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hello everyone,

i am having a bad day,

1) tried hooking up my computer - find out MY INTERNET service is on another line, won't be fixed until Friday

2) cousin left her three yr old with me this morning for a quick run to the bank and didn't come back for two hours my sister then calls me to inform me, she is on my sisters back porch having a cigeratte in the meantime i'm stuck in my bedroom with two kids because they are re-wiring my apartment and wires are hanging and there's dust on the ground and didn't want them stepping in or on anything. and did i mention i was starving?

3) my phone in new york is still on even though i told them to disconnect it on 1/31

4) go in the basement to take my clothes out of the washing machine...it's still running water....nothing washed....it's my grandmothers washing machine...so I had to go and break the news...

5) on the phone with the kingston embassy...need I saw more...of course nothing accomplished

one good thing that happeded last week was my b-day and mr took me to the westin hotel for the night

hopefully by friday i will be able to log on via my own computer

hey jengy.. sorry bout the bad day, it can only go up from here mami!!
i hate when people take advantage when ur trying to help them..

and we won't talk about me and new york state and ma dmv, I'll save that for a whole nother day, but that was friday's story, lol

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-23 13:06:00

hopefully by friday i will be able to log on via my own computer

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-23 12:57:00

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Honey it got it.

JG -- I fell in love with that dress the first time I tired it on...we'll see what happens next year.

Okay...am I the only IRISH JAMAICAN here...my co-workers love it, so I'm come in to find about 30 different things all GREEN of course in my office...they do this every year...

No, me too but I get the irish from the other side, my father's family, they have a black and green dinner, cultural thing every year here in boston with the irish cultural whomever, and st. patty's day is a holiday in his island.

anyhoo everything is ok with me and mr jengs, he's talking about quitting one of his jobs.

k-4 update spoke to a nice lady down at the embassy, who was willing to give us an end of april date but at this point I wanted an april date, she also said we could add another child to the case as long as we sent in the birth certificate and by april 9th all the may dates will have been assigned.

bye for now

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-17 09:04:00

papers lost...so I am preparing another packet...

my friend was reading to me this thing from this paper called immirgration news about people lying about the number of children they had on the i-130 or whatever they used to enter the country and then trying to correct the info on the n-400 to naturalize and being deported. I was in schock when she read it to me.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-06 15:37:00

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so I just got off the phone with the embassy...they can't find the documents for the k-4 visa...but something ain't right there, because when I gave her the girls names. she immediately asked me the same question as in the e-mails, has mr jengs adjusted and called him by name..but then turned around and said they couldn't find the documents...the only good thing is she said that even if I had to resend the documents, they wouldn't push out the interview date that far...could stil be the end of march early april... and not into may june.

Maybe she saw the girls name listed on Mr's docs and that's where she got the info from. What doc's are they missing - the DS156 and 157?

Is Mr out of status and that's why they keep asking that question?

right now they can't find all the documents that I sent down and she said they need the documents to generate a case number as this k-4 is done out of the embassy and not the nvc. He is not out of status he has not yet adjusted status to get his green card. K-4's are null and void once the k-3 visa holder gets his green card. I told her he wants them all to adjust together.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-06 10:09:00

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-06 09:57:00

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sus;

I lost 10lbs, so I can fit in the grip now...what time should I be at the airport?

well mi lose 20lb, so sus carry me, i'll even pay the extra grip fee

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2009-03-05 08:21:00

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I actually went back and tried to see where I offended you and i'm not seeing it. I can read what i want, but I won't bother with answering them and i'm thinking u have a problem with me because I have zero with you and if you thought I did, you could have used the PM function, but it's all good.

I think sometimes through the internet the 'wrong' message can be derived from normal conversation.....I never detected attitude, or saw anything that I could construe as such though.....

Yuh hear nutting bout Mr JENgles and di scrap yawd?

right back to the regularly scheduled programming....

he's another one that got my head hot last night, he hasn't gotten his passport yet, because he lost his j.a. liscense he's need a ride to get into town...u twin has a taxi...maybe it's just me. him a shop round junkyards today...shouldn't this have been done before...yuh see wah mi a deal wid?

