Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Learning English	According to my stepdaughter my wife , being a good Ukrainian country girl, almost never curses. Hmmmm, I'm not so sure ..... This morning she was watching TV and said: Oh Pleeeze Tom Pleeze, I Vant this crem. (Cindy Crawford wrinkle cream of some sort) Oh Tom, Sank you, Sank you, Pleeeze!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2010-11-15 09:33:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Learning English	No shoes is so you don't bring germs/dirt from the street into the home. The no barefoot thing is so you don't bring germs/dirt into bed. It's as if your tapochki (those annoying slippers) are magically making the dirt/germs disappear! This is Tanya's theory!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2010-11-11 17:35:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Learning English	When Tanya first arrived, she took off her shoes and walked on the carpet convinced she would find the bottom of her feet black with dirt .... HET. But of course we wear slippers in the house because you know there are a lot of "microbes" and people who spit on the street and we would not want that in our house! Personally I really enjoy the clean house! After living as a single dad for 2 years, what a pleasure!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2010-11-11 07:29:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Learning English	Oh Yeah ... That Russian accent .... very sexy. I also really enjoy my wife talking to me in Russian.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2010-11-10 20:09:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Learning English	The more she improves her English, the more she tells me how much she loves the Russian language ... so much more expressive and beautiful than English. But for me she will suffer and learn this crude and ugly language.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2010-11-10 19:23:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Learning English	My wife's English is getting better every day ... Yesterday I made the mistake of going upstairs with my shoes on ... my wife walked in, looked at my feet, pointed and said: Vat iz Zis?! ... I promptly took off my shoes .....	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2010-11-10 18:18:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Ukraine Passport Photo	My wife is in Ukraine right now visiting her family. She will also need the internal passport photo in November. She called the office that handles this and told them that she will be out of the country at the time she needs it. They said it's not a problem because she has an international passport and it can be used for ID in Ukraine until she can get a new internal passport. ... In a nutshell: nothing to worry about.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-03 14:11:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Ukraine Passport Photo	Are you talking about her internal passport or international passport? If it's her internal passport, in Ukraine a little "gratuity" usually goes a long way in getting things done quicker.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-06-26 13:50:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Alla Graduates, Finally!	Congrats Alla and Gary!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-29 15:52:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	One year married to the most amazing woman!	Thanks everyone. It's great to be married to the right person after 20 years with the wrong one!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-08-01 11:53:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	One year married to the most amazing woman!	The whole family:	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-31 11:28:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	One year married to the most amazing woman!	My step daughter:	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-31 11:19:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	One year married to the most amazing woman!	My Ukrainian Princess ... Edited by tom&tanya, 31 July 2011 - 11:08 AM.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-31 11:07:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	One year married to the most amazing woman!	I just wanted to pay a little tribute to my wife. Married one year tomorrow. This woman has changed my life for the better in so many ways it's difficult to even explain it. However I know most of the men here in the RUB forum know exactly what I'm talking about!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-29 15:48:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	I'm no longer married to a Ukrainian!	Congratulations!!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-07 17:17:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Paying VISA fees in Kiev	If paying with US dollars, make sure they are in pristine condition. There is a lot of paranoia about counterfeit bills.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-08-28 07:44:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Anyone need the Florida Driver's handbook in Russian?	I have a slightly used copy of the Florida Drivers handbook translated into Russian that I bought on Amazon new for $35.00. Make me an offer.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-09-15 10:23:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Useful items done in Ukraine before arrival?	