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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMedical Exam
I've seen people in the UK forum that have been denied on the basis of drug use (even for pot years ago) and they needed to apply for a waiver to get their K1 visa. However, it might happen that the psychiatrist deems her clean and nothing will come of it. Be prepared for a fight.

Good luck.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-09-16 15:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNeed to leave the US after entry on K1 due to death in the family.
QUOTE (Gary_UK @ Oct 29 2009, 01:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do you guys have any idea as to how long it will take to get the infopass appointment once I apply for one? I appreciate that this may well be hit and miss at best, I just need a ball park idea so I can set my own expectations. ( and of course start window shopping for flights ).


Ours was able to be within the next couple of days, we booked an appointment online. Good luck.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-10-29 03:03:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNeed to leave the US after entry on K1 due to death in the family.
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I really hate it when someone starts something and leaves people hanging after they try so much to help.



I think the OP may have bigger issues to deal with right now... I am sure they will come back and let us all know what happened.


Think so? The issue was dealt with by now for sure. Now almost a week later.


Give the guy a break, he just moved countries, planned a wedding, had his mother die and is trying to balance his immigration and family issues. I'm sure he has a lot to deal with in a week.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-10-23 16:07:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHelp...it's killing me
I hope you learned never to lie to the IO in the future. It *can* have serious effects on your success on entering and even present a ban from the country in some situations.

But what's done is done.

Personally I don't think you'll have any problems because as far as I know they don't record every detail about the answers you give. I know that there was one time I claimed my fiance was my "boyfriend", even though I had already used the word "fiance" many times on other visits (one of those times being difficult). But then, I don't know why they sent you to secondary and what happens to your file afterwards.

Edited by Gemmie, 06 November 2009 - 11:41 AM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-11-06 11:40:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLost passport and don't have boarding pass
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QUOTE (Gary and Alla @ Nov 28 2009, 02:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well, it is better than nothing. But I cannot say if it is "enough". So, here is the deal. You pay your $455 and take your chances. If it is enough, fine. If it is not and you get an RFE you are up a creek with no paddle. You lose the $455, have to make another trip (this time without losing yourpassport and boarding passes) file another petition and pay another $455.


You don't have to re-file just because you got an RFE, even if you figure he can't give them those specific boarding passes. They just want to see more evidence that you two met in person.

Did I read right that you have 4 other booking itineraries that you can prove you used? Do you have pictures of you two together that you can date? Do you have receipts of hotels and things you did together (hopefully with names on)? What about getting your family and friends to write letters saying that they've met your fiancee and have seen the two of you together in person? This can all be used for secondary evidence, and I've seen people get approved after an RFE by sending in some more of this (when there is nothing else), but because of your partoculr consulate, you really need to get primary stuff in there, such as boarding passes and passport stamps.

If you don't feel confident enough to send off the packet with the evidence that you have, how about waiting a bit longer until you can gather some more proof? Are you visiting each other soon?



C;ear;y you misunderstand. The meeting in person must take place before the petition is filed. If what he has is not enough and they send him an RFE, what exactly additional evidence will he send? Unless the evidence he has lost magically appears, he is SOL.


Yeah, this happens more often than you think. It even happens to Canadians (who are able to visit often) simply because they didn't have enough evidence of the trips.

If he chooses to file now rather than wait: He can still claim that they have met each other in the past 2 years and send in what evidence he has of that. They'll ask him for more evidence if they don't think it's sufficient. And in that time frame (of filing the K1 and getting the RFE, which is several months most likely), he may have had another visit and collected more evidence to satisfy them. I've seen this done many times. And even when there wasn't any more "good" evidence to send such as passport stamps, some people were approved after sending in some more secondary evidence. Though as I said, being that the country is high-fraud, I would personally wait to get more evidence before filing the K1 petition. I'm just saying how it can be done in many cases.

The bigger question is, have you filed for a new passport? You need something to prove US citizenship. Even if you have a BC, you'll need it for the future anyway.

