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Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Mar 6 2008, 04:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Gosh is it Friday yet? wacko.gif I am so tired and my head a kill me dead.gif

So what's the next topic? laughing.gif We a go through dem like foolishness laughing.gif


come up with something, Mi done, who's next?? oh wait u had your turn blush.gif
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 16:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Marlita @ Mar 6 2008, 03:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 5 2008, 05:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

YES!!!!! MI waan fi hear deh answer tuh dis...cause all hell is about to set loose inna fi mi family when dem here wat mi a guh duh! laughing.gif laughing.gif IT'S GOT 'STELLA' ALL OVER IT.... mad.gif mad.gif ...But only Ken and I know it's NOT!! luv.gif

Bless,Gill


All now mi a wait fi answer on what to do, mi nuh get it yet!!!

anyway, you haven't told your family about Ken yet?? are they invited to the wedding??


Jengy,

I told my 'supportive' family members and my father. Aunts, Uncles...everyone one else jus a guh haffi find thorugh my family's gossip network! They will all talk ish amongst each other...but not to my face! I tried to tell the 'head' of deh gossip tree last night( so she could kick hoff deh new 'NEWS')...but as soon as she hear seh mi a guh Kingston...she start wan bag ah fussin'! Mi neva even git round fi tell har WHY mi a guh Kingston! laughing.gif

It's exhausting...I told 2 more family members this week...both of them immediately said the sane thing..."Yuh sure hit not Green cyard em a look!" On one hand I know I have matured alot ...cause deh old Gill wouldda cuss dem han keep moving. I see it as them looking out for me...which is sweet! But I'm a grown-a$$ ooman...Good or bad is my decision fi mek!

Yup their all coming to the wedding! It'll be VERY INTERESTING!! laughing.gif laughing.gif

Bless,
Gill



Gill, mi olda sista is the gossip network fi mi fambly. I hate it!! She was the one who told my dad of my engagement before I could do it. And she was the one who spread all this negative thinking and energy about him while I was planning my wedding. Thus making half my family not even support my engagement and not plan to go to my wedding. And don't get me started at how she went on at the wedding. Mi swear!!! Mi wan fi box her right then and there inna mi wedding dress!


that was jealousy, she married???

dyam come in like , mi a write to meself

Edited by Jengles, 06 March 2008 - 03:53 PM.

JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 15:51:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Marlita @ Mar 6 2008, 02:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Mar 6 2008, 08:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good Morning kicking.gif

QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Mar 6 2008, 02:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (BelwinMills @ Mar 5 2008, 11:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Some people just complain a lot so they have something to talk about.



Good point B. Also about the talking EVERYDAY. You both might need a break between so that when you do talk..youknow it's more quality vs quanty.

QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 12:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
sometimes j.a. men talk rough and have no idea how they are coming accross.



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Those are all very good points. Marlita I hope you can talk to Evan and let him know how much it is stressing you. A and I had to cut down on our talking as well when we were separate. We just wasted so much money arguing about God knows what when really all we were was frustrated not to be together. Talk to him and let him know exactly what you told us. Hope it gets better.

Thanks for all the wonderful birthday wishes luv.gif Thanks for the cake Gilly smile.gif



You know I really do think it is seperation frustration on his part. he is not dealing with it at all. he told me that sometimes he misses and needs me so much and that he wonders if i feel the same, and when i don't send him little affectionate notes and stuff he starts to feel depressed. I realize that I get so much support from you ladies and VJ and I kind of know whats going on in the process and he doesnt have that. He is kinda in limbo, not truly understanding why it takes so long even if I try to explain it to him. I do think that even though he wants more time, we need to take a break an talk a bit less. Cause I start to get frustrated and I'm usually really easy going, he's always been a bit more anxious with things. Thanks so much for all your supprt ladies.. love yuh! luv.gif


ooohhh!! he's lonely, mr jengles suffered from this. he used to come home and twiddle his thumbs and just talk to me. to solve this problem, i traveled down there more, he paid for a couple of trips but this was during low season and i'm coming from nyc. i was there at least every six weeks. this way soon after i left he had something to look forward too, can you do shorter but more frequent trips??

QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Mar 6 2008, 02:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 02:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Mar 6 2008, 01:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
English u waant mi forward one pic of use cause mi waan know laughing.gif laughing.gif u betta no wait til him lef mi and den u tell mi..."girl, i had a feeling" devil.gif

lol....mi did look pan unu pic and tink unu match smile.gif



yea ..tank God ! laughing.gif



right??? mek mi go home and e-mail yah a picture, but people say we look like brother and sister, me nuh see it but is what dem seh
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 15:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Marlita @ Mar 6 2008, 02:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 07:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 10:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OK, my question for the day is suppose you had a friend who was in a relationship and for whatever reason, you thought the man was using her.
You have no hard evidence, but you just have STRONG misgivings.
DO you tell her?
Or since you have no hard facts, do you just leave it alone???

If a friend told you that she thought your SO was using you, but had no evidence, how would you react?
Would you prefer she said nothing without hard facts to back it up?



I would tel her, but it's all about the timing. don't tell her when they are all lovey dovey, wait until she complaining about something he did and then say something like. yeah i notice he always does such and such and keept it moving. she may not agree with you are say anything at all, but she will start thinking about it.


