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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFiancee move before NOA2
The USC will get all the same papers sent to you from the consulate just in case she does not.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-08-22 18:12:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresvisiting the USA
Now they are treating Canadians the same as they treat Mexicans at border crossings. Now Canada will need coyotes to bring people across.
Canada and Mexico need to do the same with Americans, that would be fair right?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-08-23 11:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresvisiting the USA
What did you say to them at the border?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-08-23 11:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI-129F Question 20 , Monterrey or Juarez
CDJ is the only consulate handling visas for spouse, fiance, and family members now in Mexico.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-09-10 16:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVaccinations: which doctor?
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K visas DO NOT REQUIRE VACCINATIONS. When you adjust status will be when your vaccinations will be required.

When you get to the US you can go to the health department and the shots are $10 or less each. You can have your spouse locate a CS from the www.uscis.gov website as well as the vaccination suppliment sheet the CS will need to transfer the shot records to. While you are waiting for the interview your spouse can research the CS in your US area and discuss what will need to be done before you file your I-485 AOS.

Ok Let's stop here... the required vaccinations are not $10 or less, where did this come from.... When we were waiting for the interview date, we were required to get the following; MMR, TB, TD and Varicella, and if she is Asian then the TB test will be positive and you will have to get a chest xray and have it read. The Civil Surgeon can administer the vaccinations also. Usually at the same costs as the Health department, which is about $300 NO MATTER WHERE YOU GO. Beleive me I spent two days calling all the CS's around and the Health Department. They got you and they know it. So do your homework.


We just went to the health department and the shots were $10.00 each, It may be that California is extremely expensive maybe?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-10-24 08:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVaccinations: which doctor?
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For the medical exam for K1 is it necessary to get the vaccinations done by the consulate doctor? That's what a legal adviser told me, because she said they want to ensure the vaccinations are done properly. However, I have health insurance and my own doctor would do these vaccinations and I could claim them on my insurance. If I go this route will this cause problems with the consulate doctor? To force us to have the shots with the consulate doctor just seems like a money-making scheme. I'd prefer to go to my own doctor but not if it's going to cause problems at my medical exam. Anyone got any experience with this?


I got booster shots beforehand with my family doctor and it wasn't a problem. I brought letters and results of blood tests to show the panel physician that I'd been vaccinated so did not require extra vaccinations. The panel physician didn't have any problem with the letters and I received a copy of my vaccination supplement for AOS. I'd check with your panel physician, but if it's possible to avoid the cost of the vaccinations I'd do it.

QUOTE (Gaby&Talbert @ Oct 18 2007, 09:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
K visas DO NOT REQUIRE VACCINATIONS. When you adjust status will be when your vaccinations will be required.


While that's true, panel physicians in some countries (including Canada) will require you to have the vaccinations before you enter the US.


K-1 visa does not require vaccinations before the interview or before entry as it is a non-immigrant visa, a panel physician cant change that.


K visas do not require vaccinations.
http://travel.state....tml#Vaccination
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-10-18 17:00:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVaccinations: which doctor?
QUOTE (Gaby&Talbert @ Oct 18 2007, 08:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
K visas DO NOT REQUIRE VACCINATIONS. When you adjust status will be when your vaccinations will be required.

When you get to the US you can go to the health department and the shots are $10 or less each. You can have your spouse locate a CS from the www.uscis.gov website as well as the vaccination suppliment sheet the CS will need to transfer the shot records to. While you are waiting for the interview your spouse can research the CS in your US area and discuss what will need to be done before you file your I-485 AOS.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-10-18 08:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVaccinations: which doctor?
K visas DO NOT REQUIRE VACCINATIONS. When you adjust status will be when your vaccinations will be required.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2007-10-18 08:51:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI am worry how can we get evidence
Don't worry too much, as long as you got married and you have at least a joint bank account they will be fine. We were lucky, we just had a baby right before our interview and they never even asked us for any proof.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-01-28 12:12:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHow to trace the package left from NVC?
Call the consulate, they may tell you.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-01-30 09:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresliving in colombia while waiting for visa
QUOTE (fwaguy @ Jan 30 2008, 08:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
USC has no travel restrictions


