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Africa: Sub-SaharanSecond Interview 6/2/08
Finally......congrats.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-06-02 12:28:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanALL NIGERIANS IN VISA JOURNEY .
QUOTE (Asante Maroon @ Jul 23 2008, 07:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You are right ZiZi, people back home no matter where "home" is, has a distorted view of America. I tried to explain to some friends in Ghana that the very people they see coming to Ghana flashing money and expensive jewelry are many times dead broke in the US! Their airline ticket are probably not paid for (being that they bought it on credit) or they saved their very last dollar to buy their ticket. They may look good, healthy and rich in clothing, but many of us bargain hunt for clothes months in advance because we just don't have it.

There are so many people who have not been back home in years (sometimes more than 10!) because money is tight and they would not be able to give money to family members who expect them to be doing well here.

The truth of the matter is foreigners most times have at least 2 or more jobs just to get by. Some are living in poor neighborhoods just so that they can send money home to their families, all the while trying to maintain themselves as well as other family members here.

My step father who is Nigerian lived with about 5 or 6 other Africans in a 1 bedroom apartment when he came here on a student visa. He lived in a crowded apartment for years, barely able to eat. Many of his friends had servants back home and they came to the US and suffered for a long time before getting on their feet. Although my step father faced hard times here, his family expected him to be doing well and he did not want to disappoint or worry them. I remember him stressing about buying Fendi cologne for his brothers so that he had something expensive to give to them....all in the name of keeping up appearances.

Of course giving the appearance of doing well in the US does not help to demolish the view of instantaneous wealth upon merely touching US soil.

The bottom line is that things are not all roses her in the US. Most times it takes years and years just to make it. We probably could all live better back home than here. If people with middle class wages can have a big house with boys quarters and a gate man, what less of the people here in one of the richest countries in the world? This is how people think.

If its hard on those who enter this country legitimately, what of the people who enter illegally? People who are here illegally have a very hard time! They in no way can fully enjoy the opportunities here.

If we are to offer advice on how to legally come to this country, I say go for it. But I also say that we need to start having honest discourse on the true experiences of foreigners in this country.

When the amount of illegal entries into the US decreases, maybe more doors and opportunities will open for others. good.gif


This actually needs to be printed on the back of some sort of welcome to America phamplets. We say the exact same thing in the Jamaican threads. My husband's family and friends continue to frustrate him.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-24 10:07:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanThis what i could say
That was very sweet. Congrats to you!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-23 15:02:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanInsight needed!
Communication and compromise.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-17 10:39:00
Africa: Sub-Saharansmall victory
I wish you the very best.

You should have an idea from reading posts of what you will need him for and what you won't. You know more then you think you do! Hang in there.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-30 11:57:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOMG!!!! Called to the Embassy!!!!
Conrats, Tess. Wonderful news.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-30 10:19:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHow much does your SO miss home!
Well, again, not sub saharan; but a topic we have grappled with from time to time.

Andre has been here over 2 years now. At first, he was disillusioned at what he had built up in his mind from the media and foreign visitors he saw in Jamaica and the reality he saw in the US. Bills, forms, rules, regulations, working harder and longer hours then he wishes, no time for anything, the cost of things.....it's all been a big dose of reality. He initially missed Jamaica because of the social aspects of darn near everything.

I always got so angry when Jamaicans would say Americans must all be so weathly cause of all the money they throw around on vacation and the ways they choose to relax. Now that he knows you sometimes work 7 days a week for 51 weeks just to get that vacation, he sees things so differently.

His conclusions have been that he knew he couldn't go on partying all his life. My husband has sickle cell and he knew that the substandard health care in Jamaica would also probably kill him earlier then need be. He also says that life there would've eventually become very hard because jobs are scares and you seem to age out of them quickly.

All of it means we will do whatever we have to do here to ensure we can be together. It may not always be easy; but it is definately worth it.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-28 12:36:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPatience is the weapon exposes deceit
Ha............I love mod editing. Now this thread is kind of comical.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-24 12:45:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeach Party
I have to admit when I got the invite, I thought it was some crazed stalker setting me up for something. Nice to see it's for real.

I haven't seen a beach in two years. Love this!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-08-04 10:51:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanproof of emails, and money
QUOTE (K&A @ Aug 11 2008, 01:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I believe regarding the emails...as far back as you can if you have it, because it will show or give an idea of the length of time you and your SO have been dating.

Regarding the financial situation...I belive as long as you meet the income requirement and can provide all the required documents like paystubs, taxes etc. to verify your income or if you can get a co-signer if necessary then you should be fine. ( I think I answered your question).