Ohhhh JENGS here is a ((((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))...but please mi a beg u. go easy pon the stressing

girl i made two phone calls last night and the second one was to cuss...but i told him i wasn't spending over $200.00 for the return trip so me done.

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good idea,

i'm about to file a grievance against my child, i just don't understand how he can bounce into tables that are two feet away from him and knock everyting over. its like he has a wind that follows him *cha*

If there is an area that I know something about and I can help someone step in the right direction, then I will do it - I won't apologize for the fact that I work in the legal field - I fought long and hard to get where I am in my career - I also won't apologize for the fact that I fell in love with a man from another country or that I post here, even though we haven't made a decision as a couple how we are going to proceed as of yet. I am not quite sure what your problem is or why you continually take an attitude with my posts - But if you don't like them, don't read them -

Morning everyone

What is this about Sus? I think I am missing something.

You and me both

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-06 09:45:00

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Lita u know me and husband used to fight when were separated not that we don't now..but what i did by the advice of a friends mother..she seh wah is the sense oonuh a go talk everyday and cuss waste of money...So u know what i did stopped calling everyday all thru the day..and u know it helped..maybe u need to back off a little..maybe just send the emails and texts and so but limit the phone talk it brings frustration of missing each other so near but yet so far kinda thing...hope it works out

so i had a salad with turkey today plus some baby carrot with ranch dressing and all i've been wanting is water...everytime i see water i wanna be in it..

I agree with Kimmie on this one. I had the same problem with Mike only the other way around. I was the one complaining. We would talk everyday, sometimes twice a day and after the second visit in October, I started to miss him so much more and would tell him how I felt but he would not reciprocate. He would be silent and I always asked if I am talking to the phone and wasting money. He always says "telling you I miss you and all that is not gonna change the fact that we can't be together right now. I know how you feel and you know how I feel. Talking about it is not the solution right now, because when we get off the phone, it's not gonna change." The more I heard that the angrier I became and then I decided to back off and not call him as much and would purposefully miss his calls. Now ehen we talk it is so fullfilling and we have so much more to talk about. We now talk maybe 2-3 times a week and I am better able to handle the separation.

Lita, I also think you should try backing off a little. Some men are die-hard romantics and like to hear sweet nuiances in their ears. I think also Evan is missing his baby and needs to hears those things to re-affirm your love for him.

Just my $0.20.

Now ge me back me change

I hear what you all are saying and it makes lots of sense to ME. I just can't help but wonder if it will work in this situation. If Evan is already sort of saying she is neglecting him, will talking to him less, make him feel any better?

right, which is why I suggested she ask him specifically how to improve, but they do seem to do a lot in the communication department

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-06 09:42:00

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Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-06 09:40:00

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If there is an area that I know something about and I can help someone step in the right direction, then I will do it - I won't apologize for the fact that I work in the legal field - I fought long and hard to get where I am in my career - I also won't apologize for the fact that I fell in love with a man from another country or that I post here, even though we haven't made a decision as a couple how we are going to proceed as of yet. I am not quite sure what your problem is or why you continually take an attitude with my posts - But if you don't like them, don't read them -

Morning everyone

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-06 09:16:00

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I am so clueless as to what u are talking about. how is talking about my son, turned to having an attitude with you???

