ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
PhilippinesIMPROVED City, State & Arrive date THREAD
Honey_me----Austin, Texas-----May 21. Thanks! smile.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-06-08 20:13:00
PhilippinesARE YOU KAPAMILYA OR KAPUSO?
...KAPUSO here pero negotiable pag Lovers na.. wink.gif. I miss jared and jackie...hehehhe.
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-06-10 09:19:00
PhilippinesVISA IN HAND!! THANK YOU LORD IM SO HAPPY
......Mao nana giingon sa mananagna jul!..hehheheheh. Congrats Jul!!!!!Ayo2 didto. We are so happy for you coz you have been so nice in keeping us feel very good despite all...heheh.TC.Mwah!!!!---haruko
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-06-07 17:57:00
Philippinesterms of endearment
...hunnybunch... blush.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-06-04 10:20:00
PhilippinesVisa Denial contested...same day
wow... smile.gif . Good luck and Hapi trip..
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-06-23 21:49:00
PhilippinesWhat province you from?
MINDANAO--------------Davao del Sur------------Davao City smile.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-06-30 13:25:00
PhilippinesWhat is your theme song for your SO?
.."Nobody does it better" by Carly Simon... smile.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-07-02 10:43:00
PhilippinesFellow VJer attended my wedding
Oh...thank you jon...blush.gif . I'm a little shocked ha me picture dito..hehehheeh. Anyways...you both are always welcome...Lagi, lau kayo Michigan.heheheh
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-07-28 22:17:00
PhilippinesWhy Choose a Filipino Girl
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-07-29 22:31:00
PhilippinesWhy Choose a Filipino Girl
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-07-29 12:39:00
PhilippinesAOS july 2008 filer
We filed last July 07---Biometrics Aug. 8th. luv.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-07-30 23:07:00
Philippinesadd nyo ako
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-03 16:13:00
PhilippinesFilipino husbands getting in touch with female side
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-05 22:40:00
Philippinesnewbie
QUOTE (mhaze @ Aug 16 2008, 11:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (honey_me @ Aug 16 2008, 01:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Welcome to VJ!!!!!!I'm from Davao too. Oh, by the way, we have one common friend in friendster ( my co-teacher from pwc). Good Luck to you!!!!! smile.gif



yeah c claudine??
shes my classmate in college



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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-16 18:14:00
Philippinesnewbie
Welcome to VJ!!!!!!I'm from Davao too. Oh, by the way, we have one common friend in friendster ( my co-teacher from pwc). Good Luck to you!!!!! smile.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-16 01:33:00
PhilippinesBombings in Mindanao
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QUOTE (NoelandTintin @ Aug 22 2008, 05:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Haole @ Aug 22 2008, 07:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (gurl @ Aug 22 2008, 04:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why does bombings in mindanao doesn't end up? do the government pay attention of the muslim radicals? or what? mad.gif how pity civilians and how many have to suffer from this kind of terrorisms? crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif is it a generation to generation problem? booooooooooo

The recent action in Mindanao wasn't just a bombing. It was/is a full on battle with helicopters and gunships. Sad as countryman are killing countryman. MILF shot and chopped up 24 people in one village. Looks like there will be no end to it until GMA gives the muslims the entire island of Mindanao!


Did you say MILF? devil.gif

he he. sorry. just trying to put some humor in these senseless actions.
What am I missing?
MILF = Moro Islamic Liberation Front
They and Abu Sayyaf are the "bad guys" now.
Moro National Liberation Front (MNLF) is the parent organization.


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Edited by honey_me, 22 August 2008 - 10:47 PM.

honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-22 22:43:00
PhilippinesBombings in Mindanao
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-22 22:21:00
PhilippinesBombings in Mindanao
QUOTE (Haole @ Aug 22 2008, 09:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (gurl @ Aug 22 2008, 04:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why does bombings in mindanao doesn't end up? do the government pay attention of the muslim radicals? or what? mad.gif how pity civilians and how many have to suffer from this kind of terrorisms? crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif is it a generation to generation problem? booooooooooo

The recent action in Mindanao wasn't just a bombing. It was/is a full on battle with helicopters and gunships. Sad as countryman are killing countryman. MILF shot and chopped up 24 people in one village. Looks like there will be no end to it until GMA gives the muslims the entire island of Mindanao!