But this never works. No woman is gonna listen to another woman tell her about her man....we are just too stubborn that way. I say yall all adults deal wit yuh own problems when dem arise. unless she ASK you something, then say nothing until you have HARD evidence that something bad is happening.


I said she might start thinking about it, I really wouldn't expect a yes u right, right then and there, but let her do her own check and it doesn't have to be about green card, sometimes people use people for place to live an stuff like that.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 15:31:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
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QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Mar 6 2008, 06:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 5 2008, 05:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>


YES!!!!! MI waan fi hear deh answer tuh dis...cause all hell is about to set loose inna fi mi family when dem here wat mi a guh duh! laughing.gif laughing.gif IT'S GOT 'STELLA' ALL OVER IT.... mad.gif mad.gif ...But only Ken and I know it's NOT!! luv.gif

Bless,Gill


All now mi a wait fi answer on what to do, mi nuh get it yet!!!

anyway, you haven't told your family about Ken yet?? are they invited to the wedding??


Jengy,

I told my 'supportive' family members and my father. Aunts, Uncles...everyone one else jus a guh haffi find thorugh my family's gossip network! They will all talk ish amongst each other...but not to my face! I tried to tell the 'head' of deh gossip tree last night( so she could kick hoff deh new 'NEWS')...but as soon as she hear seh mi a guh Kingston...she start wan bag ah fussin'! Mi neva even git round fi tell har WHY mi a guh Kingston! laughing.gif

It's exhausting...I told 2 more family members this week...both of them immediately said the sane thing..."Yuh sure hit not Green cyard em a look!" On one hand I know I have matured alot ...cause deh old Gill wouldda cuss dem han keep moving. I see it as them looking out for me...which is sweet! But I'm a grown-a$$ ooman...Good or bad is my decision fi mek!

Yup their all coming to the wedding! It'll be VERY INTERESTING!! laughing.gif laughing.gif

Bless,
Gill


I thought u did tell anyone, I did the same thing, i didn't tell everyone because originally i had planned to have a wedding up here, but after but they all knew and said oh you never tell me u was getting married, mi just seh, anyway, this is my husband and this is my daughter, because mi never tell mi pregnant either...cause nobody nah tell mi nuttin same way.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 15:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Mar 6 2008, 01:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
English u waant mi forward one pic of use cause mi waan know laughing.gif laughing.gif u betta no wait til him lef mi and den u tell mi..."girl, i had a feeling" devil.gif



you are funny, english couldn't say anything to u, because she neva have any evidence .lol. Lawny did see him a crossroads a whine up pon somebady, but true she a yuh good good friend she never say a ting. cause she cameraphone nah work, put mi woulda at least mention it in passing. blink.gif blink.gif

QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 02:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Marlita @ Mar 6 2008, 02:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Woo! well tell me! Cause if me ah find dis ere out mi ah box im dung!!

Noooooo...your husband looks genuine, he passed the JAEssumption test laughing.gif



English,

i'm loving it, now u a mek up u own words.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 14:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Mar 6 2008, 02:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jomo @ Mar 6 2008, 01:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 11:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
?????

has anyone lost friendships because of your relationships.

for either reason because they thought your s/o wasn't going to make u happy, he was using you or because you were happy??



Nope.


Not here.



mi tink sey, i have to put u on speed dial, i have two starches and lasgne. and somewhere i'm deluding myself that i want to lose 25lbs. i trying to get to the weight i was after I had my daughter mr. jengles and his blasted cooking is making me pile on the lbs.

so mi tell mr jengles a little while ago that mi want to lose the weight and hear him "yes is dat big food weh u a eat a nitetime" "u should eat hard crackers and juice for dinner" nuh jailfood dat??? him nuh even say eat vegetables!!

Edited by Jengles, 06 March 2008 - 02:10 PM.

JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 14:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Mar 6 2008, 01:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 12:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
?????

has anyone lost friendships because of your relationships.

for either reason because they thought your s/o wasn't going to make u happy, he was using you or because you were happy??


I didn't lose any friends but some of my friendships changed. These people supported me while during my long distance relationship with Damien. But when he came the calls stopped or they never ask about him. I think that's strange.

Others didn't expect Damien to do so well or we would last. They never said it but I can tell...



I experienced this and i'm sort of at a loss as to why, and when i go to call, it's oh i was going to call u.

QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Mar 6 2008, 01:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
7 pages since morning. I'm like Gill now....stop it already blink.gif .



hey where you been?? having a good day so far
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 13:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (IrieCat @ Mar 6 2008, 12:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 12:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
?????

has anyone lost friendships because of your relationships.

for either reason because they thought your s/o wasn't going to make u happy, he was using you or because you were happy??



When I was with my daughter's sperm donor (wink) I lost so many friendships. That was my fault. I let him isolate me. But they were my real friends and I got them all back. They just couldnt stand there and watch me life go down the tubes....