Edited by Gemmie, 28 November 2009 - 10:21 AM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-11-28 10:20:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLost passport and don't have boarding pass
QUOTE (Gary and Alla @ Nov 28 2009, 02:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well, it is better than nothing. But I cannot say if it is "enough". So, here is the deal. You pay your $455 and take your chances. If it is enough, fine. If it is not and you get an RFE you are up a creek with no paddle. You lose the $455, have to make another trip (this time without losing yourpassport and boarding passes) file another petition and pay another $455.


You don't have to re-file just because you got an RFE, even if you figure he can't give them those specific boarding passes. They just want to see more evidence that you two met in person.

Did I read right that you have 4 other booking itineraries that you can prove you used? Do you have pictures of you two together that you can date? Do you have receipts of hotels and things you did together (hopefully with names on)? What about getting your family and friends to write letters saying that they've met your fiancee and have seen the two of you together in person? This can all be used for secondary evidence, and I've seen people get approved after an RFE by sending in some more of this (when there is nothing else), but because of your partoculr consulate, you really need to get primary stuff in there, such as boarding passes and passport stamps.

If you don't feel confident enough to send off the packet with the evidence that you have, how about waiting a bit longer until you can gather some more proof? Are you visiting each other soon?

Edited by Gemmie, 27 November 2009 - 10:06 PM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-11-27 22:05:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVisiting Other Half while I-129F being processed...
QUOTE (Neal M @ Dec 10 2009, 04:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What's wrong with -

Purpose of visit? - "Visiting friends".

That's what I always said. They would then ask the duration of my trip and I would tell them when my return flight was. Simple as that.


That doesn't fly so well if you're making very frequent trips. I was in the US for a month about 3/4 times a year, so saying I was visiting friends over there the moment I was on university holidays = wouldn't quite cut it.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-12-10 12:22:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVisiting Other Half while I-129F being processed...
I also visited during the K1 process, about 3 or 4 times.

I always told them that truth, that I was visiting my fiancee and brought something with me like a university letter and apartment contract back in the UK. I only had problems once and that was because I had been in the US for 4 weeks, and was trying to enter again 7 weeks later for another 4 weeks. He let me through after a grilling, and I never let my nerves show, even when I was actually shaking. The way I thought about it, he knows that I visit often because he can see all of the stamps in my passport, so if I act like this is just another routine visit (which it was), he'll believe me.

Good luck, just relax and you'll be fine. Act like something should be wrong, and it might be.

Edited by Gemmie, 08 December 2009 - 01:11 PM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-12-08 13:10:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresdo you think k1 fiancee visa will be approve?
QUOTE (SunDrop @ Dec 7 2009, 05:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Out of curiousity, wouldn't there be an issue about being 'legally free to marry' at the time of petitioning. If she was underage to marry in his state at the time of petitioning, she technically wouldn't be 'free' to marry?



That's the issue, in my eyes.

The K1 guidelines state that you must be free to marry at the petition filing. That's why people have to file their divorce decrees with the petition, not after.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-12-07 12:44:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresvisting rules around interview time?
If you go after your interview (when you should have the visa), you won't be able to leave again until you've applied for AOS and gotten permission to travel.

A trip before the interview is fine though, just bring evidence as always.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-12-21 14:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresDenial of Entry - Impact on Process
The thing is, there are so many stories out there of people that have used the VWP easily whilst waiting for their K1, and also of people that were denied entry. There are stories of border inspectors telling the applicant that they're NOT allowed to use the VWP during the process, and others that say it's fine. Some consulates (funnily enough, London is one) say that visiting during the process is fine as long as you have evidence of ties, and others say you must wait the process out.

And in regards to the poster that is an IO, you also bring more contradictions. Because I've been told consistently that the K1 visa is a NON-immigrant visa, hence why the applicant must file for AOS afterwards. That means although it's clear that there is eventual immigrant intent, it is in the same category as the other non-immigrant visas - which allow visits.

Furthermore, visiting DURING the process means that you clearly aren't in possession of the K1 yet, and are entering on the VWP as a "temporary visitor"... people should not be denied entry simply because they are waiting on a K1 because it's beside the point - the point is, they're currently a visitor, a tourist, and are free to use the services available until they are granted their visa. THEN it can be said that the person has immigrant intent.