You need a US address and have someone send you anything that arrives from USCIS, NVC, and the Consulate, other than that you will be fine. You might check www.state.gov for requirements of extended stays in Columbia.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-01-30 09:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNeed help
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have recieved pack 3, filled out and sent forms ds-230part 1, ds156, ds156k, and ds157 back. Have collected nearly all the documents i need in support of my application (still waiting for police report to come back, takes upto 40days grrr). Am stressed about the "evidence of support". My fiancee will be supporting me until im alowed to work in the usa, (i have no job waiting for me there). Will be living with her and her family for the time being, she works as an accountant making around 45k dollars a year.

What kind of evidence of her supporting me will i need to provide for the interview? :s, also about the medical as i said have nearly all my documents i need except police report, wud it be ok to get the medical done in london before i have all my documents ready?

Hope someone can help me out, thanks smile.gif


She makes plenty, she just needs to bring 3 years tax returns and her pay stubs. Use the I-134 form and you will be fine.



So i just need her to mail me copies of her tax returns and copies of her pay stubs for me to take to my interview? for evidence of my support in the usa, can i fill the I-134 on her behalf?


She needs to fill it out because she is the one supporting you.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-02-19 15:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNeed help
QUOTE (shakermaker @ Feb 19 2008, 02:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
have recieved pack 3, filled out and sent forms ds-230part 1, ds156, ds156k, and ds157 back. Have collected nearly all the documents i need in support of my application (still waiting for police report to come back, takes upto 40days grrr). Am stressed about the "evidence of support". My fiancee will be supporting me until im alowed to work in the usa, (i have no job waiting for me there). Will be living with her and her family for the time being, she works as an accountant making around 45k dollars a year.

What kind of evidence of her supporting me will i need to provide for the interview? :s, also about the medical as i said have nearly all my documents i need except police report, wud it be ok to get the medical done in london before i have all my documents ready?

Hope someone can help me out, thanks smile.gif


She makes plenty, she just needs to bring 3 years tax returns and her pay stubs. Use the I-134 form and you will be fine.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-02-19 15:41:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresApproved K-1 - Pregnant Fiance- urgent
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Thank you everyone for your quick assistance. good.gif Your consultation really eases my worries. I just called my fiancee (it's 3:20 AM in Vietnam now yes.gif ) and told her to bring the medical report of her pregnancy to the interview next week. She will get an X-ray within 3 weeks.

In the meantime, any additional information about my case is always needed.


make sure she knows to ask the x-ray techs for a lead apron to cover her abdomen, if they forget to ask her!


THEY CANNOT XRAY HER IF SHE IS PREGNANT My wife was pregnant and they did not xray her or even for AOS they didnt require vaccinations.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-02-20 09:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresApproved K-1 - Pregnant Fiance- urgent
Yes please tell them, you dont want them to do anything to endanger the baby. Tell them, my wife was pregnant during her interview and she breezed through it with no problems. We did a K3 but her being pregnant made everything go easily even the green card interview was easy.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-02-19 15:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMarriage to H1B Finance from Japan
QUOTE (Normc @ Mar 3 2008, 04:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi folks, you've all been so kind. I really appreciate everyone's quick response.

So my understanding at this moment is...
I won't need a K1 visa; the H1B visa is dual intent and we can get married this summer. Phew!
After we get married, we'll simply file to change the status.

As long as the H1B visa exists, we should be okay. We're also debating for her to quit her job and come to Massachusetts during the process. I assume if we do so, the H1B visa terminates and we would have to apply for the K1 visa.


Thank you again for everyone's generous efforts.


The best thing is not to void her current H1B or go beyond her I-94 before you file for AOS. Whatever you do dont file for a K1 or she has to go back to her home country for an interview. You want her to do everything here so get married and file AOS. The very best thing is to get married and file AOS before she quits her job. When she files AOS also file for work permission and travel premission, it is all included in the same price.
Yes, she could go out of status and still get married and file for AOS but it think it would be best to not have any more things for USCIS to question than needed.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-03-05 10:00:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMarriage to H1B Finance from Japan
QUOTE (Normc @ Mar 3 2008, 03:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi, I am new to this site. I've been banging my head to find out how to exactly marry the love of my life.