I think I have an agreement with all my close girlfriends... if our man is messing around and we know it - we tell. And always give our honest opnion about boyfriends, husbands whatever.... I have known my 3 best friend since kindergarten!


i did that in a previous relationship, but it got me closer to his family and now he hates it, because we are no longer together and his family still loves me. they invite me everywhere, my son calls his mother grandma and his sister is my daughther's godmother.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 12:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
?????

has anyone lost friendships because of your relationships.

for either reason because they thought your s/o wasn't going to make u happy, he was using you or because you were happy??
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 12:40:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 12:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Mar 6 2008, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 07:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OK, my question for the day is suppose you had a friend who was in a relationship and for whatever reason, you thought the man was using her.
You have no hard evidence, but you just have STRONG misgivings.
DO you tell her?
Or since you have no hard facts, do you just leave it alone???

If a friend told you that she thought your SO was using you, but had no evidence, how would you react?
Would you prefer she said nothing without hard facts to back it up?


Hmmm that is a tough one for me. I think a lot of it depends on the friend. If it is someone I am really close with and know that she would appreciate hearing my concerns I would tell her...but only once and wouldn't make a big deal out of it...just sort of a "hey I thought you should be aware" type of talk. If I wasn't too close to the person or knew they couldn't handle it I wouldn't tell them anything unless I had hard evidence. If I had hard evidence I would tell...but again only once and what they choose to do with the evidence is their choice and I would respect their choice as they are grown people.

I would want my close friends to tell me their suspicions or present any evidence they had...but only close friends who I am really connected with. I wouldn't want someone who I am not really good friends with coming and telling me something unless they had really hard evidence.

I'm kinda different in that I would WANT to hear.
I would never let what someone said break up a relationship, but I would like the chance to hear what they think is going down, if even to be able to laugh at the notion.
I would be PISSED if someone I knew said to me AFTER the fact they thought this and that....


right, at that point shut up!!

QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Mar 6 2008, 12:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 09:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Mar 6 2008, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 07:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OK, my question for the day is suppose you had a friend who was in a relationship and for whatever reason, you thought the man was using her.
You have no hard evidence, but you just have STRONG misgivings.
DO you tell her?
Or since you have no hard facts, do you just leave it alone???

If a friend told you that she thought your SO was using you, but had no evidence, how would you react?
Would you prefer she said nothing without hard facts to back it up?


Hmmm that is a tough one for me. I think a lot of it depends on the friend. If it is someone I am really close with and know that she would appreciate hearing my concerns I would tell her...but only once and wouldn't make a big deal out of it...just sort of a "hey I thought you should be aware" type of talk. If I wasn't too close to the person or knew they couldn't handle it I wouldn't tell them anything unless I had hard evidence. If I had hard evidence I would tell...but again only once and what they choose to do with the evidence is their choice and I would respect their choice as they are grown people.

I would want my close friends to tell me their suspicions or present any evidence they had...but only close friends who I am really connected with. I wouldn't want someone who I am not really good friends with coming and telling me something unless they had really hard evidence.

I'm kinda different in that I would WANT to hear.
I would never let what someone said break up a relationship, but I would like the chance to hear what they think is going down, if even to be able to laugh at the notion.
I would be PISSED if someone I knew said to me AFTER the fact they thought this and that....


I see what you mean. I would want to hear it but only from people that are a part of my life. I wouldn't want my co-worker who has seen my spouse all of 2 times tell me what they think about my relationship but I would want my friend or family member that has actually been around us and is actively involved in my life to tell me their suspicions. It all comes down to the source of the info for me.


right, because what do they know.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 12:27:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Mar 6 2008, 12:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lawny thank God you got that stinking woman outta your group!

JAE - No presents...just went out to dinner which was really nice. My siblings are taking me extreme bowling tomorrow night. Bowling in the dark with black lights and some crazy music playing from 9:30-11:30 should be interesting but don't these kids know I am an old woman now and can't stay up that late laughing.gif I am going to have to take a nap first laughing.gif



I am so glad you explained what it was, for a minute there i got an impression of bowling at people. don't mind me.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 12:11:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
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QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 11:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Mar 6 2008, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dang,

Have to go to HR since the girl I was working with filed a grievance against me last week. I cannot work with her becuase of her body order and HR knows about this. It's very OFFENSIVE. I'm not the only one that has complained to her manager. So, she goes and tells them that I cuss her out in my language in front of a room of people. But I think the real reason is does not like me becuase I'm Jamaican and her EX (is also JAMAICAN)...so here we go. I think I'll sit on my HANDS for this meeting. I'll bring a jar of VASELINE just in case

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QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 10:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey Jamie, did you get any presents????

My dear husband gave me NOTHING (apart from dinner) so I am living vicariously through others lol!!



Mine is to the point where he'll say go buy what you want and then show me what I got you! Smart man!!!!


Very smart man.



Is this the same girl, who said doesn't your son have a father??


Yes, a di same one. She was totally out of line. Well, the meeting lasted all of 7 minutes. She didn't know that I had people backing me. Now, she's totally EMBRASSED about her odor. She was told to apologize to me, but she got up and walked out. I told the HR manager that she makes comments about Jamaicans all the time (and I don't go running to HR) to file a grievance. So, now they moved her out of my work group. THANK THE LORD! Now, I can BREATHE a sign of RELIEF.



a sigh of relief and a breath of fresh air. lol

good for you, she started it and then wanted to turn around and file a complaint against you. dumb
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 11:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Jomo @ Mar 6 2008, 11:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You all are making me reflect back today.