Anyway, my point is, there are so many rumours about what is and isn't allowed during the process because there isn't a set of rules in place. It is simply "up to the IO" and we all know that they are human beings with their own set of beliefs, judgements and convictions. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if the IO in this topic is one of the many that denies entry to the US based on his own beliefs that there shouldn't be a VWP - and that is due to his own relationship with someone outside of the VWP. Sorry if I've misjudged you, but that's my opinion.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-01-28 17:41:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK1 and honeymoon

And another personal attack. :whistle:



I can't really tell by your photo if you are the mail order purchaser or the purchasee

Your Florida is full of fat tourists and loud snotty children

Hawaii is an over-priced tourist trap and full of drug dealers. Even the islands are nothing but tourist traps these days, the interior is too hot, and the North is a bit close to Canada for my tastes, no offense.

Cripes, I knew Americans were touchy but I at least thought you'd be off the dummy by now.

Ah yes, the American answer to every problem

Your picture and hope that 'some good old boy will modify it for you against a brick wall' is all I need to know about you Johnny boy.


GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-06-11 14:45:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK1 and honeymoon

Are you saying the US Government expects me to just stay in-country until they finish all their greedcard filing?


Yes, because if you were to leave whilst having a Resident Card in progress, how would you get back in? That's why they let you have the Advanced Parole (which you get within 4-8 weeks of applying for your GC), so that you can use it to travel abroad whilst they're making a decision.

It's on Wikipedia:

Once the adjustment of status application is accepted, the alien is allowed to stay in the United States even if the original period of authorized stay on the Form I-94 is expired, but he is not allowed to leave the country until the application is approved or rejected. If the alien has to leave the United States during this time, he/she can apply for travel documents at the USCIS with form I-131, also called Advance Parole.


And on the USCIS site (under Processes/Procedures for a GC and then under Travel):

Advance parole is most commonly used when someone has Form I-485, Application to Register Permanent Residence or to Adjust Status, pending. If you depart the U.S. while your I-485 application is pending without first obtaining advance parole, your case will be denied unless you fit into a narrow exception for those maintaining certain nonimmigrant statuses.


GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-06-10 17:02:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMultiple touches but no NOA2
Calm down Melissa.

Our file was touched a few times here and there, and then after waiting 5 months, there were a series of touches and then the website updated us as approved, and we got the letter in the mail. It could be nothing. Or it could be something, and you'll find out in a few days.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-06-26 10:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHelp with bad past
Thanks Andrew.

My certificate definitely reads 'NO LIVE TRACE' but I'm not too worried about it. I've always refused any police trouble and after background checks, nothing has ever been found, so unless it comes up again, I'll not worry about it.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-07-26 11:08:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHelp with bad past
I would just like to add that my police report came back as saying 'No Live Trace' and I have NEVER been in trouble with the police. No tickets, no arrests, no official warnings, nothing. And when I got to the interview, they asked if I had ever had any problems with police and I said none, and that was all that was asked. It wasn't until people on this forum told me what the statement meant that I started to wonder what the heck happened with my police check. Thankfully it didn't set me back at all.

If you're asked at the interview if you've been in trouble, tell the truth! The last thing you need is a misrep charge.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-07-22 15:48:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresvisiting during k1 process
I'm a Boston UK'er too, I completed the process in 2009, so let me know if you have any questions. :)

I went through Logan about 12 times in our 4 year long distance relationship, I always told them that I was there to visit my boyfriend or fiancee. I never had any problems getting through except one time when the trips were close together. He asked a lot about my intentions and asked to see various bits of paperwork, and I truly believe he would've sent me to secondary if I hadn't had that. So although it's a small percentage that are returned to the UK, the risk is there. Just come prepared and most importantly, act calm and comfortable.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-09-27 10:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHi Everyone! New to this whole procedure and a bit nervous
United Kingdom is fine.

We stapled a check to the front of the entire file, and it was cashed straight away. We put it all together by paperclipping sections and then putting it all in one big envelope, along with contents and coloured labels to make it easy to look at.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-10-09 11:33:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresGetting married while in US versus applying for a K-1 visa later
It depends on what you want to do marriage-wise (if you want to wait longer before getting married), that should be your first decision.