We are getting ready for our interview in Kiev Oct 7th. Is there anything we should do before my fiance arrives in the US that will help us through the process once she arrives? Immunizations and several certified birth certificates with apostille have been recommended to us. Anything else you wish you had done while your fiance or spouse was still in the FSU before they arrived? Thanks Tanya has been here a year and hasn't needed any of this. Her UA passport has been accepted as proof of birth and citizenship. I did get her school transcript translated here in the US but it was done by an individual who spoke both languages and they just wrote an affirmation at the bottom and I had it notarized.. She now has a GC, SS card, Drivers license, State license for her profession, bank account etc. The immunization record will be written on the medical you will bring to the US so no need to have it translated, it will already be.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-09-21 06:18:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Travel question once VISA approved	I see that you are from Ft. Lauderdale. My wife travels back and forth to Ukraine on Transaero. They have a direct flight from Moscow to Miami FL on Saturday each week. (they had 2 times a week until the summer and maybe they will again this winter.) You can get her a flight on this airline from most cities in Ukraine. There is no visa needed for a layover in Moscow.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-10-12 10:35:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Visa approved, how long does it take to get passport?	Tanya got her visa in 2 days, picked up at a FedEx office in Kiev, you should be in good shape.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-10-19 06:40:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	My Lady Has Been Approved	Congratulations! ... Your journey is just beginning. (and get ready to eat a lot of soup!)	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-10-26 07:17:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Age difference UKRAINE CONSULATE	I suggest the USC attend the appointment if at all possible. It might make an impression at the interview.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-11-20 14:41:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	FSU women and Sexual Harassement	My wife said it's a daily occurrence for a woman to get groped when you get on a crowded bus in Donetsk. -- nothing personal.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-11-09 19:21:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Ex-husband consent for child—in Ukraine	Anything can be accomplished in Ukraine with the correct amount of cash ... you just need to know what that amount is.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-09-19 06:32:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Ukrainian Military Unfit For Combat?	I just read an article in KievPost this morning concerning the state of the Ukrainian Military. Take a look at the photo they used. I personally think this is their secret weapon!! http://www.kyivpost..../detail/119826/ Edited by tom&tanya, 31 December 2011 - 09:23 AM.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-12-31 09:19:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Siberia to Separate from Russia to become Part of the USA	It's like one of those that the USA will fall apart. It happened once already .... The civil war	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-01-13 06:46:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Ukraine airports VIP service??	just a though put the ring in your shaving kit and bring through or on a chain around your neck who will know? That's exactly what I did.... I had it in my carry on bag, nobody looked.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-03-03 16:39:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Sergey goes for Rice University!	Corrected, my version. I only want him to support us in our old age. Congrats!!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-02-24 16:50:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Supporting Fiancee'	This took 2 hours to read all these posts. OMG... What a Can of Worms was Opened. The decision is yours Alone. If we never took a chance then we'll never know what "Could have Been" If we never made a mistake we could never learn from it. Best of Luck. True. Want to read a good story? check out:, MCAT891 ... now THAT was a Ukrainian train wreck.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-08 13:28:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Supporting Fiancee'	We actually never talked about a visit to her city. We met in Kiev and Lviv for a week for our first meeting. It was uncomfortable for me as I noticed I was given hundreds of dirty looks. She explained that foreigners marrying Ukrainian girls is not popular with the men. She never didn't hold my hand or take my arm in public and I never pushed for a visit to her city anyway. Look, my girl is not close to her family, she's been estranged from her parents since she was 15. I think she has trouble letting people get too close, she's been burned before. It is possible she's not sharing with her friends for the same reason as I am - let's be sure before we shout out to the world. She told me her parents know, even though they aren't that close, and she told me she's told some of her friends. It seems that there's a lot of jumping to conclusions here and I know it's all meant to help, but please keep an open mind. Because of all the comments and advice here, I'll be 500 times more skeptical rather than the 100 times I was before I starting this forum. We are just trying to help you. The things you are describing have so many red flags that we have seen here before. I remember a friend here who last year had many of the same experiences as you, got all the way to the interview date and his fiancee never showed up at the interview. She never had him over her house, never introduced him to her family, always had a "sick grandmother, etc, etc, etc. Please make sure you visit and meet her family and friends and see where she lives.