Andre and I talked every day for hours a day when we were seperated. I can only remember a few arguments. Otherwise, we used the time to get to know each other better and better. We talked about some crazy stuff all the time. Today, it's much the same. I still talk to him a few times a day via the phone, especially if our schedules conflict. And, we'll sit for hours and talk about crazy stuff, liking the double rocker on our back porch best of all. It's one of my favorite things about us.



I have to work on this when mr jengles comes, back he had gotten so used to us talking through out the day when he was in j.a. and I slacked off when he came up, because to me i'm thinking i'm going home to you, so i'll talk to u when i get there
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 11:35:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Mar 6 2008, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dang,

Have to go to HR since the girl I was working with filed a grievance against me last week. I cannot work with her becuase of her body order and HR knows about this. It's very OFFENSIVE. I'm not the only one that has complained to her manager. So, she goes and tells them that I cuss her out in my language in front of a room of people. But I think the real reason is does not like me becuase I'm Jamaican and her EX (is also JAMAICAN)...so here we go. I think I'll sit on my HANDS for this meeting. I'll bring a jar of VASELINE just in case

QUOTE (Jomo @ Mar 6 2008, 11:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 10:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey Jamie, did you get any presents????

My dear husband gave me NOTHING (apart from dinner) so I am living vicariously through others lol!!



Mine is to the point where he'll say go buy what you want and then show me what I got you! Smart man!!!!


Very smart man.



Is this the same girl, who said doesn't your son have a father??
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 11:32:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 11:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey Jamie, did you get any presents????

My dear husband gave me NOTHING (apart from dinner) so I am living vicariously through others lol!!



de man feed yuh pon ya birthday and yuh a complain....last year mr jengles got me a bottle of wine and had someone make a fruitcake for me...how about i was around 5 months pregnant...
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 11:27:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 10:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have to admit, just by looking at photos even in this thread, I often have a 'notion'.
So far, some have already broken up, there is one I think is DEFINITELY gone as he gets his green card and about 3 other 'hmmms'.....

But the way I look at it, who the hell I am to look at a photo and tell you that he's out for what he can get?

With my friends, I tell them ONCE and leave it.

They are grown, if they can't hear, they will feel.

My good good friend constantly cheats on her husband, she loves him but she says she can't help it.
So I just keep out of it, and ask her to keep me out of it.
Lied for her once when she put me on the spot, but NEVER again.....



sometimes i think people know they are being used but really don't care. they hope the person will stay with them. somone once told me that every relationship has a little using going on. never looked into that part of it.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 10:47:00
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QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 10:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 10:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
English - he has his NY perimit...he tried to get the passport last monday, but when the guy came with the car
there was someting wrong with the car...i called thinking he should be on his way back from town and instead they act the mechanic shop. ugh

ok, that's cool then smile.gif

here in MD, you have to surrender your foreign license when you are issued with the MD one...



because he had to do everything from scratch i was advised not to even tell dmv that he had a j.a. liscense
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 10:41:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Mar 6 2008, 10:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jomo @ Mar 6 2008, 10:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 09:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OK, my question for the day is suppose you had a friend who was in a relationship and for whatever reason, you thought the man was using her.
You have no hard evidence, but you just have STRONG misgivings.
DO you tell her?
Or since you have no hard facts, do you just leave it alone???

If a friend told you that she thought your SO was using you, but had no evidence, how would you react?
Would you prefer she said nothing without hard facts to back it up?



Without evidence, I choose to stay quiet.


Morning JG--

But what if you see the SO with another woman (several) times. Would you still stay quiet.? I've lost a few friends this way. Sometimes I just don't know what to do. Sometimes I say nothing and I lose a friend, because the other woman told my friend that I knew about the relationship all along. Touchy subject. I just don't know. I love my friend and I don't want to see her hurt, but what her SO is doing is wrong, so, do I say something or keep my MOUT shut. Last year, my girlfriend was messing with her boyfriend's cousin and I kept telling her it was wrong and she kept tell her boyfriend that she was at my house and he would show up and the drama would go on. One day I just got fedup and I said look, cut the ####### or I'm going to tell. I don't want nobody come shoot my A$$, while you're getting a piece of A$$. Her boyfriend, the cousin and I all went to highschool together and things just went down hill from there.



girl when u writing the book
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 10:35:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 10:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 10:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
sounds like you've met him,

I just have to laugh

cha, mek him tan deh....why him nuh fine smaddy weh can drive and dem use him cyaar guh pick up di passport???

BTW, tell him seh nuh come up yah widout get a nex license, caws him nah guh can drive widout it ova yaso.
And if him a guh get a NY license, dem a guh waa him old one unless him a guh through di WHOLE process of getting a learner's, driver's ed etc etc

QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Mar 6 2008, 10:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Mar 6 2008, 09:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lawny, yes mi memba mi seet now, we go to a grocery store in Silver Spring just a block down from there...Can't remember the name right now, but they seem FAIRLY reasonable....Where do you do your grocery shopping???


