Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Philippines	Cold Weather	QUOTE (AJAnTESS @ Jan 12 2009, 07:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Jan 12 2009, 06:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We are in Misouri. This is Ruchie and Mathews 2nd winter here. I was suprised how quickly they adapted to the cold weather. Buy her a lot of skin lotion and have as much sex as you can to take off the chill. Works for me!!! But then, the spirit might be willing but the flesh is weak! And, besides, the freeezing temperature won't help. .......... But you can always snuggle!...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-13 06:48:00
Philippines	Cold Weather	We are in Misouri. This is Ruchie and Mathews 2nd winter here. I was suprised how quickly they adapted to the cold weather. Buy her a lot of skin lotion and have as much sex as you can to take off the chill. Works for me!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-12 17:56:00
Philippines	Finally!!!!!!	Congrats!!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-15 06:17:00
Philippines	Flight Tomorrow January 17,2009	Have a safe flight! Welcome to America...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-15 22:37:00
Philippines	Who is your favorite TV or movie cop?	Lt. Columbo.......................... The Man!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-14 22:02:00
Philippines	Cyber Bar Girls	[quote] Thought I'd break you out of the fantasy. [quote/] It did and then some....	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-17 15:08:00
Philippines	Cyber Bar Girls	QUOTE (Mister Fancypants @ Jan 17 2009, 01:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Jan 17 2009, 11:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> With all this talk about cyber bar girls and cyber sex, I am starting to get wood here... .... Seriously, I would be more worried if the girl was chatting with every Tom, ####### or Harry. .... Damn Steven. My gut is hurting!!! Good one Bud!!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-17 14:55:00
Philippines	Cyber Bar Girls	With all this talk about cyber bar girls and cyber sex, I am starting to get wood here... .... Seriously, I would be more worried if the girl was chatting with every Tom, ####### or Harry.	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-17 14:32:00
Philippines	Feb. 3 Flight	Have a safe flight.....	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-19 10:07:00
Philippines	Marriage practice in US with regards to "middlename"	QUOTE (veepee @ Jan 20 2009, 11:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> When a lady marries, which one is commonly used as middle name in ph (after she is married)? Is it our (current- as single) surname? Or its like what the US practiced (is it mandatory, anyway? ) wherein the surname (current) of the bride is being dropped and the "middle name" (our mothers maiden name) becomes now the middle name. If ever, i dont want my surname to be drop- i prefer it to be my middlename once iam married. Did all those who are now married to their USC fiance'es dropped their surnames and are noy using their mom's maidenname to be their middlename? thank you for sharing. My wife used her single surname as her new middle name. Example; Ruchie Villegas Salvoro to Ruchie Salvoro Martin.....	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-21 01:12:00
Philippines	I MISS MY LIFE	QUOTE (jom @ Jan 8 2009, 06:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am a working husband and my wife have worked her entire adult life until she arrived here. I cannot imagine myself not working. One day post-op ( shoulder) I was already up and fixing something . Of course my wife almost kicked my butt, lol. My wife is the same. Our current situation doesn't require her to work but she wants to work because that is who she is and I respect that. She is happy travelling with me for more than a year now and honestly it has strenghtened our bond as husband and wife but she is now ready to work and I won't take that away from her. One thing about my wife, she speaks her mind and doesn't sulk. We talked about her working after a year of being married and it will be that way. I respect her for what she is. When I asked her, why she need to work when she doesn't have to, sHe asked me back if I can see myself not working and thats how I fully understood. We are so the same. I will terribly miss her when she works and me travelling alone but I love my wife and there is nothing in this world I wouldn't do to make her happy. If she will be happy working, then be it. Her future earnings is OURS, and will be saved for our future travels and retirement. In our relationship there is no hers and mine, it is always OURS. That is great Joe! You and Myla discussed this and it is working for you two. I like what you said about everything being OURS.... It shows that your marriage is strong and equal......	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-08 07:14:00
Philippines	I MISS MY LIFE	QUOTE (Mykuls Merry Ann @ Jan 8 2009, 03:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hey I got a question: Does a husband have a right to say he wants to not work? And stay at home? And then let the wife work only? I am a male... and here is my advice to those women who have husbands who dont want them to work... Ladies you have to know that when you married you are no longer one. I think some husbands probably question why you want to work. What do you plan to do with that money? Does it go squarely into the same pot that your husbands income is going to? Do you think that you get more right to say about where that money goes because you made yourself? Do you think the financial priorities should change now that you are bringing home some of the bacon? If your plan is that you can spend your money how you want and his money is for taking care of house and home and you and kids, then you are not thinking with him, you are working against him. No marriage