Since she didn't come to the US with the intent of marrying you and staying there, she is eligible to change her status if you marry now. That means she cannot leave the US until she has proper documentation in hand to re-enter, and this can take anywhere from about 4-16 weeks from when you file AOS.

If she goes back to Taiwan, you can file a I-129F for a K1 visa so that she can come and marry you and then adjust status within 90 days. The K1 takes roughly 6 months, give or take a few weeks/months on either side.

There's also the option of marrying her in Taiwan and then filing a spousal visa for her. Read the Guides once you've decided when you want to marry.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-10-18 16:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresWhat was the hardest part of the process??
The near-5-month wait for the NOA2 was the hardest part for me. Knowing you have no control on anything, and time ticking by whilst people ask you about it every day was a close second.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-10-25 10:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresJust Beginning...Need my UK fiance' here yesterday.....

As for Relationships breaking up because of distance, I don't believe it's really them rushing into things, there are just some relationships that shouldn't be and some many people blame the distance on all their problems, and once that distance is gone there's nothing to blame. That's another good reason why you should meet in person and well have to.


I agree, I think that's what I was trying to say. I've seen lots of people on here and in real life that got together after a LDR and it was short-lived. In some cases, it's almost as though the romantic notion of distance is over and suddenly real life is harder than they thought it would be.

Adjusting to married life, well actually adjusting to life together, in the same space... that is the hard part. Distance (although hard) was a breeze compared to that.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-04 15:19:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresJust Beginning...Need my UK fiance' here yesterday.....
It's relevant because it sounded like YOU were asking how people could possibly fall in love before meeting. And then you further confirmed that by telling people that it was irrational to think you could do that, etc.

No firestorm here. I was just giving stuff from my experience too.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-04 15:14:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresJust Beginning...Need my UK fiance' here yesterday.....
Kenny, you don't have to tell me how relationships work. I have never claimed that butterflies and strong desire will result in a lasting relationship, because quite frankly, I know it doesn't work that way. I know people that met in "real life" and had the same feeling of wanting to be with that person "forever" and in the end it didn't work out because they lacked other things that were vital, such as communication skills, mutual goals and values, similar priorities, trust, even the ability to be friends and spend time together that didn't end in sex.

The reason I was telling you about how I felt was because you questioned if it was possible to fall in love when you haven't met the other person. It's easy for people to say "yes I loved him before I met him". So I gave you examples of how I knew I loved him (caring about him, doing things for him, making sacrifices for him, wanting a future together, wanting to spend time together, really getting to know him, etc... love is something that is difficult to put into language, but I consider those to be pretty defining features of being in love). You say it's irrational to think it's love, and you may be right. Like I said, love is hard to define. It feels differently to different people. But my interpretation of my feelings at the time was that I felt very strongly for him and had a desire to be together.

Having said that, there IS a huge difference when you transition from an online relationship to in-person relationship. You really get to notice things that you wouldn't have otherwise. How he uses his eyes and hand signals during conversation, how clean and tidy he presents himself and his living space, his habits, how he interacts with others, the list goes on. Having a transition from long distance to living together has its hardships too. Personally, we didn't have much surprise as we had spent weeks living together before getting engaged, and then several months living together before getting married. We already knew each other.

Someone recently told me that me and my husband seem inseparable, and when I replied that we just love spending time together, the person laughed and said "you've been married for just over ONE YEAR, wait until you get to the five years, ten years, etc". I was told that I was still in the honeymoon stage. And that's a fair comment, I know how that works. But at the same time, this measure of testing the relationship via longevity is flawed in itself; because at what point does it 'pass the test'? I know people that didn't think we would be together after a few months, and we're now coming up on our five-year anniversary of being together in the 'real world'. I know people that have pulled out of the immigration process; couples that met in the conventional 'real world' that are separated and contemplating divorce... do we get to say we made it because we out-lasted them? What about when we make our tenth wedding anniversary, are we still in the trial period? What about those people that have been married for nearly FORTY YEARS that suddenly get divorced, are we allowed to say that they didn't work out because technically it wasn't forever?

To me, if your marriage breaks down BECAUSE of the issues that are brought up due to distance, immigration, adjusting to living together.... that means you probably jumped into it, called it love, and weren't able to have a lasting relationship based on what you thought you had.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-04 12:39:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresJust Beginning...Need my UK fiance' here yesterday.....