The Carribbean store on New Hampshire avenue. Dem tieef too, but wah mi ago do.

you have dem address???

mi might haffi guh pan a likkle runnings guh check dem out smile.gif



English - he has his NY perimit...he tried to get the passport last monday, but when the guy came with the car
there was someting wrong with the car...i called thinking he should be on his way back from town and instead they act the mechanic shop. ugh
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 10:32:00
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OK, my question for the day is suppose you had a friend who was in a relationship and for whatever reason, you thought the man was using her.
You have no hard evidence, but you just have STRONG misgivings.
DO you tell her?
Or since you have no hard facts, do you just leave it alone???

If a friend told you that she thought your SO was using you, but had no evidence, how would you react?
Would you prefer she said nothing without hard facts to back it up?



I would tel her, but it's all about the timing. don't tell her when they are all lovey dovey, wait until she complaining about something he did and then say something like. yeah i notice he always does such and such and keept it moving. she may not agree with you are say anything at all, but she will start thinking about it.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 10:25:00
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I actually went back and tried to see where I offended you and i'm not seeing it. I can read what i want, but I won't bother with answering them and i'm thinking u have a problem with me because I have zero with you and if you thought I did, you could have used the PM function, but it's all good.

I think sometimes through the internet the 'wrong' message can be derived from normal conversation.....I never detected attitude, or saw anything that I could construe as such though.....


Yuh hear nutting bout Mr JENgles and di scrap yawd?



right back to the regularly scheduled programming....

he's another one that got my head hot last night, he hasn't gotten his passport yet, because he lost his j.a. liscense he's need a ride to get into town...u twin has a taxi...maybe it's just me. him a shop round junkyards today...shouldn't this have been done before...yuh see wah mi a deal wid?



WHAT??? i thought he got his passport already???? it seems like he just keeps going around in cricles.....hang in there i am sure you are very frustrated.....



sounds like you've met him,

I just have to laugh
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 10:03:00
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QUOTE (Jengles @ Mar 6 2008, 09:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I actually went back and tried to see where I offended you and i'm not seeing it. I can read what i want, but I won't bother with answering them and i'm thinking u have a problem with me because I have zero with you and if you thought I did, you could have used the PM function, but it's all good.


Sorry if I misinterpreted it, but there have been several comments that you made after posts of mine that came across as heavy sarcasm, and just seemed out of order, so I spoke up about it. Since the posts were here, then I chose to address them here. It could be just that I am being overly sensitive due to stress, but that's how I felt - if I took it wrong, then I apologize.



don't worry yourself
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-06 09:47:00
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Good Morning Lawny, Brown, Nanny...... I need to go get some Starbucks!


Mawnin Sunny, I just got some. It's pouring rain outside and the line was going out the door. So, my mom and I drove to the one in Gaitherburg and went through the drive-thru. Well, I have 4 weeks to go before I go home and I can't wait. He has no clue I'm coming, but his best friend does. That's who will pick me up at the airport. I'm still trying to figure out what his parents and family is up to. We shall see. I'm just homesick in the worse way. Now my ALLEGRIES are starting to kick in. I hope I make it through this year. Last year I wanted to rip out my eyes.



Good morning,


everyone, it doesn't look like it's raining yet up here.

Gill is probably going to see Movado tomorrow at a fraction of the price she would have paid here!!

Nanny don't get me started on the pedophile and rape thing. i think all pedophiles should be charged with muder, for murdering a child's innocence...and I don't see a dyamn thing wrong with chemical castration.


It hurt my brother so bad, becuase my brother has a daughter. It took about a dozen Montgomery County police to get him out the building. My brother kept saying I told you so. He even testified at the trial as well as some other residents. My brother had been complaing for years and nothing was done. It just makes me sick to my stomach. And his wife testisfied in court that he should be given another chance. Who the hell gives the rights to ANYONE to have a child (as young as 2) rubbing lotion on your NAKED body and then on his P**IS. Like I said, one of ya'll will have to come and bail me out of 7-locks in Maryland


someone told your brother what was going on?? i'm assuming the parents trusted him, that's why the kids were there??

No, he was always wondering why so many kids was in this guys apartment. And my brother didn't like how he looked. His spirit didn't take him and rightfully so. I've seen this man a few times also and he looks sick.


and what kind of second chance did his wife want him to get!!!!!!!!
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:34:00
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Good morning,


everyone, it doesn't look like it's raining yet up here.

Gill is probably going to see Movado tomorrow at a fraction of the price she would have paid here!!

Nanny don't get me started on the pedophile and rape thing. i think all pedophiles should be charged with muder, for murdering a child's innocence...and I don't see a dyamn thing wrong with chemical castration.


Yuh dyam right Jengs! Dem want $45.00 at Club Amazura tonight! Dem cyan kiss mi claat! Mi a see em pon deh gully side! wink.gif laughing.gif laughing.gif ( I crack myself UP sometimes blink.gif yes.gif )

Bless,Gill


Good morning.

The prices are crazy....the Movado tickets were $30 before 11:00 and $50 after. Mind you, the club opened at 10:45.
Gill - have a safe trip. You and Ken are in my prayers....

Congrats NannyGirl.


that is just wrong!!!

I have a flexible spending account have to dig up the debit card they sent me. Most times i forget i can use it for that, thanks for the reminder.