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-06 09:08:00

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OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

mr jengles met this older guy from j.a. at school, the guy lives with his daughter, the guy is in his 50's mr jengles says. ok so they talk every once in a while. the school had something for xmas and mr jengles made two dishes. They guy calls and invites mr jengles over to his house for xmas dinner. so mr jengles asks me if we can go, so i said sure in the evening. the guy then calls mr jengles and says to him, too bad mr jengles couldn't come over and cook xmas dinner for him and his daughter. I'm like huh???? mr jengles just took it as a complement to his cooking. I didn't cause u know the man has his family so what the hell are u talking about. anyway xmas day I was sick so we didn't go anywhere.

then the man calls and mr jengles says to him he is going to j.a. and the man could call me and get mr jengles cellphone number in j.a. o.k cool. the man calls a week later when he thinks mr jengles is in j.a. (remember now he lost his passport) so he was supposed to be in j.a. when the man called. the man says oh my duaghter went down yesterday. she's wasn't even staying anywhere around ochi, but still that is what u're calling him to tell him. not how u are doing or how is j.a. Is it just me reading too much into something. I asked one of my friends and she said I wasn't, just want to make sure. I haven't said anything to mr. jengles. the man has been calling since mr jengles has been gone but never when i'm home. so how do deal with something like that??

YES!!!!! MI waan fi hear deh answer tuh dis...cause all hell is about to set loose inna fi mi family when dem here wat mi a guh duh!

IT'S GOT 'STELLA' ALL OVER IT....

...But only Ken and I know it's NOT!!

Bless,Gill

All now mi a wait fi answer on what to do, mi nuh get it yet!!!

anyway, you haven't told your family about Ken yet?? are they invited to the wedding??

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Ok..so oonuh memba mi paper wah mi couldn't do ? mi prof email mi today a talk bout him send a "C" if mi ok wid dat..hmmm bwoy mi no know..mi really no feel like do no paper but den again mi no want no baxide C..wah oonuh tink ?

sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

a dat mi a seh..but him a go ask mi if mi alright with that...hell no ..gimme mi incomplete mek mi finish and u grade mi

sounds good to me, but then maybe u can vomit pon him shoes and ask for the b.

clairen...i think we is all addicted myself and how u ask Lita for change and we nuh see how much money u give her. lol

i'm really really going to bed now. i told mr jengles i was going to bed two hours ago and all now mi still sitting by the computer

Yuj nuh se me give har $0.20 fe mi opinion and she owe me change cause hit ongle wut $0.02.

Yuh write, Lita gi the woman back her eighteen cents and hurry up, cause if she like me, she would charge u interest.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-06 09:05:00

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sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

a dat mi a seh..but him a go ask mi if mi alright with that...hell no ..gimme mi incomplete mek mi finish and u grade mi

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 23:54:00

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sounds like u doing a paper...if u were at a point where a "c" wouldn't move your g.p.a then cool, but u just started the program right...so it would be better if u did better in the beginning.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 23:47:00

QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Mar 5 2008, 11:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

U get dry mouth?? now what is it you are taking again to keep the food down.

my bed is screeching my name......mek mi go and mek it quiet.

good night

Edited by Jengles, 05 March 2008 - 11:39 PM.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 23:36:00

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Ok Ladies, its my turn...I need advice.

So Evan has been voicing his concern about me not giving him enough affection and attention and time, and how i don't show him i need him and love him or basically just say affectionate things to him. I think that I do do all these things. But obviously not as much as he would like. We get into major arguments about this cause I sometimes feel like he is only noticing when I Don't do something, vs noticing when I DO. I understand the need to want your partner to tell you you love them and miss them and comment, say say they look good or send them little "sweet" notes, but my issue with this is, that if i am not doing it to his liking or then he begins to think that I am thinking the EXACT opposite of those things, like....I don't love him, or miss him, or I'm too busy for him, or don't think he's attractive enough on, and on, and on. I think that is completely unfair. What do you think? I don't know if he is having major issues with the seperation or if he is insecure or if he just needs more affirmation than most men I have been involved with and I just need to adjust. Do your men have these complaints?

And on a side note, I speak to him EVERYDAY. I send him texts, I usually have him call me back since he has a better phone plan than me, but I send him letters in the mail, email, and he still says that I am not showing him enough or being there for him when he needs me. Its stressing me out, literally cause I feel like I can't be sad or lonely and missing him, cause he's complaining about it enough for the both of us. Is there something I should be or could be doing to ease his mind or is he just tripping?