affords you the time to do that. I also would like to know if kids are in the home. The worst thing going on in America is that no one is in the home to be there for children. Mother and father are both tired and the house is falling apart, and the kids are eating fast food and garbage food 5 days a week. Because mom and dad are chasing that old American dollar. If you came to america to get your independence from a man or a husband, then you are using him by marrying him in the first place. Grow up my pilipina sisters. Dont forget what country you come from and the values it carries!!! I have great respect for pilipina women. But I know that so many of them are watching American TV, and they see how they can take advantage of their husbands and home so easily here. Dont fall into the same world that so many American women have fallen to! I do believe this is why so many American men choose to go abroad to find you in the first place. But lets be honest, are you tricking him? I think that couples should decide who is going to work. But they should also know how that money is to be spent. and know how time will be lost if they both work. Lets remember that we work to keep a good home. Whoever is at the home, man or woman, has the most important role. You hit the nail on the head. These kind of things should have been discussed long before the fiancee or wife entered the US. It has nothing to do with control. FEASIBILITY isn't controlling nor is it abusive. A couple has to decide what is best for the household. If they agree the wife stays home and can afford that, then I don't see anything wrong with that. If they both decide that the wife should work, then they should split the total bills and each pay their fair share by their income Ratio. If the husband makes 40% more in his total salary then he should pay 40% more on the bills. Vice Versa if the wife makes more money than the husband. It's all about fairness and feasibility...... QUOTE (Mykuls Merry Ann @ Jan 8 2009, 03:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nickoftime @ Dec 22 2008, 06:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Dec 22 2008, 06:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nickoftime @ Dec 21 2008, 08:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Dec 21 2008, 05:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nickoftime @ Dec 19 2008, 06:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (my_panacea = Greg @ Dec 18 2008, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Guys, I have a question... What if your husband doesn't want you to work? he just wants you to stay at the house and be a dedicated housewife? what are you goin to feel?, do?.... I will start to consider him a control freak and an abusive husband! Seriously, your husband has no right whatsoever to ask you not to work and to just stay at home and be a dedicated wife. It's more of an economic abuse which may constitute an act of violence against a woman. To work. explore all your possibilities and maximize your potentialities are your basic rights that your husband should respect and which you must protect. #######? Economic Abuse? Constitute act of vioence? Did you google that answer from someplace? It seems out of line and not related to this thread...... That's based on RA 9262, a Philippine law known as anti-Violence against women and their children act. I don't have to goggle it. I know the law very well and had prosecuted quite a few men who did such form of violence against women. Your post makes no sense again. How is your Husband asking you not to work consitute violence against woman or children. Go google some more, but this time try to come up with an answer that matches my question. She didn't say that the husband simply asked the wife not to work. The hypothetical question was "what if your husband doesn't want you to work?" which I interpreted as more of a demand and which to my OPINION is detrimental to the right of the woman to work if she wanted to. Of course there are women who are okay to being dependent to their husbands. But there are also women who prefer to be financially independent and explore their potentialities to find some source of achievement in her own. If the woman would want that and the husband does things to stop her from pursuing what she likes to achieve, that constitutes an act of violence per OUR LAW. As to whether such is true in YOUR LAW, I can only hope that it is not geared towards curtailing women empowerment. The point is, regardless of the race or where the wife came from, the decision to work should be more of the wife's than the husband's and I say that under the assumption that the wife is sensible and intelligent enough to know what will be the best for the family. As we say it in the Philippines, the wife must always be the guiding light. Hmmmm...the English translation sounds beautiful and sweet...THE WIFE IS THE GUIDING LIGHT! Let me get this right, Can the husband also be financially independent of her and explore his potential as well? YOu need to stop reading that feminist articles and grow up....This is a marriage. YOu gave up independence when you said I Do. I wonder how some of the ladies think it works. If you husband comes home one day and plops on the couch and quit working? Or he decides that his income is no longer for that home, he wants to "esplore is financial independence" hahahahahahahaha!!! YOu have lost your mind! ..... Again Bro, you are absolutey right!!!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-08 06:50:00
Philippines	I MISS MY LIFE	QUOTE (merijan @ Dec 22 2008, 09:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I wanted to add one more thing. That I would hope before you choose to get married and come so far from home, one of the many things you discussed would be your living conditions, expectations of marriage etc.. these are so important. I mean dont you already know what his expectations of a wife are? and what ur expectations are? before you got married?????? ...... It's apparent that some women are not mature enough to accept the responsibility of leaving home and taking on a marriage. Sad, so sad........	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2008-12-22 23:31:00
