abroad

no i am not.
pregnancy's to unwed mothers is a major problem in the phils.
whether you want to admit it or not.

Just to set the record straight, i am a firm believer of this following statement,
"there are no illegitimate children only illegitimate Parents" :bonk: :bonk: :bonk:


80% is really high. Its shows promiscuity and immoral behaviors of our fellow filipina. Where did you get this 80% data? I want to challenge your 80% data.. I still believe that we filipinas have morals and proper upbringing.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-06-24 13:08:00
PhilippinesLocked Up Abroad

pixie77

you said divorce will never be allowed in the phils.
i agree with that 100% however, what about the Muslim population?????
they are free to divorce. i spent alot of time on Mindinao and i have learned this is the truth.
why is this??


Muslim is another ballgame. They follow their own religious law more than the law of the country. Strange though...
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-06-23 11:17:00
PhilippinesLocked Up Abroad

Im sorry but your post can easily be considered illegitimate.
No one looked down upon the man or the woman in this case.
Lets be honest Love is Love and it happens at all the wrong times in some cases.
You stated the law was there to protect the status of the child. Whether being legitimate or not.
Are you kidding me???? There is currently a population growth crisis currently in the Phils.
No one cares about the legitimacy of their children anymore. The mothers nor the fathers are concerned with this issue.
Philippine official claim that if this population growth is not controlled soon they will not be able to feed all the people
in the next 20 years.
80% of the children being born in the phils is currently by unwed mothers.

Now for my opinion of what needs to be done.

Regulate the control of the Catholic Church in the Phils!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The Catholic Church does not allow Divorce and so says the Philippine Law.
If this couple was allowed divorce then this episode of locked up abroad would have never existed.

Freely distribute birth control Pills!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The Catholic Church is against it!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are so many other Catholic rules that have been converted to Philippine Law.

Thats Just my opinion.

Peace


Are you part of the 80% for you to post the above comment? Peace...
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-06-23 11:15:00
PhilippinesI-864: To add or not to add my savings/checking/401k

Question regarding I-864 form.
(OPTIONAL)
Under Part 7: If your income, or total income for you and your household, from line 24c exceeds the Federal Poverty Guidelines for your household size, YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED to complete this part.


Even though your income passed the poverty guidelines,but, still you add your savings/checking and 401K in LINE 26 (ASSETS) on i-864? Is this going to be a problem? My wages is only 36k+. I just want to make sure that it's really enough to support my wife.
Any advice? Should I add my assets or not? Thanks!


My fiancee (hubby now) was/is above the poverty guidelines. But he submitted all his financial stuff(bank, investment, properties, etc...). I never had any problem with my interview.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-07-06 22:46:00
PhilippinesBringing fake items in US

Thank you all so much! :) True, they'll have a hard time telling it the bags are fake or real. Besides, I am not bringing a suit case full of it. :)



This issue is more on the psychological aspect of a person. Other people might not be able to tell if it is fake or not. But knowing deep down that you are bringing fake and in effect lying to others, it up to you...

And i would say, if you mingle with people who are used to all original stuff, they could sense a fake item from afar. :devil:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-07-01 10:30:00
PhilippinesFiancee had abortion years ago

My Fiancee already passed the medical with flying colors. I am assuming from the relies that even at the adjustment of status that there should be no issues in regards to her abortion. I myself, also believe that the decision to have an abortion is also a private issue, and frankly is non of ISCIS's business. I actually JUST checked and neither my fiancee nor myself was aware that abortions in the Philippines is indeed illegal, except for when the mother's life is in danger. As I mentioned, this was six years ago. My Fiancee could not believe what she did then was an illegal act. I will not discuss specifics about my Fiancee's postion in regards to this. I am open to hearing others opinions on this subject. Thank you thus far for the replies, it really means a lot to both of us.


In medical, the docotr do asked if the female patient had been pregnant before. If she said yes, then the next question would be: what happened to the baby. If she said that she aborted the baby, there is high probability that she has to undergo psychological exam.

To the OP... it is a well known fact tha abortion is illegal in the philippines. People both from manila and different provinces know this. There is no doctor that would legally abort the baby of a healthy woman. Most of those people doing abortion are illegal and not licensed to it. And the Catholic, Protestant, and other Christian churches preach that abortion is a sin.

It is very strange that your fiance does not know that abortion is illegal.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2010-04-21 21:41:00
PhilippinesPASSPORT EXPIRING IN MAY - TRIP IN MARCH

Now i know that i can always get free, fast, and accurate answers from my VJ family.

my passport is expiring MAY 3, 2011 and i am going back to the Philippines MARCH 21 till APRIL 25. would it be a possible problem since my passport is about to expire? is there any way i can expedite the renewal of my passport here in the US (consular office in LA)? or is it okay to renew my passport when i get to the Philippines?