Lawny, nuh blame u mudda...oops...look like mi talk to soon, it a rain up here, now *cha*
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:31:00
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don't mawnin me ms Lawny,

U go to starbucks and u nuh call me and ask mi if did want any tea??!!
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:21:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Mar 8 2008, 09:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks Nan--- I've tried them all. I'll use Zyrtec and Claritin, but they make me hyper. I'll just suffer again for 8 weeks. I pray it won't be as bad. As soon as I come into the house I have to take a shower. And I wear a mask when I'm outside. (joke)...when I wear my mask, people always let me go ahead of them in the line.

Every time a new rx comes out for allergies my allergy doctor has me try them to get some relief. But none of them work for me. The only thing that works for me is Benedryl but that really makes me tired (the same ingredient in OTC sleep preparations). During the day I take the childrens chewables which is 1/2 strength and that helps. There are corticosteriods that do work but I won't take them unless I'm in a life and death situation-just my preference. Allergies are no joke crying.gif



I have a lot of allergies, clariten works for me, the funny thing was it was cheaper for me, when i could get it by prescription
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:18:00
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Good Morning Lawny, Brown, Nanny...... I need to go get some Starbucks!


Mawnin Sunny, I just got some. It's pouring rain outside and the line was going out the door. So, my mom and I drove to the one in Gaitherburg and went through the drive-thru. Well, I have 4 weeks to go before I go home and I can't wait. He has no clue I'm coming, but his best friend does. That's who will pick me up at the airport. I'm still trying to figure out what his parents and family is up to. We shall see. I'm just homesick in the worse way. Now my ALLEGRIES are starting to kick in. I hope I make it through this year. Last year I wanted to rip out my eyes.



Good morning,


everyone, it doesn't look like it's raining yet up here.

Gill is probably going to see Movado tomorrow at a fraction of the price she would have paid here!!

Nanny don't get me started on the pedophile and rape thing. i think all pedophiles should be charged with muder, for murdering a child's innocence...and I don't see a dyamn thing wrong with chemical castration.


It hurt my brother so bad, becuase my brother has a daughter. It took about a dozen Montgomery County police to get him out the building. My brother kept saying I told you so. He even testified at the trial as well as some other residents. My brother had been complaing for years and nothing was done. It just makes me sick to my stomach. And his wife testisfied in court that he should be given another chance. Who the hell gives the rights to ANYONE to have a child (as young as 2) rubbing lotion on your NAKED body and then on his P**IS. Like I said, one of ya'll will have to come and bail me out of 7-locks in Maryland


someone told your brother what was going on?? i'm assuming the parents trusted him, that's why the kids were there??
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:14:00
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Application Type: I485 , APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS Current Status:

Card mailed to applicant. On March 7, 2008, we mailed the new card directly to the address we have on file. You should receive your new card within 30 days. If you do not, or if you move before you get it, call customer service.


all i have to say is about freaking time......



Congrats!!
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:11:00
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Good morning,


everyone, it doesn't look like it's raining yet up here.

Gill is probably going to see Movado tomorrow at a fraction of the price she would have paid here!!

Nanny don't get me started on the pedophile and rape thing. i think all pedophiles should be charged with muder, for murdering a child's innocence...and I don't see a dyamn thing wrong with chemical castration.


Yuh dyam right Jengs! Dem want $45.00 at Club Amazura tonight! Dem cyan kiss mi claat! Mi a see em pon deh gully side! wink.gif laughing.gif laughing.gif ( I crack myself UP sometimes blink.gif yes.gif )

Bless,Gill


OK, mr jengles almost drop dung when he saw a flyer for an artist and the prices we have to pay, mi would rather pay that $1000 j.a. anytime
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:09:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Mar 8 2008, 08:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (sunnyja21 @ Mar 8 2008, 08:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good Morning Lawny, Brown, Nanny...... I need to go get some Starbucks!


Mawnin Sunny, I just got some. It's pouring rain outside and the line was going out the door. So, my mom and I drove to the one in Gaitherburg and went through the drive-thru. Well, I have 4 weeks to go before I go home and I can't wait. He has no clue I'm coming, but his best friend does. That's who will pick me up at the airport. I'm still trying to figure out what his parents and family is up to. We shall see. I'm just homesick in the worse way. Now my ALLEGRIES are starting to kick in. I hope I make it through this year. Last year I wanted to rip out my eyes.



Good morning,


everyone, it doesn't look like it's raining yet up here.

Gill is probably going to see Movado tomorrow at a fraction of the price she would have paid here!!

Nanny don't get me started on the pedophile and rape thing. i think all pedophiles should be charged with muder, for murdering a child's innocence...and I don't see a dyamn thing wrong with chemical castration.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-08 09:04:00
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yeah, mi eye dem a drop pon me,

goodnite everyone
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 23:30:00
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please to leave him hair pon him head, if not he will have plenty to tell the MIL. LOL

Yuh come in like one of mi friend mi used to go a dance wid...come from town..she had a good heart...but would cuss u in a second if she look at you the wrong way...lemme ask u from now...yah ever wear Moschino and leff di tag dem pon u clothes????