Well, this is VJ, someone is bound to post with more up to date information then what I just wrote...but I hope this was helpful star_smile.gif



I agree.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-08-11 13:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOrlando or Houston
I have a crazy ex-boyfriend who lives in Orlando. He actually just bought a really nice house at a decent price. From what I remember, I thought it was a bit too expensive for my tastes.

I would choose Houston if it were me.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-25 23:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHow are we to survive
QUOTE (Osakeme @ Sep 5 2008, 09:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The errors could have been avoided if I had posted questions/read up on some info from this site before I sent in the package.
In the EAD we put a6(wrong), instead of c9
IN the AG we put the control # of the visa instead of the red visa number

we will try calling today or monday to see if anything has been done.

I wonder how long it would take for us to get the EAD card?????????



That c9 error happens all the time.

AP has been coming through pretty quickly lately. You should be fine for the wedding date.

Good luck!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-09-05 09:33:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSub-saharan cyber cafe
QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Feb 5 2008, 01:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Feb 5 2008, 02:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Speaking of books; do we want to keep the conversation about "Loving the African Male" in this thread or do we want a completely new thread for it?


Definitely a separate thread. This one is a written to allow for free comments. Definitely don't want free comments. I hope people don't give us a hard time about the book club again. I wish we could give it a secret password for book club members only.


I still haven't gotten my book, but they have already taken my money!



If you have one, would you pass that word on to me. I really like reading you guys.

I'm nice. I promise.

QUOTE (unononehigher @ Feb 5 2008, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
(singin) "It's mo'nin'"
Hey y'all!
I said it yesterday and I'm sayin' it again ohmy.gif .
Whatz goingz on wid dah weatha mad.gif ???
Nah' de talkin' 'bout "thunder snow!?!?!" blink.gif #######??
Is it going to snow or thunder huh.gif ??
Snow does not require a symphony, rain does!! yes.gif

p.s.if the weather keeps this up, I'm changin' my name to "twosomeconfused" sad.gif



Last week, we had tornado warnings in the afternoon and snow at night. I feel like it's some sort of Tim Burton dream!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-02-05 15:17:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanRenewing South African Passport
I am currently doing it for my Jamaican husband. Find the nearest embassy or consulate for your country, in the US, and contact them.

For Jamaica, we go through D.C. and they send it on to Jamaica.

The pictures are proving to be a problem for us.....apparently JA passport pictures are not the same as US passport pictures. We've had to go to Sears or The Picture People to get them. Annoying!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-09-18 14:57:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanRunning Out of Time!!
QUOTE (imac @ Oct 5 2008, 09:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am less than a week away from travelling to Nigeria to see my fiance for 10 days.

I have been wavering back and forth about going/not going but deep down I want to go because I love my fiance.

My hesitation has absolutely nothing to do with my fiance. We have known each other for awhile and my fiance and my fiance's parents sent me invitation letters with their identification. I know my fiance loves me and wouldn't hurt me. My fiance has been very patient and understanding over the past few weeks with my indecision.

All in all, I think I am scared to travel this far distance, being outside of my comfort zone and the unknown factor. This is a life changing situation. Could I be getting cold feet?

I have secure hotel accommodations, a driver, and I plan to take money but I am also going to Western Union myself 2 payments instead of walking around with a lot of US dollars.

Is this normal? Did you all feel like this before going on your trip?

Help!

Running out of time.


Look at it as a great adventure.

It will be great fun and very exciting. Just be aware of your surroundings and your safety at all times and You will be just fine.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-10-07 07:49:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSlight panic
Glad you found it. Hope you have a good trip.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-10-25 21:35:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHow much $
QUOTE (Perseverance @ Oct 11 2008, 03:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Personally I am telling her to take plenty of money, no matter what, bottom line you are traveling to another country. You should prepare yourself for anything. Travel as though you DONT have someone there to count on, you dont know what could happen. If you are relying on someone and they end up not following through or something happens and that person is no longer a factor, do you have enought money to get you through the trip? What if you DO have to pay for lodging? What if ALL of your bags are lost and you need clothes ect. Just because you take enough money to be prepared DOES NOT mean that you have to SPEND it all. I dont care what color you are, it does not make sence to travel around the world unprepared for what may or may not happen. Come on be people be smart and responsible for yourself.



I agree. You never know what to expect. I firmly believe a woman should always be prepared to take care of herself, no matter what. If it turns out to not be needed, bring it back with you. Always have a Plan B, though.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-10-13 11:28:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanAnyone is sub-saharan interested in meeting ?
QUOTE (Omoba @ Oct 20 2008, 08:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I want to pick a restaurant easily accessible from the metro link for those flying in, like within a 5 min walk. I will find out if there are any restaurants
at Union Station, a shopping mall. The metro goes from the airport all through STL into the metro east region.
There a some African restaurants in STL but I don't know yet how far from the metro.
I will update as I figure it out.