NOOOOO WAYYY!!! mad.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-22 22:16:00
PhilippinesTransitioning from Filipina to Filipino-American
QUOTE (Pinay Wife @ Sep 2 2008, 07:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Transitioning from Filipina to Filipino-American
<http://filipinawives.com/TransitioningFilipina.htm>

Culture shock will affect Filipina and her American husband, and every couple will encounter unique problems that require both partners to make lifestyle adjustments. But the Filipina is at a disadvantage in that she is utterly immersed in a new culture, inside and outside the home, whereas her American husband is on familiar ground as soon as he steps out the front door.

Below I've listed a few problem areas that many (not all!) newly arrived Filipinas face, but these are only intended to get the discourse started. If you are involved in a Fil-West (or Fil/Non-Fil) marriage, and you've encountered other areas of adjustment, please email me! And let me know what solutions you came up with.

I put this page together because adjustment to a new culture can be made less turbulent with a little planning on the part of both partners. Learn what you can about her culture, prepare for trouble spots, and exhibit patience and empathy when dealing with her. Doing these things will make your first few months together in America a lot more pleasant.

(Standard caveat, until I get my new 150 million page web site up, I'm forced to use generalizations in describing Filipinas and Fil-West marriage. Needless to say, not all these descriptions apply to all Filipinas or all marriages. Use your own judgment to whether or not the items apply to you and your wife; you don't need to email. I concede in advance that you know your fiancée or wife better than I do. Thanks!)

Adjustment issues for the Filipina:

1. Lack of an immediate local community - socially and geographically. In the Philippines it is not unusual for a Filipina to know her neighbors, to see them on a daily basis, and to interact with them when leaving or returning to her home. The dwellings are usually small and very near to one another, and the windows and doors to constantly open due to the heat, and clothes are often washed and hung out to dry outside. So everyday life in the Philippines is a very public affair. In the U.S., however, houses are placed further apart, the windows and doors are often closed, and meals, laundry and other household chores are carried out within the confines of the home. In apartment complexes neighbors are often only seen during chance encounters on the staircase or in the elevator, and the conversations are usually brief and uninvolved. Americans often do not even know the names of their neighbors. For a Filipina, this may seem like a very "isolated" existence, and during those times that she is alone the situation may become virtually unbearable.

2. Appliances like washing machines, microwaves, vacuum cleaners, food processors, etc., will probably require a little instruction. If there is a floor that needs to be swept, many Filipinas will prefer to use the traditional waist-high brooms of her homeland to the taller, narrower American versions sold in stores here. Don't forget to cover the essentials, such as: don't put metal in the microwave, don't put hand soap into the dishwasher, stuff like that.

3. Entertainment. Filipino television tends to be more "local" in flavor than American television, and it's not unusual to see the same star appearing on multiple shows. Actors sing, singers act, etc. It's like one big variety show. Think of American television in the early 70's. American television tends to be drier, sharper, and edgier (you know, with those shows where it seems like there was no money left in the budget for lighting and everyone is always frowning to show how tough they are). Also, American comedies contain political and cultural humor that might be as funny as a clump of dirt to a person from another country. For this reason, a Filipina may find American television a little less than entertaining. And while she'll probably recognize all the major American actors and actresses, she'll still miss her favorite Filipino stars. She'll also miss those Filipino soaps and love stories.

4. Food. The idea that certain foods are for breakfast, some for lunch, and some for dinner might be alien to some Filipinas, and you might need to explain what foods are generally acceptable for different meals (i.e., no hot dogs for breakfast, no bagels for suppers, etc...unless you're a college student). You might also point out that in social situations, it's proper to keep one's mouth closed when eating and that utensils, not fingers, must be used for certain foods. Needless to say, the diet of a Filipina and her American husband will differ considerably at first, though in time middle ground is almost always achieved.

5. Driving. 99.9% chance a Filipina arriving here in the States has never driven before. She has spent her life walking or using public transportation. If she's moving to New York, Chicago or some other large metropolitan area, she might not have much to adjust to, but if she's moving to an area that is rural or that has a poor mass transit system, she will be dependent on others to get her around town until she learns to drive. This new dependence on others will be quite a change from her earlier ability to go where she pleased whenever she pleased.

6. Currency. While most Filipinas are familiar with dollars, U.S. coins (pennies, nickels, dimes, quarters) might be alien to her. It doesn't help any that the names for our coins have little to do with their value, i.e., 1 cent = penny, 5 cents = nickel, etc.

