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Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 19 2008, 08:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
u feel mi Jengs...mi pissed...lawny Vj bleep out the bad wud dem can understand..heheee


I feel u, sistren, I couldn't believe, but see if we were total b!tches and directed to Yardie to the effect on family changes forum or whatever its called then we would be wrong right?? because all yardie would have to do is going over there and post how her and her hubby are getting a divorce and they haven't lifted conditions yet and they would tell her how to stop the process. . quick fast u feel me.

DUPPY U READING THIS.....GOOD!!!...NOW BE WORRIED!!!!

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QUOTE (JA Tam @ Feb 19 2008, 08:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 19 2008, 12:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
wi did a do so good..how wi end up wid 3anons..3duppy...cha..oonuh come out man...!! kicking.gif TAm u dere..Yardie u dere ?..ahahaa....I haven't seen Madame in a while...I hope everything is well

Hush Kimmy, mi jus' a come pon line...Mi ah go start show mi self so yuh nuh haffi wonda who deh deh...



haahaha..Tam question if mi have some numbers

20,000
2,500
total 22,500...how come mi have 89% fi vertical analysis fi 20,000 and 2% fi 2,500..mi cyan understand....wah a mi base..mi proly just confuse yuh tuh... wacko.gif

Tam u gone but mi get ie..mi inverted the numbers ...mi a mad as usual...


Sorry Kimmy, I just went to answer a PM. I have this way of bringing clarity to people when them ask a question, even if mi nuh answer it laughing.gif laughing.gif


YA SEE IT, U GOODNESS JUST A JUMP THRU THE COMPUTER DEM



BTW- IF ANYONE HEAR IS ON THE DISNEY MAILING LIST CAN YOU PLEASE FORWARD ME YOUR LATEST NEWSLETTER. I'M TRYING TO GO AND WANT A DISCOUNT CODE. THANKS IN ADVANCE...JUST PM ME
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-19 20:38:00
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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 19 2008, 06:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Jamie, I'm pissed off...who the #### do some poeple think they are to be the one braking what someone else is fighting for....and mi more pissed at ur soon to be EX cause if him did a fi him pussyclasst head pon fi him body tings wouldn't get yah so...mi no know u Jamie..but mi love u vibe ova the PC always to cheerful..tru all diss fuckery u kept ur smile and wit...mi feel like #### right now so oonuh sarry fi mi bad wud dem...but mi tired a dem pussylcaat ppl yah..and dem a come hide behind ###### GUEST and PRIVATE..when oonuh ready fi VJ yuh can come out.....###### coward....hope yuh pick up all di gaybage Jamie dash weh....Jamie when dem knock pon u door...u try help dem pack him #### ....at least have dem pack and put dem pon the ###### lawn or curb before dem come....dyam brite and outta order...come out a di ###### ooman life..and go try pussyclaat live fi u own...come own...pussyclaat misery love ###### company..mi glad u decide no fi join dem and dem foolishness...MORE POWER TO HUNNY...mi deh yah...as sick as mi bi...

a mi seh dat Kimmy..if u no like it send mi a PM..#### off..ole dutty duppy yuh,..



but see yah, i was going to type that too, but didn't want to come to to gangsta but dere she go, lol wid she sick self...now too bad they wasn't standing next to u kimmy!!
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-19 20:04:00
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QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 19 2008, 05:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 19 2008, 01:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh please,, the person that called me last week was the same person who gave mr jengles his travel document. he also asked me how mr jengles go to j.a. he told me mr jengles would have to call him and give him, his address and stuff in J.A.. and he stated he couldn't tell me when the passport was going to reach j.a. because of security reasons. like i was going to fly down and search thru the mail or something. but on tuesday when i call, same man says oh its going to be there next Tuesday. whatever

the sad thing is, u can't even make this stuff up!!


Isn't that the truth wacko.gif Sorry for all the ####### you are having to deal with (((Hugs)))

Thanks Jengles luv.gif



IT WAS MY PLEASURE!!! BELIVE ME!!
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-19 17:09:00
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QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 19 2008, 04:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 19 2008, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yardie Wife............As far as the lifting of conditions.......have you applied for it? If not, I would file for divorce and let him figure out how he's going to lift his own conditions. He is eligible all on his own. He just has to prove the marriage was (oh I forget the word), you know, on the up and up, from the beginning. I would give him some of the paperwork he needs to file like tax return info. or whatever, since you mentioned before he has never wanted to learn how to take care of all that stuff. Anyhow, I'd give him copies of some of the paperwork he needed; but I wouldn't do any of the file work. Tell him to look up the local office, call and make an appointment or whatever, and let them help him figure out what he needs to do. I would not go out of my way to help him. If he wants to stay, he'll figure it out. If not, not your problem.

Please do not stress over him and this anymore. You have done plenty.

I have always admired your patience and grace. You are a really special person. Keep your chin up!


Thanks smile.gif Well he will be getting help from our little duppy guest no0pb.gif Let's just say that THE MINUTE he left the counseling office he must have gone to see them because I was informed this morning that they printed the forms for him. Really shows where his mind was after hearing that he was getting a divorce.


don't even worry about dem bad minded f$#@, they should pay attention to their own relationship, instead of minding yours, but don't worry because u don't know what goes on behind close doors...dem ah mind u business when is dem Sh!t stinking....it alright though....u should post the name of your divorce lawyer when u get one and tell di duppy dem fi write it down...becuase dem will need it....


To Yardie's DUPPY....U READING THIS ?????? GOOD!!!!!! JUST LIKE U IS DUPPY FOR SHE, SOMEONE WILL BE DUPPY FOR U, GOT THAT.....GOOD

Edited by Jengles, 19 February 2008 - 05:07 PM.

JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-19 17:05:00
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QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 19 2008, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You know, I don't mind if people can't figure out what another office is doing. But, when they are in the SAME Freakin' building, it burns me to no end. I feel like saying DON'T YOU PEOPLE COMMUNICATE OR KEEP COPIES OF PAPERWORK????????