My current situation:
I am a US citizen working and residing in Massachusetts.
My fiance is Japanese currently holding a H1B visa from and working in Texas.
We live in two seperate states and planning to get married this coming summer.
After we get married, we would still be living in two seperate states until she can find a job in Massachusetts.

Questions:
I have no idea what the best process is to get married and the obtain the change in visa status.
Will my fiance need to give up the H1B visa before we can get married?
Will we have to apply for a K1 visa before we can get married?
Will my fiance eligable for work with just a marriage certificate?
Will my fiance need to leave the country to get her visa status changed?

Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you in advance.


I would suggest that if you are going to get married try to do it and adjust status here in the US before her visa and work permission expire.
As long as her visa is valid until she can complete her adjustment of status and she did use her H1B visa to get married then you shouldn't have any problems. She doesn't have to give up her H1B visa until the interview. Hopefully her current work permission won't expire during the process so she won't loose it waiting on her greencard. If it were to expire they may not issue a new one while in the AOS process?
As soon as you are married you will be able to file for adjustment of status here in the US and she will not have to return to her home country.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-03-03 16:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresOur Situation Up To Now, and What Next?
They won't give you the SSN now until you get your EAD or your greencard.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-03-31 13:44:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI129-F and L-1 (Intercompany Transfer) Visa
QUOTE (Peja @ Apr 14 2008, 01:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello VJers,

Just wanted to check if anybody had any experience on the following.

I applied for I129F for my fiancee on 03/30/08. My fiancee wanted to resign from her job and move to the US as soon as the visa is approved. When she broke the news to her managers, my fiancee was offered a transfer to USA office of the company and was offered L-1 (inter company transfer) visa for her. As far as I know, it is much faster and easier to get that visa.

Does anybody have any experience with this? Do you know if I should retract original 129F application before her company applies for L-1?

Thanks for any insight you can provide!

All the best!


I have several friends that have L1 visas and if she can get it it will be faster than a K visa. Once she is here then you get get married and adjust status. L visas are a fairly quick way for international companies the transfer their employees to the US.

First see how long the L1 is going to take them, if you have already filed then compare the timelines. She could still work for them if she comes on a Kvisa.

Compare the timelines for both.

Edited by Gaby&Talbert, 14 April 2008 - 01:56 PM.

Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-14 13:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresk2 visa for daughther and how to bring her in
QUOTE (sanfranguy @ Jan 26 2008, 09:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
my fiancee wants to leave her daughter in mexico for 2 months but the problem is that once we file for the a.p it wouldnt come that soon. if her daughters has a passport will she be able to enter the u.s if i go get her myself? were going to take her to the interview and fill out her own packet and so on. we just want to make sure if i can bring her with me since she does not want to wait for the advance parole . we will be going through the consulate in juarez mexico btw.


You should have filed for her at the saem time as your fiancee. She cannot come in to the US with only her passport, she has to have a Visa. It will take at best 90 days to get AP for your fiance after you are married. What part of Mexico does your fiancee live?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-01-28 10:38:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresUS Marriage - Does it have to be in the 50 states?
You shouldn't have to pass through customs if it is a US territory but it would be worth verifying will USCIS to make sure there wouldn't be any problems. If I were you I would contact CBP or ICE and not USCIS because USCIS doesn't always give good information. ICE and CBP officers are the enforcement people and will know more than the info line at USCIS.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-17 11:12:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresImmigration lawyers specializing in K1/K3 visa
It doesn't matter if it is a lawyer or a consultant, check all the documents to make sure they are correct and the correct ones are submitted. There is nothing you can do really if they make a mistake, USCIS doesn't care who makes the mistake.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-17 11:16:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresWhere and when to marry?
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QUOTE (rpyrc @ Apr 19 2008, 03:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for the great replys. Maybe a little more clarification is necessary. I've been through the wealth of information here and think it's great.