Nov 29........going once......going twice........date ok ?



Union Station has the Hard Rock Cafe, Landry's (Seafood), and Houlihans.

I like the spring idea, O. I am quitting my part time job right after Christmas. That will free up the weekends (at least in theory!)
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-11-03 12:17:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanAnyone is sub-saharan interested in meeting ?
I won't know till this weekend what my work schedule is for November. I'll check back in then.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-10-27 08:12:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlantain chips?
Or any international grocery store. I've seen them.

If I want them, we just fry our own.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-09-26 13:07:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanAfrican male culture...

My phrase is "shut up" "for real" "shut up". I usually say this when I am excited or find out about some exciting news. So, when he told me about a mutual friend having a baby I responded with "shut up". The phone was dead for a minute and I said are you still there? :unsure: He said you told me to shut up and why did you say that to me? I could tell he was offended and I tried to explain. :blink: End result he didn't like it and was offended.

I'll try better next time.


:lol: :lol:


I don't want to be rude in any way; but from your timeline of time actually spent in one's company, I'm thinking you really do need to talk to a lot of people on here who have experienced marriage to Nigerian men.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-05-15 15:00:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBlack in america
QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jun 28 2008, 04:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is an excerpt of an email that was sent to me and well...,
I just had to pass it along whistling.gif
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-21 15:38:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSub-Saharan Newbies!!
I am just a visitor here, there, and everywhere. I like to say hey to all newbies. So, Hey! I wish you luck in a speedy journey.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-11-09 01:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat about trad wedding - do we disclose?
I wouldn't say anything or include any pictures of it. If it's not legal, you are correct in that it doesn't really make a difference. However, I've heard stories of people who have had issues and had a lot of explaining and time tacked on to their journey while they wait out investigations and such.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-11-01 13:54:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeing real about marriage!!!
I love the comment about "having a green card and hasn't left me"........I think that is a universal myth that anyone who hasn't gone through the process uses. I've heard it so many times. I just smile and walk away.

And, #3 really hit home with me. I actually had someone say to me if any Jamaican man I met in Jamaica did not have a girlfriend, a wife, or a babymama, he had to be gay. The fact that my husband had none of those when I met him the fodder of this jokes.

When is it going to occur to people that everyone is different and you can not pigeon hole everyone into one category?
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-31 11:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeing real about marriage!!!
QUOTE (Kelechi @ Dec 20 2007, 06:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I first want to say I have been very busy in this new life with a new job and a new husband and have not been posting as much as I probably should and I hope I can post a bit more especially if I can help someone in their journey.

I have been reading this post and I personally feel this is a very good post. We need to try to let the ones coming after us know not only the good but the bad also as any marriage has. I need to tell you ladies to be very careful of your personal computers and your telephones especially your cell phones. I also want to inform you that there are ways to protect yourself when you have a personal computer in your home with Internet Access. There is software on the market that can moniter your pc. If anyone wants more information about what I am talking about just pm me and I will give you details. Some telephone companies allow you to keep track of phone calls on a daily basis and AT&T is one of them. No matter how you trust your husband always take care of you first. Always try to stay one step ahead of satan and rebuke him in the name of Jesus.

We have to remember that our fiances or husbands had a life before they met us and some of these people that were in their lives will continue to be in their lives. All I am saying is to keep your eyes open and be cautious of these people that are being called cousins, sisters, extended family and aunts. If you see a lot of chatting, text messaging, and phone calls going on between your husband or fiance and a cousin ask questions. This just could not be a cousin. And no matter how close you think you are to his family just remember that it is his family not yours and they all could be in on whatever is going on. Stay in prayer my sisters and brothers and always remember that there is someone on VJ who is going through the same thing that you are so dont think or feel that you are alone.


This is so true. While I have not had these issues with my husband, I have personally known people who have.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-20 12:27:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeing real about marriage!!!
QUOTE (southernchic @ Dec 18 2007, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What I"m about to say isn't going to settle well with people but I'm going to put it out there. I wouldn't advise ANY WOMAN who is dealing with a man from a traditional overseas culture to trust that person 100% until they've lived together for a while. I say this ONLY out of concern and as a point of caution.