Sorry, Jengles.



Oh please,, the person that called me last week was the same person who gave mr jengles his travel document. he also asked me how mr jengles go to j.a. he told me mr jengles would have to call him and give him, his address and stuff in J.A.. and he stated he couldn't tell me when the passport was going to reach j.a. because of security reasons. like i was going to fly down and search thru the mail or something. but on tuesday when i call, same man says oh its going to be there next Tuesday. whatever

the sad thing is, u can't even make this stuff up!!

Edited by Jengles, 19 February 2008 - 04:32 PM.

JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-19 16:31:00
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QUOTE (dancehallquana @ Feb 19 2008, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello everyone, I am quana (dancehallquana)
I been getting alot of good wisdom as well as laughs from VJ over the last couple of months, and just recently decided to join. My prayers are with all of you that have experienced heartache and discouragement this past week and hope that you are all encouraged and strenghened through it all.
I am not yet on a visa journey, but have been enjoying getting to know a special friend that I met in Jamaica Jully 2007. RG will be applying (for the second time around) for his visitor VISA or B2 I think?? I wanted to know if any of your SO had ever applied in the past before filing for their current VISA's. I have heard that it is pretty difficult to get approved. I know that this kind of VISA is not normally discussed here, but if anyone has any insight or experiences they would like to give, I would appreciate it.



Welcome
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-19 16:23:00
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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 07:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 26 2008, 07:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 05:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why weren't these issues of change brought about b4 marriage ? some ooman feel dem can use MARRIAGE to change a man..they think the man is obligated now u have on rings...


Just wanted to state something about this...for my relationship personally neither one of us was married before, never lived with another woman/man (besides family) and didn't before we were married...basically we both had absolutely no clue what marriage entailed. Yeah we could read a few books here and there, go from what we learned in church and chat all we wanted about "the way things would be" but until you are actually in it and living it there really is no way to know what issues are going to come up. You may think that whatever comes your way you will deal with it but marriage really and truly is a lot of work - oftentimes more work than a person believes it will be. You think you can handle it all until you are in the thick of it and way over your head. I think for some the transition might be easier because some have been married before/lived with SO's...there is some level of experience there. Some issues just wouldn't arise before marriage and you can talk all you want about how you are going to do things but until you are actually living it...most people tend to dream bigger than they realize is humanly possible. I sure know that marriage is nothing like I had envisioned and dreamed about...it isn't necessarily a bad thing...it is just a thing.

I think Kimmy is talking about stuff like say him being a womanizer or certain character traits....There will ALWAYS be stuff you couldn't know about him....I think she's saying that some women look at the man before marriage, see how he is but once they're married, they want him to stop the stuff he's always done....


Agree..that's what I was saying..

OK..let me say something..when i speak here I do not mean anyting personal b/c of the fact that I do not know u guys personally..so if anything is taken the wrong way or may seem personal I apologize.

But, I never lived with hubby eirther..we spend weeks together but that does not prepare us for married life..we all have to learn each still EVERYDAY after marriage..but what I will not do is ask him to change something I already accepted him with before we said I do...you ALWAYS will be working on ur marriage for the rest of ur life..it's not something set in stone..we both still have lives, things that is enjoyment for one and not for the other...I will not ask him to give that up just because..that's selfish...


All good points Kimmy and I agree.

Even with that being said, though, there are still some things that don't fit that mold.

Say, he's in Jamaica and goes out every night with his friends to the clubs. How would you deal with him wanting to do that after he moves in with you and the kids? And, say it's before he gets a job and it's okay with you. But, after he finds a job, he wants to continue and it effects his job?

What if he likes to drink and smoke on his time off and it gets to be too close to the time he's got to be at his job? He used to do it in JA; but you didn't say anything cause he took a cab. Now, he drives?

Or in Jamaica, he had cash in his pocket and it burned a hole every day he had it. Now, you need him to contribute to the household. What do you do?

I've heard of all these issues coming up. That is some of the points I think of when I think of change. Adaptation, compromise.....most solutions to the above would modify behaviors.



JG..mi get wah u a seh..but my husband would never i don't have to tell him..jeopardize his job cause a smoking...di one thing mi nearly kill him fah a smoke during immigration process cause he felt 2mths before would be fine..who knows it probably would have been or could have not but we made a decision to reschedule..those partying and stuff is single life he knows as a husband and a father that it wouldn't work..i didn't have to go over that with him..and if i HAD to we wouldn't be married still...he is very responsible with money so again can't comment on that..all these things if they were an issue for us they would have been dealth with before we said i do.."honey we need to work on a couple of issue.behaviours i see that will make our lives worse instead of better" and we would go from there


i'm just now going back and reading some of the posts, i was skimming this and thought i saw death, i was like boy Kimmy nuh easy at all
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:33:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 07:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 26 2008, 07:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Trelawny.....tell us about the police officer. I missed it.


JG,

A friend a mine pinch mi a seh this a new thing a yard now (it's been under the wire), but they saying Jamaica is not a safe place for a gay man to live, so the seeking asylum in other countries....mi naw touch dat one.


and is now they find that out
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:29:00
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QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 26 2008, 07:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 26 2008, 04:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 06:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 26 2008, 06:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 03:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Even'in Ladies;

I just wanted to thank ya'll for helping me with my school work that was assigned to me 4 weeks ago. I had no idea what to write about for my lifestyle/sociology class. I don't know who started the topic today or how it got started on marriage, relationship, sharing duties as a couple, but thank you. I came here for immigration guidance and well now I'm speechless, the WEALTH of information you get from people you've never met. Thanks again.


