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United KingdomQuick question
QUOTE (NickyMcMillan @ Jul 24 2008, 01:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes its a good idea to get the vaccinations done ahead of the medical. I got mine done on the NHS for free. Just remember to have your gp give you a copy of your vaccinations record, so that you can take with you to the medical.

You can wait til you move to the US to have them done. But of course you would have to pay to have them done. Just as well doing them in the UK, as its free. smile.gif


Thanks.

I'll have them done over the coming months. Are they good to go for a few years? Also, which ones are required?

And Dooley, I'll skip the extra process to petition against vaccinations. I've had most of them as a child and they never did me any harm. Plus I'm not going too spend any extra money or time on something that isn't too important to me.

Injections are for health reasons and I might as well get them done while I have the NHS available. smile.gif
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-07-24 10:28:00
United KingdomQuick question
Oh no, I WANT the vaccinations.

I have no problem with having them, I just want to do it in the cheapest way possible.

And it is a requirement I think.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-07-24 06:08:00
United KingdomQuick question
I'm way ahead of myself here, but I've read someone say that it's a good idea to get the required vaccincations before the medical since they can be done on the NHS rather than paying the extra fees.

- It this a good idea?

- Which vaccinations are required for people from the UK? (I've also read that it's different for each country?)

Thanks.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-07-24 05:54:00
United KingdomFIANCEE VISA
You might want to look at some immgiration sites for the UK.

If she's in the US, I have no idea how that works out, though she is still a UK citizen.
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-07-30 05:37:00
United KingdomI know most of you met your OH online...
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Does anyone remember the first time they met there SO in the USA, how easy was it to get threw customs?


Mine wasn't so easy.

I was stopped by an officer AFTER getting through the initial POE... he asked all about my boyfriend and how we met (to which I said online)... then he asked to see my tickets and how I paid for them as a student (I told him my dad loaned me the money). I then asked if there was a problem and he said no and gave everything back to me. I was SO nervous as I was moments away from meeting Bill for the first time, and then that happened! Thank goodness it turned out fine.

Me and Bill have been together for 4.5 years, but I count from when we officially met, 2.5 years. smile.gif
GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-08-03 16:53:00
United KingdomI know most of you met your OH online...
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Every single one of my friends have met him, repeatedly, and yet nobody asks about him. It's really weird, it's like they're afraid to ask about it because they're just SURE we've broken up and they don't want to offend???


That's not very nice! My friends are nice enough to ask about him often, but they never ask about the visa process because they know it's way too complicated for their liking. They do ask why I can't just move over and get married, or why he can't just come here. They also ask me why there are so many people just walking into the UK when it's so difficult for my fiancee to do so... I try not to get frustrated at that, though, because they don't know the details.

Once I was on the phone to my brother, we were discussing my fiancee not looking for a job in a while... he said "I know you're getting married and that, but to be honest, it's his life... and it's not like you're going to be together permanently." What does he mean by that?! Of course we're going to be together permanently! My family are pretty much the same when it comes to the topic though; they'll ask how my fiancee is doing and when we're next going to see each other, and they're happy to spend time with him when he visits. But the fact that I'm moving over there next year seems to constantly leave their minds, they're always asking if and when I'm leaving, and when I'm getting married, even though I'm forever reminding them that there's red tape to break through first.

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Another congradualated me when i told her i was engaged to my american man blush.gif then when she saw i was planning on moving to america she asked why do you want to do that then?


Ditto!

The only thing I can say in response is "... well we're getting married... it's the only way to be with him..." and wait for them to say "oh, right."

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I've found that in the US people seem to think our story is incredibly romantic and they don't blink an eye at the internet bit. However in the UK people seem far more judgemental about it. I just ignore them or if I think they're worth it try to explain how it works.


I find this, too. The reaction is the US is usually a look at both of us and then "awwww", though I don't know if it's because we're physically together... if I was back in the UK, maybe it would be different.

Edited by Gemmie, 03 August 2008 - 04:07 AM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-08-03 04:05:00
United KingdomI know most of you met your OH online...
I'm not feeling down because of prejudice or anything. no0pb.gif

It's just a temporary annoyance when people make the same comments. In general, I'm used to them and expect them so try to brush them off. I just wondered if other people got the same ones.

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What also hurts is how being in a long distance relationship means I'm treated by one or two of my friends as if my fiancé doesn't exist. Now, I am very appreciative that my friends don't exclude me from their outings just because I cannot take Alex with me (my friends do many things as couples, but I am never made to feel like a third wheel when I go along) but it would be nice to be occasionally asked how he is or how the wedding plans are coming along. One day I was with two close friends, one of whom only gets to see her boyfriend at the weekend. The other friend said, 'oh, I feel so sorry for you, not having seen your boyfriend in a week!' Another time, when he went away for two weeks, that friend said to me, 'Oh, I feel so sorry for mutual friend - she's not going to see her boyfriend for a fortnight, and she must be missing him greatly'. I just agreed with her - what else could I say? I DID feel sorry for mutual friend but I didn't think I needed that pointing out in front of me!


This happens to me too, sometimes.
Once I was at dinner with two friends of mine, and one of them brought up a mutual friend of everyone - saying how she couldn't possibly have a relationship with her boyfriend while he was away in the US for work because how are they supposed to discuss things properly with all the distance? She then realised what she had said, and actually said ALOUD "Oh sorry Gem, I completely forgot"... these friends have met my fiancee!

I also hear the comments you brought up, but usually it's the person going through the time away from their OH. I always hear about how someone misses their boyfriend so much because they haven't seen them in a week, or how they really really need to spend time with their girlfriend that night because she's been gone for three WHOLE weeks. I understand that it's difficult to be away from loved ones but I just ask for a little empathy in the waiting that I endure; you don't have to constantly watch what you say. But just don't act as though Bill doesn't exist or that we're not a real couple.

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GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-08-01 16:51:00
United KingdomI know most of you met your OH online...
Usually I hear "how did you know he wasn't a 50 year old pervert or serial killer?" or "how do you know he isn't cheating on you with some girl over there?" I also get "were your parents OK with that?!" (since I travelled to the US alone when I was 18 to meet Bill)

I just tell them that after talking to someone everyday for 2 years (before meeting), you get to realise they are who they say they are. Or I ask how anyone knows that their partner isn't cheating on them since no one is with their OH all the time... you just know! It's called trust and intimacy. And tell them that my dad had spoken to him (and his mother) many times before I went to meet him, and trusted me.

It annoys me when people also call it an "online relationship" just because we met online. It's no different than any other long-distance relationship. We talk on the phone everyday, send text messages, send each other things, we spend holidays together.

People are usually surprised when they hear I'm engaged as I'm only 21, or make comments about being too young. I do agree that a lot of people rush into relationships and marriage but why judge me based on my age? They don't know how long we've been together or how mature I am, or anything. Why do I have to have experienced many years of failed relationships before people accept that I'm ready? But the people who actually know me feel differently, and that's what matters.

The other day, I was asked why I go clubbing with my friends occasionally when I'm engaged! As if I can't do things like that without automatically falling at strangers' feet! Sometimes it frustrates me when people are so ignorant.

How do you deal with comments?

Edited by Gemmie, 01 August 2008 - 05:56 AM.

GemmieFemaleUnited Kingdom2008-08-01 05:56:00