Very cool about your story, and for those who believe cinderella and other fairy tales are real life, more power to you.. for those in the real world, those relationships are NOT the norm and although I have no statistics, these relationships seemingly rarely last.


What does Cinderella and fairy tales have to do with this?

These relationships ARE real life. We DO live in the real world. I wanted to talk to my then-boyfriend so much that when everything was going to cr@p at home, and I had no internet or phone, I would stand outside a library at night in the freezing cold just for the chance that I could get a computer and talk to him. I quit a job that said I couldn't see him at Christmas. I travelled 6 hours to replace a missing passport the day before my flight so I could still see him. I packed all of my things and moved across the world because I wanted to be with him.

All of that is real life, and not to mention that in the 'real world' divorce and marital breakdown is running rampant anyway, so perhaps conventional relationships are missing that special something. So just because you can't understand how two people can feel that way about each other when they've never met before, don't judge others.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-03 12:48:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresJust Beginning...Need my UK fiance' here yesterday.....
Another defender of 'being in love before you meet' here.

I didn't meet my husband in person for nearly 2 years. We were just friends for a long time, and even when we realised we wanted to be together, I was a teenager and had school and financial troubles. We knew we loved each other because we spoke everyday, we cared for each others well being, we saw a future together, all of it. When we finally met in person, it was wonderful and I didn't really have any surprises because we knew each other so well. We also spoke of marriage before we met, but only in a hypothetical context, we didn't look at visas and rules until we decided we definitely wanted in, and had seen each other a few more times.

The first few times you visit, it will be hell saying 'goodbye', but you'll live through it and it will get easier. I


I actually found the opposite. At first, it was excitement and confirming what I thought about him. The more I saw him, and the longer the trips were, the harder it became to say goodbye. We did that for 4 years straight and by the end, I was practically dragging along the bottom of his plane. :lol:

I have to say though, it's all worth it. Even though there are so many struggles due to immigration, I'm so happy that I married him, he makes every problem seem doable.

Edited by Gemmie, 03 November 2010 - 09:36 AM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-03 09:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresTips for not getting turned away for a visit?
My tips for him:

- Relax, don't panic or it will show through your body language.

- Make sure you have your return ticket out to show him if he asks for it, or seems suspicious that you won't return.

- Yes to all of those things to bring, but don't offer them unless the officer asks you to, or you think it will help.

- Short answers, only respond to questions asked in brief replies (as you have nothing to hide and don't need to ramble).

- Be polite, smile, maybe make some small-talk such as weather or tiredness.

- Personally I wouldn't call the airport as they give conflicting advice. We once called the landing airport and they just said generic things, but they won't remember who you are when coming in anyway.

You'll be fine :)
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-04 13:31:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresthe kind people who process our cases :)
I also knew it was going to be a 6 month wait, so wasn't too put-off when I got my NOA2 in 5 months. And like Gary, I wasn't too concerned about the process as I knew that there was nothing I could do, and focused on school, going out with my friends, communicating with my fiancee, etc.

BUT I was annoyed hearing about the people that would crop up on here, asking how to send in AOS paperwork because they "just decided" to get married on a visit. I'm not saying it can't happen. I just believe that rule should be cancelled completely as it allows too much visa fraud and the lines between spontaneous marriage and spontaneous immigration are too thin. I disliked hearing about all of the tourist visa or VWP cases, and all of the illegal cases, whilst I was there after a 9 month wait - still waiting to get paperwork sorted in the US.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-25 10:24:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresJust Looking for Advice
I agree with the others, personally in your situation I would've went forward with the K1 as well. Moving to another country and finding work would be incredibly hard, especially with the current economy in Ireland, and the uncertainty of a job in Canada.