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-08 07:24:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Supporting Fiancee'	"I agree. My wife was all distraught when I bought her plane tickets back to Moscow when we met for 10 days in Kiev. She had originally planned to take the train but decided she needed to get back after our meeting, quickly. She didn't have the money and I did. She started to cry outside the Aeroflot office and later told me she was just taken over with emotion with the thought that she would be totally helpless to provide income for herself if she came to the US. We talked it out. She did pay for her train trip to Kiev and I never offered to reimburse her; she was making decent money in Moscow and would never have accepted it." This reminds me so much of my wife's reaction. When we decided to get the K-1 visa I offered to help her each month. She was working 7 days a week, most days more than 10 hours a day. She thanked me and her answer was: " For me to take money from a man would be as if I was married to him already, and we are not married yet" This blew me away. This then led to a conversation where she shared her fear that she would be totally reliant on me for everything when she came to the USA. She was three years out of a really bad marriage to her first husband. I made a promise to her that I would help her get on her feet here as soon as I could and she could make her own money. I always keep my promises to her. My experience with RUB women has shown me if they don't respect you, they can't love you. My two cents for what it's worth to the OP: If you have constant doubts, they are most likely correct. VJ is littered with stories of men (and women) who didn't listen to that little voice inside.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-07-07 06:45:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Supporting Fiancee'	My wife just went back for her first visit. She'll be back July 9. I'm fairly certain she is coming back ... she left most of her shoes here.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2011-06-25 09:49:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	FSU spouse politics	Alla refers to it as "Soviet Union" or "SSSR", I have never heard her say "USSR" Does Tanya? Just curious. The name of our street in Donetsk translates to "50 Years SSSR" and was renamed in 1972 for the big celebration. It has not been changed back. Odd, since they went to huge effort to remove all the sewer covers with the hammer and sickle and replace them with new ones with the Ukrainian symbol. Come to think of it, she doesn't say USSR. She says Soviet Union and sometimes "my country". She will say things like: "Before, in my country ... " when she talks about the Soviet Union.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-04-22 10:46:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	FSU spouse politics	1. My wife has no interest in US politics but then again she has/had no interest in UA politics. She believes all politicians are crooks in every country. 2. She had the exact reaction, and almost word for word answer concerning the secret service that Alla had. 3. She is terrified of the way we dole out health care in this country. I'm sure she would be in favor of a single payer system. 4. She believes communism doesn't work but isn't all that impressed with capitalism either ... except the shoe selection ... "it's much better than the USSR" (quote without "the" of course, "it's a stupid word and who needs it!" ) Edited by tom&tanya, 21 April 2012 - 07:40 PM.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-04-21 19:35:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Any options for petitioner unable to attend embassy interview	I wasn't able to attend Tanya's interview. It wasn't a problem and she sailed right through.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-05-13 17:25:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	KIEV	Thank you all for the info. We were planning on her doing the medical 2 days before interview, as it states you can get results same day after 3 pm. Sometime around here, i will be meeting her in kiev to attend interview. Anyone see a problem with doing the medical so close to interview??? We did it the day before the interview, no problem. She had the results in hand the same day.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-06-07 08:08:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Our daughter is here! (well, was here in June)	Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-08-04 15:56:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Did you buy a ticket for you and/or your S/O in advance?	I bought a ticket for Tanya in advance, and had her flying 5 days after the interview. .... Visa arrived with two days to spare!	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-07-28 13:05:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Okay I am offically confused	The first floor of my house is tile and after one month here it was decreed that shoes were allowed on the tile floor but no one had better set a shoe on the carpeted stairs.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-09-03 16:45:00
Russia, Ukraine and Belarus	Okay I am offically confused	Wearing a bra around the house sucks. Bras aren't comfortable, and many women's tops, especially "loungewear", is very sheer or thin. It means she's comfortable around you, or better yet she trusts you. It's a good thing, let it go. I know how much Russians and Ukrainians enjoy relaxation inside the home. The first thing my wife (and step daughter) do when they get home is change into comfortable clothes and slippers. They can't understand why I don't do the same the instant I come home.	tom&tanya	Male	Ukraine	2012-09-03 07:33:00