7. Weather. Winter is alien to most Filipinas. I picked my wife up at the airport in winter, and as we made the two hour drive home, she looked at all the trees alongside the road and asked why we didn't cut them down, since they were obviously dead. I told her they were not dead, they were just leafless because if it was winter. I don't think she believed me until Spring came and, surprise, the trees came back to life! Cold weather will obviously be a new thing for most Filipinas, also, as will be snow, Fall colors, and pollen.

8. Family is EVERYTHING to most Filipinas. In contrast, to many Americans family is defined as "those guys you used to live with." American culture stresses independence, Filipino culture stresses interdependence. You must accept her need to communicate with her family and facilitate it as best you can. You should do your best to behave as a member of her family and to show concern for your in-laws. Do not be surprised if she has a marked interest in being accepted by your family, also. While you might consider your family's attitudes toward your personal life irrelevant, she will likely seek approval by them. Especially your mother.

9. Sense of competition. This might sound odd, but in some ways Filipinas are just as material as Americans. Filipinas often express a desire to own name-brand items, jewelry, and assorted luxury items. This comes as a shock to many American men who presume that a woman from a poverty-stricken country will have few if any material wants. Such is not the case, gentlemen. Filipinas adapt quickly to new surroundings and financial realities and will usually re-evaluate their situation rapidly. While they may be grateful not to be poor anymore, they will nevertheless strive to "keeping up with the Jones." This seems to be especially true if there are other Filipinas in your area. Even minor things, like furniture or clothing, are often tabulated to determine where one stands socially. Even though you may think that it's ridiculous that your wife is jealous of her Filipina friend's new couch, remember that in her mind she might have just fallen a notch in the social hierarchy.

10. Money matters. In the Philippines, it is traditional for the women to pay the bills. This is simply more expedient, since bills are normally paid in person and not by mail, and the men are usually working during business hours. This means that the wives will have to go the power or water company with her family's bill and a handful of pesos once a month. So don't be surprised if your wife expresses a desire to pay the bills in your home. If you allow this (and you probably should, you were never any good at it, were you?), you'll need to teach her how to write checks and pay bills by mail. Most Filipinas also control their family's budget, and they do a superior job of it, so you should expect to hand over the reins to your wife at some point. Not doing so may be seen as an offense to her, i.e., a lack of trust in her abilities.

11. Wealth. You are probably not rich, and you should make sure your wife understands this. Wealth is, of course, a relative thing. In the Philippines, there are poor people and rich people but not many in-between. So it is quite common for a Filipina to presume that because an American is not poor, he must be rich. The idea of a "middle class" should be explained to her. She will not be rich enough to afford everything she wants, but neither so poor that she will ever have to worry about food or shelter. While she may be much more comfortable financially in America, she will not be able to get everything she wants nor will she be able to send thousands of dollars back to her family in the Philippines. Her family should understand this too, as on rare occasions family members can become resentful when a Filipina doesn't provide them will all the financial support they expect.

12. Tipping. Let your wife know that some forms of "tipping" in the Philippines constitute what we call "bribery" in the United States, and that it is illegal. A "tip" in the U.S. is different from a tip in the Philippines in that here it is a bonus that you give to someone AFTER a service has been provided you IF you thought the service was exceptional. You tip waiters, housekeepers, taxi drivers, etc. You DO NOT "tip" policemen, the mailman, or local politicians (unless you need a big favor and have thousands of dollars to spare in your bank account, of course. No, wait, better not tell her that...).

13. Haggling. Driving prices down through haggling is a part of life in the Philippines, but of course a Filipina should not try that at an American grocery store. You can just imagine the look on the cashier's face if this occurred. Be sure that your wife understands that most grocery stores, department stores, etc., have set prices that cannot be reduced at her request. You also cannot normally haggle with taxi drivers, dry cleaners, etc. If she feels compelled to haggle, take her to a yard sale or farmer's market somewhere. She'll probably get you a good deal.