When I read the posts it reminds me of how I felt before my husband arrived. I thought that he was the sweetest, nicest and kindest man I'd ever met. Why? Because that's how he presented himself. But since he's lived in the US its been a different story. Don't get me wrong. His personality is very sweet but there's a very dark side. He's not physically abusive. HOWEVER, I swear to God I am finding contriditions and constant dishonesty in him all the time. Anything he does that is wrong he will argue with me for a half hour to justify that it is right. For example, he STOLE a piece of mail addressed to me. I found it. He took it from my purse twice. When I confronted him he tried to make it seem as if he didn't do anything wrong.

Just yesterday where he expressed frustration when he thought I was being unfaithful (which I was not), essentially he said that if we were in his country he would have beaten me. I was shocked. Never in a million years did I imagine that my sweet, gentle husband would even think of commiting such an act. But he said that he was serious. We'd talked about this issue a few times before he came to the US and every time he said..."oh no I could never hurt anyone." I swear this is just one of many examples that the person I talked to online and on the phone for TWO years was a fake.

I don't say this to discourage anyone from finding love. Follow your heart. Do what you have to do to be happy. But please, ladies, don't give away ALL your trust to someone who hasn't proven themselves. There is a such thing as having different levels of trust in a relationship. Please make your husbands/fiance's EARN your full trust once they move here. Its easy for a man to say, "i'm honest. I'm nice. I"m going to support you." when they live thousands of miles away.

I don't say this to be negative. Just a word of caution.


Points taken. And, very gracefully put.

I'm so sorry it has happened to you.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-18 09:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeing real about marriage!!!
QUOTE (Boaz @ Dec 17 2007, 12:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
One more thing ...... in my opinion I sometimes wonder if it's more so the person's culture or just the individual? For example: my husband is from Cameroon and has a very gentle/laid back personality. Yet I know of other men from his country that are complete jerks! What do you'll think? I know that in some cases it's the persons culture/background. But I often wonder why sometimes two individuals can be from the same place, yet so different. Just thinking out loud whistling.gif

Boaz



I think it is a combination of both. It all depends on his culture, his upbringing, his sense of reality, and his personality. I agree with you completely. My husband is very different then many of the jerks I have seen.

QUOTE (Boaz @ Dec 17 2007, 11:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (blah0323 @ Dec 16 2007, 10:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
With that said, I went out my way to make available everything to my husband, which included cell phone, luxuries at home, supplying a whole new wardrobe. And I believe that was a mistake, it was taken for granted!! All he had to do was just mentioned it and it was done. But then it was like he was always looking for something. I put myself on the bottom of list, if I was even on the list. I needed to take care of me more as I tried to help in his adjustment. So now I make sure I pay attention to me and not just him.


Blah0323 - Hat's off for having the courage to share your story. Especially on such a 'touchy' subject.

In reading what you've said, I am reminded of a piece of advice I received on a regular basis. Don't SPOIL your SO when they arrive. For mainly of us, our SO is coming from a place where poverty is a way of life. Personally, my husband spent several years in parts of Europe before he came here, so he had already started to see the difference between what TV portrays, and what really is. In saying this, our efforts to make things comfortable for our SO ends up giving them a false since of reality. Think about what we as American's see onTV. Big houses, fancy cars, lots of Bling Bling! You and I know that this is not all for real. We have Credit/Loans that makes a lot of these type things possible. As a matter of fact, we can choose to lease the car/house that we want as well. Try explaining this to someone from a 3rd world country, when all they know about us is what MTV, VH1 and BET portrays.

In sharing my thoughts ...this kind of explains why I am not against indivudals providing us with a dose of reality here on VJ. Please understand - I do not support trying to kill someone's spirit unnecessarily; pushing a drowning man under water is not good. But I do believe in "keeping it real".

Keep your chin up, and pray for guidance in all that you do.

Boaz



Geez............I say this all the time. You are wise.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-18 09:19:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeing real about marriage!!!
It's not just Sub-Saharan men. It seems to be the same story in many different forums. So, know you are not alone. I respect that you shared your story. It takes guts to say some things in public. I've taken lots of bashing for saying some of the negatives I bring out in public when I am trying to deal with things.

The driving thing......Girl, that is ALL men. I don't know what it is; but once you put a man behind the wheel, they seem to think they know everything. They will never admit they are lost or confused. You made me smile with that sheep comment. Next time, ask him how often he's seen a sheep drive a car?
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-17 10:43:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBeing real about marriage!!!
QUOTE (D&N @ Dec 17 2007, 12:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just want to comment, and say - these things happen right here. I never saw our situation as being any more risky than meeting, loving, and marrying someone from right here at home. The advice i read is good, and the risks that you actually never get out of a marriage what you put in are the same no matter where the person you love and marry is from.