You're welcome! Just mek sure yuh use mi name inna di paper laughing.gif Mi waan nuff credit tongue.gif Just joking tongue.gif


Girl, please keep it coming. I'm on page 10 now. I'm waiting for my study patner to include her research. She ask mi weh mi get di information (mi tell her) IT CLASSIFIED.


but look ya, she a plaugerize (sp) we words.

protest6wz.gif Dat isn't right! wink.gif


and we nah get no credit
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:28:00
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QUOTE (sus @ Feb 26 2008, 07:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I make a salad with the Ramen noodles - Love it:

CHINESE COLESLAW

1 lb. pkg. Dole coleslaw mix
2 pkg. beef or chicken Ramen noodles
2 bunches chopped green onions
1 c. slivered almonds
2 c. roasted sunflowers

DRESSING: (Make early in the day):

1 c. oil
3/4 c. sugar
1/3 c. vinegar
2 Ramen seasoning pkg.

Combine just before serving.


Kimmy

try this and see if u can keep it down
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:24:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 06:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 26 2008, 06:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 03:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Even'in Ladies;

I just wanted to thank ya'll for helping me with my school work that was assigned to me 4 weeks ago. I had no idea what to write about for my lifestyle/sociology class. I don't know who started the topic today or how it got started on marriage, relationship, sharing duties as a couple, but thank you. I came here for immigration guidance and well now I'm speechless, the WEALTH of information you get from people you've never met. Thanks again.


You're welcome! Just mek sure yuh use mi name inna di paper laughing.gif Mi waan nuff credit tongue.gif Just joking tongue.gif


Girl, please keep it coming. I'm on page 10 now. I'm waiting for my study patner to include her research. She ask mi weh mi get di information (mi tell her) IT CLASSIFIED.


but look ya, she a plaugerize (sp) we words.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:16:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 06:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 26 2008, 05:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 26 2008, 05:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why weren't these issues of change brought about b4 marriage ? some ooman feel dem can use MARRIAGE to change a man..they think the man is obligated now u have on rings...


Just wanted to state something about this...for my relationship personally neither one of us was married before, never lived with another woman/man (besides family) and didn't before we were married...basically we both had absolutely no clue what marriage entailed. Yeah we could read a few books here and there, go from what we learned in church and chat all we wanted about "the way things would be" but until you are actually in it and living it there really is no way to know what issues are going to come up. You may think that whatever comes your way you will deal with it but marriage really and truly is a lot of work - oftentimes more work than a person believes it will be. You think you can handle it all until you are in the thick of it and way over your head. I think for some the transition might be easier because some have been married before/lived with SO's...there is some level of experience there. Some issues just wouldn't arise before marriage and you can talk all you want about how you are going to do things but until you are actually living it...most people tend to dream bigger than they realize is humanly possible. I sure know that marriage is nothing like I had envisioned and dreamed about...it isn't necessarily a bad thing...it is just a thing.


i agree with both of your statements, I know women who do think marriage will change a man, but if you've been with a man for two or three years andhave already accepted certain things, marriage isn't going to change that.

and yes Yardie marriage is a lot of work, especially when u are both trying to make it work, if u have lived with someone before than there are certain issues that can be addressed up front but every relationship is different and what wasn't an issue in one relationship can be a huge issue in another


10 RATHID years fi come to my senses. I tried to make it work and failed miserably. Thank GOD I saw the light at the other side of the tunnel.



U know Lawny, sometimes i get the idea that u felt u stayed way too long in this relationship... don't know why or how i keep getting that idea. I just ate the rest of the tiaramsu and licked the bowl clean, forgive me..its the sugar

QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 26 2008, 07:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 26 2008, 06:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 06:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Even'in Ladies;

I just wanted to thank ya'll for helping me with my school work that was assigned to me 4 weeks ago. I had no idea what to write about for my lifestyle/sociology class. I don't know who started the topic today or how it got started on marriage, relationship, sharing duties as a couple, but thank you. I came here for immigration guidance and well now I'm speechless, the WEALTH of information you get from people you've never met. Thanks again.


yes mi want mi credit fi start the original topic and den mi nuh no where it went from there. i can see the biblography now....jengles, yardie, jomo's girl and kimmy and big up all who nuh mention...wait deh got a flashback of mi inna di videolight

but Ladies of all those whose SO's are not here yet, please take note of the stuff we right about. it used to be me here last year reading saying not me and mr jengles when i used to read about certain issues and now a year later is us and me is still new to this.



Sometimes the ladies on here are the only one's who understand at all.

I'd like to hear a little more from Jay on if he is experiencing anything different along the way.


i read that and was like what...my son is only 5 what she talking about
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:12:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 06:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Even'in Ladies;

I just wanted to thank ya'll for helping me with my school work that was assigned to me 4 weeks ago. I had no idea what to write about for my lifestyle/sociology class. I don't know who started the topic today or how it got started on marriage, relationship, sharing duties as a couple, but thank you. I came here for immigration guidance and well now I'm speechless, the WEALTH of information you get from people you've never met. Thanks again.


yes mi want mi credit fi start the original topic and den mi nuh no where it went from there. i can see the biblography now....jengles, yardie, jomo's girl and kimmy and big up all who nuh mention...wait deh got a flashback of mi inna di videolight

but Ladies of all those whose SO's are not here yet, please take note of the stuff we right about. it used to be me here last year reading saying not me and mr jengles when i used to read about certain issues and now a year later is us and me is still new to this.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 19:07:00
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QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 26 2008, 05:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why weren't these issues of change brought about b4 marriage ? some ooman feel dem can use MARRIAGE to change a man..they think the man is obligated now u have on rings...