She can enter the country anytime she wants on her multiple entry visa. I'm afraid that if we married while she was here on one of her visits, even though it wasn't preplanned (i'm big on surprises and spontaneity, then apply for an AOS, it might be bad.

She could go back home (or stay there if we married in Mexico) and apply for a spousal visa after the marriage, or apply for a fiance visa before arriving, which would not be a problem. My biggest concern is whether or not she would still be able to go back and forth as she does now while that visa is in process, or would she be 'frozen' on one side of the border or another?

It's not that she is not keen on citizenship, its just that to me it is more important for various survivor benefits. We both understand the benefits of the US Passport for travel as you mentioned.

Thanks again!


I'm not sure what survivor benefits concern you. One need not be a US citizen to draw SS benefits as the surviving spouse of a USC.

There is no actual rule to say she can't go back and forth during the visa process. In fact, many do it quite often. A good strategy might be to marry on either side then travel back and forth a time or two before you file a petition. Then, since she has strong ties and a business as well as a long history of going back and forth, she is unlikely to have any problem. She should, of course, carry her evidence of ties and maybe a copy of the NOA1 and marriage certificate to show she's gone back and forth since the marriage.


SSI benefits are limited for an LPR compared to a citizen.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-23 11:07:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresWhat do you think?
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QUOTE (Gaby&Talbert @ Apr 29 2008, 11:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
has the child become a citizen in the US?


I don't know all of the details, but she did apply. They lost her case, then they told her that since she is over age the original petition has expired. I could be all wrong on this because I don't understand the entire thing she has tried to explain to me.

I think you are thinking the same thing I was. She should petition her. That was my advice at first, but since her citizenship is screwed up I don't know how long it will take.

I have just written to our senators office about this. I really hope she will contact the USCIS and get the real facts, and can discuss this with him, so I don't have to look like the heavy.


That was what I was thinking. Well he can try the K1 and if it fails then the daughter may have her citizenship by then.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-29 10:47:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresWhat do you think?
has the child become a citizen in the US?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-29 10:30:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresProof of being unmarried
It sounds to me like they doubt the relationship is real so let's see if they give him the visa after he produces this document.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-23 10:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresfiancé visiting me during the K1 visa application being processed?
QUOTE (cca @ Jul 3 2008, 08:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hey
i just got back last week from visiting my fiance in the states. Thing is it is a red flag when u say your visiting your fiancee and i was taken into boreer control where i was questioned. They went through all my luggage ect and the told me the reason they let me through was because i was conpletley honest with them. So yes you can go...but my advice is just be 100% honest, dont lie because all they have to do is do some research on the computer and find youve filed for k1. I only stayed for a week. I would say stayin for longer than 2-3 weeks would make things more difficult for you because they would be suspicious on your intent to stay and doing things illegally so just keep it short!

I was fine and after 40min i was let through so keep the stay short be honest and oull be fine!!

Good luck


Or they can say you are attempting to move to the US you just never know with border patrol. It all depends on the CBP officer. We went through CBP and told them we were going to get married and we were in our wedding clothes not a single word from CBP. We went through another time and got the 3rd degree. CBP officers can do whatever they want which is the problem. If you have a tourist visa they should just let you through and not have the freedom to decide if you are allowed or not. Why issue a visa if they aren't going to let you in? My wife was so happy when she got her greencard because CBP doesn't say a word to her anymore. I told her once she has a US passport she can stick her tongue out at them and they can't do anything. She lived her whole life having to deal with CBP being rude to her everytime she crossed the border. Living in a border town most of her life she has seen so much change. When she was young they never even asked her for anything when she crossed the border. Now they ask you a thousand questions everytime you cross. I understand they are trying to stop illegals and people from overstaying but for people that cross hundreds of times they should know will go back home. Also along our southern borders you have an additional checkpoint you have to go through once you get 50 miles or so into the US.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-07-03 09:21:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresTijuana/San Diego engagement
The only way to apply for the AOS is if he got an I-94 permission to travel and then decided to marry. A border crossing card will not allow to go through AOS. Since you both live close to each other you shouldn't have any issues visiting each other in the border zone until you have to go to your interview in CDJ.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2009-07-17 15:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaHow to Make your husband Happy
QUOTE (just_Jackie @ Apr 22 2008, 08:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what a load of #######

Do all this and for what...to see the door slam behind their 10yr greencard azz? bull pucky i say.