Well, I agree and disagree with this post. Yes, you take a risk with anyone you get involved with. However, for me, the financial requirements of the LDR are certainly more then I would've ever experienced had I fallen in love with someone in my own city.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-17 10:39:00
Africa: Sub-Saharangot news, discouraged, another 6 month wait
I'm so sorry

There is a plan here.....even if you don't see it yet. Hang in there.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2009-12-09 09:33:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIt's SAD

...Thanks!! im doing so much better, my husbands been gone for almost two months, and I have to say im doing so much better, I do miss having someone in the home it gets lonely at times...but I dont miss him on the computer 24/7 never having time for me, talking with his friends but not talking to me hardly at all, cooking for him and never getting a thank u??? and taking most of his money to send back home or purchase phone time minutes. it sure would have been nice to give some money to pay household bills, guess he thought I could take care of that??? And just last week he calls and says hes wanting to come back?? No thanks Im fine just the way it is:)



Been there, done that. You echo a lot of words I have said. Glad you survived too!

My husband won't admit it but he is definitely suffering from SAD also some issues with isolation. He says Vitamin D does nothing for him so can't go that route any longer. While I wouldn't mind moving somewhere warmer, I have BIG issues with big cities - I like my isolated island.

The funny thing is I sent him an email 6 months before he got here and the TWO top issues that I told him I was concerned about: 1. Climate 2. Population

He understands that right now there is NO WAY we could relocate - money just isn't there, but he desperately wants to leave here and I adamently don't. Not sure what we're doing about it, but somewhere someone has to give.


I don't agree with people saying move. This journey is so long and the adjustment is long and very difficult. If one of you is not stable in a job, a home, and all that entails, it will be so much harder to make that adjustment.

I think your 5 year plans sounds like a good idea.

Edited by Kathryn41, 16 March 2013 - 09:02 PM.

*JG*FemaleJamaica2010-01-28 10:15:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)I-864 help urgent

Our case has just been approved and I have been reading through the shortcuts for NVC I have one problem. My husband (petitioner) sold his business in december 06 and has not worked since because he came to the UK in January as I was due to give birth February and worked over here for two months March and April and he is going back to the states now but does have a job lined up. It says we have to include 3 most recent payslips but he won't have payslips, help please :help:


I would start assembling as much information pre- and post- about your work situation. You will need to explain all of this in great detail.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-04-25 08:28:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)I-864 and Jame's shortcuts question.
We never saw that form nor filled out anything of the kind.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-04-23 11:40:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)ds230 part1

hi guys ..
i want to know in Q#16 what does it mean? heres the Q--- Father's Date of Birth (mm-dd-yyyy

*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-06-04 15:36:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)DS-230
We actually wrote DO NOT KNOW in anything that had to do with Andre's dad, other then his name.

I didn't write N/A cause he had a father and the questions are applicable.
I didn't write NONE cause he does have a place of birth, a birthdate, and a date of death, we just don't know what the answers are.

Thus, the DO NOT KNOW. Ours flew through without any issues.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-11-13 10:49:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)DS-230 Part II, Question 34
QUOTE (trekkin2k7 @ Nov 13 2007, 10:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Was wondering if anyone knows about Question 34, where they ask the applicant to list the person that assisted them in completing the form...

Iin my case, I pretty much filled it out for my spouse, since she is not too good in English yet, and based on her input I provided all information in the form and sent it to her for her signature....in this case I would list my name and address in response to this question, as asked, right? Do you think this has any ramifications since the person assisting is actually the petitioner (spouse), and BTW also I am the agent as well.....

Can anyone provide any guidance regarding this item?

Much appreciated. Thanks!



I did the exact same thing. No problems whatsoever.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-11-13 11:52:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)this is my 2nd time! i want to share and need ur opinions!
QUOTE (Mononoke28 @ Nov 27 2007, 10:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is just my opinion but the whole thing sounds fishy to me. Things didn't work out and you still came to the US with a K1 visa without your fiancée knowing about it? Then you meet and marry someone here, get married, go back home and petition a CR1 visa?

Maybe I'm just confused but the fact that your ex-fiancée had no clue you still cashed in your K1 visa is just too weird of a situation.

Diana



Well, if my fiance had just disappeared by cutting off contact with me after the visa was in his hands, I would not necessarily have known if he used it or not. While far fetched, I suppose it is possible.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-11-30 16:14:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)Custody papers
No, it should not make a difference. That was your name at the time you signed those papers.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-23 10:51:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)POLICE REPORT
I thought it was closer to $100 US......$95.....$100....something like that.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-23 11:01:00