I understand your wanting to spend time together in person before you commit to getting married, especially because life together isn't exactly normal life (with one of you on vacation). Me and my husband didn't want to get married at that point in our lives either, but unfortunately there was no other option if we wanted to be together. (The UK has a visa for unmarried partners but it requries you to have lived together for two years prior - which is almost impossible!) As Kathryn said, things speed up and slow down in long distance relationships and sometimes all you want to do is stop everything and take things at your own pace. i.e. Having time together before getting married, you wish you could slow it down. The visa process itself, you wish you could speed it up. But if you believe your relationship is strong enough to get married, I advise you to go with the flow.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2010-11-08 15:29:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
Don't worry, I think you're good for the future. You've only petitioned for the visa, you haven't actually applied for the K1 yet, that's only once it gets to the consulate. Not that it would have any bearing on the future anyway.

I understand how you feel with the 'only getting married for a visa' business. There's no way to be together in America as boyfriend and girlfriend, unless one of you is a skilled worker or directly related to a USC. Even tourist visas run out, that's if you're lucky enough to get one with a boyfriend/girlfriend there. We've had the same discussion many times ourselves and that's why we're not having a big wedding, in fact we might not have a wedding at all. We're looking at just signing the marriage papers at this time to be together and then when we know that *we* want to get married, have a fancy wedding, change names, etc for *us* and not for the stinking US government... we'll do that. smile.gif

Hope to see you back on VJ in the future!
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-11-16 17:05:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
Chelle, it's understandable you're feeling let down. I hate when plans have to be cancelled or postponed! Do you know when Keith plans on coming over now? When does he think he'll have paid off the money? I kind of understand wanting to pay off the money first as I owe my dad money too and want to pay him back before I move to the US, so that I can begin the new chapter of my life without thinking 'hmm I still owe him that money..'. Also, consider the exchange rate too; it would be easier to pay it off when in the UK. I know it sucks though.. your emotions are bound to be all over the place at the moment anyway as you can feel the date coming up when you have to leave. That is the HARDEST thing.

Just try to focus on how great the time together has been.. you've been very lucky, I would do anything to have 6 months with my fiance! We've had a total of 6 months together over almost 6 years!!

As for Christmas, try not to worry about his ex-wife. As you say, it's not that it's his ex that is the problem if you trust him, but knowing someone else gets to spend that precious time with him. Don't forget that he'll be moving over to be with you very soon.. Christmas is only a holiday, but next year you two will be reunited without having to worry about leaving again.

Darkraven, it's fine for your dad to co-sponsor if he lives with you. We're doing the same.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-11-16 16:11:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
Can you find a co-sponsor?
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-11-11 08:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
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QUOTE (Shannon ? Nick @ Nov 9 2008, 03:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just been checking out the consulate here in the UK mellow.gif Consulate receiving to interview 78 days!!!! wacko.gif so if thats accurate even if we get approved in early December I wont get an interview till February crying.gif crying.gif

But on a lighter note Shan will be here in 5 more sleeps kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif


Yaaaay!

We're a little worried about how long it takes to get an interview too. We're planning on March at this point (we're a few weeks behind you).

We're in the same boat as you, Aubrey! He's waiting on his police report, I've requested my transcripts but I'm just waiting on my cosponsor to request hers. I know she doesn't have any of her other stuff together because I told her to wait so her paystubs are recent. I haven't filled out the I-134 nor have I had my birth certificate or anything notarized because I want everything to be as recent as possible. Our timeline says we shouldn't be seeing an NOA2 until the end of December so I think we'll be fine waiting until I'm home for Thanksgiving. At the same time, if by some miracle we had an early approval I don't want to spend weeks gathering this stuff! Uggghhh...and I'm worried about how the holidays will affect us. I can guarantee everyone and their brother will be on vacation at both the embassy and the service centers. I hope that doesn't delay us toooo much.

How are you guys dealing with the work notice thing? Sebastian is required to give a month's notice and he's a little concerned about giving them his notice once we know the interview date just in case something goes wrong at the interview. It makes more sense for him to wait until after the interview, but we don't want to wait an extra month to be together!


Hmm, perhaps you should wait until you book your interview as then you'll know around 2 months in advance when it's going to be... then a month before, hand in the notice? That means you can still work up to the interview date and then you're free to go, and if God forbid something should go wrong, have a back-up plan just in case. Does he have some savings to support himself for a few extra days/weeks?
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-11-10 07:26:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
Try to stay positive, you won't be denied unless something serious is wrong with your petition. Unless you're not able to marry, haven't met in the past 2 years, aren't a US citizen or have a criminal conviction... you're in. The worst you can get is a RFE and then it will be done within days / couple of weeks.