Lita, this sounds to me like separation anxiety. It is truly not easy being in a long distance relationship and it is certainly not helped with the stress that this immigration process puts us under. My husband didn't have those complaints, though he would get mighty upset when I didn't call on time and such when we were separated. It will be different when Evan gets here.

You know this is what I've been trying to tell myself but it keeps getting worse. I hate fighting about the same issues over and over, and I know that he doesn't really understand how hard my life and day really is. SO I keep telling myself, just hold on a bit more Lita and he'll soon be here and singing a different tune. Its just sometimes he can be really mean and rude about his complaints. I'd be more inclined to receive them if he was nicer about expressing how he feel.

sounds like he is really fustrated, is he going thru something right now?? try asking him how u can improve or what specifically did you do to upset him, and why. sometimes we have to pull the real reason as to what is going on.

u just came back from there, was this going on down there?? if not sounds like he's missing his baby Lita...and to me sometimes j.a. men talk rough and have no idea how they are coming accross.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 23:26:00

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KimKim I'm so glad to hear that your doing betta

SHYNE a wah u a guh wid suitcase?

Mi ago out shoping fe new tings tuh put pon mi suticase fe mi trip tuh JA next month

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DWL...SHYN sarry yah...JENGS the GINGER WINE a get to mi....but it GOODDDDDDDDD Ithink that's why I haven't been sick in very long time.

Mi need some a dat mi been sick 3 days and nuh go tuh wuk

SHYN, fram mi granni tell mi fi star tek a likkle sip everynight or 3 times a week, I've not been sick. I've been doing well for 3 years now. Last month 27 of my co-workers were out with the flu and that's just one division. Mi tell dem NO COME NEAR MI...

what exactly is your meez doing, is that a victory dance....she win wimbledon....should me start calling you Serena??? mek mi know from now.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 22:07:00

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that is absolute foolishness, the department of homeland security should do what. a lie and they have time to do that??? mi can't believe my tax dollars is being spent on that foolishness. it would have been better if he did say a social worker. all dem people that adopt every day from china the homeland security is going to fi dem house. u about to get me UPSET. I think someone should try calling the american embassy and speaking to someone else. because was pure foolishness and phuckry was dropping from that CO's mouth.

I won't b**ch too much about the memo - it's on a nonprofit website of an organization that helps kids - So it's out there for a good cause, just was shocked to find it (and a little pissed that I wasn't told or given credit!)

I haven't heard of the DHS having to come to the house - what the issue is with a Sp. immigrant juvenile petition is that the DHS has to sign an affidavit that they consent to the filing of the petition - doesn't mean it's granted, but it's a fairly simple step.

Back when I wrote this memo, we had a case where an attorney that I worked with and I were appointed as Court appointed advocates for a young girl in foster care - the more we learned of her story, we realized that she had no legal status in the US as she had been brought here under another person's visa. So, my research work began into how the He** do we get her a green card? I am very happy to say - she not only is a green card holder now, we got her mom and sisters out of a refugee camp and over here to be reunited.

I am not sure what will happen with this girl having left the US though - But I would file a grievance against the lawyer that gave that advice - let him pay the costs to bring her back here!

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 21:25:00

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Ja Tam, yuh sure u got ALL the information. i think it would be more about her coming her under someone else's name. that is reason's for denial, but since this is a child not sure on what they would do.

Oh yeah, I have all the info. Another attorney that the granddad spoke to said that her entering under another name would be forgiven since she was a child at the time it happened. The issue is the adoption and the CO saying the adoption should have taken place in JA and Dept of Homeland Security then needs to go to his house to inspect where she lives to make sure it is in fact a safe environment before they would consider the adoption legal. The Dept of Homeland Security issue I can't understand at all

Gray area...dat deh part a mek mi head hat mi...dat no mek no seh a tall. Smadi we afi tell mi different. Who tell dem fi send di lil girl home? Who gave that advice?