Just wanted to state something about this...for my relationship personally neither one of us was married before, never lived with another woman/man (besides family) and didn't before we were married...basically we both had absolutely no clue what marriage entailed. Yeah we could read a few books here and there, go from what we learned in church and chat all we wanted about "the way things would be" but until you are actually in it and living it there really is no way to know what issues are going to come up. You may think that whatever comes your way you will deal with it but marriage really and truly is a lot of work - oftentimes more work than a person believes it will be. You think you can handle it all until you are in the thick of it and way over your head. I think for some the transition might be easier because some have been married before/lived with SO's...there is some level of experience there. Some issues just wouldn't arise before marriage and you can talk all you want about how you are going to do things but until you are actually living it...most people tend to dream bigger than they realize is humanly possible. I sure know that marriage is nothing like I had envisioned and dreamed about...it isn't necessarily a bad thing...it is just a thing.


i agree with both of your statements, I know women who do think marriage will change a man, but if you've been with a man for two or three years andhave already accepted certain things, marriage isn't going to change that.

and yes Yardie marriage is a lot of work, especially when u are both trying to make it work, if u have lived with someone before than there are certain issues that can be addressed up front but every relationship is different and what wasn't an issue in one relationship can be a huge issue in another
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 17:38:00
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QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 26 2008, 05:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 26 2008, 04:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
agreed, but do u think he will sign the divorce?? hope it doesn't go that route

Depending on why she wants the divorce, ie, unreasonable behaviour, infidelity etc, she may be able to divorce him anyway...



just think of the ways u can apply this to a yard man
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 17:11:00
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Somebody SLAP meeeee...just finish a bowl of rice n peas fi KIMMY... now mi wah sleep

Kim I hope you liked it.

Luv yah



wait deh, u nah give kimmy some dessert, lawd G_d (just for lita) see how u mean. what u want kimmy apple pie and ice cream oops, sorry is me want dat


haha laughing.gif luv.gif


can't see mi remember , but i do take notice

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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 04:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
nope...well I had some ramen noodles a few mins a go and nothing yet...not tooting my own horn ..but kicking.gif maybe ramen noodles will be my breakfast lucn hdinner now...we'll see


Good luck. My cousin swears by ramen noodles. If you tell you have a hangover...she'll make noodles....if have gas...eat noodles...if your belly aches...eat noodles...


yes.gif Ramen noodles are good for so many things! For only $0.14 a pack you can't go wrong no0pb.gif


ok, my grandparents used to use the seasoning packet in soup and throw away the noodles. lol
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 17:00:00
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QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Feb 26 2008, 04:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (shrewdgal @ Feb 26 2008, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey guys! I have so much reading to catch up on.
Drama in the life.
I asked about the divorce because that may be what happens with me.. gross and heartbreaking..but maybe not needed.
There are some questions that still need to be answered and I need to do some searching within myself.
I may be a southern woman..but what most people dont know is that behind that sugary drawl and ladylikeness is a girl that was raised in the south learnin how to fight and knowing how she should be treated. Southern women (most women..not just us) dont settle. no sir.
My best friend is a lawyer and researched the case for me just incase I need it. Yes, I can get a divorce here no matter where I was married and where he is a citizen, the other party just has to sign the divorce stuff in front of a notary/jp. incase anyone ever wants to know.
I covet your prayers at this moment!
Thanks guys!!


i wish you the best!! make sure whatever decision you come to is for you and your well being....



agreed, but do u think he will sign the divorce?? hope it doesn't go that route
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 16:56:00
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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 03:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 03:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Somebody SLAP meeeee...just finish a bowl of rice n peas fi KIMMY... now mi wah sleep

Kim I hope you liked it.

Luv yah



wait deh, u nah give kimmy some dessert, lawd G_d (just for lita) see how u mean. what u want kimmy apple pie and ice cream oops, sorry is me want dat




ahahahaaa...mi want it all...mi want di apple pie wid ice cream fi dessert and Lawny tanks fi lunch...


all right, u want drinks wid dat, you mouth might be kinda of dry wid all the chatting u doing today
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 15:57:00
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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 03:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Quana..u si..OMG big congrats to u guys...thank God


i second the congrats. all this typing and posting, i was like why is kimmy telling her congrats and quana did even file yet, I had to scroll up to see the post.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 15:54:00
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QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 26 2008, 03:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Somebody SLAP meeeee...just finish a bowl of rice n peas fi KIMMY... now mi wah sleep

Kim I hope you liked it.

Luv yah



wait deh, u nah give kimmy some dessert, lawd G_d (just for lita) see how u mean. what u want kimmy apple pie and ice cream oops, sorry is me want dat
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 15:51:00
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glad for those wonderful view points, while some people do change. there are men, who will not change certain things about themselves or what they want and will say that upfront, . and there are women who ignore these statements and proceed. men will change only what they want to and no I don't think i'm kidding myself when I say that
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 15:47:00
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dyam ya'll really chatting today fi true
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 15:01:00
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yup, he is who he is, always remember that, and men ususally tell u what they are about in the first week of the relationship, we as women tend not to listen. but that is a next topic


Lawd Gawd if this ain't the truth!! good.gif
I hear so many woman wanting to change this or that or expecting something different than what they saw in the beginning, and then get all confused when it dont change.



one of my points exactly...change who he is for what !!


right because that is why we fell in love wid dem

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if i could get him to help more with the laundry we would have so much for time for rooksing pon di weekends whistling.gif whistling.gif kicking.gif


devil.gif Mek im knoa dat Jengy! yes.gif devil.gif


girl wha u a sey, mi tell him yesterday blush.gif blush.gif blush.gif



no blasted sense ..none a di 2 a oonuh no ave...hahahaaa

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Kimmy, have you tried Ginger? That's a great way to settle your stomach. If you can find a chinese market (I know there is one on Hope St in Stamford next to CVS), they sell ginger chews - you can also find Ginger tea. My friend is going through chemo right now, and if she tries to eat it comes back - if she drinks a cup of ginger tea or eats a chew first, she can keep the food down.


