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please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

Ok this is *Andrew* an I tried to keep how shall I put it, sensible mindset at first looking through this thread (brought to my attention from fee), but I mean I seriously have to agree with the myspace.com comment. This chick seems very immature for her age, I know our situation an ages might cause some to say thats cheek of me to say but the lot of you also know our story an maturity...

Stace,
Ok this is comming straight from my heart an totally not meant to be mean, rude, or anything which might fall within but girl what in god's green earth do you think your doing. This is the real life an not Princess Diaries or Cinderella, you may think you know the guy but you dont, my fiancee' didn't thought she knew me but even until we met face to face after over a year of constant voice connection an nearly a year of my cam never being turned off, she still didnt truely know me until we met... I Can Not Stress How Much You Should Have Someone Come With You On This Trip BECAUSE OF THE POTENTAIL DANGERS.

Don't ask but I know full damn an well how bad "older guys on the net" can get with little girls, please be careful as love is nothing if you have no life... :bonk:

AFQuaid

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2006-06-27 17:58:00

please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

Stace,
I just noticed in your profile you only met him in March. 2 months? I'm speechless and all I can say is I hope you continue to get to know him before going ahead with this.

AFQuaid

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2006-06-27 15:11:00

please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Erm, if she did that wouldn't they they just turn her right back round to the UK? If that was sarcastic advise IMHO that was uncalled for... :protest:

AFQuaid

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2006-06-27 14:26:00

please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

Hey Stace,
In the spirit of VJ welcome to the message boards. Please make yourself comfortable by setting up your timeline, your signature and grab a coffee and read the links previously posted directing you to the extremely informative guides, websites and perhaps check out some example forms so you can get a better picture of what this process is like from a couples view and the stages/legal view.

It may look very overwelming as most people find when they research into a way to "make it happen" but if you're serious we know we will be seeing you around and VJ is always here to help you with any questions or concerns you may have about the visa process. Though we aren't lawyers, we're just like you and your boyfriend just a little older.

The first thing I'd like to say as you've just read from the others, which I totally back is you need to be 100% sure you and this guy are serious enough to want to dive into this and you need to ask yourself if you are prepared to do what it takes to be together and stick with it till you finally make it. Patience is one of the hardest things couples are forced to learn during this process. The waiting game can not only be frustrating but absolutely heartrenching at times.

Now the K-1 Fiance(e) visa is a visa aimed at engaged couples where one is a USC (that is VJ lingo for United States Citizen ie your boyfriend) and the other is a foreign citizen commonly refered to as the foreign fiance(e) or "alien." The purpose is so you may go to America with the intention of marrying and reside there with your then husband perminantly. But that's not it the K-1 is ONLY the START of this journey, you then need to Adjust Your Status to obtain a Green Card and then if you wish become a Naturalized Citizen of the US. In total it can be anything upto 5 years until you're totally free of filling in paperwork, going to interviews etc. As for the length of time you wait for K-1, it can be anything from 4-11 months, as you can see everybodys case is different and there are delays, obsticals and frustrations. You are not allowed to stay with your fiance(e) in the USA for more than 3 months at a time whilst you wait for your approval.

To touch on the age issue in your case. I don't think you should jump into this process UNTIL you and your family have met this person, in person. It is a VERY dangerous thing to do to meet somebody even if you think you know him for the first time. I'm sure even many older people here would agree with me that it is much safer to bring a friend or relative to meet him with you. In general, not just because you're young though it is a factor. Whilst you visit him in November take photographs of you both together, perhaps with friends and family in them too and maybe you'd like to take the I-129f forms (the packet that starts the process for a K-1) with you when you go meet him incase you do get engaged so you can fill them out together and he can send it off, because HE has to petition for YOU. You fill find the appropiate forms as you search around VJ and the London Embassy website. Or if you have not known this guy for particuarly long I'd recommend making a second visit before starting this process. You want to make sure you're sure, backing out then trying to re-apply will raise some red flags. I'd say wait till January for your boyfriend (then fiance) to post the application so you are in the ok zone.

We are in a slightly different situation, I am 18 this coming September and my fiance (a USC) is 21 this coming November. We had contacted the London Embassy about the age requirement and they instructed us at the time when we applied which was Sept 30th 05 that as long as my USC fiance was over 18 and I had parental concent and letters from my parents saying they approve and support our intentions we should be fine. We are waiting for the K-1 interview at the moment and I do not plan to enter the United States until October if approved so I am going with the marriage laws of 18 of the US.

Like the others have said, read, re-read and read some more. Mental preparation is another key, are you ready for marriage? Andy and I had known each other for 4 years via letter and internet before giving in to the fact we had something much more deeper than a friendship, a further year before we saw each other in the flesh and he proposed and 2 months after touching back to the UK we started to research our options and began the K-1 journey. My parents know him, I know his...everybody is fine with this and we have brillient support from other older couples on VJ despite our first impressions.

Keep your chin up and get down to some thorough reading, get that boyfriend involved too if he's really keen. And I hope to see you post in the future that you've began the journey to your future. Best of Luck

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AFQuaid

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2006-06-27 14:18:00

Help!

Ack it won't let me attach my NOA2 to show u

Edited by AFQuaid, 26 June 2006 - 06:03 PM.

AFQuaid

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2006-06-26 17:58:00

Which process will be best for us (K-1 or K-3)?