Some ole fart lawyer him go to - tell him seh she has to interview in Kingston since she came in under a different name. She deh yah; nuff people come tru dem way deh and nuh haffi go home fi do interview fi GC.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:45:00

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Gray area...dat deh part a mek mi head hat mi...dat no mek no seh a tall. Smadi we afi tell mi different. Who tell dem fi send di lil girl home? Who gave that advice?

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:44:00

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AH LIE...WI REACH PART 6!!!!

Happy Birthday Yardie...I hope today is/was a good day and that you celebrate the whole week through!

Ok fam, have a case for you all to mull over - so I know of a family who adopted their granddaughter as their son was killed in some gang war in Florida. Anyway, the girl was brought here under another name, but she was legally adopted in the US about 7 or 8 years ago. Three years ago, the couple divorced and the paternal grandfather was awarded custody (the grandmother was not her biological grandmother and because of safety issues she chose not to contest the custody so that she would have no need for further contact with the ex. They have recently been back in contact and are more civil, that's how we now have this info). Anyway, the granddad decided to use the lawyer who helped with the adoption to file the paperwork for her GC. Well, she got her interview date and the lawyer advised her that she would have to go to Jamaica to do the interview. When she went with her granddad, they were told that she could not be given the GC because the adoption was not done in Jamaica, so it would not be recognized. That makes no sense to us, since the adoption was legally done here in the States and we would think the US has jurisdiction. I didn't think she should have gone to JA in the first place, it made no sense to me. Now she is stuck in JA until they can sort out the adoption mess and we know how timely JA can be.
So fam, what are your thoughts on this?

one of the first things i've learned from these boards is , never leave the country...i'm assuming the adoption was under her right name. I don't belive the lawyer told them right. but now that's she's left it is going to be a mess. If the father is dead, where is the mother can't she sign over guardianship papers over to the grandparents and go from their. can they try and file for a vistor's vise for the little girl to get her back here in the states??

and what are they saying really if u go into another country you are no longer adopted...that nuh mek no sense...please keep up updated

Hey Jengs,

The mother signed over guardianship as soon as the dad died. When she heard what happened she begged the grandfather not to leave her in JA because she knows she doesn't have the means to take care of her daughter. She is trying to get out of the ghetto and thought that M was alright in the States. When I initially heard about it, I asked my mom why it was that he was even thinking about her going to Ja to do the interview. It made no sense to me since she has lived here for most of her life. She no longer knows JA. The adoption is in her right name. My mom has advised him to go to another immigration lawyer here in the US (who would have advised him better I'm sure), plus he has gotten an attorney in JA to get this sorted out.
Does anyone have the information for the Adoption Department in JA? I figure they can help him a little more so in getting this resolved. The CO did not care that this little girl no longer knows this county and her life is going to be disrupted by all of this

I figured I'd come to my wealth of info on VJ and get your take on this. he is going to have to get this sorted out before her 16th birthday next year because then the embassy is going to say that she can no longer be "adopted" in Jamaica.

No this is turning into a huge mess and this girl is caught in the middle and probably shell shocked in j.a. try posting this in one of the other forums also so u can get maybe get advice from others. i'm sure someone on VJ has went thru this or something similiar

Thanks Jengs, I will post it for fellow VJ'ers to give me their take. She is staying in Westmoreland with her paternal grandmother; the wife of the granddad was not her biological grandmother. She is extremely depressed in JA

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:41:00

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Oh yeah, I have all the info. Another attorney that the granddad spoke to said that her entering under another name would be forgiven since she was a child at the time it happened. The issue is the adoption and the CO saying the adoption should have taken place in JA and Dept of Homeland Security then needs to go to his house to inspect where she lives to make sure it is in fact a safe environment before they would consider the adoption legal. The Dept of Homeland Security issue I can't understand at all

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:38:00

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AH LIE...WI REACH PART 6!!!!