Hey..OH YES..ginger tea every morning..til mi figure out seh it DOESN"T WORK....haven't tried the chews..but i will..i'm trying anything ANYTHING !!!


have u been to a health food store, a chinese health food store, now i'm talking two different places. so like modern medicine nah work, and we might have to go hollistic here.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:41:00
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i think that what u are saying would be valid in most situations, but in most of our situations, these men have no idea what america is all about. mr jengles won't stop saying that he doesn't want me to work even now that he is here. if they see us in their environment all the time, when they come into our environment, they are still bringing their ideas/culture with them.

To me a man does what needs to be done. period. My needs are different, now not saying it may not take a while for his to see that, but the need is there, fill that need and we will be golden. and as for stroking ego's, wish somebody could stroke mine.


Thats true and I definitely think there is a grace/adjustment period but if things are still the same way a couple years in without any adaption/compromise etc...then that is what causes the problem.


Yeah stroking of the egos definitely needs to be a two way street yes.gif


Sure does. So if yuh man nah stroke yuh up, den yuh ave problems. Mi nah have dis problem devil.gif


Look at Lita, she a re-live her J.A. trip, glad to know hubby was stroking your ummmm, ego, yes that is it, blink.gif good.gif whistling.gif
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:38:00
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if i could get him to help more with the laundry we would have so much for time for rooksing pon di weekends whistling.gif whistling.gif kicking.gif


devil.gif Mek im knoa dat Jengy! yes.gif devil.gif


girl wha u a sey, mi tell him yesterday blush.gif blush.gif blush.gif
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:29:00
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i think that what u are saying would be valid in most situations, but in most of our situations, these men have no idea what america is all about. mr jengles won't stop saying that he doesn't want me to work even now that he is here. if they see us in their environment all the time, when they come into our environment, they are still bringing their ideas/culture with them.

To me a man does what needs to be done. period. My needs are different, now not saying it may not take a while for his to see that, but the need is there, fill that need and we will be golden. and as for stroking ego's, wish somebody could stroke mine.


Thats true and I definitely think there is a grace/adjustment period but if things are still the same way a couple years in without any adaption/compromise etc...then that is what causes the problem.


Yeah stroking of the egos definitely needs to be a two way street yes.gif


years!!! mi almost drop off mi chair..yes as JaEnglish would say Houston we have a problem
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:27:00
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If have something to say...I am going to say it! Most of us were raised by extremely STRONG Mothers and the days when we stand by and have our man talk for us are LANG GONE!!! When women started joining the workforce in droves ...we had to start speaking up or get pushed dung!

Bless,
Gill


Ok mi cyaan resist...mi muss put inna thoughts pon dis...

I was raised to be very independent and know how to take care of myself. For the most part I raised myself in my early teenage years and beyond. I had to grow up fast and take care of my bro and sis because my parents were so messed up and weren't really around to do the parenting much. So I grew up taking care of myself and not taking any bs. Andre says that he one of the reasons that he was attracted to me in JA was because I could handle myself well and didn't put up with anything...I spoke my mind and stood up for myself. Not sure if that makes me aggressive...it is just the way I am.

I do know that Andre has said many times that he feels like sometimes I don't need him. That I can handle myself and my business and don't have to rely on him for anything. While I do rely on him for many things I guess he is intimidated by the way I take care of business and the resources I have acquired over the years and that I really don't need him to survive, know what I mean?



Well adding my 2 cents....

I think this is a big part of the problem. Many times as independent women we do give off the vibe that we don't need a man for this or for that and we are strong and all this stuff...so when we do get with a man that ideology doesnt just go away. It can be prtrayed to your man....hence him feeling like you don't need him. Every man wants to feel like he is needed by his woman.....don't care where you come from. Yes he may like that you can hold your own and handle your biz...but he also wants to know and feel proud that you can reliquish it all to him and depend on him for a bit. Its just part of being a man. Think about what contitutes 'manhood' to a decent man......taking care of himself and his family, being the provider and protector, his bravado, sex. These are things that are instilled in men from their birth as to what make them a man. We as women have had some sorry men in our lives and essetially taken on the responsibilites that were once solely given to men. Now that we are with a man...and doing everything that he has been told he is supposed to do...well essentially we are dominating his territory...in his house. Most men will have a problem with this. They may not know how to deal with it and then begin to blame the woman and say she is too independent or aggressive or treats him like a child...and I gotta say...some women are all those things...some are not.

I think Jamaican men have this issue even more engrained in them because culturally that is the way things are in JA. Men inherently do not have the same opportunities to flex their manhood as men in the states. So they flex it in the way they know how...one being breeding women up and down im yaad. The other being holding a bit of money in im pocket deh, and shedding a likkle cash pon im baby mama. Culturally these things happen a bit more there and actually shape what a man thinks he should be doing as a man. Of course there are Jamaican men nothing like this...but the idea of being able to lace your woman with some cash feels good to a man.

Again I think its all about understanding ones culture when topic like this come up in your marriage. Lots of times I think people are not compassionate enough to communicate there dislikes and it becomes a bigger issue rather than a misunderstanding.


While I hear what you are saying I must inquire about something...if a man understands that the woman he is marrying is independent and can handle herself why should that change when they get married? Why should he now all of a sudden be intimidated by it? Especially if I am letting him be the man and totally stroking his ego? I understand that some women give off the vibe and really act like they don't need the man...but when the woman isn't acting like that then there really is no need for the man to be intimidated yet sometimes they still are. It really is engrained in them but that doesn't make it right. Hope that made sense...I am writing fast here at work.


Well if it gets all the way to this type of situation then the man obviously has problems. Being independent out of the relationship is different once you are IN a relationship and I think you should act accordingly. Now if in all fairness the woman is truly doing all that she can to show her need and appreication for her husand and he still wants to act up then its him who has bigger problems to combat within himself.