ahah..a tru jengs a so mi stay..dats why no keep fren laughing.gif no mi alwasy pop off mi tag dem...mi fraid ppl ago si it..ahahaha..mi not even like return clothes wah cyaan fit



but see u never sey u have good hear....so what u badminded??? a joke me a mek



u no si mi agree wid yuh statement..mi affi be specific..cho mad.gif


girl now a days, mi a try be careful what mi agree too...cause next thing u know..yuh mad at me and mi nuh no why?? helpsmilie.gif



laughing.gif laughing.gif ..wid fi mi big mout yuh no affi wonder cause mi ago tellk yuh..minah wait till the next day trust laughing.gif tongue_ss.gif

memba dat drink i wanted earlier..well i had it..i had a strawberry daiquiri...and YES to baxide it was virgin.. mad.gif


Is wha u really vex bout?? wha u expect?? yuh nah breed?? and it taste good don't ??? so hush u mout?? and gwan a yah bed??? *cha*
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 23:17:00
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please to leave him hair pon him head, if not he will have plenty to tell the MIL. LOL

Yuh come in like one of mi friend mi used to go a dance wid...come from town..she had a good heart...but would cuss u in a second if she look at you the wrong way...lemme ask u from now...yah ever wear Moschino and leff di tag dem pon u clothes????



ahah..a tru jengs a so mi stay..dats why no keep fren laughing.gif no mi alwasy pop off mi tag dem...mi fraid ppl ago si it..ahahaha..mi not even like return clothes wah cyaan fit



but see u never sey u have good hear....so what u badminded??? a joke me a mek



u no si mi agree wid yuh statement..mi affi be specific..cho mad.gif


girl now a days, mi a try be careful what mi agree too...cause next thing u know..yuh mad at me and mi nuh no why?? helpsmilie.gif
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 23:10:00
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yeah good luck to Gill, when is she leaving tomorrow??? I hope it goes well and i hope she is there when Lawny's cousin ex-fiance shows up for his interview. lol
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 23:08:00
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please to leave him hair pon him head, if not he will have plenty to tell the MIL. LOL

Yuh come in like one of mi friend mi used to go a dance wid...come from town..she had a good heart...but would cuss u in a second if she look at you the wrong way...lemme ask u from now...yah ever wear Moschino and leff di tag dem pon u clothes????



ahah..a tru jengs a so mi stay..dats why no keep fren laughing.gif no mi alwasy pop off mi tag dem...mi fraid ppl ago si it..ahahaha..mi not even like return clothes wah cyaan fit



but see u never sey u have good heart....so what u badminded??? a joke me a mek

Edited by Jengles, 07 March 2008 - 11:07 PM.

JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 23:06:00
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hi guys do u think any of ur SOs would object to being a stay at home dad if need be if its cheaper than daycare? By the way what are infant daycare costs like and the times in which u can drop them off and pick them up.


I can't say this loud enough but YES, most jamaican men do not like to be at home, looking after pickney, even if it's theres. they want to work be out the house.



yup that was his response when i asked him. My thoughts were that it may be cheaper for him stay home. Its just a thought. Now if he gets paid like 11.75 im estimating at 40 hours a week that would give about 350 maybe? and that will only just cover daycare and we need a lot more than that im trying figure what cost i will cut to afford daycare and any other expenses right now i have no extra to cover that so i been praying on it and trying find a cheaper place to live.



did u price daycare where u are??? know any older ladies who want to supplement their income??? Is your mother near you she might know someone


When my daughter was in Daycare ... and I even found preschool this way ... I called churches. Both the churches that helped me happen to be Methodist but Church people know people.... They know the community.
Open the yellow pages and call and visit everyone you can.
When I moved back to Maine I cried and cried because I didnt think I could afford it. Even though I work at home I couldnt get work done with a wired kid running around. I eventually found some GREAT care.

You have to hunt the good ones down!





I been crying and cryin too already and baby is nowhere near here yet. Going to do some OT now while i can to try save up some money and finish off my jamaica travel debt and the visa stuff. Im going to start lookign into and call some places. Im still hoping the TX thing will come through for me by summer that will tremendously cut my costs. They need 8 people to leave before i can come. So far one is leaving so now thats 7. Ill keep prayin on it. Ive also been trying to find places here cheaper where i dont have to sign a 12 month lease. Thank you all for ur advice i truly appreciate it, its like noone outside this visa/adjustment process can even begin to understand.


I know u want to transfer thru your job.

have u thought about trying to find a job on your own, after u have the baby. you can apply for jobs from up here thanks to the internet and plan a week and go and interview. that is one of my friends did. companies will/should be flexible if u say i'm coming down this particular week

That's what I did when I was moving from NYC to NC. I went down for two days and set up four interviews. I had my job the summer of 2005 to start Jan 2006.



Clairen, what part of NC are you in? I just moved back down here over the summer from MD/DC/VA. I ask because I try to imagine how my husband would adjust to living here if I decided to stay. Where I am currently (Durham) has a fairly nice sized African population, and I'm told that there is a small caribbean population, but I can't find 'em! lol While my husband says it wouldn't matter, I think it would definitely make a difference if he can see something that is somewhat familiar to him.



Is there a place there that you can get west indian food? like a market?
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 22:54:00
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You see it....It's been said that this thread is supposed to be a place where we give each other support. If you don't have anything positve to say why say it all...and why give an opinion based on nothing.....