Philippines	On the way!	Good Luck to you both and have a very Happy life. I remember when I was in your shoes. There's no feeling like it!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-26 19:13:00
Philippines	e-ticket (what is needed at airport?)	QUOTE (Matt & Bing @ Jan 24 2009, 08:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (bluemist @ Jan 24 2009, 03:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> My fiancee bought my ticket.And I just printed out the e-ticket and that's what I showed to NAIA,with my passport and CFO stamped. Travel tax is 1,620php and terminal fee is 750php.My flight was January 17th. Happy Trip sayo. What is this travel tax? I paid the terminal fee of 750php in November but no tax. Is the tax something that only Filipinos pay?? Thanks. Yes! Only the Filipinos pay the travel tax...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-01-24 10:32:00
Philippines	To My Fellow Filipinas	QUOTE (Pinay Wife @ Oct 25 2008, 03:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Oct 26 2008, 03:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Pinay Wife, this bad blood hasn't just started. It has been going on for quite sometime, especially this past summer. My comment about seeing it from both sides hadn't nothing to do with you. It was based upon what I have seen and heard the past 6 months or so. VJ and especially the Philippine Forum needs people like you! Oh, I knew that, Danny. No worries. I actually was not active in VJ after I arrived in the US and thought about leaving after I read some of the Filipina bashings. I agree that some of our ladies got out of hand. I must admit though that I also got out of hand yesterday in one of the threads (and I reported myself ) but I did not get a ban. Thank you, Mods. And thank you for the nice comment, Danny. You are quite welcome!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2008-10-25 15:20:00
Philippines	To My Fellow Filipinas	QUOTE (Pinay Wife @ Oct 25 2008, 01:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> edit: This is in response to Daruma's post. Charles posted first. Dang!! It's like the Christianity-Islam animosity. It never ends. Know what? If nothing good comes out of this, I am going to exit VJ with my Pinay dignity intact. It will end if we just let it end. I for one have appreciated everything you have given back to VJ. I and others don't want to see you exit VJ. VJ is only as good as the participation of its members. Pinay Wife, this bad blood hasn't just started. It has been going on for quite sometime, especially this past summer. My comment about seeing it from both sides hadn't nothing to do with you. It was based upon what I have seen and heard the past 6 months or so. VJ and especially the Philippine Forum needs people like you!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2008-10-25 14:24:00
Philippines	To My Fellow Filipinas	People, just let this thing rest. We all can go on and on with this and it's not going to make things any better. I have seen fault from both sides to all of this. PEACE!!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2008-10-25 13:50:00
Philippines	What a great NEWS Ive got tonight,, yesssss!!!	Congratulations! Good luck on the rest of your Journey!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-07 20:21:00
Philippines	yeheyyyy i receive my visa	Congratulations! Have a safe trip when you are ready to come to the US....	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-10 07:19:00
Philippines	this forum is really getting slow...	QUOTE (bmtrrbt @ Feb 13 2009, 12:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> is somebody new here in the forum? i hope we will have exciting topic here...boring. Hang around for awhile. Believe me, it will change... QUOTE (charles! @ Feb 13 2009, 12:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> i can find a few controversial threads to bump back to the top Then they would wonder where all the peace and quiet went to Charles....	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-13 15:39:00
Philippines	CLYN needs advice	QUOTE (Mykuls Merry Ann @ Feb 14 2009, 11:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Uhhhmmmmm...do I need to be the first person here to say that this is FRAUD? I was too busy wiping the steam off of my glasses to notice the potential Fraud in this case.... These kind of Topics raise my Blood Pressure up and really pisses me off. Need, I say more??	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-15 12:21:00
Philippines	CLYN needs advice	What happens if the 2nd petition takes too long? Are you going to get you a 3rd boyfriend? This kind of hogwash is why the this process takes so long. Stay in the Philippines and find some sucker over there...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-14 17:25:00
Philippines	I am very much happy	That is great! You both will be together soon. Have a safe flight!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-17 19:10:00
Philippines	Anthony Bourdain - Travel Channel Monday Night	Watch the show every week. We are glad that he finally included the Philippines.... Good show tonight!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-16 23:24:00
Philippines	PREGNANT!	Congrats to the both of you!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-16 23:21:00
Philippines	When Filipino and American Culture's Clash	QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Feb 14 2009, 01:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> ......Beer for everyone!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-14 17:02:00