I just think that some women...tend to either baby their men, then get upset when the man start expecting certain things from them, or they treat the man like a child and like he has no brain of his own and cant make his on decisions or mistakes, thus making the man feel like you don't respect his manhood. I think as women we allways wanting our men to grow up and change or do this or do that and we rarely look at the craziness we need to change in ourselves or the way in which we handle our men. As a woman I think we have a tendency to cross the line in being caretaker and partner. As you can see, with all the MIL problems some people have. Classic case of a woman babying her son. Sometimes we don't know to treat our husbands differently from our children.



yup, he is who he is, always remember that, and men ususally tell u what they are about in the first week of the relationship, we as women tend not to listen. but that is a next topic
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:22:00
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QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Feb 26 2008, 02:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Great topics good.gif I'll post my experince soon.

But I have question - Is there anything your SO won't do in the house?

Damien and I share the housework. We both clean and do our own laundry. I do majority of the cooking. My daughter does the dishes. However, the first year we lived together he would get so upset when I asked him to take the trash out. I mean we would get into huge drag out fights over the trash....our neighbors knocked on the door once because we were too loud. It wasn't like I woke him up in the middle of the night to take it out or anything like that. He would simply get upset because I asked him....the nerve of me.

be right back...


if i could get him to help more with the laundry we would have so much for time for rooksing pon di weekends whistling.gif whistling.gif kicking.gif
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:20:00
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If have something to say...I am going to say it! Most of us were raised by extremely STRONG Mothers and the days when we stand by and have our man talk for us are LANG GONE!!! When women started joining the workforce in droves ...we had to start speaking up or get pushed dung!

Bless,
Gill


Ok mi cyaan resist...mi muss put inna thoughts pon dis...

I was raised to be very independent and know how to take care of myself. For the most part I raised myself in my early teenage years and beyond. I had to grow up fast and take care of my bro and sis because my parents were so messed up and weren't really around to do the parenting much. So I grew up taking care of myself and not taking any bs. Andre says that he one of the reasons that he was attracted to me in JA was because I could handle myself well and didn't put up with anything...I spoke my mind and stood up for myself. Not sure if that makes me aggressive...it is just the way I am.

I do know that Andre has said many times that he feels like sometimes I don't need him. That I can handle myself and my business and don't have to rely on him for anything. While I do rely on him for many things I guess he is intimidated by the way I take care of business and the resources I have acquired over the years and that I really don't need him to survive, know what I mean?



Well adding my 2 cents....

I think this is a big part of the problem. Many times as independent women we do give off the vibe that we don't need a man for this or for that and we are strong and all this stuff...so when we do get with a man that ideology doesnt just go away. It can be prtrayed to your man....hence him feeling like you don't need him. Every man wants to feel like he is needed by his woman.....don't care where you come from. Yes he may like that you can hold your own and handle your biz...but he also wants to know and feel proud that you can reliquish it all to him and depend on him for a bit. Its just part of being a man. Think about what contitutes 'manhood' to a decent man......taking care of himself and his family, being the provider and protector, his bravado, sex. These are things that are instilled in men from their birth as to what make them a man. We as women have had some sorry men in our lives and essetially taken on the responsibilites that were once solely given to men. Now that we are with a man...and doing everything that he has been told he is supposed to do...well essentially we are dominating his territory...in his house. Most men will have a problem with this. They may not know how to deal with it and then begin to blame the woman and say she is too independent or aggressive or treats him like a child...and I gotta say...some women are all those things...some are not.

I think Jamaican men have this issue even more engrained in them because culturally that is the way things are in JA. Men inherently do not have the same opportunities to flex their manhood as men in the states. So they flex it in the way they know how...one being breeding women up and down im yaad. The other being holding a bit of money in im pocket deh, and shedding a likkle cash pon im baby mama. Culturally these things happen a bit more there and actually shape what a man thinks he should be doing as a man. Of course there are Jamaican men nothing like this...but the idea of being able to lace your woman with some cash feels good to a man.

Again I think its all about understanding ones culture when topic like this come up in your marriage. Lots of times I think people are not compassionate enough to communicate there dislikes and it becomes a bigger issue rather than a misunderstanding.


While I hear what you are saying I must inquire about something...if a man understands that the woman he is marrying is independent and can handle herself why should that change when they get married? Why should he now all of a sudden be intimidated by it? Especially if I am letting him be the man and totally stroking his ego? I understand that some women give off the vibe and really act like they don't need the man...but when the woman isn't acting like that then there really is no need for the man to be intimidated yet sometimes they still are. It really is engrained in them but that doesn't make it right. Hope that made sense...I am writing fast here at work.


i think that what u are saying would be valid in most situations, but in most of our situations, these men have no idea what america is all about. mr jengles won't stop saying that he doesn't want me to work even now that he is here. if they see us in their environment all the time, when they come into our environment, they are still bringing their ideas/culture with them.

To me a man does what needs to be done. period. My needs are different, now not saying it may not take a while for his to see that, but the need is there, fill that need and we will be golden. and as for stroking ego's, wish somebody could stroke mine.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 14:19:00
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QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 26 2008, 01:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lawny..i do eat.it doesn't stay down....i do love to eat...


liquids too??
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 13:26:00
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screw the stupid in-laws, mi have no time fi dem, but by the way, i am just waiting for mr jengles to find his way back here and for his cousin to call here, that is if she is brave. cause den she will really find out why dem call my fadda people dem bull.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 12:55:00
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You know that they're still men (Jamaican or American or from anyweh)...still believes that a woman's place is in the kitchen. I guess if I grew up in dem times deh I would have no choice. But in 2008, I still see (some of my cousin that are in their 30s) still come home and play superwoman, because their men flat out REFUSE fi cook, clean, or look aftah pickney, but dem have time fi go sidung round domino table and drop hard. Bway mi no know...but dat is a hard pill fi mi swallow. My look pon mi aunti weh work 3-(12 hour) shifts as a ICU nurse, den afi come home and look aftah hubby and kids. When they came down for my baby shower 5 years ago, my auntie husband tell my daddy (im a do too much house work--- wah mi madda a do). My father tell im seh, u caan expect di ooman fi do everything. My auntie husband just kissteet and go hug up im red stripe...I caan tek im. Gaad know, mi no know how mi auntie tan wid im so rass lang...mi wouda avi push im baxide dung a flight a stairs.