Sorry, I'm waiting for my anti-depressant to kick in.

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Jackie


With that attitude no marriage will last.

This is all good advice regardless of your religion. Both the husband and wife should be working very hard to please each other.

And there is never a reason to hit a woman period.

Edited by Gaby&Talbert, 22 April 2008 - 09:01 AM.

Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-22 08:59:00
Middle East and North Africaopinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?
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QUOTE (SJ @ May 27 2008, 11:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i even trash my husband infront of his siblings and mother when he is not nice to me. can you do it?

Thats not part of being an American. I never would trash my husband in front of people. I have seen some hispanic origin women and some phillapinas do this before ( I am friends with some) and yes, some Americans, but there is no way I would do that.. I would just not do that..PERIOD. Thats not an american characteristic. Thats just plain nasty


I have seen plenty of American women make a seen in public but never other nationalities.

well honey you havent seen enough. I have seen phillipinas flip out on their husbands in person and latin americans too. They may not have done it back home but some really show their ### over here. I work in sales and I see husbands and wives interacting all the time. The worst I have seen are asians. They run the show and their husbands need to figure it out pretty damn fast. I have never seen American men as henpecked as by their asian wives. I have seen some god awful Peruvians and Mexicans.. to the point the men were scared to come home. The most domineering American women I have seen are southern, believe it or not. They always seem to be able to run an entire platoon with a sweet drawl....hence the term steel magnolias.

I think you just had a bad case of luck with your ex. American women,,, and I have lived ALL OVER THE WORLD..are some of the most gracious, generous, unselfish women I have ever met. They always do for charity, something you hardly see overseas. Americans for the most part, take in more overseas students as host parents than I have ever seen. We have a welcome wagon approach.We not only take care of our own, we take care of disasters overseas. If I needed help, I would get it from an American womans civic group. American women are very can do and very generous. I have never seen the outpouring of generosity from any other people like Americans... And I have lived and traveled all over....



You had a bad run with one woman. There are lots of american women who would have loved and adored you. Have you ever thought that you made yourself emotionally unavailable to an american woman because of what happened to you?


My problem is that I gave too much and was always taken advantage of.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-05-27 15:20:00
Middle East and North Africaopinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?
QUOTE (wahrania @ May 27 2008, 02:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (SJ @ May 27 2008, 11:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i even trash my husband infront of his siblings and mother when he is not nice to me. can you do it?

Thats not part of being an American. I never would trash my husband in front of people. I have seen some hispanic origin women and some phillapinas do this before ( I am friends with some) and yes, some Americans, but there is no way I would do that.. I would just not do that..PERIOD. Thats not an american characteristic. Thats just plain nasty


I have seen plenty of American women make a seen in public but never other nationalities.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-05-27 14:39:00
Middle East and North Africaopinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?
QUOTE (morocco4ever @ May 25 2008, 08:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Gaby&Talbert @ May 22 2008, 04:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
One person posted that it seemed the MENA group are all women complaining about their husbands.

"The part that bothers me when I read the "drama" or problems or ranting about spouses, is that it's very one sided, women complaining about the men. I wish there were more men posting in this section from MENA instead of mostly only the women part of the equation. We would get a better picture of situations. I don't like complaining about my husband when other women complain about their men(I don't mean joking around, I mean serious annoyance at the husband), it becomes like a "thing to do", even in a work place, to complain about men. I like my husband and I wouldn't want him complaining about me to others in his workplace or on the internet. I'd be upset. Talking about an issue is one thing, complaining is another IMO. We all have things we can complain about concerning our spouses, and they have things about us too. I don't want him complaining about me to people on a forum. "

Why do women do this? Is this just American women? If my wife said the things some women say here I would say the marriage is bad. I have never been around a bunch of guys and the were complaining about their wives.