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:34:00

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JA Tam -

How old is the girl now? If she is under 21, they might be able to do a special immigrant juvenile petition:

(Off topic - I did a quick google search and my Fecking former boss stole my memo that I wrote and put it on a website without giving me credit! )

www.kidscounsel.org/Special%20Immigrant%20Juvenile%20Memo%20-%20R%20%20C.DOC

Not sure if it is possible since she is out of the US, but worth looking into

tell him sey u still have u orignial handwritten copy dem at yah yard and then throw in a few more sentences and include the words infringement and copywrite law. u work in a law firm sure u can make it sound polish!!

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:30:00

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AH LIE...WI REACH PART 6!!!!

one of the first things i've learned from these boards is , never leave the country...i'm assuming the adoption was under her right name. I don't belive the lawyer told them right. but now that's she's left it is going to be a mess. If the father is dead, where is the mother can't she sign over guardianship papers over to the grandparents and go from their. can they try and file for a vistor's vise for the little girl to get her back here in the states??

and what are they saying really if u go into another country you are no longer adopted...that nuh mek no sense...please keep up updated

Dat mi no understand eedah. I'll have to ask some of my co-workers who have gone through international adoptions.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:27:00

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JENGS,

To tell you the truth, I use to think something was wrong with me. I just couldn't get it right. I took me a VERY LONG time to realize it wasn't me. I'm shock mi no MAD by now. Of all my relationship, the last one was the WORSE and my SON's father was the only man I've every loved in the past. Girl, I've been there and been through it. I did have a break down in the mid 90s when I walked in on my boyfriend (THROWING DOWN) with his other woman in my apartment. You see, when you tell people things like that, they find it VERY hard to believe, but once you've been through something like that, it kind of messes with your head. But you have to realize at some point that all MEN are not the same and I love and respect my daddy and brothers very much. So my HEART has been through it.

Lawny, I can so relate to this. I have been through it and back with men, including my ex fiance. I swear, I could rival any episode of Jerry Springer with some of the situations. Last year, I went to a medium / psychic with my cousin (just for fun). What she said totally blew my mind - never mind the medium stuff, which she was right on the money, down to describing my grandmother's wedding ring. She told me that I attract drama in my relationships, and that it dates back to something that happened to me around age 5 that was a significant change - That whatever it was taught me to act out / cause drama to get attention. When I was 5, my younger brother was born - Not only did a new baby take attention, he had a learning disability - so as he grew, he demanded more of my mother's attention.

It might sound wierd - it struck me so much what she said, and thinking back on my life, in many ways, she was so right. I think hearing that helped me to put things in perspective - for the first time, I truly feel that I have an honest man who loves me for me - and isn't out to start the drama.

Sus,

It become a cycle and it takes alot of strength and courage to break that cycle. I went to a thing called "GIRLFRIEND week-end" in the Bahamas last year and it changed me. They had women from all over the US and a few from European. Women from all backgrounds (some VERY wealthy). We all shared one thing though, we've all had horrible abusive relationships. I met women who were so well educated, wealthy and full of life, but were living a lie. There men were beating them almost everyday or their men were womanizer. I was just amazed. Some of the women told their families about the ABUSE and their family didn't believe them. I told my ex's family what was going on and their reply was "he's just adjusting to the relationship" (10 FRIGGIN YEARS). I just sat there and soaked up as much information as I could in 3 days in the Bahamas. Want to mess with someone's head (just spoon feed them) whatever you think will make them happy and to keep them around. All I can say is "know your SELF-WORTH"----know your SELF-WORTH

a friend of mine used to say, that she knew a lot of women who had it together in the all aspects of their life but one aspect, their relationships. I don't know why. is it because we let them??? aren't firm enough with the men in our lives...but i agree if have to know your self-worth. i'm not going to be in a relationship and be bitter...muh nuh see the sense in that.

Lawd JENGS u a mek mi bawl. JENGS, look pon mi picha...see how much HAIR did deh pon mi head... gwaan...go look pon mi PICAH!....now it look like JOHN'CROW DRAW BRAKE IN DEH! and UNU no baddi laugh aftah mi.

don't worry it will grow back, and if it don't weave a wear inna di 2008

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:25:00

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AH LIE...WI REACH PART 6!!!!