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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-09-02 21:36:00
PhilippinesCalling All July AOS Filers...
Sent: July 8
Received: July 14
Biometrics: August 8
RFE: July 31
RFE Response Received: Sept 24 (case resumed)
Trasferred to CSC: Oct. 2

Note: No EAD Update since case was resumed sad.gif

Edited by honey_me, 15 October 2008 - 11:02 PM.

honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-10-15 22:59:00
PhilippinesWho are your favorite movie actors or actresses?
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-10-18 22:08:00
PhilippinesAre you acclimated?
QUOTE (jom @ Oct 26 2008, 09:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I love the sunshine in Florida all year long. good.gif



I want to move there just this winter. tongue.gif wink.gif It's really cold for me here now ( even dislike AC)...I can't wait for summer again. At least no snow here, not this part of Texas. smile.gif

Edited by honey_me, 27 October 2008 - 05:16 PM.

honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-10-27 17:14:00
PhilippinesIF YOU COULD NAME YOUR CHILD .....
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-11-12 00:19:00
PhilippinesHappy Thanksgiving!
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-11-26 23:15:00
Philippinesa Fairy Tale
QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Dec 1 2008, 07:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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...well, hubby rated my convincing power "Very Good" blush.gif ....me get my way devil.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-01 07:01:00
Philippinesa Fairy Tale
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-01 01:24:00
PhilippinesAre you hungry?
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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-14 18:59:00
PhilippinesHow does your Christmas tree look like?
QUOTE (charles! @ Dec 15 2008, 11:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
one out in the back yard


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QUOTE (jodee @ Dec 15 2008, 11:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>



I went for something simple but pretty this year,..brought the ribbon at walmart at last years after xmas sales, decided on the blue/silver theme...
I think it looks nice,...smile.gif


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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-16 00:41:00
PhilippinesSanta Claus already been to Philippines
QUOTE (charles! @ Dec 24 2008, 09:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Dec 24 2008, 06:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (sunandmoon @ Dec 24 2008, 05:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
http://www.noradsanta.org/en/home.html



Unless he collides with a 747 on his way across the Pacific.... tongue.gif





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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-24 21:04:00
PhilippinesFilipino's Favorite Food
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QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Dec 11 2008, 08:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>



This is cute...maybe you can put some chilli and cheese...lol



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much better!



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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-24 00:55:00
PhilippinesTo be deported for voting...
QUOTE (Jose Rizal @ Dec 25 2008, 03:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (honey_me @ Dec 25 2008, 03:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
http://www.gmanews.t...rted-for-voting



Voting while not a USC is a major no-no.



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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-25 02:35:00
PhilippinesTo be deported for voting...
http://www.gmanews.t...rted-for-voting
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-25 02:17:00
PhilippinesWhat's What's your 1st christmas present from your loving husband?
...a nice,sunny and relaxing trip at a state park today... star_smile.gif
honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-25 19:33:00
Philippinesare 5 kilos of mangoes from PI allowed to be brought to US?
QUOTE (Haole @ Dec 26 2008, 05:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Stop in Hawaii! We are loaded with mangos here. LOTS of different varieties naman. LOTS of different varieties of bagoong also if you like green mango and bagoong! Masarap BIGTIME!
80 degrees today naman!!! good.gif Surfs up!




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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-12-26 22:04:00
Philippinesi dunno what to do? actually i do..
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 2 2009, 10:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (envy_me @ Jan 2 2009, 08:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>





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honey_meFemalePhilippines2009-01-02 21:22:00
Philippinespinay..be counted in this thread
QUOTE (ManilaIdaho @ Feb 25 2009, 12:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Bachelor of Science in Education Major in English.....I'm In tongue.gif



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honey_meFemalePhilippines2009-02-25 22:26:00
PhilippinesWedding day
QUOTE (amberdima @ Feb 18 2009, 10:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
wow! congrats! get off VJ and enjoy yourselves! star_smile.gif


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honey_meFemalePhilippines2009-02-18 21:14:00
Philippineslooking for new friends in Texas
...booming Austin here..

Edited by honey_me, 02 April 2009 - 10:27 PM.

honey_meFemalePhilippines2009-04-02 22:25:00
PhilippinesWhat are your hobbies?
QUOTE (Roy and Yazi @ Sep 5 2008, 03:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
#1 hobby.... whistling.gif





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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-09-05 22:51:00
PhilippinesIllinois man married to a Filipina complains of bias by neighbors
QUOTE (PlatyPius @ Aug 22 2008, 07:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (charles! @ Aug 22 2008, 08:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i'm not really seeing the bias in the story.


Me either. I'm seeing "zOMG! I'm so persecuted because my wife is from the Philippines!!!" but I'm not seeing any evidence of it at all. It's a simple property dispute. One person has to be right and the other wrong. Who he is married to has nothing to do with it. What he's going to do now, is GIVE some people a reason to hate Filipinas. Good job, moron.



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honey_meFemalePhilippines2008-08-22 22:55:00