In one part you are portraying the wife, in the other part you are portraying the husband. I know you are the husband, so why are you speaking for your wife?

Also, since you are whining that only the women here are talking (because lets face it, we are the petitioners doing all of the immigration work), does your wife post here? If so, what is her screen name?

Personally my husband is bored with VJ. He reads it on occasion, but he has other things that interest him. Although to be fair I don't vent about my husband here. Not that we don't have problems at times, we do, but I choose other ways to deal with it. We always work it together without help. But that is just us. If the women come here to vent its because no one understands the unique trials that an American MENA wife has to deal with more than other American MENA wives. Like Sarah and Jenn said, women all over complain. Its human nature, nor American womens nature. Similar to the fact that all men like to hoard the remote, or they change channels non stop. There are just some things that are universal, so deal with it.

Stop trying to portray the perfect marriage because there is no such thing. Personally I think when you have one spouse claiming everything is perfect it is usually because that spouse is so blind and controlling that they don't know, nor do they care what their spouse is feeling if it doesn't conform to their way of thinking.


I only come on here when I get bored at the office.

I am the opposite of controlling, fortunately my wife and I am both givers not takers. It is noce for a change to not be taken advantage of or manipulated by a woman. I never claim to have a perfect relationship only a good one finally because I don't have to put up with a woman complaining all the time and living in fear of what mood she might be in at the moment. When all your life you are treated like dirt by women and finally you find someone that treats you good ofcourse you feel like maybe it is most American women. My wife has told me many time that she doesn't understand why American women act the way they do. We still have to deal with my ex wife because of my children and this occasionally cases problems. My ex threatens me all the time but I never stoop to her level and fight with her. I always try to be civil with her. I have custody of one child and she has custody of the other. I pay child support but she does not. I always go pick up my daughter but she only comes to see her son maybe 2 times a year and we are only 3 hours away. My son would prefer to never see his mom but my daughter would live with us if there was anyway posssible. I could go on for hours listed things about my ex but it is not important. The point is she is EVIL.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-05-27 09:42:00
Middle East and North Africaopinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?
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One person posted that it seemed the MENA group are all women complaining about their husbands.

"The part that bothers me when I read the "drama" or problems or ranting about spouses, is that it's very one sided, women complaining about the men. I wish there were more men posting in this section from MENA instead of mostly only the women part of the equation. We would get a better picture of situations. I don't like complaining about my husband when other women complain about their men(I don't mean joking around, I mean serious annoyance at the husband), it becomes like a "thing to do", even in a work place, to complain about men. I like my husband and I wouldn't want him complaining about me to others in his workplace or on the internet. I'd be upset. Talking about an issue is one thing, complaining is another IMO. We all have things we can complain about concerning our spouses, and they have things about us too. I don't want him complaining about me to people on a forum. "

Why do women do this? Is this just American women? If my wife said the things some women say here I would say the marriage is bad. I have never been around a bunch of guys and the were complaining about their wives.


I think thats just it. Guys don't sit around and talk about that stuff but women do. It doesn't matter where you are from, women discuss these things. This forum is mostly women too, so it goes hand in hand.



My wife doesn't do this, I think I would be worried about our relationship if she was angry at me all the time and complained. If I upset her I do whatever I can to make her happy. She is my life and I love her with all my heart.


I'm sorry but I still just can't wrap my head around why you insist on coming to the MENA forum to berate the women for whatever they choose to disclose about their lives. What the fukc are you doing? So I choose to disclose a bit less and others choose to disclose a bit more. Are you really so insecure that you need to do this in order to feel more secure about your own marriage. What is your purpose here? Are you really who you claim to be?

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ETA: Pardon my outburst, but I'm becoming increasingly less tolerant of people who seem to come on VJ only to try to rub others noses in something. What is the GD point?


Yes I am who I really claim to be, we have gone through all the processes everyone else has. I am not insecure in any way shape or form, how does anything I have said in these define me as insecure? It is reasuring to know I made the best choice in my wife. The only reason I visit the mena posts to be honest is that there are a few women here that are stereo typical American women that complain all the time about this or that. Maybe I keep visiting to see if they will ever change but most often they continue.