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I know that for men it would eventually lead to something sexual but say there is just the emotional/intimate/getting to be more than just a friend side of things first. If you found that out before anything sexual happened would you still feel like he cheated? Would you consider that to be just as bad as doing something of a sexual nature?

i know this was talked about earlier in the day but i wanted to add my coment to this....and i would ahve to say yes to the questions....mike did all the above....he did it at the bus stop, on the computer, on the phone...and even though he said "never slept with them" i still felt/feel betryad by him....like why did need to talk to these other girls or say the things he said to them...what's wrong with telling me all of those things last time i checked i was his wife....just my thoughts...

right and it made u uncomfortable, so he should have stopped.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:22:00

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Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 20:13:00

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I think flirting with another woman in front of me is DISRESPECTFUL...I would never do that and I'm sure my man wouldn't like it.

Years ago I was dating this guy and we went out to eat. I noticed from we sat down that this woman kept flirting with my date and we kept talking about it. So, I told him I'm going to get up and go to the restroom. The woman's date went outside to make a call and the woman walked by and handed her business card to my date. She also wrote on the back of the card (call me after 11pm he'll be at work. When I got back to the table my date gave me the card and YES, I got up walked over to her table and handed it to her date (which was her husband) and told him to read what's on the back. Was I wrong to do that?

Years ago, meeda walk up tuh har and bax har renking rass....Today I'd merely spit pan har...ok ok ok, I merely ask her in an extra LOUD voice if she neva did a get nutting fi satisfy har a night time, and maybe she shoulda try likkle alum

good grief, ya'll is violent

JENGS,

U nevah know seh yard ooman FACTEY and luv fi fight

u see it, inna second uunu have earings off and vaseline pon face....and den di razor blade come out from inside di cheek

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 19:10:00

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[OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

mr jengles met this older guy from j.a. at school, the guy lives with his daughter, the guy is in his 50's mr jengles says. ok so they talk every once in a while. the school had something for xmas and mr jengles made two dishes. They guy calls and invites mr jengles over to his house for xmas dinner. so mr jengles asks me if we can go, so i said sure in the evening. the guy then calls mr jengles and says to him, too bad mr jengles couldn't come over and cook xmas dinner for him and his daughter. I'm like huh???? mr jengles just took it as a complement to his cooking. I didn't cause u know the man has his family so what the hell are u talking about. anyway xmas day I was sick so we didn't go anywhere.

then the man calls and mr jengles says to him he is going to j.a. and the man could call me and get mr jengles cellphone number in j.a. o.k cool. the man calls a week later when he thinks mr jengles is in j.a. (remember now he lost his passport) so he was supposed to be in j.a. when the man called. the man says oh my duaghter went down yesterday. she's wasn't even staying anywhere around ochi, but still that is what u're calling him to tell him. not how u are doing or how is j.a. Is it just me reading too much into something. I asked one of my friends and she said I wasn't, just want to make sure. I haven't said anything to mr. jengles. the man has been calling since mr jengles has been gone but never when i'm home. so how do deal with something like that??

JENGS what is the name of your boss...joke mi a mek...mi ago read di...lawd u type nuff

is why u want mi boss name for??? just give me yah input please *cha*

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amazing how the birhth of your brother just changed you like that. who would have thought.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 19:07:00

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OKAY,

NEXT QUESTION

how do u handle people who don't respect your relationship - or think your s/o is with you only to get their papers.

I get less, and less of this. Actually people didn't expect us to last this long. When I get comments I usually just ignore them.

Jengs I can't follow your story, so dose he want you or your hubby

u give me one piece ah joke, no i think he wants to hook up his daughter with mr jengles

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 19:01:00

I wanted to add that the reason why the guy hasn't spoken to me is because, he's calling when he thinks only mr jengles is home.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 17:41:00

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all i did was go to lunch and you all chat up two more pages,

Look what you started

.. and you mean you went to lunch

Yuh now I love mi belly, we need to have a class on how jengles should not sitdown to a meal that has 3 starches and no protein.