Theres been alot of "red flag" threads recently which have ruffled a few feathers here at VJ, possibly yours just looks the same to some. I am a firm believer in the past is in the past and if you're SURE about this intention to marry. Congratulations and I wish you all the best. It isn't easy for anybody to consider marriage to somebody who has had quite a troubled history, I totally respect that you can put this thing with her rushed past marriage behind you and move on fresh and consider starting a new life together.

There are guides at the top of the page which gives you a description and details of both K-1 and K-3 processes. I personally say in your situation to go for the K-1, reason being you won't be rushing into marriage for at least 6 months when the visa is approved which gives you more time to get to know each other and make the right decision. A K-3 you apply for after marriage which then if you two decide it doesn't work you'd end up with another divorse on your hands. It's upto you, but remember either way isn't going to be easy and the waiting process will test your relationship to the max.

AFQuaid

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2006-06-28 21:14:00

Is an age a factor when applying?

Like the others have said age shouldn't be an issue for you guys at all. The only times I personally have ever read an age issue is when the couple have a rather large age gap between each other or the couple is below 18.

See I'm 18 in September and we're getting around the "legal to marry" issue by waiting till after my Birthday to legally do it if the visa is approved

You guys should be fine. Best of luck.

AFQuaid

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2006-07-31 11:25:00

A question for all of the British / English

This is a very interesting thread. It reminds me of a fillable form way back last year thats only option for citizenship, place of birth and current residence the only drop down option was the long "United Kingdom/N. Ireland." I later disguarded using that particular fill in document as I was adviced here somebody went to their interview with it and got a telling off. I'm sure it wasn't for that reason but it made me think of it. Then I decided to just fill the form in by hand from one of the packets when I actually got them ...with Scotland as my birthplace and England UK as my current country of residence and of course a british citizen.

I wish the "UK" would just be a dang state of the US it'd be so much more simplier. But here's somebody here who thought Seatle was a state *runs.*

Fiona

Edited by AFQuaid, 05 September 2006 - 06:39 PM.

AFQuaid

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2006-09-05 18:39:00

Photo Issues

And remember to have more than 2 done and you'll need copies to take with you to the interview

AFQuaid

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2006-03-01 11:25:00

Anybody know anything about the medical

Hello,
I realise there is a medical later on in the k-1 process. I am incredibly worried about the fact I have two medical conditions. A muscle wasting disorder which makes me wheelchair dependant (genetic not infectious what so ever) and I am chronically asthmatic. The muscle wasting disorder is progressive (worsens with time). I have already contacted california social services and I have a number to call if my visa is approved to recieve emergency disability benefits for 2 years till I have to change status and then I can apply for the full amount.
Has anybody gone to this medical with a medical condition and been turned away because of it? I have done ALOT of reading online and can find no mention of any k-1 visa stories with people with medical conditions. I realise you have to have a chest x-ray. Will asthma show on this? I realise they are looking for signs of TB but I was just wondering. Also I realise their is a blood test involved, I take steriod inhalers so this would be found in my blood yes?
We keep trying to be positive, surely they cannot turn us away because I have a medical condition. Thats disability discrimination. But on the other hand they can argue back I'll be a burden to the system.
Anybody at all got any information?

AFQuaid

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2006-01-29 15:05:00

The RFE Master List

wow some really great advice. I hope people find this thread helpful. :yes:

AFQuaid

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2006-03-10 20:03:00

The RFE Master List

I noticed somebody asked a week or so ago if there was a list of all RFEs so people could look out for possible "boo-boos." So here we go!

My RFE reason was;
The forms we downloaded didn't tell us to add evidence of meeting in the past two years or frontal face photographs. Which is weird because we got them directly off the London Embassy site. So we got an RFE for basically the other half of what you're suppost to send origionally. We started the K-1 appliciation before we found this forum so we were kinda just going with the instructions as best as we could. We say if you're just starting the I-129F download it from VJ...they seem to have the right instructions....

AFQuaid

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2006-03-06 13:07:00

Can you add our pk3 sent date please anyone? We finally got that checklist off today 10th June..we're already on the waiting for interview date list...

AFQuaid

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2006-06-10 13:47:00

Hey guys do I update my timeline plus on the london chart you guys got going through this thread? I sent the packet 3 forms back today 04/03/2006 but NOT the checklist as of yet.... or do I wait till I get the checklist off?

AFQuaid

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2006-04-03 17:05:00

please add us too

AFQuaid

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2006-03-26 16:07:00

Congratulations Cheeky!

Quick Questions: Is it definite you get your passport back within 42 hours?

AFQuaid

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2006-03-23 20:54:00

AFQuaid

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2006-03-12 17:28:00

Renewing British Passport

Hey,
So I'm renewing my British passport from here in the States and after the whole palava of gettin' somebody to sign an official British Document I now have another problem. The doctor has wrote 'I certify this is a true likeness of *enter name here*' on both of the photos I intended to send with the application to Washington. I have read that one passport photo must be totally blank on the reverse side. I am already cutting in fine in submitting my application as is and now am I going to have to get my photos retaken because of this mess up or can I send both photos with that statement, signed and dated in and just put in a note explaining? I tried calling the place I got the photos taken at to see if I can order another print but they did not save them. ARG! What are my options here? If I have to get the photos retaken I'll have to wait for the doctor to write the statement, sign and date all over again!

HELP!

Fiona

AFQuaid

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2009-03-13 20:12:00