Philippines	When Filipino and American Culture's Clash	QUOTE (charles! @ Feb 13 2009, 09:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Feb 13 2009, 09:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Bésame Mucho @ Feb 13 2009, 05:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'd rather be at a party than squander my precious and productive time on worthless VJ, just as some people, like you, do 24/7. Does that mean we won't be seeing you anymore here on worthless VJ??? Damn the Bad Luck! what will we do! .... You did it again Charles...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-13 22:38:00
Philippines	When Filipino and American Culture's Clash	QUOTE (Bésame Mucho @ Feb 13 2009, 05:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'd rather be at a party than squander my precious and productive time on worthless VJ, just as some people, like you, do 24/7. Does that mean we won't be seeing you anymore here on worthless VJ??? Damn the Bad Luck!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-13 22:28:00
Philippines	When Filipino and American Culture's Clash	I have noticed a very big difference Steven.... When I was over there in the Philippines to see Ruchie, I had to go to a birthday party and WOW was it loud. I myself didn't have parties growing up and I really never cared about attending Birthday Parties that were too over done. I know it is the culture over there, but I am glad I don't have to worry about a party every week over here. My wife could attend one everyday if she had the chance. Not me!!!!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-02-13 17:51:00
Philippines	CFO	I understand your problem with CFO... I remember when my wife (then fiancee) went to CFO in Cebu. I was more upset then she was. They questioned why the dates on the Death Certificates of my 2 wives that I had lost to Cancer where signed by the Doctor a week later. I felt like they didn't believe the validality of the Certificates. It wasn't none of their business. The Death Certificates was enough. She ended up having to travel back there a week later so she could bring letters from the Hospices that helped me take care of my dying wives. I know CFO is a good thing, but they really overstepped their boundaries on this one...........	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-01 09:50:00
Philippines	my VISA arrived today!just 2 days after my interview!!	Congrats! Have a safe flight and a Happy Reunion!!!!!!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-12 06:38:00
Philippines	Philippine Forum Removing Conditions Thread	QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Mar 10 2009, 05:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Mar 10 2009, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We will be filing in July.... Just one more thing for them to take our money... yeah, but look at the positive side. AOS, good for 2 years $1010. cost per year $505. Removing Conditions, good for 10 years $ 535. cost per year $53.50. Thats a bargain. Yea, but I can think of other ways to spend the money..... QUOTE (RonMay @ Mar 10 2009, 06:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Mar 10 2009, 04:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Mar 10 2009, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We will be filing in July.... Just one more thing for them to take our money... yeah, but look at the positive side. AOS, good for 2 years $1010. cost per year $505. Removing Conditions, good for 10 years $ 535. cost per year $53.50. Thats a bargain. how about the citizenship? a yr from now (3 yrs of being married in the US)... that's another cost lol... We are not sure if we will go that route, but if we do, then there goes some more money to Uncle Sam......	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-10 21:48:00
Philippines	Philippine Forum Removing Conditions Thread	We will be filing in July.... Just one more thing for them to take our money...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-10 18:27:00
Philippines	Got the Visa today at 4p.m	That is Great! Have a safe flight with your husband....	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-14 19:59:00
Philippines	I got my visa today!!!! i'm ready to Flight at 18th	Congratulations.... Have a safe flight!	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-14 19:53:00
Philippines	VISA Arrived today :)	Congratulations... Have a safe flight and a great reunion with your SO.	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-14 19:55:00
Philippines	pls HELP """"""" RFE"""""""	You need to fill in your timeline, so someone would be able to help you!!! Edited by DARUMA07, 16 March 2009 - 09:49 PM.	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-16 21:45:00
Philippines	Visa arrived!!!!	That is Great! Have a safe flight and a happy reunion with your SO...	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-14 19:56:00
Philippines	Philippine Forum Removing Conditions Thread	QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Mar 10 2009, 05:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Mar 10 2009, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We will be filing in July.... Just one more thing for them to take our money... yeah, but look at the positive side. AOS, good for 2 years $1010. cost per year $505. Removing Conditions, good for 10 years $ 535. cost per year $53.50. Thats a bargain. Yea, but I can think of other ways to spend the money..... QUOTE (RonMay @ Mar 10 2009, 06:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Mar 10 2009, 04:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Mar 10 2009, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We will be filing in July.... Just one more thing for them to take our money... yeah, but look at the positive side. AOS, good for 2 years $1010. cost per year $505. Removing Conditions, good for 10 years $ 535. cost per year $53.50. Thats a bargain. how about the citizenship? a yr from now (3 yrs of being married in the US)... that's another cost lol... We are not sure if we will go that route, but if we do, then there goes some more money to Uncle Sam......	DARUMA07	Male	Philippines	2009-03-10 21:48:00