Even worse no veggies. Hubby made breakfast the odda day he had pancakes, waffels and oatmeal

Vegegies, that sounds like a bad word!!! I should do a lot better than what i'm doing.

Edited by Jengles, 05 March 2008 - 05:35 PM.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 17:35:00

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wha yuh secret Yardie? yuh pregnant, pregnant?!!

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Mi have one secret

TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!!! WOOHOO!!! I love birthdays!

happy B-Day!!!!!

oh!!!, haha. I couldnt see the spoiler. Happy Birthday!

Thanks!

Marlita DO NOT bring out deh obeah pregnancy microphone

PUT IT AWAY!!!

fi real because she nuh careful wid it and always a point it all over the place.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 16:42:00

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wha yuh secret Yardie? yuh pregnant, pregnant?!!

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Mi have one secret

TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!!! WOOHOO!!! I love birthdays!

happy B-Day!!!!!

oh!!!, haha. I couldnt see the spoiler. Happy Birthday!

I couldn't see it either until i hit reply, all i saw was a black bar...my orginal reply was i'm nosy and wanted to know what the secret was

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 16:40:00

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Mi have one secret

TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY!!! WOOHOO!!! I love birthdays!

happy B-Day!!!!!

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 16:21:00

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good grief, ya'll is violent

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 16:07:00

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Pardon mi...mi might too kuntri fi dis...How do you FLIRT with class in front of your SO? Please, enlighten me or elobratishhh fi mi.

DWL....

...I don't know. I know how to flirt when he's not around

always playful and never any intent...unless I need help with a tire, or some bags or some tile or something. Hubby get all kinds of stuff for free...I know he flirts his self up on some stuff.

woo hoo, dis a how mi flirt....mi seh mi pimp miself out fi di free tings dem. haha

fi real , the man at the gas station like me, all he does is give me free soda, but mi want free gas, mi can buy a dollar soda *cha*

haha, this remind me of when I was little, like 7 and miy older sis11 use to pimp me out to the local corner market store clerk tuh get free pickles and cookies.....she say, "go smile at the man nah' haha, yeah we started young.

lol nice....

ok with that bein said now u have me wanting corner store onion pickles and pickled pig feet and a pack of rainblow and lemon cookies

you go girl, pickled pig feet.

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that, they find it VERY hard to believe, but once you've been through something like that, it kind of messes with your head. But you have to realize at some point that all MEN are not the same and I love and respect my daddy and brothers very much. So my HEART has been through it.

Good for you Lawny.

It's important not to carry that into your next relationship for sure.

Ditto

I was carrying ALOT of my insecurities about my ex-husband into my relationship wid Ken...until Ken said one day..."Gillian, yuh a guh mek yuh hex-husband broke us hup...yuh knoa dat!" I never even thought about it like that before! Then I finally had to let go and let G-d! And realize Ken is NOT Dorian(my ex)- (Thank G-d)...and Dorian was NO KEN!

I just had a DEEP DOWN FEAR and never wanted to be PLAYED out like that again. But it's true what they say...you live and learn!

Thus far, I haven't regreted(sp?) it! It is hard though to move on and forgive him and even more importantly yourself! But I had to close that door, so my Ken window would open

Bless,

Gill

Thank God and AMEN! Gwaan thru sistren. Mi a tell u...once you REALLY, REALLY realize your SELF-WORTH...nobadi can bring u down. U deh pon top a di WORLD... I feel like swinging on a swing. A wah wrang wid mi. Lawd mi glad mi have unu fi support.

I know, that is why i like to chill out more time between relationships and god forbid i see any inconsistences (sp) in a story i used to turn into a reporter on eyewitness news.

Jengles

Female

Jamaica

2008-03-05 15:47:00