Tre.....I rarely cook. Andre's better at it and works fewer hours around dinner time. I do all the dishes after he's messed up what seems like every single one in the kitchen. It works for us.


my husband and I both cook..cause him love home cooked food....if him hungry and mi no get to the kitchen u best believe him nah wait pon mi..him a go do it himself..there is no rule..I HAVE TO COOK


uumm, I cooked thanksgiving dinner, mr jengles cooks
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 12:21:00
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Jomo's girl,

yes homes in JA are run by women but they are supported by men, even if they men do not live with them, as long as they have a baby fadda, then they are straight, he is the provider, he gives her the money and she does what she has to do with it. when we say provider it doesn't mean who pays the bills, it the person who gives up the money so the bills can be paid.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 11:49:00
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yes I do believe it is has alot to do with how the women are most times. alot of them make these feel it is ok to drop off money on friday and carry one single life..as long as money coming in an him a mine har she good..until him breed a next ooman dem cuss (she and di ooman) and still shack up wid this man..unbelievable..In JA SOME men still stuck in the MI A MAN A YAAD ERA...AND U DEAR NOT SHOW U LOVE UR BABY MODDA..exactly baby modda cause most girls that's all they demand..nothing else..no body nah treat mi like beer when mi expensive champagne....so di ooman dem fi get blame partially...den again u have men that are "americanized' and up to the time on things cause it seem like parts a JA wayyyy back a time..and tend to treat their lady like u see on TV..sometimes not all bad smile.gif


but can these men cope when a woman doesn't need their money??? that is the part where i keep getting stuck.



You mean your husband coping with not needing your money? First of all, I wish I was there. Even though I make twice as much as my husband between my two jobs, we ALWAYS need his money. (Did I tell you guys he got another raise? Ready for this?????? 5 cents. ####### are we supposed to do with a 5 cent raise? We've been laughing ever since!)

It's not all about money, Jengles. It's about him working hard to do his part, whether we really need it or not. I'll be damned if I am working my tail off and he's not doing the same. And, it's about him doing his part at home when I can't. Like I always say, I married a partner. I did not marry to have another child to take care of! Luckily, this is not one of our issues.



no, me not needing his money



Forgive my rambling ways today.....What you said is what I actually meant to say. Took a Tylenol 3 a couple hours ago and it's kicking in big time right now.

That is what I was responding to with what I wrote above. It's not about how much money someone makes, it's about if they are contributing to the household. Men who judge their worth on how much they make are just immature in my opinion.for to get there and if he isn't willing to because he feels everything is beneath him, well....I haven't got the time for that.


Agreed. but then again ..most of these men are JAMAICAN MEN..who r to be very proud..they r the providers..that's what they learned and no nothing else mostly.


Kimmy,

Some a di yard man dem mi know seh dem naw tek any and any kind a wurk...(misconception)...u can come American an get any jab u want widout experience (LIEEEEEEEEEEE) dat. Mi no know weh some a dem git dat fram...some a dem mi know seh dem naw wuk pon trash truck, naw clean up aftah no badi, naw wash pot ar wipe floor...all mi afi seh is (A WASH POT) put mi through college and meking up bed a hotel.


WHAT in NYc sanatiation makes $70,000 a year,
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 11:38:00
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lawny,

i was on my way to work and i called my boss, to tell him i was going to be a few minutes late and the man got scared and ordered me back home. i muss sound like sh!t


i tried to edit my response to Jomo's girl but my computer is acting up.

I wil always need money, let me just state that fact for the record and big up all professional golddigger. but most of us were handling life before we met these men.

no men coping with the fact that we as women do not their money to survive.

and what is a 5 cents raise supposed to do, that doesn't even equal an extra gallon of gas in the car at week time

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yes I do believe it is has alot to do with how the women are most times. alot of them make these feel it is ok to drop off money on friday and carry one single life..as long as money coming in an him a mine har she good..until him breed a next ooman dem cuss (she and di ooman) and still shack up wid this man..unbelievable..In JA SOME men still stuck in the MI A MAN A YAAD ERA...AND U DEAR NOT SHOW U LOVE UR BABY MODDA..exactly baby modda cause most girls that's all they demand..nothing else..no body nah treat mi like beer when mi expensive champagne....so di ooman dem fi get blame partially...den again u have men that are "americanized' and up to the time on things cause it seem like parts a JA wayyyy back a time..and tend to treat their lady like u see on TV..sometimes not all bad smile.gif


but can these men cope when a woman doesn't need their money??? that is the part where i keep getting stuck.



You mean your husband coping with not needing your money?

First of all, I wish I was there. Even though I make twice as much as my husband between my two jobs, we ALWAYS need his money. (Did I tell you guys he got another raise? Ready for this?????? 5 cents. ####### are we supposed to do with a 5 cent raise? We've been laughing ever since!)

It's not all about money, Jengles. It's about him working hard to do his part, whether we really need it or not. I'll be damned if I am working my tail off and he's not doing the same. And, it's about him doing his part at home when I can't. Like I always say, I married a partner. I did not marry to have another child to take care of! Luckily, this is not one of our issues.