From a mans point of view if they continue the way they are don't expect there husbands to be happy with it. Ask any man if they want their wives to complain all the time to their friends and they will all say NO.

BTW
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-05-22 20:32:00
Middle East and North Africaopinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?
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One person posted that it seemed the MENA group are all women complaining about their husbands.

"The part that bothers me when I read the "drama" or problems or ranting about spouses, is that it's very one sided, women complaining about the men. I wish there were more men posting in this section from MENA instead of mostly only the women part of the equation. We would get a better picture of situations. I don't like complaining about my husband when other women complain about their men(I don't mean joking around, I mean serious annoyance at the husband), it becomes like a "thing to do", even in a work place, to complain about men. I like my husband and I wouldn't want him complaining about me to others in his workplace or on the internet. I'd be upset. Talking about an issue is one thing, complaining is another IMO. We all have things we can complain about concerning our spouses, and they have things about us too. I don't want him complaining about me to people on a forum. "

Why do women do this? Is this just American women? If my wife said the things some women say here I would say the marriage is bad. I have never been around a bunch of guys and the were complaining about their wives.


I think thats just it. Guys don't sit around and talk about that stuff but women do. It doesn't matter where you are from, women discuss these things. This forum is mostly women too, so it goes hand in hand.


My wife doesn't do this, I think I would be worried about our relationship if she was angry at me all the time and complained. If I upset her I do whatever I can to make her happy. She is my life and I love her with all my heart.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-05-22 16:30:00
Middle East and North Africaopinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?
One person posted that it seemed the MENA group are all women complaining about their husbands.

"The part that bothers me when I read the "drama" or problems or ranting about spouses, is that it's very one sided, women complaining about the men. I wish there were more men posting in this section from MENA instead of mostly only the women part of the equation. We would get a better picture of situations. I don't like complaining about my husband when other women complain about their men(I don't mean joking around, I mean serious annoyance at the husband), it becomes like a "thing to do", even in a work place, to complain about men. I like my husband and I wouldn't want him complaining about me to others in his workplace or on the internet. I'd be upset. Talking about an issue is one thing, complaining is another IMO. We all have things we can complain about concerning our spouses, and they have things about us too. I don't want him complaining about me to people on a forum. "

Why do women do this? Is this just American women? If my wife said the things some women say here I would say the marriage is bad. I have never been around a bunch of guys and the were complaining about their wives.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-05-22 15:49:00
Middle East and North AfricaSo does it really suck when they get here or what?
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I would like to appologize to this group for being offended by the title and bashing American women. My ex was pure evil and still is but that is not the fault of all American women. I have been blessed by a wonderful wife now and I appreciate and love her more than she will ever know.

My ex continues to be a monster and hopefully some day she will get what she deserves.



Bad people rarely get what they deserve.


But I can always hope can't I?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-06-03 15:25:00
Middle East and North AfricaSo does it really suck when they get here or what?
I would like to appologize to this group for being offended by the title and bashing American women. My ex was pure evil and still is but that is not the fault of all American women. I have been blessed by a wonderful wife now and I appreciate and love her more than she will ever know.

My ex continues to be a monster and hopefully some day she will get what she deserves.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-06-03 15:07:00
Middle East and North AfricaSo does it really suck when they get here or what?
You ladies are just so easy to get going why else do you think I do it? devil.gif innocent.gif
everyone has free will and can do as they please. You can choose the right path or the wrong one, it is your choice. With every choice there are consequences.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-10 13:34:00
Middle East and North AfricaSo does it really suck when they get here or what?
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Do your husbands and children watch these shows and think they are ok?


do you, and what does your SO think?


I don't and my wife thinks they are nasty. She thinks these types of shows are teaching adults and children that this type of behavior is acceptable. It is desensitizing people to this type of behaviour.
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-10 11:30:00
Middle East and North AfricaSo does it really suck when they get here or what?
Do your husbands and children watch these shows and think they are ok?
Gaby&TalbertMaleMexico2008-04-10 11:23:00