That's just it, I DIDN"T say anything apart from those who ASKED....and as for positive, I did say to some who asked that I felt their relationship was sound....You are ASSUMING that I only had NEGATIVE things to say....As for giving an opinion based on nothing, it's my choice to provide it when ASKED wink.gif

As for support, I believe that confirming someone's suspicions when asked is support, to reply 'stick with him everything's going to be ok' when in fact you believe the OPPOSITE is not support. It's hypocrisy.
I don't jump on people for their choices even if I think they are the wrong ones, I will offer prayers and best wishes.
I will ask a question which I think may lead someone to the conclusion I have reached, but if they refuse to see what's in front of them, I wouldn't push the issue.
If the issue is RIGHT in front of their eyes, I leave it alone, after all everyone here is GROWN.....



lawd she si fimmi picha dem already..Jengs..mi can get nuff hair wid out him even know smile.gif

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*sigh* mi ketch up...by di way..ALL WHO WAAN COME CHECK MI BATTY IT NO FROWNZY AT ALL ..MI AFFI LAY DUNG BESIDE MI HUSBAND A NITE TIME SO NO SPACE FI STINKING FISH !!


*cha*

just tek the bottle of dettol and done!!! mi nuh say nuttin bout nuh fish....can smell yuh underarm from here....wait deh is u wuk wid Lawny.....


yuh too brawlin




ahahahah..woieee.mi cyaa help it bi born a Town and mi grow a Portmore..tek mi outta di ghetto cyaan tek di ghetto outta mi...well sometimes laughing.gif



please to leave him hair pon him head, if not he will have plenty to tell the MIL. LOL

Yuh come in like one of mi friend mi used to go a dance wid...come from town..she had a good heart...but would cuss u in a second if she look at you the wrong way...lemme ask u from now...yah ever wear Moschino and leff di tag dem pon u clothes????
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 22:50:00
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*sigh* mi ketch up...by di way..ALL WHO WAAN COME CHECK MI BATTY IT NO FROWNZY AT ALL ..MI AFFI LAY DUNG BESIDE MI HUSBAND A NITE TIME SO NO SPACE FI STINKING FISH !!


*cha*

just tek the bottle of dettol and done!!! mi nuh say nuttin bout nuh fish....can smell yuh underarm from here....wait deh is u wuk wid Lawny.....


yuh too brawlin

Edited by Jengles, 07 March 2008 - 10:45 PM.

JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 22:44:00
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Hey Claire,

Well you've seen my post about Evan getting frustrated and how it was rubbing me the wrong way cause I didnt exactly get it. Well me and him spoke...thru text cause I said we should not talk for a few days. Anyway I'll update you all on that but he enlightened me to alot of stuff that he feels in this whole process and how it is very confusing to him and he's sometimes gets scared about the whole move.

So I think that maybe (not knowing to much about you and Mike) Mike could be coming to terms with leaving his home. i think many times during this journey we the USC or America Resident, don't quite put ourselves in our SO shoes. This can be extremely hard for some of them. For some the move is the best thing ever and they just cant wait to get to the US....for good and bad reasons. For others the thought of mving to a strange place where they know no one really and barely even know you (their SO) can be quote scarely and nerve racking making them not really show excitment about th whole move. If it was me and I was moving to a foreign country away from all the family and friends i ever knew i would be so scared. I think men have a hard time showing how vulnerable they are so sometimes it manifests itself in anger or frustration or non-chalantness, all the emotions that keep them holding their manhood intact. This to us as a woman makes no sense cause we are mush more open about showing these types of emotions to our SO.

Evan an I talked and he finally broke down and told me the real probelm, and its that he says everything in his life has changed since meeting me and know the future in which he imagined has to be shifted to a future in a place and surrounded by people he is not familiar with and sometimes that thoguht make him feel out of control of his life. Could Mike be having some issues like this? I mean essentially you are handling most of the visa work and you have VJ to read and get LOTS of info on this process...your SO doesn't so he is left in the dark not truly understanding what certain things like the police report can mean to the ending of this journey. Maybe the getting of the visa is also bittersweet. My husband has a countdown to when he will finally be with me permanently but he also has a countdown to when he will have to say goodbye to his grandmother, niece, brothers and sisters and it bothers him alot.

I think you should try to pull out the real issue Mike is having cause its apparent he is not telling you something. I wouldnt get to upset about it to the point of making him live with his parents if the 2 of you have a strong commitment to each other and already discussed him living with you. i think you should first start the communication with him before you make the reaction to the situation.

Lita, this is why I am addicted to VJ. The great advice and openmindedness that is offered.

Lita, he had expressed his hesitation to leave home but wanted to so we can be together. He has told me over and over again that he has totally committed himself to me and noone or nothing is going to change that.

The original plan was for him to go to his dad's first, cause he has not seen him and his little sisters in about 6 or so years. He says once he come to me, he is not going to want to leave my side. I am convinced that he loves me but some macho part of him is preventing him from expressing it. Sometimes I think he feels better when I don't call him for a couple of days. He has told me it is harder for him when I express my feelings to him, cause he is not here to hold me and stop the pain.

I am going to call him tomorrow and try to talk to him. He is not a phone person, he is more a writer and expresses himself more in his letters.


aawww, he so sweet, at night he's probably wishing u were next to him..
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-03-07 22:38:00