DWLLLLLLLLLLLL (JG), but for real ####### are is one suppose to do with 5 bbclatt cents. I hope and pray that my fiance will be able to get a decent job, since he works for the airport in Jamaica. Damn ya'll might have seen him a few times (FLAGGING in a plane). I agree 100%. That was the major problem with my son's father (I felt like I had another child to take care of) and when I would confront him about it, he had an attitude and tell mi seh mi a treat im like one PICKNEY...well grow the frig up.


did he start the dance, signal the plane, I COULD NOT RESIST


JENGS...u sure seh u no drink di whole bakkle a NIQUIL...no he didn't, but some days he says he feels like acting a fool out there. Jengs, mi nevah know seh Jamaica sun so STRANG...my fiance use to be brown skinned...now im darkkkkkkkk (from working outsdie)...mi tell im when the COLD wedah a foreign lick im...im ago look like one DUPPY


fi real, when i met mr jengles twin, he had just come from england and he was red/brown, when i went back the boy was dark, i had to tell mr jengles that mi nuh want him to turn red when him come up here, mi meet him dark and that is how i want him to stay.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 11:32:00
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lawny,

i was on my way to work and i called my boss, to tell him i was going to be a few minutes late and the man got scared and ordered me back home. i muss sound like sh!t


i tried to edit my response to Jomo's girl but my computer is acting up.

I wil always need money, let me just state that fact for the record and big up all professional golddigger. but most of us were handling life before we met these men.

no men coping with the fact that we as women do not their money to survive.

and what is a 5 cents raise supposed to do, that doesn't even equal an extra gallon of gas in the car at week time

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yes I do believe it is has alot to do with how the women are most times. alot of them make these feel it is ok to drop off money on friday and carry one single life..as long as money coming in an him a mine har she good..until him breed a next ooman dem cuss (she and di ooman) and still shack up wid this man..unbelievable..In JA SOME men still stuck in the MI A MAN A YAAD ERA...AND U DEAR NOT SHOW U LOVE UR BABY MODDA..exactly baby modda cause most girls that's all they demand..nothing else..no body nah treat mi like beer when mi expensive champagne....so di ooman dem fi get blame partially...den again u have men that are "americanized' and up to the time on things cause it seem like parts a JA wayyyy back a time..and tend to treat their lady like u see on TV..sometimes not all bad smile.gif


but can these men cope when a woman doesn't need their money??? that is the part where i keep getting stuck.



You mean your husband coping with not needing your money?

First of all, I wish I was there. Even though I make twice as much as my husband between my two jobs, we ALWAYS need his money. (Did I tell you guys he got another raise? Ready for this?????? 5 cents. ####### are we supposed to do with a 5 cent raise? We've been laughing ever since!)

It's not all about money, Jengles. It's about him working hard to do his part, whether we really need it or not. I'll be damned if I am working my tail off and he's not doing the same. And, it's about him doing his part at home when I can't. Like I always say, I married a partner. I did not marry to have another child to take care of! Luckily, this is not one of our issues.



DWLLLLLLLLLLLL (JG), but for real ####### are is one suppose to do with 5 bbclatt cents. I hope and pray that my fiance will be able to get a decent job, since he works for the airport in Jamaica. Damn ya'll might have seen him a few times (FLAGGING in a plane). I agree 100%. That was the major problem with my son's father (I felt like I had another child to take care of) and when I would confront him about it, he had an attitude and tell mi seh mi a treat im like one PICKNEY...well grow the frig up.


did he start the dance, signal the plane, I COULD NOT RESIST
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yes I do believe it is has alot to do with how the women are most times. alot of them make these feel it is ok to drop off money on friday and carry one single life..as long as money coming in an him a mine har she good..until him breed a next ooman dem cuss (she and di ooman) and still shack up wid this man..unbelievable..In JA SOME men still stuck in the MI A MAN A YAAD ERA...AND U DEAR NOT SHOW U LOVE UR BABY MODDA..exactly baby modda cause most girls that's all they demand..nothing else..no body nah treat mi like beer when mi expensive champagne....so di ooman dem fi get blame partially...den again u have men that are "americanized' and up to the time on things cause it seem like parts a JA wayyyy back a time..and tend to treat their lady like u see on TV..sometimes not all bad smile.gif


but can these men cope when a woman doesn't need their money??? that is the part where i keep getting stuck.



You mean your husband coping with not needing your money? First of all, I wish I was there. Even though I make twice as much as my husband between my two jobs, we ALWAYS need his money. (Did I tell you guys he got another raise? Ready for this?????? 5 cents. ####### are we supposed to do with a 5 cent raise? We've been laughing ever since!)

It's not all about money, Jengles. It's about him working hard to do his part, whether we really need it or not. I'll be damned if I am working my tail off and he's not doing the same. And, it's about him doing his part at home when I can't. Like I always say, I married a partner. I did not marry to have another child to take care of! Luckily, this is not one of our issues.



no, me not needing his money
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 10:49:00
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Hey ppl... I really need some help. I've been searching for a good barber in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area from since I got here in Dec. I found a decent barber in St. Paul but today the guy shaved my mustache making me look like some sort of red baron pirate. I definitely won't be going back. If you guys have any suggestions, please don't hesitate to share them. Thanks in advance!!!

I hope you're DANIEL laughing.gif laughing.gif

Sorry, can't answer your question though, fass mi a fass laughing.gif



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JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 10:39:00
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i'm back, no me is not haunted...but my 5 year old son, who come home and drop sleep in him clothes, just woke me up cause he gotta do his homework.

right now i'm stuck halfway between being a proud mom, well to be quite honest me not sure what the other half is. but is 2am. maybe i'll just leave it at that.. i'll take this opportuntity to eat some apple pie and ice cream. i need to make it over to the lets get fit in 08 thread.
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-26 02:06:00
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Kim..check this out..didn't read it but it's from the ministry website.

adult school in jamaica



why must they be so flowerly, give me the useful stuff like st.anns bay at 6pm as such and such a location



ahahaha..woieeee..mi a ded..a cyaan laugh..talk bout tump chest..u figet a JA wi a deal wid...it inna dem nature



i mean really di ting mek mi eye dem hurt, like reading shakespere
JenglesFemaleJamaica2008-02-25 22:26:00