Thank you VJ family for helping me with all these.... thanks much!


Dont bother renewing it since the LA consulate need 6 weeks (best time) to give back your passport.

If you would renew it in the Philippines, try to get an online reservation as early as now. Get the earliest schedule as you can. Passport renewal is really worst right now.
If you have contact inside the passport renewal office, give them a heads-up..

Dont bother renewing it since the LA consulate need 6 weeks (best time) to give back your passport.

If you would renew it in the Philippines, try to get an online reservation as early as now. Get the earliest schedule as you can. Passport renewal is really worst right now.
If you have contact inside the passport renewal office, give them a heads-up..


And in your POEA, you dont really need your passport. ALl you need is your GC and driver's license.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-02-24 14:17:00
PhilippinesGrass not always greener

well, it's almost 6 months when the wife and kids arrived in the US. the kids have adjusted very quickly to life here, but the wife has not. she has not even somehow adjusted (IMO). 2 months into being here, i noticed my wife...how should i say it, well not being a wife. what i mean by that is that she very rarely talks to me and we don't even sleep in the same room. every couple of days i ask her if she wants to call home or any of her friends. but she always says no. i know for a fact that she texts and messages (via fb) her friends. she actually communicates with them more than she communicates with me. she keeps saying that the reason why she's cold towards me is that she doesn't like my "ugali". but im not sure what she means because being together for over a decade, she already knows how i am and i have not changed.

last week we had a blow out and she told me that if i was getting stressed with her and the kids, for me to just send them back. if anyone's going to be flying back to the Philippines, it will just be her by herself. i told i was not going to let her just take the kids. later that day i made "lambing" to her just so she would know i wasn't mad anymore. but we got into a little spat again the other day. so now, i just gave up talking to her. i haven't said a word to her since.

i know she's depressed and she's homesick. what i am frustrated about is the fact that 24/7 i get the silent treatment. meaning that if i don't talk to her, she won't say anything to me. i told her that i don't mind her communicating with her friends and siblings all she wants, but all im asking for is that when i get home from work, that she talk to me naman. it doesn't have to be the whole night, but just give me her time so we can just catch up and talk about how each of our days went. but for her, sitting next to me when i get home from work is good enough. she may be sitting next to me, but she's fiddling with her phone texting and messaging communicating with the whole world except me. whenever i ask her if she's ok, she tells me she is and asks why i keep asking her that.

there are other things that i wont get into, but with our recent spat, it has forced me to step outside the circle and look into the marriage. i am actually at the point where im 50/50 about divorce. after everything we've been through in our relationship and marriage, the time when i thought both of us will be happy finally came February of this year. But, i am not seeing her being happy. i am not even seeing her have any feelings towards me. but maybe im just imagining it.

ladies...were you ever cold towards your husband when you got here? and how long did it take you to snap out of your depression?


You have to ask her what are the "ugali" she does not like about you. That would be the start. Remember, once communication stop, the next step is divorce.
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-08-09 13:29:00
PhilippinesWhat are your 'friends' saying?

That is the ideal situation, yes. But sometimes life isnt "ideal". I worked 2 shifts each day to be able to afford to bring my wife here. I barely was earning over the poverty line, as required. My wife got here and she wanted to help "us" financially, since we didnt have enough money left over after the bills to have much of a life. So she took a part-time job. Then I lost my job and had a difficult time finding another. My wife took another part-time job so we could pay the bills. Then she found a full-time job too. While she is working I am watching our baby and taking care of the home. She wants to leave it this way for now since she wants to help me in going back to school for a year so that we can get better off finacially. Then when I get my job after school she will also go back to school and get a better job. And then our son will have a better life too.

So with all the ideallic dreams and good intentions, that is the reality of it, at least for us. We are doing the best we can with what life throws our way, and with God's help who provided those jobs for my wife and the open doors for the future.

Brian in Tennessee



You and your wife would soon have your dreams come true. One step at a time, both of you would eventually get there. :thumbs:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-07-07 02:25:00
PhilippinesWhat are your 'friends' saying?
:thumbs:

It doesn't matter to me what others think. I have been married to my beautiful Filipina 4 years today........ Life is great!!!!!!! :dance:


:thumbs: :dance: :thumbs: :dance: :thumbs: :dance:
rheanickFemalePhilippines2011-07-01 12:31:00