Come on guys, you're next in line after June!! smile.gif
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-10-04 19:01:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
I think it was more a case of personal feelings involved because of the poster I was interacting with.

Anyway. smile.gif

I've been following you July filers ever since the beginning as I was meant to be one too. Bringing you lots of hopefulness.



Awwwwww
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-09-04 05:52:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
I would be careful what you say about those who adjust status from the VWP because once I too called it a "loophole" and had a gang of posters jump on me for it for 1- implying that people were trying to commit fraud and 2- using the word "loophole".

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It's hard to start planning your life together, to get so excited about it, but still knowing that its so far away.


I find this too, especially when everyone and their mother is asking when the wedding is, when he's coming over to visit, why he can't move to the UK, why it's so hard to move over there, why I have to get a visa, etc. . Whenever someone asks when the wedding is, I have a feeling of frustration/hopelessness/anxiety... because we just don't *know*. I always tell people I'm working on getting the visa before I start planning anything and they find that odd. Most people don't want to hear the "true" answers as it's too complicated so I get tired of having to try and give a short version only for them to ask again the next time.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-09-04 05:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJuly '08 filers
QUOTE (Aubrey @ Aug 31 2008, 11:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Terri and Seb @ Aug 31 2008, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hang in there! Sebastian left nearly a month ago, but we're holding up okay. I bought a plane ticket to England for New Year's and having a definite date to look forward to is a big help. You're lucky for having so much time together, don't forget that! smile.gif



Yeah, maybe you all look at my post with disgust that I'm already complaining before he's even left. I know I'm lucky that he's here with me now, but it's really hard knowing that he's leaving again. Everything feels just perfect with him here - it's our home now. I dread waking up without him there next to me. Sorry if I sound like a whiner, I just know how much it's going to suck when the rug is pulled out from beneath me. We both cry when we're apart. sad.gif




I know exactly what you mean.

When I spent 6 weeks in the US with my fiancee, I was so happy. But as time went on, I found myself getting sadder. People on VJ would tell me to just enjoy the time we had together, and my fiancee told me the same thing, not to think about the day of flying back. Though family reminded me constantly that I *was* going back, showing excitement for having me back in the UK so I could be with them instead. I felt like I was being pulled in both directions yet the one thing I couldn't do is ignore the inevitable time when I would have to leave again.

It got to the point where I was feeling upset in the mornings when I showered because I knew it was one morning closer to being "taken back"... I even considered not visiting again because even though I enjoyed our time together, it was also adding salt to the wound when our time ended.... it's a normal reaction but just think of the time when you won't have to leave. That's what I do, and it helps a bit.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-09-01 06:45:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers at the CSC - How are you doing?
Will do!

Though your visa will be void upon entry anyway... it's not like your greencard photo or anything. smile.gif
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-08-22 06:16:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers at the CSC - How are you doing?
Which version of the passport photo? The one you gave at London?
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-08-22 05:30:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsApril 2009 K-1 Filers
Yeah Allie, the London interview is very easy peasy.

He can leave his phone and stuff around the corner at Gould Pharmacy (they show this on the map when he gets the last packet), and the interview is over within a couple of minutes (once you get through the hours of waiting there).

Good luck smile.gif
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-06-09 13:52:00
Middle East and North AfricaHe's driving me crazy
I'm not trying to judge you by asking this, but what did you expect when you brought him here? Has he ever been to the US before? If it's a culture that he doesn't understand yet, then it's natural for him to have many questions about anything and everything, from gas prices, to the area, to when he'll be able to do things for himself.

I understand you have your own things going on with work, finances, and your daughter, but you knew all of this when you petitioned for him to move over..? It's a big transition for him, and both of you need patience and communication to get through it. I imagine if you moved to Iran, you would be wondering many things yourself, including about your independence.

It takes a while to get over the fear and adjustments that come with making phonecalls and finding out information. English is my first language but I have a British accent, and even I hate speaking on the phone to American companies. It's amazing how a different accent throws them off. Try to have some patience. He's only been here for a month.

Good luck.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-11-14 14:29:00